Years ago, I was stressing out at 3:00 AM typing “My marriage is failing and I don’t know what to do” into Google. I compare that time of my life to being on a train headed for a concrete wall without knowing how to apply the brakes. This article and video below will give you 3 steps to take when your marriage is failing. In the end, I’ll share a secret every husband should know about.
It’s a lonely season when we feel Google is the only person we can turn to when our marriage is suffering.
We find ourselves completely alone while facing relationship problems we have no idea how to resolve.
Welcome to a new way brother.
I connect men into a brotherhood where they share sage old wisdom unfiltered.
Here is some of that wisdom…
When A Marriage Is Failing, Take These 3 Steps
Step 1
Don’t do what you feel like doing.
During marriage distress, doing what we feel like almost always makes matters worse and will leave us with regrets.
Do you feel like begging? Don’t.
Do you feel like getting her a dozen roses? Don’t.
Do you feel like setting an ultimatum? Don’t.
How we act when we’re desperate never ignites our wife’s affection.
There is a time to boldly and confidently declare your wants, but at this point of marriage collapse, we have way too much fear and anxiety in our blood for our actions to not wreak of desperation.
Step 2
Come to terms that the marriage cannot be worked on.
We can only work on one thing, and that is ourselves.
This means we need to grow the biggest pair of balls we’ve ever had and let the version of the relationship we’ve been feeding in our heads go.
That means dropping the idea that she’s a total bitch or that she’s your “one and only”.
It’s easy to assume if we stop fighting for the relationship, the marriage will be over, our wife will start having sex with other men, and we’ll end up alone forever.
These are all fear-based assumptions.
What we want in life can never be created from a place of fear.
If our wife smells fear on us, she will feel like she has to fend for herself (a terrifying place for a woman to be).
Things like love, affection, and a deep relationship cannot be white-knuckled into existence.
Trying to “work on the relationship” is the same as trying to fly a kite when there is no wind.
No amount of fixing or tweaking the kite will allow it to soar until there is wind.
Being a man of momentum who is unshakable in himself, has a specific purpose he’s passionate about, and fearlessly creates the experiences he loves in life is the wind your relationship needs.
Step 3
Let her come to you.
In order for her to come to us, we need to first be at a place for her to join.
Want her to be happy? Figure out how to be happy yourself.
Want her to respect you? Learn to show respect towards her.
If we want to be chosen, desired, and sought after, then we must give her choices, not chase her, and make ourselves a rarity to possess.
If we’re full of anger, resentment, expectations and gloom, it’s a low bar for her to join us at.
Invite her to a juicy, interesting, exciting way of doing life by doing it for your own sake.
If she wants to join, she will see your example as an invitation.
A Bonus Secret To Turn Your Relationship Around
Imagine thousands of men worldwide who have already been in your situation.
Think how valuable it would be if they all came together to share what has worked and what hasn’t worked in creating a great marriage.
Over the years, these men would have actively observed which practices failed and subsequently removed them
Mindsets, behaviors, and actions that proved to create lasting positive change would be clarified into basic steps.
My secret is this collective wisdom is what you gain in my private coaching.
I didn’t make this stuff up.
I’m passing on to you the accumulation of knowledge from countless mentors and real men doing life successfully.
Gain years of experience in a short amount of time by reaching out.
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I promise the secret wealth of knowledge we’ve been accumulating over the years will prove invaluable to you if your marriage is failing.
Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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