Your wife’s love and affection is empowering, but when her commitment is unclear, it can feel like the rug got pulled out. This article will help you take control when your marriage is slipping away by helping you see that nothing done out of fear can create LONG-TERM closeness in a relationship.
The Airplane Of Uncertainty
Imagine you’re on an airplane.
30 minutes into the flight, the intercom comes on.
“Hello, this is your captain speaking. The weather is stormy today! We don’t know our current location or how much fuel we have. On behalf of AAA Airlines, we would like to thank you for choosing us to reach your final destination.”
Very few passengers would remain relaxed with this sort of announcement.
If a glance out the aircraft window revealed smoke from the left engine, fear could turn into panic.
When our wife’s commitment to the marriage becomes uncertain, we can become paralyzed with fear….And panic!
Fear is a deceptive thing.
Reactions from fear FEEL logical in the moment, but fear-based responses RARELY help a critical situation.
“Plane Crash Averted By Passenger Panic,”…said no newspaper title ever!
Here’s the twist.
You’re not a passenger on the “airplane of uncertainty”; you are the captain.
As captain, you can land the plane even if your wife has pulled the eject button.
Many guys I’ve coached found that after he “landed the plane”, his wife’s parachute dropped her back into his love life.
“Landing the plane” means no longer:
- Demanding her love and loyalty
- Thinking the “other guy” is a threat to getting what you want
- Trying to convince her why you are the better choice
- Wallowing in your agony
- Chasing her for affection and time
- Forcing her to be decisive and know what she wants
The list above is what I call “guy drama“.
“Guy drama” comes from our inner little boy, not the mature man.
Little boys fall on the ground at the grocery store and cry for candy when their mommy won’t give it to them.
Little boys also whine, complain, and let their FEELINGS guide their actions.
Trust me, your wife craves a MAN, not a boy.
What To Do When Her Commitment Is Unclear
In the 25-minute video below, I cover 3 areas that will give you more clarity about how to show up as the MAN when your wife is uncertain of her love for you.
I would love for you to have MORE love, MORE attraction, and MORE intimacy in your life!
The season when those things are low can feel brutal.
But you can be confident, secure, and happy RIGHT NOW.
If you’ve read this far, then YOU are the kind of man who has the fortitude to make positive changes.
Your ability to remain unperturbed in your positive, loving, happy, and fun self when your wife’s commitment is unclear is the only path to evoking her desire to join you in being those things.
How do you gain this kind of rock-solid, attractive mojo?
By facing your greatest fears, triggers, and wounds.
That crap welling up prevents your wife from relaxing around you.
A woman who isn’t relaxed will never feel soft, affectionate, tender, or passionate.
You don’t need her commitment to be clear; you need clarity of who YOU are when her commitment is unclear.
Let’s do that now.
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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