Many men have destroyed attraction with their wife or girlfriend by trying to make her happy. This article will give you two examples of how to polarize women without coming off like an asshole.
What Is Polarizing??
Polarizing means we take responsibility for our emotions but do not take responsibility for her emotions.
Taking responsibility for our emotions means we recognize how we feel is a result of OUR perspectives, OUR thinking paradigms, OUR triggers and only WE can get that stuff sorted.
On a battery, one end is positive and one end is negative.
Have you ever put batteries into a flashlight backward?
The flashlight didn’t work, did it…
If batteries are put into a flashlight backward, you’re joining negative/negative and positive/positive which equals no opposing forces of polarity.
The polarity between positive and negative is what makes the resistive load of the light bulb glow bright.
Have you ever spent a day trying to fix the taillights on a trailer?
90% of trailer light issues are from the trailer losing its GROUNDING to the truck.
Lights won’t work if they’re not grounded!
Your wife’s attraction won’t spark if you’re not her grounding rod.
By taking responsibility for your emotions (while letting her have her own) you’re remaining in your own “pole” – like a grounding rod.
Polarity is easy to understand when we see it in the context of political or egalitarian views.
When psychologist and author Jordan Peterson made his statement, “Men and women are not the same and won’t be” people were polarized by it.
Polarizing isn’t about being disagreeable, it’s about staying relaxed in our truth, zone, frame, or pole regardless of how others feel about it.
How To Polarize Women Again, Again, and Again
Even if we put batteries in a flashlight correctly, we’ll need to put fresh batteries in again over time.
For a woman, attraction is not a one-and-done event!
Each morning, our partner starts her day like a closed flower.
A clean slate.
A woman who is turned “off” in the sex department.
As a foundation, her environment needs to feel safe, trustable, and relaxing for her to “bloom open” to feeling sexual and affectionate.
There are two things most men fail to realize when it comes to what women need to feel the passionate spark of polarity.
1. “Safe, trustable, and relaxing” to a woman means she feels WE’RE unflappable, WE’RE consistent, and WE’RE relaxed when faced with her emotions.
If we raise our voice to prove a point, defend our intentions when she accuses us of BS, or dismiss how she’s feeling as irrational, we won’t feel safe to her.
You being her calm grounding rod when she spins out is how she feels polarity.
There’s another kind of polarity she feels too…
2. A woman feels fully “opened” when she feels both positive AND negative emotions within herself.
A polarizing male is a man who evokes both positive emotions (like happiness, joy, excitement) AND negative emotions (like fear, sadness, and anxiety) from women
Knowing how to polarize women, again and again, means we know how to keep pushing the edge where we’re playing it safe.
Women get bored when everything is smooth sailing.
She wants to experience a range of emotions.
How To Polarize Women With Your Vibe
What I’m about to share can blow up in your face.
The actions you’re about to read are only effective for a man who has massive amounts of self-confidence, self-security, and is in an emotionally happy place.
This is because our TONE, VIBE, and CHARISMA do all the polarizing, not the specific actions or words below.
If you’re not in a secure, happy place right now, tuck the knowledge you’re about to read away for future use after you’ve done more personal development around your sense of well-being.
In a dating scenario, start polarizing your woman by the end of the first date or for sure by the 2nd.
You would do this by flat-out disagreeing with something she says.
You don’t have to be a dick about it, simply state, “I don’t agree with you on that”.
In a long-term relationship, a neg like, “That dress does not look good on you babe, please go change” would be polarizing.
You’re showing your STRENGTH by not losing your cool or trying to please or agree with her.
Think of polarizing like seasoning on a steak… too much seasoning ruins it!
You really only need to polarize your wife like once a month to keep things spicy.
Don’t even put it on the calendar!
The point here is to have the kind of character that genuinely isn’t afraid of her emotions.
Evolving Into A Polarizing Man Who Attracts Women
In reality, the statement, “attract women” is incorrect.
We POLARIZE women so those who are NOT attracted to us leave.
If a woman is not attracted to you there’s nothing you can do to change that.
But if you’re like I was, you know deep down the kind of man you’ve been the last few years isn’t the real you.
You’ve…
- Stopped spending time with your friends
- Let her make most of the decisions
- Abandoned what you want to “keep the peace”
- Tiptoe around her trying to not upset her
- Revolve your schedule around when she’s available
- Use every moment alone with her to try to “turn her on”
If that sounds like you, then it’s time to get back to being your free, confident, happy self and discover if she’s attracted to that guy!
The crux of being a polarizing male is this: You show no fear of upsetting your partner.
BUT.
Yes, there’s a big BUT lol…
BUT, many men are already upsetting their wife, and this is NOT polarizing her.
There’s a big difference between a secure, confident, edgy man who isn’t afraid of his wife’s emotions vs a needy, desperate, insecure man who’s pissing his wife off.
My masculine confidence framework re-wires your brain so you can consistently respond to chaotic feminine energy with a slight smile on your face.
For years, I tried to make women happy and it left me in the friend zone with girls I loved and even a marriage that turned sexless.
It wasn’t until I let women off the hook for how I feel and faced my fear, insecurity, and sexual neediness that things turned around for me.
Reach out for a free consultation if you’re ready to get off the bench and start making permanent changes to your masculine confidence and frame.
The men in my coaching programs blow me away with the progress they make!
Yesterday I was chatting with a client who’s nearing the end of my program.
He’s relaxed, thinking clearly, has a big grin on his face, and loves the romance he’s brought back into his life.
Your future is not dependent on what women think of you!
A switch that flipped for this man was taking responsibility to show himself the love he had been expecting from his wife for so many years.
He started making choices with his own well-being as his primary focus.
Women can’t help but be attracted to a man living life on his terms!
Stay Grounded Brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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