You’re about to read two stories to help you understand why your wife may not be feeling attraction for you. Husbands not having intimate sex can feel like they’ve tried everything. Many times, these men simply haven’t learned how to create safety and trust.
Bass, Sunshine, Mosquitoes, and Sex…
As I’m typing this, a fly just flew in through my open front door.
There’s a rainstorm brewing outside.
Flies seem to be extra clingy at these times.
This fly has landed on my arm and wiggled into my hair several times.
I would like to murder it.
I feel my whole body closing up as I get angry trying to stop the irritating fluttering on my head.
“Closed”… This is what a woman’s body does when she doesn’t feel our self-trust or emotional safety.
Our horniness can be the fly.
No amount of, “fluttering” your stiffy on her will get her aroused when her body is closed.
Something mature men come to realize is our horniness is ours to manage.
Your horniness (along with your emotions) are never your wife’s responsibility to take care of.
Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex Can Be Mosquitoes
Years back, I hiked to a remote lake before sunrise to bass fish from shore.
I imagined I would cast a line in for a few hours then swim, and soak up some sun.
As the sun rose, the bass started biting!
Then something else started biting…
Mosquitoes.
Millions of them.
I tried to cover up every inch of my body.
My bare hand on the reel was getting slaughtered.
All desire to rip my shirt off and enjoy the sunshine was gone even though sunshine is something I enjoy.
That’s what it’s like for your wife.
She always has the proper juices to desire physical intimacy with you.
But, when she’s being pelted with our need to:
- Be “Right”
- “Get off”
- Know “Why??”
- Be “Chosen”
- Have her “get clear”
…We’re assaulting her with mosquitos (Then we wonder why her body isn’t responding to our touch).
Seducing Your Wife
Seduction tactics and advice for attracting women for dates will not work on your wife!
There is a proven process for being the kind of man who is attractive in a long-term relationship vs dating.
I take men through a 14-step process to go from being a nice guy to being a confident husband. This is the kind of man who is both unapologetic about his sexuality and able to manage his own needs. Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” contact form for a free consultation.
When we take action to address the underlying issues driving us to be compulsive and needy about sex, we’ll no longer feel like an annoying mosquito to our wife.
You and I having a conversation could be the 1st step to resolving not having intimate sex in your marriage.
Much love brother,
Garrett Prettyman
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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