I totally understand why you want to get your wife back. You care about her. You love her. And you go to bed feeling gutted she isn’t in your arms anymore. This article debunks 3 online myths about “getting your ex back” with brutal honesty. Keep reading or watch the following video to gain clarity about what works and what’s all smoke and hot air.
Debunking Myths On How To Get Your Wife Back
Let’s pull out the shotgun and eliminate a few misconceptions running feral on the internet.
Myth 1: You can save your marriage even if your wife doesn’t want to.
I’ve been engaging with thousands of men in troubled relationships worldwide for years, and this is unheard of.
Yes, you can do self-improvement even if she doesn’t want to.
Sure, you can invite her to join a new standard of interacting in the relationship.
What’s self-evident is that until SHE decides she wants the marriage to work, fighting for the marriage fails nearly every time.
I explain this more in my article, Walkaway Wife, Why You Need To STOP Chasing Her.
What really works is LETTING GO of the marriage and accepting that if she doesn’t want to be married to you, she is free to go.
I’m not advocating that you should file for divorce, but I am saying you shouldn’t try to resist it.
Let go of:
- Needing her to give you certainty
- Needing her to give you affection
- Needing her to love you again
- Needing her to stay for the kids
- Needing her to see how much she stands to lose
By letting go, she no longer feels burdened by your NEEDS.
Needs stink.
Needs push her away.
Be ok and let go.
Myth 2: Opening up more to your wife will bring you closer together.
This is the kind of advice you’ll hear from women and wiki pages on how to improve relationships.
Digging everything out from under the rug so you can identify your attachment styles and childhood traumas can be equally as unproductive.
In the therapy world, it’s called “low-mood therapy” when you try to focus on everything “wrong” with the relationship.
Despite many women claiming this would have closed the gulf between her and her husband in years past, only about 5% of women have done enough personal development to handle a man’s raw vulnerability.
For the rest of us in relationships with the remaining 95% of women, we need to trust that having a support system outside the marriage is what works best.
If you don’t believe me, click HERE to read an excerpt by researcher/author Brene Brown.
Let your wife do more talking so SHE feels connected.
Men open up through affection and intimacy, not by talking about the past.
Your wife is the opposite.
She needs to get everything off her chest, or she won’t feel affectionate enough to give you the intimacy you need to feel close and bonded with her.
What she shares doesn’t need to be fixed, it only needs to be heard.
If you react, get triggered, or defend, divorce is in your cards, brother.
Myth 3: “No contact” makes her want you.
I bring this one up all the time.
Yes, when dating, “absence makes the heart grow fonder“.
In a long-term relationship, your absence just feels like relief.
If you want more info on this, read my article, “How To Give Your Wife Space Without Losing Her“, where I discuss what to do instead of “no contact”.
In a nutshell, there are things like neediness, begging, and pleading that you can stop dumping on her.
For guys who can’t shut off their insecurities, I do recommend the no-contact rule for HIS sake (not hers).
How To Get Your Wife Back With Tried & True Practices
The masculine confidence framework I teach men isn’t about becoming some badass with a sports car and tattoos.
I help you build a clear framework so you’ll never second-guess if you’re responding correctly.
You’ll gain a purpose for your life that goes beyond your wife and kids.
You can’t awaken your wife’s passion without this kind of clarity and life mission.
This is a whole new version of yourself she will need to experience.
Will it get your wife back?
She will either be strongly attracted or strongly repelled by it.
That polarizing force is the only way she can have feelings for you again once they’ve been lost.
What I guarantee is the right woman will be drawn to it, and sometimes that person is your ex.
Are you ready to stop relying on YouTube duct tape to patch your relationship together?
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