I get it because I’ve been there. You’re willing to do anything to get your wife back. Like any self-reliant man, you’ve searched Google for how to fix your marriage! This article will debunk 3 online myths about “getting your ex back” with brutal honesty. Keep reading or watch the following video to gain clarity about what works and what’s all smoke and hot air.
What! The Internet Lied To Us??
Do you remember when searching for something on Google used to pull up forums of real people having real conversations about topics?
That old way of indexing online content is history.
Now, our online searches only reveal what the algorithms think we should see and what marketers have paid for us to see.
Those claiming to have a 90% success rate at saving marriages are just trying to get ad priority, clicks, and money.
I’m willing to be honest with what I’ve seen work and not work for men.
Honesty is one of my values, so I’m going to tell you the truth even if it costs me a sale.
Debunking Myths On How To Get Your Wife Back
Let’s pull out the shotgun and eliminate a few misconceptions running around feral on the internet.
Myth 1: You can save your marriage even if your wife doesn’t want to.
I’ve been engaging with thousands of men in troubled relationships worldwide for several years and this is unheard of.
Yes, we can do self-improvement even if she doesn’t want to.
Sure, we can invite her to join a new standard of interacting in the relationship.
What’s self-evident is until SHE decides she wants the marriage to work, fighting for the marriage fails nearly every time.
I explain this more in my article, Walkaway Wife, Why You Need To STOP Chasing Her.
What we see work is LETTING GO of the marriage and accepting that if she doesn’t want to be married to us, she is free to go.
I’m not advocating that you should file for divorce, but I am saying you shouldn’t be trying to resist it.
Myth 2: Opening up more to your wife will bring you closer together.
This is the kind of advice you’ll hear from women and wiki pages on how to improve relationships.
Digging everything out from under the rug so we can identify our attachment styles and childhood traumas can be equally as unproductive.
In the therapy world, this is called “low-mood therapy” when we try to focus on everything “wrong” with the relationship.
Despite many women claiming this would have closed the gulf between her and her husband in years past, only about 5% of women have done enough personal development to handle a man’s raw vulnerability.
For the rest of us in relationships with the remaining 95% of women, we need to trust that having a support system outside the marriage is what works best.
If you don’t believe me, click HERE to read an excerpt by researcher/author Brene Brown.
Let your wife do more talking so SHE feels connected.
Men open up through affection and intimacy, not by talking about the past.
Our wife, being the opposite, needs to get everything off her chest or she won’t feel affectionate enough to give us the intimacy we need to feel close and bonded with her.
Reacting triggered, defensive, distracted, or trying to fix her when she opens up puts divorce in our cards, brother.
Myth 3: “No contact” makes her want you.
I bring this one up all the time.
Yes, when dating, “absence makes the heart grow fonder“.
In a long-term relationship, absence just makes her glad she doesn’t have to put up with us.
If you want more info on this, read my article, “How To Give Your Wife Space Without Losing Her“, where I discuss what to do instead of “no contact”.
In a nutshell, there are things like neediness, begging, and constantly pestering her for assurance that we can stop dumping on her.
For guys who can’t shut off their insecurities, jealousy, heartbreak, and desperation around her, I do recommend the no-contact rule for HIS sake (not hers).
How To Get Your Wife Back With Tried & True Practices
The masculine confidence framework I teach men isn’t about becoming some badass with a sports car and tattoos.
I help you build a clear framework so you’ll never second guess if you’re responding correctly.
You’ll gain a purpose for your life that goes beyond your wife and kids.
We can’t awaken the version of our wife who wants to feel passionate for us until we have this kind of clarity and life mission.
I don’t guarantee that the new version of your life that’s inspiring, meaningful, self-assured, and purpose-driven will re-attract your ex.
What I guarantee is the right woman will be drawn to it, and sometimes that person is your ex.
Are you ready to stop relying on YouTube duct tape to patch your relationship together?
Then fill out my “Get Grounded Now“ form for a free consultation.
We’ll have a deep and meaningful conversation.
I promise you’ll gain a new perspective about being the kind of man who creates the relationships and experiences you want!
Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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