Some men learn how to grow through hard times, and others break under it. So what sets these men apart from eachother? What if I told you it all comes down to the PURPOSE you give to suffering…
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How to Grow Through Hard Times When Life Seems Against You
Two people can go through the same life event.
Divorce, bankruptcy, rejection, you name it.
One person dusts themselves off and keeps going while the other spirals into despair and never seems to recover.
The difference is that one person understands the purpose of suffering, the other person doesn’t.
Without resistance, you will never grow stronger.
Just look at how frail astronauts become when they spend time in space without gravity.
Look at what happens when trees don’t experience wind…The roots don’t grow deep enough to support the tree, and it falls over.
When you see that hard times are how the universe picks you to be the one who grows deeper roots, suffering is seen as a rite of passage, not a curse.
How to Grow Through Hard Times When You Feel Like You’re Losing Everything
There’s a point where life can suck so bad, it doesn’t feel like growth, it feels like loss.
- Loss of what you love
- Loss of your dreams
- Loss of what you valued
But this is the exact moment that defines whether you become unshakeable by trusting the initiation process or become a wreck by focusing on things you can’t control.
No person has as much control over their life as they think.
You’re really just along for the ride as the pieces fall where they may.
When it feels like you’re losing everything, acceptance is the doorway back to wellbeing.
So is VALUING that life chose you to become greater by forcing you to grow deeper roots.
Your roots are deepened by simply expanding your capacity in hope, faith, trust, and knowing who you are.
And think about it.
Would you rather be on a plane where the pilot has successfully landed a plane with a bad engine before, or a pilot who’s new on the job?
People will want to be on your plane and trust you more when you are the man who learned how to grow through hard times.
Why Knowing Who You Are Is So Important Right Now
We’ve all formed a version of ourselves that we present to the world.
We do this hoping to gain a specific outcome.
- It’s the personality you step into when trying to impress a hiring agent during a job interview
- It’s the way you tell a story to your parents, hoping not to expose too much of your life that you know they don’t approve of
- It’s the charm you try to exude on a date to get the girl
We know deep down that this mask is a facade, but over time, it becomes our identity.
Nothing fractures these false identities like suffering.
Whenever I record a video, I see an alter ego of myself kick in, trying to cover up the parts of my personality I hate to see on camera.
This is a mask that we ALL use… and it fails us when life flips upside down.
It leaves us feeling small, discarded, and alone.
Suffering forces us to shed these layers.
Pain helps us understand where our attempts to manipulate life have failed, and we’re bare, naked, and vulnerable just like everyone else.
It’s during these rock-bottom moments that our true selves are found.
You learn how to grow through hard times by letting go of old beliefs that no longer serve you and by getting clear on who you really are, so you can be THAT man going forward.
That’s what my coaching helps you with.
I help you see where your own thoughts are holding you back.
We uncover a version of yourself that is more aligned and doesn’t feel restricted.
You start to feel better, even if your situation hasn’t changed.
If you want help, book a free confidence call, and I’ll show you how the Masculine Confidence Framework is helping men all over become confident and sure of themselves even when life is going sideways.
