This article gives a short outline of key differences between men’s sexual desire and women’s sexual desire for men’s eyes only. Do you have a roommate wife? Then keep reading.
How Men Sexually Desire Women
I’ll point out immediately that roommates don’t have sex.
They can be besties.
They can get along awesomely.
Sexual intimacy is the differentiator
Men and women are opposites in how they mentally process data.
The same is true when it comes to sexual attraction.
Men love when women are:
- Fun
- Exuberant
- Full of life
- Sparkly
- Sweet
- Soft
- Receptive
- Motherly towards cute things
All those attributes add warmth to our connection and relationship with her. These traits are her “inner beauty” that amplifies her outward beauty.
But what makes him feel sexual attraction for her?
The answer is quite simple: She’s pretty.
1 is not pretty…10 is drop-dead pretty.
The end.
Note: There’s highly “classified” information a king knows that doesn’t help the realm if he shares it with them.
Sharing would inflict panic and unnecessary stress.
That’s why it’s classified.
The mechanics of how most of our sexual desire towards our wife comes from her looks is best kept to yourself.
How Women Sexually Desire Men
Occasionally, I’ll ask women which movie character they find HOT or ATTRACTIVE.
The results always intrigue me.
90% of the time, it’s not the big muscular handsome-looking guy she finds as a sexual turn-on.
It’s the guy who holds a FRAME of mystery, courage, and self-control.
The rare 10% who find the big muscular guy attractive choose the muscular guy who has mystery, courage, and self-control.
A woman will call a guy “creepy” or “inappropriate” if he touches her and then daydream about a different man ripping her clothes off.
Why the contradiction to what she wants or calls creepy?
The answer is mind-numbingly simple: For the one man, she feels a sexual attraction.
Thank goodness women have a 1-100 point system for attraction.
1 is a total creep.
100 is her knight-in-shining armor.
Muscles might gain you 5 points.
A handsome face maybe 10.
Most of your attractive points come from your ENERGY Towards life.
Why Lack Of Emotional Safty Creates A “Roommate Wife”
Here’s what WON’T make your wife or girlfriend feel safe:
- Big muscles
- Combing your hair just right
- Beating up bad guys
- Working 80-hour weeks so she can have a good life
A woman feels safe when she can open herself up to you without fearing rejection, defensiveness, resentment, or pissiness. She feels safe when you dare to go to emotional depths she fears to go herself.
To sexually desire you, she needs to feel your resilience to her chaos.
She needs to feel your deep grounding in who you are and what you’re creating in life.
Getting angry at how this “game” works won’t serve you.
A hot woman will have scads of guys drooling after her.
She could have any one of them she chooses.
A man, on the other hand, has to BE something before she will notice him as a sexual partner.
Who are you BEING?
At this point, I need to warn you of a common mistake men make.
Trying to be something she likes will backfire.
Even if her mouth is telling you all the things she wants, her body wants you to be a mysterious, courageous, self-controlled man who does whatever the hell he wants to ensure his own happiness…I know, women can be hard to make sense of sometimes. But trust me, her sexuality is in her body, not her head.
Being her roommate or lover is your choice, not hers.
She is simply responding to what you’re choosing in life.
Choose confidently.
How To End The “Roommate Wife” Situation
If you think getting this stuff sorted on your own is a good idea I have news for you brother- that’s a LONG windy road.
Close male bonds with men you look up to is irreplaceable to re-calibrate your thinking.
You don’t have to waste any more time trying to figure this stuff out.
You sure as hell don’t need to spend any more time trying to figure your wife out!
Master coach Mark Drezga and I have a well-proven plan to end your “roommate wife” problem.
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Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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