This article takes a peek under the hood of feminine affection and reveals why her sensual desires can seem fickle and unavailable at times. Although sexless marriages can feel very bleak, being patient and letting her come to you is imperative.
Feminine Love Is Mostly Narcissistic
Click HERE to watch a short video by Esther Perel.
Esther has been studying infidelity and sex in long-term relationships for many years.
If you’re thinking, “Narcissistic, that’s toxic!†Don’t pull the eject lever yet brother.
Feminine and masculine are polar opposites so A LOT of how women work will seem backward to us guys.
In a nutshell, women are wired to experience erotic turn-on when they’ve received a cocktail of emotional experiences.
Women are bombarded with male attraction from all sides constantly.
Her biology is wired to only “open the doors†to specific masculine traits that will ensure the survival of the human race.
This is a twofold experience for her.
On the one hand, she needs to sense we’re a grounded, secure, confident, protective, and competent man who will keep her safe when she’s emotionally, physically, and mentally the most vulnerable.
On the other hand, SHE needs to feel safe, contained, desirable, attractive, and delicious all on her own totally separate from you.
As Esther Perel says, “A woman who cannot make love to herself cannot receive love from others”.
See why feminine love is largely narcissistic?
Everything revolves around HER feelings for HER sexuality to open.Â
Expecialy In Sexless Marriages, Her Love Is Sensitive
Think of your partner’s affection like a bubble.
In the early stages of a relationship, her initial responses to us can form a “love bubbleâ€.
We men are the ones who assume the “love bubble†is a permanent part of how she feels towards us.
No sir! This bubble can pop from the slightest shift in the wind.
Sometimes the bubble can be reformed, sometimes it cannot.
This has nothing to do with our value, quality, or achievements as men but has EVERYTHING to do with how HER biology towards us feels to her.
Women are wired to be responders.
Just as the moon is a reflection of the sun, She’s supposed to respond/reflect back to us a version of herself based on how we’re being.
Women Are Like Cats, Men Are Like Dogs
Corey Wayne Came up with the cat/dog analogy to compare men to women.
I love this point of view because it’s so relatable!
Both species make good pets.
Both can be affectionate.
Cats are more elusive though.
A cat can’t be forced to obey, purr, sit still, or “stay” unless they feel like it.
Dogs are very loyal and are quick to forget about yesterday.
Cats are always suspicious of our intentions and only come close when they feel the right vibes around us.
Dogs are ready to pick up the fun right where they left off regardless of how bad the day was.
Can you relate to any of these experiences with your partner?
In a sexless marriage, your wife is mirroring to you how she feels around you.
If you’re showing up 100% as the confident, MAN in the relationship who is inspired, fulfilled, outcome non-dependent, and happy, then this is just how she’s going to be with you.
However, most men are walking on eggshells, trying to make her happy, and sacrificing themselves instead of staying in their masculine frame when the marriage is struggling.
If the latter version sounds like you, then what she’s mirroring to you will change when YOU change.
Sexless Marriages Call For A Clear Masculine Frame
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Sexless marriages are the perfect place in life for men to get the biggest results from doing this work.
True masculinity can only be forged in the total absence of feminine support and affection.
Make good use of this time brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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