Masculine Confidence Framework

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  • Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    I’m going to teach you 5 basic necessities for happiness. Many of us were misled into believing our wife’s happiness was our responsibility. If your thought is, “But I’m married to an unhappy wife, I just want her to be happy!” then keep reading. 

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    Unhappy Wife – 5 Necessities To Change

    Our Expectations Of Our Wife

    We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.

    “Perfect” would include a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for us at the door when we come home. 

    She’d be wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls. 

    Fun and laughter would fill our evening with her!

    By night, things would get steamy under the sheets.

    Sounds like a great fantasy! 

    Then there’s reality. 

    She…

    • Is mad at your mom
    • Spends more time off with her friends than at home
    • Never initiates sex
    • Says “Stop trying to fix me” whenever you try to connect
    • Is never happy
    • Is cold, dismissive, and says you need to show her more love
    • Keeps bringing up your past mistakes

    Men I coach learn a universal fact after a few sessions: Female energy is a flood without a strong masculine frame to direct it. 

    In other words, if her “mess” is affecting how YOU feel, it means you’re driving in her lane, not your own lane of well-being and happiness.

    Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    There are five necessities for happiness:

    1. Safety
    2. Variety
    3. Connection
    4. Contribution
    5. Growth  

    The old saying, “Do as I say, not as I do” won’t work because words can’t erase what it’s like to BE around us.

    You cannot “give” your wife safety… But you can BE safe.

    You cannot “give” your wife connection… But you can BE connecting. 

    In other words, you provide these things by BEING them. 

    YOU get to have strong boundaries for your own safety. 

    YOU get to take responsibility for your own growth. 

    There’s a natural order on this planet: Masculine energy leads. 

    Your wife gets to enjoy the ride as you solidify an amazing, inspiring, deeply connecting life for yourself. 

    The cool part is, you get to enjoy this life regardless of what she’s doing.

    If you have an unhappy wife, you can be a man who invites her to a better place by example. 

    In the article, “You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Happiness” Dr. Danielle Dowling reminds us other people’s happiness is NOT our responsibility.

    Happiness by example is the ONLY way to light the path forward for your wife to follow.

    Build an amazing life that makes you happy no matter what she does.

    Feeling unsure of how to be a confident, direct, emotional lighthouse with an unhappy wife?

    Fill out my Contact Form to schedule a free consultation.

    Do it for yourself.

    Do it for your family. 

    You got this brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • She Doubting Her Feelings For You? Masculine Confidence Is Vital

    She Doubting Her Feelings For You? Masculine Confidence Is Vital

    I’m going to tell you a true story about a husband in a crappy marriage. How the story ends is positive. Not by chance. This man was very deliberate in his commitment to positive change. He attained the happiness, freedom, and relaxed vibe needed to have attractive masculine confidence. 

    What Marriage Is Like Without Masculine Confidence

    It was 1:00 Am.

    Josh couldn’t sleep. 

    His wife was working a graveyard shift. 

    He was alone in bed. 

    Something she said before she left for work really bothered him. 

    “I don’t know if I want to be married anymore. I just need some space”. 

    What did she mean?? 

    Josh loved his wife and couldn’t imagine life without her. 

    He had always done his best to not pressure her with his views or opinions. 

    She was a very strong, independent woman. 

    For the most part, he let her do what she wanted. 

    Josh wanted to her happy and free. 

    Sometimes he didn’t like what she did though… 

    He would cleverly slip in snide comments when she took trips without him… Or give her a “That was stupid” look when she messed up.

    He felt a little bad to admit it, but he could get really mopey if she spent lots of time with friends or didn’t give him sex.  

    Josh had worked tirelessly for years to give her a good life. 

    • He prioritized her pleasure, ensuring she orgasmed first.
    • He was reliable and consistent in his actions.
    • He sacrificed time with friends, leisure activities, and solo adventures to prioritize their time

    And this is what he got in return?? 

    Josh never bought himself anything nice. 

    Instead, he secretly hoped for his wife to do things to show him he mattered.  

    Getting him snacks, a new shirt, renting a movie, being in nature or planning a fun trip were the love languages he felt she should do for him. 

    The truth was, over the last few years, Josh only looked to his wife to experience these things.

    Isn’t that what a wife is for?

    When his secret hopes were not met by her, he felt ignored. 

    Here Josh was… Spending the wee hours of the morning watching YouTube videos about “what to do when your wife wants space”. 

    He found one guy who seemed to have solid advice. 

    Josh found his website and clicked the link to download an eBook. 

    Yikes! 

    The eBook cost $7.99.

    Screw that! 

    Josh went back to watching free self-help YouTube videos. 

    Then another hour slipped by as he found some porn.

    The next morning, Josh woke up exhausted from little sleep. 

    he left for work. 

    Nothing changed in his life. 

    In the video below, I’ll give more perspective on why you as the man need to start investing in yourself before she can. 

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    She Doubting Her Feelings For You? Masculine Confidence Is Vital

    Why is it we men want a priceless marriage but struggle to value ourselves a mere $7.99?

    Waiting for your wife to improve is a never-ending wait. 

    Masculine Confidence Means Going First

    Working on our own lack of self-worth, low self-esteem, and dependency on others for joy and love are key areas to develop. 

    Without confidence, we’re a ship with no rudder. 

    Women cannot help they are drawn to leadership. (Even strong independent women) 

    What You Can Do Right Now To Gain Masculine Confidence

    Mark Drezga and I have created a unique opportunity for you.

    Be part of a powerful group focused on forging one skill: masculine confidence.

    How Josh Changed Everything

    Josh’s pain in his marriage got so bad he finally broke down and spent $7.99 on himself. 

    This was a turning point. 

    Josh gave himself permission to put himself and his own development 1st. 

    Making himself a priority felt good!

    Soon he did something he never thought he would do: He hired a life coach. 

    It cost over $10k.

    His business saw a 30% boost in profits as a result. 

    Josh continued to invest in himself, spending over $50k in personal development over the next 24 months. 

    He showed up consistently to the coaching sessions. 

    He followed through on the homework.

    Josh rewired his brain. 

    His results of investing in himself were off the charts. 

    With a new mindset toward life, a community of men who had his back, and balls of brass he boldly faced his fears.

    • His property portfolio doubled. 
    • His business brought in over a million in sales. 
    • He manifested a job that covered all his coaching investments and an additional $50k as a down payment on his dream house.  

    His relationship with women became sensual, deep, and meaningful.

    And most importantly, Josh’s sense of well-being and love for life flowed out for others to enjoy with him 

    Josh has to pinch himself each morning when he looks out the window. 

    He’s actually living his dream life TODAY!  

    Sound too good to be true?

    Well, it’s a true story, so you can’t contest it. 

    Your Next Step

    Nothing outside Josh changed. He still lived on the same planet. What changed is Josh became a confident husband, brother, employer, son, and leader.

    Ready to go all-in for a 1:1 personal consultation? Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” Consultation form and lets have a meaningful conversation.

    On a tight budget? Check out why our small group focused on building confidence could be just what you need. 

    Much love brother,

     Garrett Prettyman