When your wife is always unhappy or chronically upset, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing as a husband or father. There are 5 things you can change right now to bring some joy back into your relationship. Just watch the video below or keep reading.
Unhappy Wife – 5 Necessities To Change
Failed Expectations: A Source Of Unhappiness
We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.
“Perfect” includes a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for you at the door when you come home.
She’s wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls.
When your wife loves you but isn’t in love with you, it shakes you to your core. The desperation. The fear. The loneliness. I’ve been there. I’ve been the guy up at 3:00 AM searching Google on how to save your marriage. At some point, you realize this isn’t about saving your marriage. This is about saving yourself. Here’s a true story from another man who didn’t let his wife’s loss of feelings destroy his life.
Marriage Without Masculine Confidence Is Doomed
It’s 3:00 Am.
Josh can’t sleep.
His wife, Marcia, is working a graveyard shift.
He’s alone in bed.
Something Marcia said before she left for work really bothers him.
“I don’t feel in love with you anymore. I mean, I still love you, like a really good friend, but I don’t want to have sex anymore.”
What does it even mean when your wife says she loves you but isn’t in love with you??
Josh still has feelings for his wife and can’t imagine living in a sexless marriage.
He feels desperate to bring affection back, the cuddles, and the sexy Sunday mornings.
But he’s not sure where to start.
He feels like he’s done everything a great husband should do.
He’s always quick to agree with her and never pressures her with his views or opinions.
She’s a very strong, independent woman, and he always appreciates her for being that way.
On the outside, Josh seems easy-going.
But on the inside, he feels like Marcia’s withdrawal is unfair.
He hopes that leaving little clues about what bothers him will make Marcia change.
Like when she takes trips without him.
Or when she’s at work all night and he sleeps alone.
He would never openly say what bothers him; he doesn’t want to create conflict.
Instead, he cleverly slips in snide comments about her trips, hoping it will discourage her.
He’ll make sarcastic jokes about being home alone, hoping she’ll feel bad for him.
That’s how Josh drops bread crumbs instead of speaking openly and honestly.
When Marcia messes up, Josh never gets angry.
But he does give her a look that says, “You’re being dumb.”
When she’s not in the mood for sex, he won’t say anything negative… but he gets mopey, hoping she’ll have sympathy.
Josh is unaware that his indirect behaviours are not helping to bring affection back into his relationship.
To Marcia, it’s a huge turn-off when he beats around the bush, trying not to offend her.
Deep down, Josh is insecure about facing conflict.
Marcia senses this.
She would feel more secure in the relationship if he was more secure in himself to be direct with her.
When your wife loves you but isn’t in love, she’s struggling to relax into her feminine state, where she can feel affection with you.
She needs your masculine confidence to feel safe enough to relax.
Not just physically relax, but to emotionally relax and open her heart.
This is the deeper connection feminine needs that awakens her desire for physical closeness and intimacy.
Masculine Confidence Polarizes Your Wife’s Feminine Attraction Towards You
Josh thinks he’s doing everything a great husband should do for his wife!
He prioritizes her pleasure, ensuring she orgasms first
He’s always agreeable
He sacrifices time with friends, leisure activities, and solo adventures to be with her on the weekends
He works really hard at his job and always puts food on the table
He’s remodeled the bathroom and put new carpet in the house, trying to make her happy
Josh feels resentful, knowing he’s done so much without Marcia reciprocating
For all he’s sacrificed, shouldn’t she at least show him some affection?
But these actions won’t bring affection back.
Josh’s efforts with strings attached make Marcia feel manipulated.
Maybe that’s why your wife loves you but isn’t in love with you.
To her, you feel like another kid to take care of.
Another child with needs she has to meet.
And your smoldering resentment for all you’ve done only makes her feel like she needs space from it all.
Lead By Example When Your Wife Loves You But Isn’t In Love
Josh never buys himself anything nice, but he secretly hopes his wife will.
Snacks, a new shirt, renting a movie, going in nature, or planning a fun trip – those are things he wants, but he never actually asks for.
Instead, he broods over his expectations not being met.
He waits in frustration for his wife to meet his needs.
There are things Marcia secretly hopes Josh will do for her, too.
She thinks Josh should know her well enough to take charge when she’s overwhelmed.
That he should be able to buy her an outfit she likes or know what book she wants for her birthday.
Both of them are suffering from a lack of experiences they think the other is responsible for.
This is what happens when a relationship loses masculine/feminine polarity.
You get stuck in a stalemate.
The Google Search History That Nearly Ended Josh’s Marriage
Here Josh was… Spending the wee hours of the morning watching YouTube videos about how to save your marriage.
He found one guy who seemed to have solid advice.
Josh found his website and eBook.
Yikes!
The eBook cost $7.99.
Screw that!
Josh went back to watching free self-help YouTube videos.
Then another hour slipped by as he found some porn.
The next morning, Josh woke up exhausted from little sleep.
He left for work.
Nothing changed in his life.
When he got home, Marcia was beside herself.
She pointed to the computer screen and then to the browser history.
“Have you been watching porn?” She demanded.
“No!” Josh studderd, knowing he was caught red-handed.
“Well, how do you explain the browser history?” She said, furious.
Josh made up a story, blaming family members who stayed with them.
Marcia believed the lie, but Josh knew this wasn’t over.
Here’s a video with perspective on why masculine confidence is magnetic when your wife loves you but isn’t in love with you:
She Doubting Her Feelings For You? Masculine Confidence Is Vital
What To Do When Your Wife Loves You But Isn’t In Love
When your wife loves you but isn’t in love, the relationship is over.
Not your future relationship with her, your old relationship with her.
It’s time for marriage 2.0.
And marriage 2.0 won’t happen until you start turning pages in the next amazing chapter of your life.
You have to launch into this new chapter knowing you’ll be ok even if your wife doesn’t join.
This is how you create an INVITATION into something better.
It’s how you bring affection back through attraction.
She has to get to know you all over again.
She has to fall in love with you again.
Josh’s pain in his marriage got so bad that he finally broke down and spent $7.99 on the eBook.
This was the first time he had ever invested in himself.
If felt strange, like he needed someone’s permission.
This was a turning point.
Josh gave himself permission to prioritize his own development.
Making himself a priority felt good!
Soon, he did something he never thought he would: He hired a life coach.
It cost over $10k.
His business saw a 30% boost in profits as a result.
Josh continued to invest in himself, spending over $50k in personal development over the next 24 months.
He showed up to the coaching sessions consistently.
He followed through on the homework.
The personal work rewired his brain.
The results of investing in himself were off the charts.
With a new mindset toward life, a community of men who had his back, and balls of brass, he boldly faced his fears.
His property portfolio doubled.
His business brought in over a million in sales.
He manifested a job that covered all his coaching investments and an additional $50k as a down payment on his dream house.
His relationship with women became sensual, deep, and meaningful.
And most importantly, Josh’s sense of well-being and love for life flowed out to others.
Josh has to pinch himself each morning when he looks out the window.
He’s actually living his dream life TODAY!
Marcia didn’t like his new life.
And that gave Josh clarity.
No more settling.
No more trying to smile while he hurt on the inside.
The new woman who came into his life in this new chapter loved the life he built.
They SHARED important values that kept the relationship strong.
For many of my clients, this “new woman” was a new version of their wife.
New things start coming out of her when new things start coming out of you.
Sounds too good to be true?
Well, it’s a true story.
Your Next Step To Bring Affection Back Into Your Marriage
Nothing outside Josh changed.
He still lives on the same planet as he always has.
What changed is that Josh became a confident husband, brother, employer, son, and leader.
Why is it that we men want a priceless marriage but struggle to invest in ourselves?
Waiting for your wife to improve is a never-ending wait.
Show her a new you before it’s too late.
Work on your own lack of self-worth, low self-esteem, and dependency on others for joy and love – and let that magnetism do all the attracting.
This is about securing YOUR amazing future.
Before you can bring affection back into your marriage, you have to put yourself first.
Reach out.
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