You didn’t marry a walkaway wife: 3 red flags about YOU can push her right out the door, though.
Even if she’s a Christian…
Even if you’ve always had good intentions….
There are 3 red flags in men that women walk away from.
Red Flag #1: You Fail Her “Jealousy Tests”
Here’s the thing with a walkaway wife: 3 red flags have arisen from the many men I’ve worked with.
When a woman leaves a marriage, it’s rarely from a specific argument or forgotten birthday.
She has been suffering for years, while doing a very good job of hiding it.
A large part of her desire for you revolves around how secure you are.
She doesn’t consciously come up with ways to test your jealousy.
Like I said, this is mostly a hidden thing she feels.
What happens is her feminine way of making connections everywhere she goes reveals how secure you are.
Think of all the connections she makes with people as a “jealousy test”.
Below are some examples of how a man can fail these tests.
- Getting controlling or suspicious when she has male friends
- Stressing out when she gets a text from a guy
- Anxiously pestering her about why, what, who, or where she was
- Losing your cool when guys give her attention
Even if all her male friends want to get into her pants, it’s not a red flag.
Women are very good at keeping guys in the friend zone.
Just look at how many husbands are stuck in her friend zone, going for years without sex.
If you’re wife has to adjust her life because of your insecurities, your relationship is on borrowed time.
Take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why you give a rat’s tail who your wife is friendly towards.
This was my excuse back in the day: “It’s not that I don’t trust her, it’s that I don’t trust other guys!”
Another excuse I’ve heard is, “She’s disrespecting me with other guys!”
Both excuses are based on something most women detest: insecurity.
I have to laugh at myself for trying to justify those excuses while my marriage was sexless.
Seriously.
I tried 99.6 “hacks” to get my wife to be intimate with no success.. and I was STILL insecure that with someone else, she would give in…
Trust me, a woman’s affection is impossible to gain when SHE doesn’t want it to be accessed.
When our wife feels like we can’t handle how she lives her life, she stops sharing it with us.
Not long after, she stops letting us inside her heart and body.
Can we really blame her for closing off when every time she lets us see into her world, we have a cow, act disrespected, or mope around?
Red Flag #2: You Keep A Mental Score Card Of What She Owes You
This red flag sounds like this: “After all I’ve sacrificed for this family, the least you could do is give me some sex!”
Keeping a mental scorecard is deeply revealing about our intentions and indicates a long-term chronic behavior of self-abandonment.
I was the guy who “sacrificed” my weekends, time with friends, living location, and hobbies for my wife.
On a deeper level, I stopped standing by my own beliefs, stopped prioritizing my own needs, and held her approval on a pedestal.
Everything I did carried a hidden expectation.
I would never say it, but boy, could she smell it all over me.
It got so bad, I couldn’t even hang a picture in the living room or spray the weeds on the sidewalk without expecting her to reciprocate love (preferably in the form of sex).
Transactional love will send your wife running for the hills.
Red Flag #3: You Can’t Appreciate The “Messiness” Of Your Wife.
Women are born with a unique ability to create, embellish, stretch, and change the status quo.
She’s like an artist painting her masterpiece.
An artist’s room is covered in paint, scraps of canvas, and pieces of craft supplies.
Yet from the contemplative and messy room of an artist, a high-value painting emerges.
A very feminine woman won’t stick to a schedule, finish what she starts, maintain a consistent mood, or make up her mind.
If we can’t look at our wife’s “messiness” with the same appreciation as a kitten tumbling in a box of yarn, she’ll grow more masculine, ridged, and closed off around us.
We didn’t marry a dude, so we need to stop expecting her to be one.
She was designed to bring new things into this life.
Just look at birth.
There’s blood, poop, slime, screaming… It’s pure chaos.
But from that mess emerges a new life, your child.
She is built to “birth” many new experiences into your life.
Because she is feminine, it will always be messy.
She is literally the embodiment of Mother Nature.
Rainbows, sunsets, hurricanes, and wildfires.
Walkaway Wife: 3 Red Flags To Resolve Before It’s Too Late
The 3 red flags you just read about all stem from one common factor: an insecure husband.
I spent years trying to “trim the wings” of my wife to prevent her from engaging with other men.
I managed to get her lifestyle so boxed in, I thought there was no way another man could get with her…Then she had an emotional affair with a woman!
Like a lightning bolt to my brain, I suddenly realized isolating your partner from other humans because you’re insecure has never worked and never will.
I transitioned from being someone who would act extremely distressed if my partner hugged another man to genuinely celebrating with her when she receives attention.
This new, secure way of living has produced fidelity in my relationship in ways I NEVER experienced before!
You can’t white-knuckle what you want into your marriage, you have to attract it.
We’re only making the grass greener on the other side of the fence when we’re puking insecurity all over our side.
The moment we make something forbidden or taboo, it’s instantly more exciting and tempting to flirt with it.
To this day, I’m shocked when I see how being secure with my partner’s engagement around others has disempowered their charm over her.
The old me never would have believed it, but letting go is how you get some things.
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This rewires your brain.
You’ll never stop feeling scared or insecure; you’re human.
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You don’t need to fear a walkaway wife: 3 red flags can be nipped right now.