Tag: emotional leadership

  • Stop Chasing Her Approval (Here’s What She Actually Responds To)

    Stop Chasing Her Approval (Here’s What She Actually Responds To)

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    If you’re exhausted from walking on eggshells around your wife, afraid to be disagreed with, or ridiculed by her, then it’s time to stop chasing her approval.

    There’s an epidemic of men trying to please women these days.

    They mean well.

    They just want her to be happy.

    But it’s creating the opposite.

    What you need to understand is that there’s what women say they want and there’s what women actually respond to.

    Those are two very different things.

    When you trade your truth, your clarity, and your leadership for a woman’s approval, you destroy attraction.

    You might gain her agreement, but you’ll lose her sexual desire.

    You’re also robbing the world of your greatest gifts.

    The world needs men who can make hard choices for the greater good, even if it makes them unpopular.

    Stop Chasing Her Approval And Create What You Believe In

    Your partner is an extension of Mother Nature.

    Just like rain tests erosion and wind tests roof shingles, feminine energy tests your masculine frame.

    Can you stay calm and listen when she’s illogical?

    Can you stay rooted in your direction when she doubts or disagrees?

    Can you keep your heart open when she pulls away?

    She wants to see if YOU really believe in your cause by how you respond.

    The hero’s journey of modern man is never to abandon your role as a CREATOR when people disagree or challenge you.

    When you master that, you don’t chase validation; you become the validation.

    How To Create What You Want

    Every single thing man has created was not accepted by the world at first.

    People feared light bulbs would burn down houses.

    Pooping in toilets instead of the river sounded ludicrous.

    But the creators of those things didn’t let people’s criticism sway them.

    Edison was happy to make 10,000 light bulbs that didn’t work because he believed in his cause.

    What’s your cause in the world?

    What’s your cause in your marriage?

    Your cause is what makes you magnetic to feminine and to life itself.

    It governs what you remain connected to without the need to explain or defend your behaviours.

    It gives purpose to your 10,000 failed attempts and lets the ridicule of others roll off your back.

    Your wife becomes an honored guest in your amazing life because you stop chasing her approval to enjoy your cause.

    If you’re ready to build that kind of unshakable masculine frame that stays in the mode of creator in the face of rejection, I’ll help you get started for free.

  • This Secretly Turns Her On (But She’ll Never Admit It)

    This Secretly Turns Her On (But She’ll Never Admit It)

    What secretly turns her on isn’t flowers, date nights, or compliance. It’s something deeper, something EMOTIONALLY dynamic.

    And if you’re not giving it to her? Her heart will drift.

    Most men are blindsided when their wife suddenly says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”

    And understandably so.

    There were no screaming matches.

    No big fights.

    No obvious red flags.

    Everything seemed… fine.

    “Fine” is a red flag.

    The feminine experience is always full of emotions.

    A woman who feels connected to you will share her full range of feelings with you.

    But if you feel unsafe, she will close off.

    Her removal of emotions can feel like calm waters, but it’s the red flag to watch out for.

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    What Secretly Turns Her On: Emotional Forplay

    We men think of foreplay as sexual touch.

    For women, foreplay happens emotionally.

    She feels erotic tease from playful tension, not avoiding her emotions.

    She’s turned on by strength, not soft appeasement.

    She wants a man who can handle her without going emotionally limp.

    She tests constantly.

    Not out of cruelty, but from a deep, unconscious need to know:“Is this man grounded? Can he handle me? Can he hold me emotionally without going soft?”

    It might come out as a complaint or a mood swing, but it’s a form of emotional foreplay.

    When You’re Too Nice, It Turns Her Off

    If she senses that you adjust everything to please her…

    If your tone rises and falls based on her tone…

    If you’re constantly sacrificing your needs to avoid conflict…

    Or carefully choosing your words to not rock the boat…

    You’re making love to her with a limb emotional noodle.

    The feminine cannot fully trust or be attracted to an emotional noodle softer than hers.

    Emotional Tussle Is the Foreplay She Needs

    Men get turned on by visual and physical beauty.

    Women? They’re turned on by having an emotional tussle.

    When she can push up against you emotionally and feel that you’re solid, unshakable, present, and leading with clarity it sparks something deep.

    It’s a form of seduction.

    You are emotionally erect, penetrating through her feelings with calm, powerful direction.

    That’s the foreplay her nervous system is dying for.

    Not good-boy behaviors.

    Not reactive asshole moves.

    Just a man who stays in his own emotional lane.

    What Secretly Turns Her On: A Man Rooted in His Mission

    She lives in the now. Emotionally.

    You, as the man, must live from the future you’re building.

    What does that mean?

    Even if right now she’s cold, distant, or closed off, you don’t let that define you.

    You show up as the man who already lives in the amazing future you’re committed to.

    Adventure. Passion. Freedom. Stability.

    Whatever that vision is… Behave like it’s yours.

    Embody it. Speak it. Prophesy it into the relationship by selling the vision.

    This is how you create intimacy in an otherwise mundane marriage.

    Ready to Become That Man?

    This is the work I do with men every day.

    Whether you want to save your marriage or attract real connection in your dating life, it starts with you being the grounded, calm, masculine leader she can feel in your tone and vibe.