You’ll want to be a more confident husband when you realize just how dam attractive it is. Feminine women are drawn to confidence like a cat to catnip. This week, one of the men in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course saw a change in his marriage. His wife (who had been disagreeable and cold) warmed up! Her change was in response to his new calm/understanding masculine frame. This article provides two key ingredients to be a more confident husband, even if your marriage is in distress.
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When your confidence is low, everything feels personal.
No morning kiss from your wife feels like a nagging stab in your gut.
Her complaints about the house make you feel like you’re not a good enough provider.
And when she says she feels emotionally neglected, you want to say, “Wait a minute, how do you think I feel?”
Unless a marriage is led by a man who is secure in himself, it will eventually disintegrate into blaming and victimhood.
You don’t need to end up as a divorced, gutted shell of yourself who blames others for your suffering.
Being more secure and unshakable leaves you with a better life, no matter what.
You’ll be a more confident husband when you value how you are built as a man.
Yet, many men quickly lose any sense of confidence when it comes to tension and conflict with their wives.
One major reason for this is due to BRAIN differences!
A study at the Brain Science Centre in Minneapolis revealed that a female brain can process data 5 times faster than a male brain.
This is why it feels like your wife can talk circles around you in an argument.
It’s why her reactions seem to go in 5 directions all at once.
That’s cool, though.
Good for her.
She’s got a gift you don’t have.
Don’t fight against it.
Appreciate it…and realize that YOUR brain has a gift of its own.
Your brain likes to process data more slowly…at an even pace in a way that makes logical sense to you.
The data your brain processes needs to pass through various phases of contemplation in your mind before making conclusions.
It’s a gift and a strength, brother!
And it’s THAT gift that might make her feel like you’re not listening.
You might look like a deer caught in the headlights while your brain is processing.
This is nothing for you to be ashamed of.
Instead, be AMUSED and own it as your superpower!
The path to confidence is about being comfortable with who you are authentically and not trying to live by other people’s standards or abilities.
There are two key ingredients to face marriage distress with confidence:
- Be a more confident husband by knowing you’re OK
- Be a more confident husband by trusting your intentions
You’ll Be A More Confident Husband When You Believe You’re Going To Be Ok
If your wife is talking circles around you, she’s doing what people with her brain are supposed to be doing.
She’s OK.
You’re OK.
Everyone is OK.
If your logical brain tells you she’s way off base or that she isn’t seeing things clearly, take a breath.
Your brain is just doing what it’s supposed to do.
Everything is still ok.
A man who knows deep down that he’s OK can face chaos with confidence.
The Vikings were unstoppable in battle because they believed they couldn’t die except on the day the gods had chosen.
In other words, they believed they would be OK no matter what.
The Vikings had what we call spiritual confidence, and it made them a fearless force to reckon with!
It’s a certain type of faith to develop.
Faith believing that everything is working out exactly how it’s supposed to.
Not because the big man upstairs is moving pieces on a chessboard, but because the world always balances itself through opposites.
The very fabric of reality behaves according to a specific set of rules.
It’s the same rules that keep the planets in orbit and prevent dogs from giving birth to cats.
You are supposed to go through everything that you go through.
Call it kinetic energy.
Call it the rubberband effect or karma.
Whatever it is, you have to have faith in it if you want to be a more confident husband.
Be A More Confident Husband By Trusting Your Intentions
How people decide to judge your actions is their choice.
What’s important is that you trust your own intentions.
When you trust your intentions, you can let go of needing to be right, better, or understood by others.
To be a more confident man, stop trying so hard to prove yourself.
When your intentions are honorable, simply trust them.
Act on them.
There is nothing to explain or defend when people react to it.
How You Can Take A BIG Step Towards Confidence This Week
In my coaching, you learn how to have a strong masculine frame.
To be a more confident husband requires a first step: Knowing your values.
I will teach you how to narrow your values down to a few key components that energize your masculine frame.
Your masculine frame will enable you to face marriage distress with confidence by being clear, strong, and sure of yourself.
Even if your wife has one foot out the door, doing this work gives your marriage the best chance for survival.