Masculine Confidence Framework

Tag: Empowering Male Confidence

  • Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    I’m going to teach you 5 basic necessities for happiness. Many of us were misled into believing our wife’s happiness was our responsibility. If your thought is, “But I’m married to an unhappy wife, I just want her to be happy!” then keep reading. 

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    Unhappy Wife – 5 Necessities To Change

    Our Expectations Of Our Wife

    We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.

    “Perfect” would include a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for us at the door when we come home. 

    She’d be wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls. 

    Fun and laughter would fill our evening with her!

    By night, things would get steamy under the sheets.

    Sounds like a great fantasy! 

    Then there’s reality. 

    She…

    • Is mad at your mom
    • Spends more time off with her friends than at home
    • Never initiates sex
    • Says “Stop trying to fix me” whenever you try to connect
    • Is never happy
    • Is cold, dismissive, and says you need to show her more love
    • Keeps bringing up your past mistakes

    Men I coach learn a universal fact after a few sessions: Female energy is a flood without a strong masculine frame to direct it. 

    In other words, if her “mess” is affecting how YOU feel, it means you’re driving in her lane, not your own lane of well-being and happiness.

    Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change

    There are five necessities for happiness:

    1. Safety
    2. Variety
    3. Connection
    4. Contribution
    5. Growth  

    The old saying, “Do as I say, not as I do” won’t work because words can’t erase what it’s like to BE around us.

    You cannot “give” your wife safety… But you can BE safe.

    You cannot “give” your wife connection… But you can BE connecting. 

    In other words, you provide these things by BEING them. 

    YOU get to have strong boundaries for your own safety. 

    YOU get to take responsibility for your own growth. 

    There’s a natural order on this planet: Masculine energy leads. 

    Your wife gets to enjoy the ride as you solidify an amazing, inspiring, deeply connecting life for yourself. 

    The cool part is, you get to enjoy this life regardless of what she’s doing.

    If you have an unhappy wife, you can be a man who invites her to a better place by example. 

    In the article, “You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Happiness” Dr. Danielle Dowling reminds us other people’s happiness is NOT our responsibility.

    Happiness by example is the ONLY way to light the path forward for your wife to follow.

    Build an amazing life that makes you happy no matter what she does.

    Feeling unsure of how to be a confident, direct, emotional lighthouse with an unhappy wife?

    Fill out my Contact Form to schedule a free consultation.

    Do it for yourself.

    Do it for your family. 

    You got this brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Emergency Post For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    Emergency Post For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    You’re about to read two stories to help you understand why your wife may not be feeling attraction for you. Husbands not having intimate sex can feel like they’ve tried everything. Many times, these men simply haven’t learned how to create safety and trust.

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    Emergency Video For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    Bass, Sunshine, Mosquitoes, and Sex…

    As I’m typing this, a fly just flew in through my open front door.

    There’s a rainstorm brewing outside.

    Flies seem to be extra clingy at these times.

    This fly has landed on my arm and wiggled into my hair several times.

    I would like to murder it.

    I feel my whole body closing up as I get angry trying to stop the irritating fluttering on my head.

    “Closed”… This is what a woman’s body does when she doesn’t feel our self-trust or emotional safety.

    Our horniness can be the fly.

    No amount of, “fluttering” your stiffy on her will get her aroused when her body is closed.

    Something mature men come to realize is our horniness is ours to manage. 

    Your horniness (along with your emotions) are never your wife’s responsibility to take care of. 

    Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex Can Be Mosquitoes

    Years back, I hiked to a remote lake before sunrise to bass fish from shore.

    I imagined I would cast a line in for a few hours then swim, and soak up some sun. 

    As the sun rose, the bass started biting!

    Then something else started biting…

    Mosquitoes.

    Millions of them.

    I tried to cover up every inch of my body. 

    My bare hand on the reel was getting slaughtered.

    All desire to rip my shirt off and enjoy the sunshine was gone even though sunshine is something I enjoy.

    That’s what it’s like for your wife.

    She always has the proper juices to desire physical intimacy with you.

    But, when she’s being pelted with our need to:

    • Be “Right”
    • “Get off”
    • Know “Why??”
    • Be “Chosen”
    • Have her “get clear”

    …We’re assaulting her with mosquitos (Then we wonder why her body isn’t responding to our touch).

    Seducing Your Wife

    Seduction tactics and advice for attracting women for dates will not work on your wife!

    There is a proven process for being the kind of man who is attractive in a long-term relationship vs dating. 

    I take men through a 14-step process to go from being a nice guy to being a confident husband. This is the kind of man who is both unapologetic about his sexuality and able to manage his own needs. Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” contact form for a free consultation.

    When we take action to address the underlying issues driving us to be compulsive and needy about sex, we’ll no longer feel like an annoying mosquito to our wife.

    You and I having a conversation could be the 1st step to resolving not having intimate sex in your marriage.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman