Tag: how to lead in a relationship

  • Every Woman’s “Wet Dream” (And How to Become It)

    Every Woman’s “Wet Dream” (And How to Become It)

    Being in every woman’s “wet dream” might sound far-fetched.

    Being in her positive thoughts at all might be a long shot from where you are right now.

    One could even argue women don’t have “wet dreams”…

    But here’s what we do know: We crave our woman’s adoration.

    Her affection can erase the worst day.

    Her curves, her scent, the way she melts into us… It makes the stress of life disappear!

    If we depend on her sweetness to feel whole, we fall apart when she can’t give it.

    That’s where a lot of men find themselves.

    He’s tasted her warmth.

    Now he’s desperate for it to stay on repeat.

    Scratch that…He NEEDS it to.

    Every woman’s “wet dream” is about a specific kind of man.

    It’s not the desperate man.

    Let me show you who he is.

    Loving Her Through Her Pain

    A woman can put on a soft, affectionate mask.

    But inside, she’s feeling everything.

    She feels highs, lows, in-betweens, all of it.

    And not just once in a while…Every day.

    This doesn’t mean she’s broken.

    It means she’s feminine.

    She’s designed by nature to experience life on full volume.

    Most women don’t love this about themselves.

    They know when they’re being moody or dramatic, but they feel powerless to stop it.

    When we react or try to fix her, she feels judged for something she can’t change.

    She’s drowning, and we’re mad at her for not having gills.

    We think, “If I can set my feelings aside and be rational, why can’t she?”

    Expecting her to be a woman with a beard doesn’t work.

    You have to see the girl behind the pain, and love that girl through it.

    She feels your love when you believe in who she is and don’t take the bait when she’s being emotional.

    Being the Man in Every Woman’s “Wet Dream”

    Every woman dreams of a man who accepts her as she is.

    Not because she’s easy to love, but because he doesn’t need her to be anything else.

    When we try to control her out of our own insecurity, the relationship starts to feel like a cage to her.

    How many times have you criticized what you didn’t like, hoping she’d go back to being nurturing, sweet, and sexy?

    It doesn’t work.

    Control kills connection.

    Judgment kills desire.

    If you feel the need to explain yourself, If you’re trying to make her see your side, You’re not loving her through the pain. You’re reacting to it.

    You don’t need to fix her.

    You don’t need to match her mood.

    Let her words roll off you like water off a duck’s back.

    See the uniqueness in her struggle.

    If her being out of sorts makes you annoyed, that’s YOUR stuff you’re feeling, not hers.

    How to Make Her Wet For You

    The process is simple.

    Masculine energy makes women soft.

    Feminine energy makes men erect.

    The only way you can remain in your masculine energy around your wife is to not look to things outside you for validation.

    That’s what I help men do.

    I help you forge an internal script you use to go through life.

    This script is your instruction manual for whatever life tosses your way, even your wife’s feelings!

  • How to Stand Up to Your Wife Without Pushing Her Away

    How to Stand Up to Your Wife Without Pushing Her Away

    If you’ve ever wondered how to stand up to your wife without pushing her away, welcome to the club. Maybe you see her overloading the family schedule or making decisions that exhaust everyone, but the second you step in, it turns into a fight. Watch the 25-minute video below or keep reading to learn how a mature, masculine man stands up to his wife with attractive confidence, love, and calm leadership.

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    How to Stand Up to Your Wife Without Pushing Her Away Or Killing the Connection

    Most men swing between two extremes:

    1. The people-pleaser who avoids conflict, always says yes, and lets things slide to keep the peace. His wife loses respect for him because she knows he’ll always back down.

    2. The stubborn ass who stands his ground just to be right. Refuses to compromise out of ego. His wife feels disconnected and stops trusting him.

    Neither man creates respect, attraction, or a meaningful connection with their partner.

    If you want to stand up to your wife without pushing her away, you need a balance between being the people pleaser and the stubborn ass.

    The Masculine Middle: Calm, Grounded Leadership

    A grounded man doesn’t let emotions control him. He doesn’t back down to avoid conflict, but he also doesn’t assert himself out of frustration or insecurity.

    Instead, he stands firm because he trusts himself.

    • He leads with calm conviction, not reactivity
    • He stays firm in his values, not swayed by emotions
    • He stands up to his wife without attacking her

    Your clear, steady behaviors are what earn her respect, not how loud you are.

    This is key when learning how to stand up to your wife without pushing her away.

    Look at the two scenarios below. 

    Same situation, two different men.

    1. Man “A” reacts from emotion. He’s frustrated, exhausted, and snaps after holding it in too long. His wife doesn’t respect his leadership because it’s coming from frustration, not grounded confidence.

    2. Man “B” responds from principles. He steps in before it becomes an emotional explosion. He calmly asserts what needs to change because he loves the people in his life and wants what’s best for them.  She may resist at first, but she respects his clarity over time.

    Still unsure how to stand up to your wife without pushing her away?

    Then ask yourself one question: Do you trust yourself?

    Women test men instinctively to feel their self-trust.

    If your emotions dictate your actions, she won’t trust you.

    If you’re consistent, grounded, and clear, she will respect you even if she doesn’t like what you’re saying in the moment.

    How to Be the Leader Your Wife Craves (Without Being Controlling)

    Here’s what asserting yourself with love looks like in action:

    • Say What’s Happening. Even small things like “Hey, I’ll be in the garage for 20 minutes” create structure that makes her feel safe.
    • Don’t Take Her Reactions Personally. If you trust yourself, you don’t need her approval.
    • Have a Plan. If you just drift through life following her lead, she’ll feel exhausted and unsupported. Even the most driven women want to relax into a man’s leadership.
    • Detach from Needing Her Validation. A man who has an interesting and fulfilling life takes immense pressure off his wife. She no longer has to be his source of happiness, confidence, or purpose.

    I know, it all sounds great on paper, but it’s a whole different game when she’s reacting, blaming you, and making her mess your fault.

    So how do you access this kind of masculine energy when her cannons are aimed at you?

    Glad you asked.

    How You Can Gain The Self-Assurance You Need To Lead Your Marriage

    I’ve been coaching men for years.

    Men desperate for a “quick fix”? I see them all the time.

    They join my courses, do a few coaching sessions, and the moment their marriage starts to improve, they vanish thinking their job is done.

    Then, two years later, they come crawling back.

    Why?

    Because they didn’t do the work long enough or deep enough to rewire their brains.

    Rewiring your brain is painful, hard, and not for the average man.

    It takes dedication and an unyielding passion to achieve what others only dream of.

    I LOVE working with these kinds of dedicated men because that’s who I am.

    MORE love, MORE fun, MORE freedom, and MORE money.

    That’s what gets me out of bed.

    That’s what fuels my mission.

    If you half-ass life, or settle for “good enough,” we’re not a good fit to work together.

    So, what kind of man are you?

    If you know in your bones that being average goes against your very nature, we should talk.