This article discusses how women respond to the energy we bring into the relationship. I’ll use examples from the TV show “Vikings” to illustrate how you need to be to make your wife want you again.
Focus On Causes, Not Symptoms
Every day, I speak to men in a desperate spot.
They sincerely want to save their failing marriage, but everything they do seems to backfire.
I know how it feels to become hiper focused on everything that’s “wrong” assuming those issues are the only thing preventing our marriage from turning around.
The problem with this approach is we’re trying to resolve symptoms, not causes.
- Lack of affection/no sex
- Poor communication
- Blaming attachment styles
- Love language frustrations
- Emotional coldness/withdrawal
- Her inability to be respectful or do self-improvement
The list above are symptoms, not root causes.
I say it all the time, “Love covers a multitude of sins”.
When our wife feels attracted to us, she overlooks the annoyances (and so do we).
The level of personal happiness and fulfillment we feel outside of marriage determines how we’ll eventually feel inside the marriage.
The degree to which we can create an amazing life without our wife determines the degree to which we can create one with her.
If we’re not emotionally secure enough to let her go, we’re not emotionally secure enough to have her.
These are the kinds of insecurities and root causes that cripple a relationship.
How You Need To Be To Make Your Wife Want You Again
Watch my video below to see how a woman changes when the man gets his spark back.
One of the most effective ways to attract a woman is to let her go.
She wants to have the freedom to CHOOSE you, and she can’t have that freedom unless she knows she has the freedom to NOT choose you as well.
A man without an inspiring life mission will see his wife as his source of happiness and purpose for living.
He can’t let her go because he can’t imagine living without her.
Woman are not wired to be responsible for their happiness AND ours.
A huge burden is lifted off her shoulders when we have a life that’s so energizing that our spark, charisma, excitement, joy, and inspiration are full regardless of what she does.
How A Viking Reattracted His Lover
In the video, I pointed out how the more Rollo wallowed in his self-pity, victim mindset, and lack of purpose the more Siggy lost her attraction for him.
He blamed his brother, his ex-lover, the gods’, and everyone else for his life.
For a time, Rollo tried to demand respect and love from others and that quickly made his situation worse.
I realize this story is made up, but it mirrors what I see with men I work with.
Again and again, I’ve seen my client’s wife circle back after the man gets clear, excited, and motivated by his positive future to the point that he lovingly lets her go.
These men grew to the point they:
- No longer resisted the divorce process.
- No longer needed to “be right”.
- No longer needed her mood be different for him to be ok.
- Could unshakably trust in their own ability to create the experiences they wanted.
- Accepted that she is on her own journey of personal growth and is progressing at her own pace.
- Stopped “fighting for the marriage”
In the video, Siggy suddenly became re-attracted to Rollo because his spark brought energy to the relationship instead of taking energy from it.
She wanted to feel ALIVE.
Women move towards what makes them feel ALIVE.
We as men get to take the lead and demonstrate what feeling alive looks like.
Our partner is wired to respond to the energy we bring into our relationship.
Our vibe, tone, and look in our eye does all the talking.
Getting Your Spark Back
When I take men through my Masculine Confidence Framework I’m giving them the foundation for WHO they are, then helping them get clear on HOW to be that man in their relationship.
Men emerge from this framework with personalized, unflappable self-trust and inner security.
You read that right.
YOUR masculine frame is not going to consist of the same values or operating principles as the next guy.
My coaching challenges YOUR pain points, YOUR perspectives, and YOUR excuses.
An interesting study revealed how high testosterone doesn’t necessarily equal high female attraction.
What the researchers discovered was low levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) had more of an appealing effect on women than high testosterone did.
We don’t need to be more “macho” for our wife to want us, we need to be more comfortable in our own skin, more OK, and more relaxed to face what needs to be faced.
If you’re ready to have your brain rewired so you can make decisions quickly, know how to be with feminine emotions, and live as a man with an inspiring purpose, then fill out my Get Grounded Now contact form to schedule a free consultation.
I promise you’ll gain clarity on how to make your wife want you again without being fake or manipulative.
In total honesty, we CAN’T make our wife do anything, we can only be a higher standard that makes the choice to join us blindingly obvious.
Much love brother,
Garrett Prettyman