In a world where the pendulum has swung far from supporting “patriarchy”, a new problem has emerged. Entire generations of men are afraid they’ll be undesirable to women if they come off as “chauvinistic”. Let’s cut the labels for a moment and look at masculine/feminine polarity from a purely energetic standpoint. I have an offer at the end that will increase your masculine polarity.
Rubber meets the road after we marry.
Advice given on our wedding day is forgotten.
The honeymoon phase ends.
Our confidence on how to manage a relationship dips as we see things spin out with our partner that makes no dam sense.
Here are 4 ways your marriage will fail without masculine/feminine polarity:
1. Without masculine/feminine polarity, our partner feels like a roommate
Regardless of our sexual identity, we feel attraction to what polarizes us.
The idea of masculine/feminine polarity is not a new concept.
In Tony Robin’s article, “How to increase relationship polarity” he states a very blatant truth: “When your relationship polarity becomes too similar, passion dies“.
Harmony and polarity are not the same.
When we share the same likes, dislikes, and perspectives, we have harmony.
Harmony creates a great sense of friendship.
Polarity is a spark.
Where there’s Polarity, there’s energy.
Polarity pulls us out of our comfort zone and lights a glow in us.
A healthy relationship needs “spark” to fire on all cylinders.
2. Our wife cannot relax into her soft, creative, motherly, sensual, flowing, feminine energy unless she senses a strong, protective, masculine “containment” around her
She needs something to kick against to know where she stands.
Feminine energy moves away from things that don’t feel like safety.
We all know what a woman is like when she’s been wearing the pants around the house.
She feels empowered at first.
Soon, she becomes harsh, angry, and resentful.
Our wife is fully capable of being her own “masculine containment”.
However, she isn’t able to relax into a soft or receptive state while she’s being her own man.
- Masculine “containment” is simply masculine energy that responds rather than reacts to her outpours
- Masculine energy is grounded in unchanging values and takes extreme ownership of her, and ALL aspects of his kingly realm
- Masculine makes clear decisions for the betterment of the realm, regardless of emotion.
- “Masculine containment” serves to protect but not necessarily to please
Without this grounding, our relationships will rise and fall with the waves of her moods… Nobody enjoys that voyage.
3. Sexual intimacy flatlines unless someone leads and someone receives
Both men and women can embody masculine or feminine energy.
We may switch roles several times per hour.
The problem is when one of us gets STUCK in an energy that isn’t our natural resting place.
A man stuck in feminine energy will:
- Grow passive, indecisive, and depressed
- Feel like he’s at the mercy of those in his life
- Blame others for how he feels
- Let people walk over him
- Avoid conflict like the plague
- Hope and fantasize about sexual intimacy instead of leading it
- Assume others are responsible for dealing with inconveniences in his life
Why?
Because in his heart of hearts, he is a king.
A king leads, Does hard things, and takes responsibility for his actions.
A king also knows what he has to do and does it even if it makes him unpopular…To not do so violates his own sense of purpose.
Your relationship won’t survive unless someone takes charge in the realm of intimacy.
4. There is a depth of love that cannot be known unless it’s “tested” by a polarizing opposite
For our wife to feel a deep trust and freedom to love us she must challenge who we are.
Like going to the gym, Masculine grows through challenge.
When she changes her mind, doubts our choices or distracts us from our mission she is “testing” how deep our roots are.
We should appreciate that she wants to feel our strength, integrity, and deepest truth by challenging it.
How You Can Gain Masculine/Feminine Polarity
There is an effective process to becoming a man with polarizing masculine energy.
I teach this process to men all over the world and effectively use it in my own life.
The process teaches us a new way to think about our feelings.
We learn to make choices from our non-negotiable values.
Everything becomes black-and-white, “yes” or “no”, based on our personal life mission.
We learn to give our gifts freely and not attach to outcomes.
Masculine/feminine polarity is a natural occurrence.
My offer: Set aside 60 minutes and I’ll set aside 60 minutes.
We’ll discuss your current situation and decide if working with me 1:1 is the right move for you.
Fill out my Get Grounded Now form to schedule a call.
You won’t regret it.
That’s a promise.
Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman