Your wife annoys you by knowing how to push your buttons just right. She questions your intentions or complains when you’re doing the best you can. What if I told you this only happens when you have buttons to push? I’m going to show you how to use your triggers and buttons to be a more loving, confident man.
Listen To Your Body When Your Wife Annoys You
A drop in your gut…
A tightness in your chest…
The hair on your neck bristling…
The unconscious husband misses these cues.
He’s so caught up in REACTING that he doesn’t even notice his fists are clenched.
With practice, you direct your focus to your body when your wife annoys you.
Instead of trying to think out how to answer, you can use the cues in your body.
A tight chest means take a deep breath.
A clenched fist means relax your hands and shake them out.
You see, what your wife needs most in this moment isn’t your brilliant answer or justifications.
She needs to feel your love in ONE form: PRESENCE.
Presence is fully tuned into what your body is doing.
It’s fully tuned into what her body is doing.
You’re not getting sucked into the conversation or adding to the drama.
“But she’s making me angry!” You might say.
Yes, when your wife annoys you, it can piss you off or make you want to retreat.
But she’s not doing this to you; your thoughts and feelings are doing this to you.
It’s not your wife’s job to adjust herself around YOUR triggers because they are YOURS.
If everyone on the planet danced around the triggers of the most insecure person, it would be a race to the bottom.
You can raise the bar.
Feel your body, not your raging thoughts.
Your neck might be getting tense, or your face might be getting tight.
Relax it.
That’s your only job.
The Hidden Gift When Your Wife Annoys You
The purpose of masculinity is to pioneer uncertainty… to create something new in the face of chaos.
A friend of mine categorized all his anxious feelings as his “frizzle”.
“Frizzle” always means one thing: the opportunity to create something NEW
What did Columbus feel before sailing for the New World? Frizzle.
Before Lewis and Clark embarked on exploring the new Far West, they felt Frizzle.
When Neal Armstrong crawled into a rocket to pioneer the moon exploration, he experienced Frizzle.
Your relationship has “new” areas to penetrate with your calm, brave, courageous self-confidence.
The hidden gift is you have no clue where you need to grow until your wife annoys you.
NEW areas in your relationship are trying to evolve through Frizzle.
Frizzle doesn’t inform you what needs to change in your wife.
It informs you where a NEW frontier in your relationship is calling for your courage and presence.
How To Be A More Secure Man
Not sure how to be the stable masculine energy in your relationship who doesn’t need validating by outside factors?
I didn’t know how either.
Then another man taught me the ropes.
All I can say is WOW!
There is a whole new level of relationship with your wife that you are missing out on.
I want you to have a BETTER relationship, MORE intimacy, and STRONGER self-esteem.
Do you want that for yourself too?
