Tag: Relationship Challenges

Why Small Dick Syndrome is Ruining Your Marriage
Small dick syndrome is the immature version of masculinity. This article provides 53 traits of a mature masculine man. The video below uses some movie scenes to provide examples. Being more masculine isn’t something we have to force. Masculinity is naturally forged in men when we choose the high road when faced with pain and when we resolve the false core beliefs we have about ourselves.

53 Traits Of A Masculine Man

A while back, a man reached out to me after watching one of my videos. He thought it was pathetic that I teach men how to be masculine but don’t include things in my videos like cars, golf or sports. There’s something this man hasn’t learned yet. Although many masculine men do things like sports, fishing, or golf, doing those things won’t make you masculine. Women have a unique gift called a 6th sense. This means she can smell “small dick” syndrome a mile away even if we’re wearing a Packers jersey in a lifted 4×4 blasting through a mud hole.

What Small Dick Syndrome Looks Like

Our cock can be the size of a baseball bat and we still can have “small dick” energy.

We’re exuding “small dick” energy where we’re…
- Easily triggered, then act on that trigger
- Always need to “be right”
- Hold other people accountable for our happiness
- Raise our voice and try to defend ourselves when questioned
- Always have an excuse for why we’re innocent
- Blame other people for our misery/lack of success
- Have to put others in their place to feel a sense of status or power
- Take other people’s actions as a personal threat
- Get jealous or take it personal when our wife finds other guys attractive (or men find her attractive)
- Resort to physical force to “make” people respect us
- Seek revenge and go tit for tat when others “do us wrong”
Small dick syndrome is hard to spot in ourselves because it FEELS like the opposite.
- We FEEL like we’re being assertive when we’re really being reactive
- We FEEL like we’re being confident when we’re really being stubborn
- We FEEL like we’re standing up for our wife when we’re really acting on jealousy or insecurity about our desirability
Needless to say, acting on feelings won’t create a strong masculine vibe.

What A Mature Masculine Man Looks Like

A mature masculine man dances to the beat of his own drum and isn’t bothered by what others say or do. He has a big grin on his face, and has bigger fish to fry than to be caught up with trivial moods or comments his wife might make. The list below is not something you need to learn. You were born with these masculine traits already hardwired to emerge as an adult. What happens is we can develop insecurities, mental narratives, and deeply held core beliefs during times of suffering that PREVENT us from choosing the high road and being the masculine man we’re naturally good at.

The 53 Traits Of A Masculine Man:
1. Clear
2. Calm
3. Direct
4. Non-reactive
5. Capable of danger, but controls it
6. Steady
7. Responds, but on his own time
8. Plays the long game
9. Is self-reliant
10. Can’t be emotionally swayed by others
11. Powerful
12. Stable
13. Discerning
14. Confident
15. Visionary
16. Wise
17. Purposeful
18. Driven
19. Physical
20. Courageous
21. Honorable
22. Decisive
23. Protective
24. Assertive
25. Focused
26. Consistent
27. Embraces Death
28. Knowledgeable
29. World-Wise
30. Mysterious
31. Intellectual
32. Truth Seeking
33. Mystic
34. Insightful
35. Detached from others’ reactions
36. Engineering
37. Sees probable outcomes
38. Vivid life force
39. Sensitive to the outside environment
40. Embodies pleasure without shame
41. Sensual
42. Compassionate
43. Empathetic
44. Creates connection
45. Reads people
46. Feel’s other’s pain
47. Sees potential
48. Lives from the heart
49. Is present
50. Trusts intention over outcome
51. Creates, invents, and innovates what he wants
52. Is on a mission
53. Isn’t urgent
Why Small Dick Syndrome Ruins Marriages

Every romantic relationship (regardless of gender) requires one person who is in the masculine spectrum and one who is in the feminine spectrum. Our wife is incapable of feeling soft, affectionate, nurturing, receptive, submissive, or sexually turned on when we step out of our masculine energy.

How You Can Resolve “Small Dick” Energy

My YouTube critic was correct. Fast cars and golf won’t be on our agenda as we develop your masculinity. When I teach you my masculine confidence framework, I help you cut the blue wire to your triggers and insecurities. I ask you questions so you can see the core beliefs that make you a slave to your emotions. I help you create a frame you would be willing to take a bullet for. Book a call using my “Get Grounded Now” form if you want to talk to me directly. I promise the call will improve your entire week.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
April 13, 2024
How I Gained REAL Confidence When My Wife Stopped Being Intimate

Long before a woman will get naked with us in bed she needs to feel safe to get naked with us emotionally. This article shares my own experience of losing “oblivious” confidence and then gaining REAL confidence when my wife stopped being intimate. When we’re confident from being oblivious, our wife feels emotionally unsafe which triggers her to be closed off. We can easily slip into jealousy and neediness when we feel her heart withdrawing which only pushes her further away. In the video below, masculinity coach Mark Drezga and I discuss how I was faced with a choice to mature into genuine confidence when I realized marriage is not a guarantee of intimacy.

How To Gain REAL Confidence When She Stops Being Intimate

“Oblivious” Confidence Has An Expiration Date

When I’m coaching guys around session 2 of my masculine confidence framework, there’s a hard dose of reality to swallow: The security we thought marriage gave us never existed.

If we compare marriage to a pond, and lack of intimacy to an alligator, the alligator was there the whole time.

We think pretty highly of ourselves when obliviously basking in the sun by an alligator-filled pond.

We’ll issue commands, dismiss her feelings, and insist that her hesitation to be intimate near the alligator pond is completely unreasonable

When we’re “obviously” confident, we’re not aware of the “alligators” were inviting to bite each time we lash out, “fix” or abandon our wife’s emotional world.

But hey, we didn’t know what we didn’t know…

Eventually, the clock runs out, alligators crawl out of the water, and we’re faced with reality that intimacy is gone.

When I teach guys how I gained REAL confidence when my wife stopped being intimate, I’m teaching CONSCIOUS, confidence.

Conscious, REAL Confidence Is Only Born Through Suffering

I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite (Form of Amish) church with a 0% divorce rate.

We were a private community completely separate from society.

We didn’t have TVs or radios and we were only permitted to marry within the Mennonite community.

Courtship was practiced instead of dating (think of courting akin to only dating someone you’ve already decided you will marry).

My happy, self-assured, cocky-self crumbled when I first asked a girl for courtship and she refused my offer.

This was a point where I could have developed conscious confidence, but I didn’t.

With my mojo in the toilet, I repressed into victimhood.

Needless to say, I attracted zero lovers for several years.

Eventually, I got enough spark back that it caught my future wife’s eye.

Since divorce was unheard of in ultra-conservative Mennonite churches nationwide, the thought never crossed my mind that I could be divorced.

Fast forward 10 years later.

My wife and I were no longer part of the Mennonite community.

I found myself holding divorce papers that I didn’t want to sign.

My suffering this time was rock bottom for me.

It’s only from this place of deflated ego and clarity of reality that “conscious” confidence Is born.

How I Gained REAL Confidence

The way I developed conscious, REAL confidence was by spending time around men who already had what I wanted while continuing to FACE my pain.

Every time I had a victim mindset or a resentful rant these men would challenge me, call me out on my BS, and show me the love and acceptance I had been chasing women for.

In time, I learned to face “alligators” knowing they’ve always been there.

I was ok when I obliviously faced them, and I’ll be more than okay when I consciously face them.

Having this type of relaxed, trustable confidence as a leader is the secret to making a marriage work.

At face value, the Mennonites appear to have cracked the code, but their approach brings on a whole other list of issues we’ll discuss another time.

My time as a Mennonite let me see firsthand how when a man leads with confidence, the right woman will follow, and the relationship thrives like it’s supposed to.

How You Can Stop Being Oblivious

My masculine confidence coaching program is your ticket to a better, stronger, more intimate marriage.

The value you’ll gain is a culmination of experienced men who have been in your shoes.

We men tend to hang onto the last shred of our ego before finally reaching out for help.

Don’t wait until all hope is lost to turn your marriage around by taking action for your self-development NOW.

I’m the perfect example of stubbornly holding out to save a dollar only to save nothing.

fill out my “Get Grounded Now” consultation form and I’ll help you get clear on your next step to being the great man you want to be.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman

February 20, 2024