Masculine Confidence Framework

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Why Are Some Men So Good With Women?

Seduction. Desire. Play.

Let’s be real—we love to be swept off our feet by a lover.

There’s nothing like a woman so stunning she stops you in your tracks.

And sure, we all know true beauty is on the inside, but let’s not pretend we don’t appreciate it when it’s on the outside too.

Here’s the thing—feminine women feel the same pull.

Only for them, it’s not about looks.

They notice:

? Strength

? Self-confidence

? Momentum/Leadership

That’s what draws her in.

That’s what keeps her interested.

And if your Relationship is struggling, it’s time to take a good hard look in the mirror.

The Hard Truth About Attraction in a Strained Relationship

It’s easy to let yourself go once you’re married.

You settle into routines.

You get comfortable.

You assume she’ll always be there.

And then one day… she isn’t.

Now, let’s be clear—getting a fresh haircut or dropping 20 pounds won’t save your marriage.

But let’s use some common sense—if you care about your house, you paint it and fix the roof when it leaks.

Your body, your presence, your energy? Same thing.

Neglect yourself, and you send a message—you’re not serious about LIVING.

And if you’re not serious about living, why should she be excited to live it with you?

This is where most men go wrong.

They wonder, Why are some men so good with women?—and assume it’s about tricks, gimmicks, or even luck.

But the truth is much simpler.

It’s about presence.

It’s about energy.

It’s about being a man who lives with purpose rather than looking to others to give him those things.

The Inside & Outside Game of Seduction

In the pickup world, they call haircuts, jawlines, and money “Outside Game.”

It’s what turns heads.

It can attract women fast, but like a beautiful storefront with nothing inside, if there’s no substance, she’ll walk right out the back door.

That’s where Inside Game comes in.

Inside Game is about who you are when it counts:

? How you hold yourself when things get tense

? Your tone when she pushes back

? The way you look at her when she’s in her own storm

That’s when she feels who you really are.

And if what she feels isn’t grounded, strong, and certain—she pulls away.

It’s why some men seem to have natural success with women while others struggle.

They embody strength and certainty—not to seduce, but as a way of being true to themselves.

Your Wife Wants to Be Seduced—Even Now

Yes, even now.

She wants to be romanced.

She wants to be wooed.

She wants to feel something real.

Because let’s be honest—the daily grind? It’s the exact opposite of seduction.

Even one of the best pickup artists of all time, stage-named “Mystery,” said married women were his easiest targets.

Why?

Because they were starving for attention, excitement, and connection.

Can you blame them?

We’re all racing toward the grave.

How many truly great memories are you going to make before you get there?

Women seem to be most aware of this.

She won’t waste her time on a sinking ship.

And if you’re wondering, Why are some men so good with women?, here’s your answer: They live their PURPOSE from the INSIDE-OUT.

How You Can Become A Purpose Filled Man

I know a man is living from the OUTSIDE-In when he:

? Complains

? Blames others

? Seeks validation

Here’s the truth—when your purpose and mission are clear, you should walk, talk, and behave like a man who loves every damn minute of it.

And that’s all any woman truly dreams of feeling from her man.

If you’re ready to do what it takes to bring that energy back—Then let’s talk.

Book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation, and I’ll get you clear on your next move.

Stay grounded, brother.

—Garrett Prettyman

February 7, 2025
Being a Man Who Defies the Odds

I get goosebumps and feel instant respect for a man who defies all odds and creates what he wants.

A man who doesn’t play small.

A man who looks at the odds stacked against him and moves forward anyway.

I wasn’t born into wealth.

No silver spoon.

No handouts.

Everything I have—I built with my own two hands.

At 12 years old, I spent an entire summer busting my ass doing yard work for neighbors until I made my first $100.

Then I reinvested it—bought better tools, worked faster, and made more.

By my late 20s, I’d rolled several million through my company.

And I did it despite the odds:

? A recession

? Living in a town where most people made $20K a year

? My wife’s affair and a brutal divorce

? Heavy state taxes and red tape

? People criticizing my success, calling me an “evil business owner”

You know what? Didn’t even matter.

Because I was too busy doing the work.

I wasn’t sitting around worrying about whether it was supposed to be possible—I was too busy making it happen.

2008? One of my best years.

I didn’t even realize there was a recession until people told me.

COVID? Another great year.

While the world locked itself inside, my crews and I were out doing clean-ups for wildfire prevention—even when the state threatened to arrest us.

A Man Who Defies The Odds Takes Action NOW

Fear makes you second-guess yourself.

It convinces you to hesitate when you should be moving.

But here’s the truth: The right time to act is always NOW.

I want to introduce you to a client of mine—let’s call him Chuck.

Chuck is a go-big or-go-home kind of guy.

Hard worker.

No excuses.

He thought he had masculinity figured out.

He had the truck.

The military background.

The paycheck.

But at home? Different story.

Over the years, an emotional gap grew between him and his wife.

Like a lot of us, he was successful everywhere—except in his marriage.

She started pulling away.

He figured as long as they still had sex, things were fine.

She didn’t see it that way.

Because to a woman, a relationship isn’t worth it unless there’s emotional safety, a heart-to-heart connection, and a man who knows his value—independent of her moods.

Right before Christmas, she filed for divorce.

Chuck was wrecked.

But even through the pain, he made a decision: He was gonna do the work—not just to save his marriage, but to become the man he was always meant to be in his relationships.

The Light Switch Flipped

A few sessions in, something clicked.

I asked him what changed.

He said:

“I realized I can accept that my wife no longer loves me… or I can keep wishing it was different and keep suffering.”

Boom.

That was it.

Clarity.

Clarity about what he’s worth. Clarity about his standards. Clarity about who he gives his value to.

And once that switch flipped?

Everything changed.

Suddenly, he had the power to create an emotional connection with anyone, anytime.

Now? Women blush when he talks to them—not because he’s running some kind of game, but because they feel seen in a way most men never learn.

And get this—Chuck lost everything in a matter of weeks. His home, his wife, his dogs, his future plans.

If that wasn’t enough reason to give up, wildfires hit California.

Instead of throwing in the towel, he got to work fighting fires with his crew while still pressing forward in his personal development with me.

What Are You Waiting For?

Chuck is a man who defies the odds.

He’s putting in the work while pulling long shifts, rebuilding his life, and starting over from scratch.

I asked him what he’d tell another man who’s waiting for the right time to act.

He said: “Life is short, and hard sometimes. So make the decision to be the man you want to be. Be the hero of your own story. Get educated, do the work, and change your life faster than trying to figure it out alone.”

That, my friend, is the mindset of a man who refuses to be a victim.

Chuck owns his power now.

He told me: “The power to be sad or happy is mine, and no one else’s. Anxiety tells you you’re unprepared for what’s happening. The books, the coaching, the work—it gave me the tools to be ready.”

Phew! That gives me tears.

Those are the words of a champion.

He’s walking, head high, through his right of passage to join the ranks of great men.

A man who defies the odds and takes action is the kind of man I love working with.

Are you that kind of man?

If so, we should talk.

Book a free Get Grounded Now call, and let’s get clear on your next move.

Stay grounded, brother.

—Garrett Prettyman

January 31, 2025
Why Small Dick Syndrome is Ruining Your Marriage
Small dick syndrome is the immature version of masculinity. This article provides 53 traits of a mature masculine man. The video below uses some movie scenes to provide examples. Being more masculine isn’t something we have to force. Masculinity is naturally forged in men when we choose the high road when faced with pain and when we resolve the false core beliefs we have about ourselves.

53 Traits Of A Masculine Man

A while back, a man reached out to me after watching one of my videos. He thought it was pathetic that I teach men how to be masculine but don’t include things in my videos like cars, golf or sports. There’s something this man hasn’t learned yet. Although many masculine men do things like sports, fishing, or golf, doing those things won’t make you masculine. Women have a unique gift called a 6th sense. This means she can smell “small dick” syndrome a mile away even if we’re wearing a Packers jersey in a lifted 4×4 blasting through a mud hole.

What Small Dick Syndrome Looks Like

Our cock can be the size of a baseball bat and we still can have “small dick” energy.

We’re exuding “small dick” energy where we’re…
- Easily triggered, then act on that trigger
- Always need to “be right”
- Hold other people accountable for our happiness
- Raise our voice and try to defend ourselves when questioned
- Always have an excuse for why we’re innocent
- Blame other people for our misery/lack of success
- Have to put others in their place to feel a sense of status or power
- Take other people’s actions as a personal threat
- Get jealous or take it personal when our wife finds other guys attractive (or men find her attractive)
- Resort to physical force to “make” people respect us
- Seek revenge and go tit for tat when others “do us wrong”
Small dick syndrome is hard to spot in ourselves because it FEELS like the opposite.
- We FEEL like we’re being assertive when we’re really being reactive
- We FEEL like we’re being confident when we’re really being stubborn
- We FEEL like we’re standing up for our wife when we’re really acting on jealousy or insecurity about our desirability
Needless to say, acting on feelings won’t create a strong masculine vibe.

What A Mature Masculine Man Looks Like

A mature masculine man dances to the beat of his own drum and isn’t bothered by what others say or do. He has a big grin on his face, and has bigger fish to fry than to be caught up with trivial moods or comments his wife might make. The list below is not something you need to learn. You were born with these masculine traits already hardwired to emerge as an adult. What happens is we can develop insecurities, mental narratives, and deeply held core beliefs during times of suffering that PREVENT us from choosing the high road and being the masculine man we’re naturally good at.

The 53 Traits Of A Masculine Man:
1. Clear
2. Calm
3. Direct
4. Non-reactive
5. Capable of danger, but controls it
6. Steady
7. Responds, but on his own time
8. Plays the long game
9. Is self-reliant
10. Can’t be emotionally swayed by others
11. Powerful
12. Stable
13. Discerning
14. Confident
15. Visionary
16. Wise
17. Purposeful
18. Driven
19. Physical
20. Courageous
21. Honorable
22. Decisive
23. Protective
24. Assertive
25. Focused
26. Consistent
27. Embraces Death
28. Knowledgeable
29. World-Wise
30. Mysterious
31. Intellectual
32. Truth Seeking
33. Mystic
34. Insightful
35. Detached from others’ reactions
36. Engineering
37. Sees probable outcomes
38. Vivid life force
39. Sensitive to the outside environment
40. Embodies pleasure without shame
41. Sensual
42. Compassionate
43. Empathetic
44. Creates connection
45. Reads people
46. Feel’s other’s pain
47. Sees potential
48. Lives from the heart
49. Is present
50. Trusts intention over outcome
51. Creates, invents, and innovates what he wants
52. Is on a mission
53. Isn’t urgent
Why Small Dick Syndrome Ruins Marriages

Every romantic relationship (regardless of gender) requires one person who is in the masculine spectrum and one who is in the feminine spectrum. Our wife is incapable of feeling soft, affectionate, nurturing, receptive, submissive, or sexually turned on when we step out of our masculine energy.

How You Can Resolve “Small Dick” Energy

My YouTube critic was correct. Fast cars and golf won’t be on our agenda as we develop your masculinity. When I teach you my masculine confidence framework, I help you cut the blue wire to your triggers and insecurities. I ask you questions so you can see the core beliefs that make you a slave to your emotions. I help you create a frame you would be willing to take a bullet for. Book a call using my “Get Grounded Now” form if you want to talk to me directly. I promise the call will improve your entire week.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
April 13, 2024
How To Turn Mommy Issues Into James Bond Confidence
This article reveals two sides of “mommy issues” in men and how to mature these insecurities into confidence.

The video below is longer than usual but goes deeper into what causes mommy wounding in boys and includes some clips of James Bond as an example of what confident behaviors look like.

How To Turn Mommy Issues Into James Bond Confidence

Mommy Issues From An Absent Mom

If our mom abandons us or pays little attention to us as a kid, we tend to act out to get her attention.

We might resort to teasing her, disagreeing with her, or flat-out disobeying.

Feminine attention feels like love!

Even if her attention was only to “correct” us for acting out.

When we grow up “poking the bear” to get our mom to “correct us” we tend to resort to the same behaviors with our wife.

We also tend to be emotionally closed off and avoid vulnerability since the world we grew up in didn’t work that way.

Needless to say, resorting to teasing, “poking the bear”, or harassing our wife to get her riled up so we feel loved won’t feel loving to her.

Hugh Hefner is an example of a man who didn’t have strong motherly support.

When we grow up without the trusting, strong, supporting love of the feminine, we distrust it and develop a wall towards it to protect our vulnerability.

When we lack a healthy connection with our mom, we tend to objectify women or de-personalize them to make sense of the world.

Mommy Issues From An Orbiting Mom

When our mom is overly focused on us, it can lead to the development of inverse mommy issues.

We often perceive reality in a distorted manner, assuming everything revolves around us and that others are responsible for our well-being.

Elvis Presley is an example of a man whose mom was so enmeshed with him, he could hardly face life once she passed away.

Out of Elvis’s crippling loneliness, he married Priscilla expecting her to take the role of “mommy” after his mom passed away.

The marriage of Elvis and Priscilla ended in divorce.

Elvis sang of his loneliness right up to his last days as he tried to cope with the hole his mom’s absence left in his heart.

How Boys Are Affected By A Supportive Mom

There’s a balance between the absent or orbiting mom called the supportive mom.

When she’s supportive of our feelings, dreams, emotions, and desires it can give us a sense of security as boys.

However, when we fail or mess up, our mom needs to point us to men to help us get back on our feet.

When we seek guidance from men, we reduce our reliance on femininity for well-being and courage.

Unless we’re secure in ourselves, we can’t give our wife love without it being needy.

A great example of this kind of security is the James Bond character.
- James Bond stays in his own emotional lane no matter what others are doing
- He’s deliberate with his movements and doesn’t match women’s energy when he interacts with them
- James Bond holds steady eye contact, is playful, and is in touch with his heart
Women can sense when we have a heart, feelings, and experiences but CHOOSE to not act on them impulsively!

A natural attraction occurs when we stay in our own frame around the changing whims of feminine and when we don’t NEED her approval to be ok.

How To Have James Bond Confidence

As boys, we looked to others to tell us if we did things right, if we were fast, smart, or funny.

It doesn’t matter if we had an attentive or absent mother; as adults, we must define ourselves internally.

Below is an image of the masculine framework our behaviors need to come from.

Without a strong INTERNAL frame to contain us, we’ll feel weak and soft to women.

My guess is you don’t like being flimsy or wishy-washy anymore than she does.

My masculine confidence framework is what I teach in my courses and with my 1:1 clients.

There are core beliefs we need to re-write.

There are new mindsets and clarifications to form about your identity as a man.

This kind of deep work doesn’t happen in one or two sessions.

Most guys see a permanent change after about 6 months of doing the work.

I’ll be vulnerable and say I was not one of those 6-month guys, it took me 4 years!

This stuff can’t be rushed or forced, it takes commitment.

Are you a committed man who’s ready to change how you’ll show up in relationships over the next 20-30 years?

If so, reach out for a free “Get Grounded Now” consultation.

You’ll be glad you did.

Garrett Prettyman
February 13, 2024