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How To Set Strong Boundaries With Your Wife
Boundaries.

It’s a buzzword.

A go-to fix-it line from well-meaning friends.

“Boundaries, girl! Don’t let David’s mom control you like that!” Alesha’s friend declares over coffee.

Meanwhile, David’s mother is setting her own boundaries for Alesha… and David? He’s contemplating boundaries just to keep them both from strangling each other.

This isn’t boundaries, it’s a mess.

I’m going to teach you a simple, no-BS approach to boundaries.

One that actually works.

I explain more about boundaries in the 15-minute video below, which includes an invitation to join The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

What Bad Boundaries Look Like

Most people are doing boundaries wrong.

They think boundaries are about forcing other people to stop annoying them.

That’s because 95% of people aren’t fully conscious.

They think their feelings are caused by other people—so they believe setting a boundary will magically make them feel better.

That’s like trying to drive the road down the car instead of driving the car down the road.

Your feelings don’t come from other people.

They come from YOU.

YOUR triggers.

YOUR perceptions.

Your brain interprets the world through YOUR five senses (which, by the way, are highly unreliable).

Think of boundaries like a fence.

If you use boundaries to fence your bad feelings, you’re just letting those negative feelings run your life.

And that’s a losing game.

What Good Boundaries Look Like

A good boundary protects something you value.

That’s the key—it’s positive.

Your phone dies if you never charge it, right?

You’re no different.

When you get crystal clear on what keeps you strong, draw a line in the sand so you don’t exhaust it.

No more over-giving. No more over-accommodating. No more over-serving.

That’s a good boundary.

So what fuels you?
- Time in nature?
- Meaningful conversation?
- A night with the boys?
- Intimacy with your wife?
Protect those things with a boundary, brother.

Protect both how you receive it and how much you give.

We all have behaviors that make us proud of who we are—that light us up so we feel self-respect.

Don’t bend on them.

A boundary around respect means nobody can push you into acting disrespectfully.

A boundary around love means nobody can push you into acting unloving.

If you want strong boundaries with your wife, dig your heels in and hold the line on these things.

If you don’t like how she’s acting?

Don’t join her—step back.

That’s your boundary because you know what you value.

That’s you drawing a line in the sand for anything less than that.

Boundaries Are for BIG Things

Moods? Petty frustrations? Minor annoyances?

They don’t need to have boundaries enforced on them.

Boundaries are for the BIG things.

DEALBREAKERS.

The experiences that would make you step out of someone’s life.

Your wife is always going to have feelings, pushback, and moods—it’s part of her nature.

You must be the rock.
- When she’s stormy, you stay grounded.
- When she’s emotional, you stand firm.
- When she tests you, you don’t react.
That’s having a masculine frame for her feminine behaviors.

But the moment she crosses the line of what you deeply value…

BOOM.

That’s when your boundary comes out for the kinds of people you keep in your life.

The first time your boundary gets crossed warrants a verbal affirmation of what you value and won’t tolerate.

The 2nd time requires a more severe consequence.

By the third offense, you remove yourself from that person’s life.

That’s how serious boundaries are.

Gaining Clarity on Who You Are

This is the work I do with men.

We dig deep into your core values and get rock-solid on how to stand firm in them.

You become a man who is strong, not reactive.

A man who fills the space that’s his to fill—and lets her do the same.

1:1 coaching with me isn’t for guys who dabble.

It’s for men who want the maximum return on their investment.

Men who don’t pussyfoot around—they go big or go home.

But if you’re not ready for coaching yet, my book is a great place to start.

It’s for High-Achieving Men who want to restore intimacy in their marriage.

? You’ll learn why doing everything she’s been asking for isn’t working.

? Why being her “dream husband” is backfiring.

? Why she no longer craves your touch—and how to turn that around.

? Download your FREE copy HERE.

Much love, brother.

– Garrett Prettyman
March 14, 2025
If I Give Her Space, Won’t We Drift Apart?
If your wife asks you to give her space, it didn’t come out of nowhere. By the time she gets to that point, she’s already been emotionally detaching for months—maybe even years. And most men don’t realize it until it’s too late.

Today, we’re going deeper into the three stages of detachment a woman goes through before she ends a relationship.

If you don’t catch it early, you’ll find yourself blindsided when she finally says, “I need space.”

I’m not talking about the kind of “space” where she’s just tired tonight, I’m talking about when she’s considering divorce.

1. Emotional Detachment

This is the first and most subtle stage—and also the easiest to miss.

Emotional detachment begins when she stops feeling seen, heard, or valued in the relationship.

Her emotional needs aren’t being met, and over time, her heart starts to close off.

This doesn’t happen overnight.

She used to share her thoughts, feelings, and worries with you, but now? She keeps them to herself.

Bringing up the little things no longer happens because she’s already convinced herself you won’t understand.

At this stage, you might notice:
- She’s less engaged in conversations.
- She stops initiating affection or spending quality time.
- She’s quick to get irritated over small things.
- She begins focusing more on her friends, work, or hobbies—anything but you.
2. Spiritual Detachment

Once she emotionally detaches, she starts seeing a future without you.

This is when she stops believing in “us.”

Women stay in relationships when they feel a deep sense of trust and emotional safety—not just physically, but spiritually.

When that’s gone, she starts to imagine what life would be like without you.

She stops picturing you in her future and instead, envisions her life alone or with someone who actually listens when she talks about her day.

Signs of spiritual detachment include:
- She stops making long-term plans with you.
- She avoids deep conversations about the future.
- She doesn’t care to argue anymore—because she’s already mentally checking out.
- She’s indifferent to your efforts to “fix” things.
3. Physical Detachment

By the time she physically detaches, she’s already gone in her mind.

Her body follows what her heart has been feeling for months or years.

This is when she stops wanting to be touched, avoids intimacy, and might even move into another room—or out of the house entirely.

At this stage, if you try to force closeness, it only reinforces her belief that you don’t understand her.

She sees it as pressure, not love—kind of like when a salesman follows you around a store even after you’ve said, “I’m just looking.”

What physical detachment looks like:
- She stops wanting to be intimate or withdraws from sex.
- She recoils from physical touch.
- She prefers to be alone rather than spend time together.
- She starts sleeping separately—or expresses a desire to move out.
Don’t Fear Drifting Apart— Give Her Space

Most men react to their wife’s withdrawal by chasing her harder.

They try to fix things, talk it out, or prove their love through desperate gestures.

But that only makes things worse.

Instead of chasing, you need to shift your focus inward.
- Detach from needing her validation. If your happiness depends on her affection, she will feel pressured and suffocated.
- Rebuild your sense of self. Who are you without the marriage? What makes you excited about life outside of her?
- Respect the space she needs. Giving her space isn’t about losing her—it’s about creating an opportunity for her to miss you.
The Bottom Line: Give Her Space, Gain Clarity

If she’s asking for space, it’s because she feels overwhelmed by pressure—whether from the relationship or from her own emotions.

Your job isn’t to fix it right now.

Your job is to become the kind of man who is steady, secure, and capable of standing strong, even when things feel uncertain.

I go deeper into this in my book, How High-Achieving Men In Their 40s Can Restore Passionate Intimacy With Their Wife of 18 Plus Years.

You can grab a free copy HERE.

Breathe.

Trust the process.

You got this.

Garrett Prettyman
February 28, 2025
How To Have Certainty When Her Commitment Is Unclear
Our wife’s love and affection is empowering, but when her commitment is unclear it can feel like the rug got pulled out. This article will help you take control when your marriage is slipping away by helping you see that nothing done out of fear can create LONG-TERM closeness in a relationship.

The Airplane Of Uncertianty

Imagine you’re on an airplane.

30 minutes into the flight, the intercom comes on.

“Hello, this is your captain speaking. The weather is stormy today! We don’t know our current location or how much fuel we have. On behalf of AAA Airlines, we would like to thank you for choosing us to reach your final destination.”

Very few passengers would remain relaxed with this sort of announcement.

If a glance out the aircraft window revealed smoke from the left engine, fear could turn into panic.

When our wife’s commitment to the marriage becomes uncertain, we can become paralyzed with fear….And panic!

Fear is a deceptive thing.

Reactions from fear FEEL logical in the moment, but fear-based responses RARELY help a critical situation.

“Plane Crash Adverted By Passenger Panic”…Said no newspaper title ever!

Here’s the twist.

You’re not a passenger on the “airplane of uncertianty”, you are the captain.

As captain, you can land the plane even if your wife has pulled the eject button.

Many guys I’ve coached found after he “landed the plane”, his wife’s parachute dropped her back into his love life.

“Landing the plane” means no longer:
- Demanding her love and loyalty
- Thinking the “other guy” is a threat to getting what you want
- Trying to convince her why you are the better choice
- Wallowing in your agony
- Chasing her for affection and time
- Forcing her to be decisive and know what she wants
The list above is what I call “guy drama”.

“Guy drama” comes from our inner little boy, not the mature man.

Little boys fall on the ground at the grocery store and cry for candy when their mommy won’t give it to them.

Little boys also wine, complain, and let their FEELINGS guide their actions.

Trust me, your wife craves a MAN, not a boy.

What To Do When Her Commitment Is Unclear

In the 25-minute video below, I cover 3 areas that will give you more clarity about how to show up as the MAN when your wife is uncertain of her love for you.

You can also check out my eBook, “The Sexless Husband’s Guide To Intimacy Through Attraction” to better understand what’s really happening when love and attraction are low in a marriage.

I would love for you to have MORE love, MORE attraction, and MORE intimacy in your life!

The season when those things are low can feel brutal.

You have the potential to be confident, secure, and happy RIGHT NOW.

If you’ve read this far, then YOU are the kind of man who has the fortitude to make positive changes.

Your ability to remain unperturbed in your positive, loving, happy, and fun self when your wife’s commitment is unclear is the only path to evoking her desire to join you in being those things.

If you want to have a private consultation to see if my coaching is right for you, simply fill out my “Get Grounded Now Form“.

Stay Grounded Brother,

Garrett Prettyman
December 11, 2024
Why Sexually Frustrated Men Experience Rejection More Often

Many sexually frustrated men don’t realize how they are preventing the intimacy they crave! Dive into this article or watch the video below to discover why women are drawn to confident, powerful men—not those who are sexually frustrated.

Sexually Frustrated Men Experience A Snowball Affect Of Rejection

Rejection from our wife can be frustrating, and this frustration can push her further away, creating a never-ending cycle of more rejection.

When our sexual energy is pent-up, it can feel like a problem that needs an immediate solution.

Being wildly horny in itself isn’t the problem.

How we act when we feel urgent is what turns our wife off.

Although an orgasm seems like an obvious solution, anytime we act desperate, needy, demanding, or mopey we are putting negative pressure on our wife.

Negative pressure is a HUGE libido killer for women.

Sexually frustrated men tend to use their own level of desire to determine if they should initiate intimacy.

This also leads to more rejection.

Our wife can sense if we are trying to make love because WE can’t handle our own instincts or if we are initiating because SHE is ripe for engaging it.

Acting on our feelings with no awareness of her emotional state is a guaranteed path to rejection.

She Wants Intimacy With A Man Who Holds His Power

I used to believe that my feelings were my wife’s job to take care of.

If I was hungry, she should feed me.

If I was horny, she should make love to me.

This mindset made me feel like a victim of her moods and dependent on her for my happiness.

Making others responsible for how we feel is a path to codependence, victimhood, neediness, and loss of power.

A man who takes responsibility for his own feelings talks differently.

He won’t say, “You’re making me angry” he will say, “I feel my anger”.

A man who gives his power away will say things like, “That person is making me feel disrespected”.

A man who holds his power will say, “My thoughts about that person are making me feel disrespected”.

Men who hold their power are attractive to women.

Your wife wants to sense that you can hold your emotions AND her emotions without giving your power away.

How To Stop Getting Rejected

Imagine there is a green light and a red light on every woman’s forehead.

If we try to initiate physical intimacy with our wife when the light is red, it will push her away.

My advice?

ONLY INITIATE WHEN HER LIGHT IS GREEN.

Nearly every guy I coach who is frustrated in the bedroom is initiating when she’s giving clear signals to stop.

We can’t turn her red light green by getting all cuddly and affectionate with her.

A woman’s desire for intimacy comes in seasons and she can’t just flip a switch to turn it on.

There’s no use in getting upset with her season, just like there’s no use in getting upset if it’s summer or winter.

There is an irony to this.

When we are happy, inspired, successful, and fun without her giving us sex the sooner her season changes.

If you struggle to know when her light is green, read my article “6 Signs She Wants You To Be More Bold In The Bedroom“.

How To Stop Acting Like Horny, Sexually Frustrated Men

Women are not attracted to horny, sexually frustrated men but they are attracted to sexy men.

Horny men can’t handle discomfort.

Sexy men face discomfort.

Horny men act impulsively.

Sexy men act deliberately.

Many “horny” men think they need sex 3 or 5 times a day.

Here’s the truth.

When we have BETTER sex, we crave sex less.

Better sex is enthusiastic, wild, connected, and erotic.

Before we can have better sex, we first need to lead emotional intimacy with our partner.

Not taking things personally and tuning into her emotions to validate them is how she feels emotional intimacy.

In my coaching, I teach you how to THINK to feel empowered by things that used to drive you crazy.

Don’t believe this helps?

Right now, imagine biting into a freshly cut lemon… Imagine your teeth squeezing the tart juice out as it drips down your lips… Did your mouth start to water?

Your mouth is watering because of the THOUGHT you just fed in your mind.

Sexually frustrated men need to feed new thoughts!

If you want a free consultation about how to stop being a sexually frustrated man in your marriage, fill out my “Get Grounded Now“ form, and let’s talk!

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman

August 19, 2024
4 Critical Steps To Healing A Broken Heart After Your Wife Walks Away
Healing a broken heart after your wife walks away happens in stages. Men are affected by heartbreak differently than women, so the steps to heal are a little different. This article and video below will help you take the right steps to feeling better.

The Pain Of Heartbreak

Loss of appetite.

Tears.

Inability to sleep.

Feeling like a used rag flushed down the toilet.

Nausea.

Shortness of breath.

What a man goes through when the woman he loves divorces him is no joke.

Healing a broken heart after your wife walks away is possible if you follow time-proven steps.

Why Should Healing A Broken Heart After Your Wife Walks Away Be The Focus?

When we’re suffering from the loss of our marriage, we men tend to hyper-focus on ONE thing…Getting our wife back!

We think if we could get our wife back, all our suffering would end and the world would feel like a happy place again.

However, making our wife want to be with us is out of our control.

We will get stuck in grief for years if we focus on things we can’t control.

The other problem with focusing on getting our runaway wife back, is it leaves us feeling like a powerless victim.

You know a man feels like a powerless victim when he…
- Complains about his situation
- Blames others for the choices he “had” to make
- Defends why his pain is “different” from what other men face
- Argues and raises his voice
- Focuses on all the negative things that make his situation seem “unchangeable.”
- Always brings up his ex in conversation to point out that she left him and why the relationship could’ve been fixed
Many songs have been written about men who pined for a woman who stopped loving him until he died.

Misery puts a dark cloud over life itself.

Healing a broken heart after your wife walks away is 100% in our control, and that is why we must focus on it.

You know a man is staying focused on what’s 100% in his control when he…
- Sees the cup as half full instead of half empty
- Can clearly describe what his bright, amazing, love-filled future will look like
- Stops acting urgent
- No longer holds others responsible to change for his life to be amazing
- Bravely makes BIG, BOLD choices to create what he wants (even if nobody else approves)
- Doesn’t allow fear, loneliness, or desperation to dictate the choices he makes
- Takes full responsibility for how he feels without holding others liable
4 Steps To Healing A Broken Heart After Your Wife Walks Away

1. Come to terms with your denial of reality.

During a marriage, it’s best if we focus on the positives of our partner. However, after divorce, it’s time to notice what was not positive about our wife. We can easily romanticize her which perpetuates our suffering. Coming to terms with reality means accepting that she isn’t all the amazing things we thought she was and we deserve better. A self-respecting man will not throw himself at a woman who clearly does not love him. The reality we must accept is that she no longer loves us, and clinging to her prevents the love we want from coming into our lives.

2. Go alone in nature and unload all your anger.

We will not be able to heal if we try to suppress our emotions. Go out in nature (far away from people) and fully unload all your anger about the relationship ending. Feel the anger from your head to your toes. An emotion that isn’t fully experienced can fester for decades, keep us stuck, and lead to PTSD. You might find the anger shifts to grief, regret, or resentfulness. Whatever emerges, get it all out. The goal is to let our body naturally heal by progressing through a whole range of emotions.

3. Grab a journal and vent all your “if onlys” and all the things you wish you could have made your wife understand.

When our wife leaves us, our brain will stew and stew on it, analyzing every angle, desperate to find a fix.. Mental exhaustion ensues leaving us dazed where we can hardly function at our normal capacity. Use your laptop or journal to unload everything in your brain. Write out all your “if onlys”, “what ifs”, and everything you want to explain to your ex. Do not send her any of your epiphanies! Our subconscious can’t tell if we’re using paper or her as a sounding board. Using paper provides relief as if she was there to listen & understand our perspective.

4. Let yourself grieve the loss

Letting go and grieving the loss of the relationship is the hardest part. Some call this stage “the lament” A lament is to mourn what we lost, grieve what will never be, and let go of the story we’ve been clinging to. Hanging onto our suffering does not prove our love for her! I’ve found self-love meditations to be very healing during this stage along with doing shadow work. It’s important to build a support system during this time, preferably with men who understand your pain and can empathize with how it feels.

Your Personal Guide To Heal A Broken Heart

Acceptance is the only path to having a meaningful, happy life even when life hands us lemons.

Once we reach acceptance, we can look forward and create a new chapter that’s BETTER than the one we just closed.

In my book, “A Man’s Vital Guide To Healing Grief” I give a blueprint you can follow to put your broken heart back together and reach acceptance.

I’ve had my heart broken more than once.

In my book, I wrote down every step I took to recover so you can have a clear path to follow.

You know this book will help you if…
- You wake up at night in a panic that your wife is gone
- Feel miserable when you see other couples kiss or hold hands
- Cannot imagine yourself ever attending a wedding again
- Have lost your will to keep going
- Everything (even your job) feels pointless
Chapter 9 provides a link to get a FREE copy of my “healing loneliness” meditations along with videos and digital resources.

Healing a broken heart after your wife walks away can be hindered if we keep holding onto the pain.

It’s paradoxical, but letting go of the pain feels like letting go of her.

Part of us never wants to let go, because it feels like we’re giving up.

I help you overcome problems like this (and many more) in my book.

Click HERE to get a copy.

Much love brother,

Garrett Prettyman
August 2, 2024
Mastering Seduction In Marriage
This article reveals some secrets to building erotic desire with your wife or girlfriend by mastering seduction.

Seduction is not about the art of picking up strange women.

Seduction is about the art of creating and maintaining feelings of positive emotional tension, including sexual tension.

Perhaps you have a fairytale version of love in your mind.

In this fairytale, your wife or girlfriend is magically affectionate, intimate, and sexual with you for 60 years… All because you’re such an easy-going, great guy!

This rarely happens.

Like it or not, seduction is a game.

Do you feel a negative reaction when you think of “players” who are good with women?

Don’t think of playing the game as being a slimy manipulator who tricks women into liking him.

Think of playing as something that is FUN for both of you.

If you’ve ever had sex, you are already a player in the game of seduction.

The OUTSIDE Game Of Seduction

Pickup artists use OUTSIDE game to meet and have sex with new women effectively.

These men know how to tease, be mysterious, and make her feel understood.

They get her desires burning through playfulness.

The female mind loves the tease, temptation, emotions, and illusion of freedom that OUTSIDE game provides.

However, if you do not have INSIDE game, new women you seduce with OUTSIDE game will eventually break up with you.

They will realize it was all smoke and mirrors.

The INSIDE Game Of Seduction

INSIDE game is all about the vibe your behaviors give off under pressure.

Your inner maturity, confidence, self-esteem, vulnerability, and masculine frame are part of your INSIDE game.

Without a rock-solid INSIDE game, your wife won’t feel safe opening her heart to you.

She won’t feel like she can trust you with her emotions.

She will feel like the relationship has no depth.

Many younger women become infatuated with “bad boys.”

They assume if his OUTSIDE game feels confident, then his INSIDE game must be very secure, strong, and competent.

Sadly, most women who marry “bad boys” realize down the road that his INSIDE game is that of insecurity, self-doubt, and need for validation.

Many women who have been burned by a “bad boy” will latch on to a “nice guy” next.

They assume the “nice guy” will have what the “bad boy” lacks.

Sadly, most women who marry “nice guys” lose sexual attraction for him.

His softness, wishy-washiness, aversion to conflict, and lack of boundaries feel boyish and feminine to her.

Women crave to ravish a man, not a boy.

Mastering Seduction In Long Term Relationships

Your wife needs to be seduced again and again.

She needs to bounce between your INSIDE game and your OUTSIDE game weekly for the rest of your life.

On the days she’s drawn to your INSIDE game, she loves how her mood can’t rattle you.

Her complaints are met with your empathy.

When she brings up the past, you show understanding without getting defensive.

You like who you are being.

You trust your intentions, and she can sense your secure vibe.

On days she’s drawn to your OUTSIDE game, she’s loving that you’re sexting her during the day.

You’re giving her a wink and squeeze on the shoulder, and buying her favorite coffee.

In other words, you are living your best life and she’s feeling the invitation to join.

I sucked at both INSIDE and OUTSIDE game badly.

I’ve made it my mission to learn and teach men both by mastering seduction in my own life.

In my Masculine Confidence Framework, I get raw and personal with you on how to be a masculine man in a 1:1 setting.

You already have the traits for INSIDE & OUTSIDE game hard-coded into your DNA.

All of us adopted some faulty beliefs about masculine and feminine that need to be re-written.

I will help you spot the mindsets that make you feel indecisive, unclear, wishy-washy, and unattractive towards women.

This way, you can be naturally good at the game of seduction.

Mastering Seduction Is Part Of My Masculine Confidence Framework

I pack a lot of the most potent things I’ve learned into my masculine confidence framework.

Below are 4 ways to tell if my framework will help you.

Are you a man who can…
1. Be willing to take constructive feedback
2. Be willing to laugh at your past mistakes
3. Be willing to follow through on reading and homework assignments
4. Be willing to turn down her offers for sex
That last one might sound strange, but you’ll find out why if we work together.

I’m willing to take you by the hand and lead you each step of the way.

This kind of mentorship will shave YEARS of trial and error out of your life!

If you answered “yes” to the 4 questions above, then book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation.

I’ll see you there,

Garrett Prettyman
July 25, 2024
Why Small Dick Syndrome is Ruining Your Marriage
Small dick syndrome is the immature version of masculinity. This article provides 53 traits of a mature masculine man. The video below uses some movie scenes to provide examples. Being more masculine isn’t something we have to force. Masculinity is naturally forged in men when we choose the high road when faced with pain and when we resolve the false core beliefs we have about ourselves.

53 Traits Of A Masculine Man

A while back, a man reached out to me after watching one of my videos. He thought it was pathetic that I teach men how to be masculine but don’t include things in my videos like cars, golf or sports. There’s something this man hasn’t learned yet. Although many masculine men do things like sports, fishing, or golf, doing those things won’t make you masculine. Women have a unique gift called a 6th sense. This means she can smell “small dick” syndrome a mile away even if we’re wearing a Packers jersey in a lifted 4×4 blasting through a mud hole.

What Small Dick Syndrome Looks Like

Our cock can be the size of a baseball bat and we still can have “small dick” energy.

We’re exuding “small dick” energy where we’re…
- Easily triggered, then act on that trigger
- Always need to “be right”
- Hold other people accountable for our happiness
- Raise our voice and try to defend ourselves when questioned
- Always have an excuse for why we’re innocent
- Blame other people for our misery/lack of success
- Have to put others in their place to feel a sense of status or power
- Take other people’s actions as a personal threat
- Get jealous or take it personal when our wife finds other guys attractive (or men find her attractive)
- Resort to physical force to “make” people respect us
- Seek revenge and go tit for tat when others “do us wrong”
Small dick syndrome is hard to spot in ourselves because it FEELS like the opposite.
- We FEEL like we’re being assertive when we’re really being reactive
- We FEEL like we’re being confident when we’re really being stubborn
- We FEEL like we’re standing up for our wife when we’re really acting on jealousy or insecurity about our desirability
Needless to say, acting on feelings won’t create a strong masculine vibe.

What A Mature Masculine Man Looks Like

A mature masculine man dances to the beat of his own drum and isn’t bothered by what others say or do. He has a big grin on his face, and has bigger fish to fry than to be caught up with trivial moods or comments his wife might make. The list below is not something you need to learn. You were born with these masculine traits already hardwired to emerge as an adult. What happens is we can develop insecurities, mental narratives, and deeply held core beliefs during times of suffering that PREVENT us from choosing the high road and being the masculine man we’re naturally good at.

The 53 Traits Of A Masculine Man:
1. Clear
2. Calm
3. Direct
4. Non-reactive
5. Capable of danger, but controls it
6. Steady
7. Responds, but on his own time
8. Plays the long game
9. Is self-reliant
10. Can’t be emotionally swayed by others
11. Powerful
12. Stable
13. Discerning
14. Confident
15. Visionary
16. Wise
17. Purposeful
18. Driven
19. Physical
20. Courageous
21. Honorable
22. Decisive
23. Protective
24. Assertive
25. Focused
26. Consistent
27. Embraces Death
28. Knowledgeable
29. World-Wise
30. Mysterious
31. Intellectual
32. Truth Seeking
33. Mystic
34. Insightful
35. Detached from others’ reactions
36. Engineering
37. Sees probable outcomes
38. Vivid life force
39. Sensitive to the outside environment
40. Embodies pleasure without shame
41. Sensual
42. Compassionate
43. Empathetic
44. Creates connection
45. Reads people
46. Feel’s other’s pain
47. Sees potential
48. Lives from the heart
49. Is present
50. Trusts intention over outcome
51. Creates, invents, and innovates what he wants
52. Is on a mission
53. Isn’t urgent
Why Small Dick Syndrome Ruins Marriages

Every romantic relationship (regardless of gender) requires one person who is in the masculine spectrum and one who is in the feminine spectrum. Our wife is incapable of feeling soft, affectionate, nurturing, receptive, submissive, or sexually turned on when we step out of our masculine energy.

How You Can Resolve “Small Dick” Energy

My YouTube critic was correct. Fast cars and golf won’t be on our agenda as we develop your masculinity. When I teach you my masculine confidence framework, I help you cut the blue wire to your triggers and insecurities. I ask you questions so you can see the core beliefs that make you a slave to your emotions. I help you create a frame you would be willing to take a bullet for. Book a call using my “Get Grounded Now” form if you want to talk to me directly. I promise the call will improve your entire week.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
April 13, 2024
How To Get Your Wife Back With Honesty (3 Myths Busted)

I get it because I’ve been there. You’re willing to do anything to get your wife back. Like any self-reliant man, you’ve searched Google for how to fix your marriage! This article will debunk 3 online myths about “getting your ex back” with brutal honesty. Keep reading or watch the following video to gain clarity about what works and what’s all smoke and hot air.

How To Get Your Wife Back With Honesty (3 Myths Busted)

What! The Internet Lied To Us??

Do you remember when searching for something on Google used to pull up forums of real people having real conversations about topics?

That old way of indexing online content is history.

Now, our online searches only reveal what the algorithms think we should see and what marketers have paid for us to see.

Those claiming to have a 90% success rate at saving marriages are just trying to get ad priority, clicks, and money.

I’m willing to be honest with what I’ve seen work and not work for men.

Honesty is one of my values, so I’m going to tell you the truth even if it costs me a sale.

Debunking Myths On How To Get Your Wife Back

Let’s pull out the shotgun and eliminate a few misconceptions running around feral on the internet.

Myth 1: You can save your marriage even if your wife doesn’t want to.

I’ve been engaging with thousands of men in troubled relationships worldwide for several years and this is unheard of.

Yes, we can do self-improvement even if she doesn’t want to.

Sure, we can invite her to join a new standard of interacting in the relationship.

What’s self-evident is until SHE decides she wants the marriage to work, fighting for the marriage fails nearly every time.

I explain this more in my article, Walkaway Wife, Why You Need To STOP Chasing Her.

What we see work is LETTING GO of the marriage and accepting that if she doesn’t want to be married to us, she is free to go.

I’m not advocating that you should file for divorce, but I am saying you shouldn’t be trying to resist it.

Myth 2: Opening up more to your wife will bring you closer together.

This is the kind of advice you’ll hear from women and wiki pages on how to improve relationships.

Digging everything out from under the rug so we can identify our attachment styles and childhood traumas can be equally as unproductive.

In the therapy world, this is called “low-mood therapy” when we try to focus on everything “wrong” with the relationship.

Despite many women claiming this would have closed the gulf between her and her husband in years past, only about 5% of women have done enough personal development to handle a man’s raw vulnerability.

For the rest of us in relationships with the remaining 95% of women, we need to trust that having a support system outside the marriage is what works best.

If you don’t believe me, click HERE to read an excerpt by researcher/author Brene Brown.

Let your wife do more talking so SHE feels connected.

Men open up through affection and intimacy, not by talking about the past.

Our wife, being the opposite, needs to get everything off her chest or she won’t feel affectionate enough to give us the intimacy we need to feel close and bonded with her.

Reacting triggered, defensive, distracted, or trying to fix her when she opens up puts divorce in our cards, brother.

Myth 3: “No contact” makes her want you.

I bring this one up all the time.

Yes, when dating, “absence makes the heart grow fonder“.

In a long-term relationship, absence just makes her glad she doesn’t have to put up with us.

If you want more info on this, read my article, “How To Give Your Wife Space Without Losing Her“, where I discuss what to do instead of “no contact”.

In a nutshell, there are things like neediness, begging, and constantly pestering her for assurance that we can stop dumping on her.

For guys who can’t shut off their insecurities, jealousy, heartbreak, and desperation around her, I do recommend the no-contact rule for HIS sake (not hers).

How To Get Your Wife Back With Tried & True Practices

The masculine confidence framework I teach men isn’t about becoming some badass with a sports car and tattoos.

I help you build a clear framework so you’ll never second guess if you’re responding correctly.

You’ll gain a purpose for your life that goes beyond your wife and kids.

We can’t awaken the version of our wife who wants to feel passionate for us until we have this kind of clarity and life mission.

I don’t guarantee that the new version of your life that’s inspiring, meaningful, self-assured, and purpose-driven will re-attract your ex.

What I guarantee is the right woman will be drawn to it, and sometimes that person is your ex.

Are you ready to stop relying on YouTube duct tape to patch your relationship together?

Then fill out my “Get Grounded Now“ form for a free consultation.

We’ll have a deep and meaningful conversation.

I promise you’ll gain a new perspective about being the kind of man who creates the relationships and experiences you want!

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman

March 17, 2024
She Said, “Is Sex All You Think About?” – How To Respond

Do you hesitate to answer probing questions from your wife or girlfriend? Then listen up! Questions like, “Is Sex All You Think About??” don’t have to be a landmine. Keep reading to learn how to defuse your partner’s booby trap questions.

She Said, “Is Sex All You Think About?” – How To Respond

“Is Sex All You Think About?”

Make no apology for being male!

Reflect on the history of humanity spanning thousands of years.

Since the beginning, women have been attracted towards, bred with, been lovesick for, and chased men being men.

Thanks to men’s insatiable drive for physical intimacy, the human race has not gone extinct yet.

When a woman says to me, “Is sex all you think about?” I smile and say, yup!

Men are supposed to feel opened, softened, ignited, drawn out, and inspired by sex.

Sex is the portal men gain emotional connection and bonding through.

This is how we’re supposed to be wired, there is nothing wrong with it!

Our Opposing Twins

Our personality splits into opposing versions when one part of us is expressed and the other is repressed.

Just as our mind will go unconscious if we endure to much pain, part of our personality goes unconscious if we sense it won’t be accepted.

Let this primal survival instinct play out over time, and symptoms like loneliness, depression, lack of motivation, and feelings of despair build up.

We can nip this process in the bud by doing one thing: Stop letting other people decide what is acceptable or unacceptable about you!

There’s a toxic mindset among a lot of men these days.

The mindset is that men in their natural form are chauvinistic, patriarchal pigs who need to change to be what women say they want us to be.

You’ll often hear me say, “There’s some things we get to know as men that are best to not share with women”.

The irony is the statement above is one of those things that doesn’t serve to share with women, lol.

We men with logical brains can foresee probable outcomes.

When our child wants to eat candy for lunch, they may not understand why we won’t let them.

Explaining, “because something tastes good, doesn’t mean it’s good for you” won’t resolve the child’s FEELINGS for candy.

There will be times when you’ll foresee fulfilling your wife’s wishes will cause a train wreck further down the track.

Since her perspectives are largely backed by feelings, it usually doesn’t serve to try to change her mind by exposing our logic.

Keep the logic to yourself, and simply offer her your curiosity and empathy.

Notice WHO is setting the “bar” for success in your life that you check yourself against.

That’s how to know if we’re suppressing part of our personality, verses staying mum on something that isn’t going to serve if exposed to a woman.

The “bar” is our behavior, value, or boundary WE hold ourselves to so we can enjoy feelings of integrity each time WE hold ourselves to it.

The “bar” is also the rules we know we must play by to create an amazing life that aligns with our deeper purpose and mission.

When we let other people set the bar, we’ll feel a need to alter ourselves, agree with their perspectives, or abandon our own internal compass for their compass.

Being A Man On A Feminine Planet

Women are a hurricane of emotions, ideas, creativity, and life.

Her feminine chaos doesn’t bring much to fruition until she encounters a strong framework.

Masculine is that framework.

Online influencer Teal Swan wrote a great article on masculine containment if you want more information on what that means.

Being a woman’s husband isn’t too far off from being her father.

Some women have chosen to reject this masculine frame and become her own man.

These masculine ladies won’t feel much sexual polarity with men who are strong, secure, clear-thinking, driven, or unapologetic because to be honest, she doesn’t need a man.

Sadly, just as when men become their own woman, it creates a persona riddled with angst, exhaustion, frustration, loneliness, and burnout.

We can’t force our wife to be less masculine, but we can be more masculine ourselves so she doesn’t feel the need to be.

How To Be A Secure Man When She Says, “Is Sex All You Think About?”

We can transform from being a guy who rattles off an 18-point logic list when a woman rolls her eyes to becoming a man of inner confidence and charisma, who wears a slight smirk even on rainy days.

To be a woman’s frame, we must first have our OWN frame.

That’s what I’m teaching men in my 1:1 Masculine Confidence Framework Coaching Package.

If you want to get your thinking cleared up, your insecurities resolved, and your fears addressed, then reach out for a free consultation!

Much Love,

Garrett Prettyman

February 9, 2024
2 Mistakes Men Make When Feeling Unloved
Has your love tank been on fumes for a while? If so, it’s time to take a hard look at your options. This article covers 2 mistakes men make when feeling unloved. As a bonus, I’ll also tell you exactly how to get your attractive mojo back when rekindling affection with your closed-off wife.

Rekindling Affection: 2 Mistakes Men Make When Feeling Unloved

Mistake #1

Exerting stress, anxiety, complaints, and despair towards things outside our control is a lose-lose.

I get it.

Love & affection feel amazing!

But when the morning cuddles stop, we’re suddenly reliant on our own ability to create a sense of being valued.

We step out of our manly power when we lose sleep, agonize, and bang our heads on the wall over stuff we have no control over!

This concept isn’t new.

The stoics of old like Marcus Aurelius warned us that things outside our control are things we shouldn’t worry about.

How our wife feels about us is 100% outside our control.

I know what your man brain is thinking…“If we fix our issues, she’ll desire me again!”

No brother, “fixing our issues” has never saved a marriage, but “fixing” our own insecurities has!

What we want in life rarely comes through the door we thought it would.

Spending large amounts of mental, emotional, and physical energy over our wife’s lack of desire will do nothing for improvement.

In fact, the guy who is most attractive to your wife is the guy who isn’t attached to specific outcomes.

A man who complains about his job, his wife, his government, lack of sex, or anything outside his control is a powerless man.Â

Mistake #2

Anna Katharina Schaffner, Ph.D wrote a great article, “Understanding the Circles of Influence, Concern, and Control” where she warns us what’s only inside our zone of influence is still mostly out of our control.

Directing our focus, thoughts, energy, and time towards something only within our zone of influence is a path to disempowerment.

No amount of influence will ever control someone else 100%.

Humans are not robots.

Other people have their own brains and end up doing what they want.

This one is sticky since sometimes we can influence someone to be different.

This is more the exemption than the rule though.

If we apply massive amounts of mental, emotional, and physical energy trying to influence others to be what we want, we’re putting ourselves at their mercy.

Being at the mercy of others is a powerless, unhappy place to be as a man.Â

How To Get Your Mojo Back

Did the sun ever complain, chase you down, or demand attention for its sunsets to be attractive?

Has the sun ever postponed an amazing sunset because nobody was giving it appreciation?

No, the sun is just doing what it does and at some point, a bystander looks up and says, “Wow, that’s an amazing sunset!”.

This is what you become when you stop attaching to outcomes and only focus on what’s in your zone of control.

Things like maintaining happiness right to the end, money, and living an unchained life ensue when we pour as much energy as possible into things 100% inside our control.

This kind of man steps into his full power by no longer keeping others accountable for his happiness or shine he puts off.

95% of men choose to not focus on what’s directly inside their control because doing so requires a hard look at our “ya buts”.
- Ya but, if I ask for sex, she’ll reject me
- Ya but, if I change jobs, I’ll lose my retirement
- Ya but, I can’t open my marriage and have sex with other women, my wife will hate me
- Ya but, I can’t move, my kids have friends here
Those “Ya buts” are what confident men choose to face when life isn’t providing what they want.

Everything we have in life we’ve chosen.

We chose our wife…We chose our home…We chose our car.

When those things are frustrating us, we’re living with what WE chose.

We can always choose a NEW response, attitude, mindset, or tone.

We can make NEW choices when we face our “Ya Buts”

A man who remains unrattled by focusing on what’s in his control is no wimp and is very attractive to women!

The saying is true, “You have to let her go to get her back”

REALLY let her go, I might add.

If you’re struggling to be this kind of man who operates in his zone of control or has been limiting his life with“ya buts” then reach out.

My Masculine Confidence Framework coaching package is exactly what you need to re-wire your brain to stop making these 2 mistakes men make when feeling unloved.

Take full power of what’s inside your control brother by booking a free “Get Grounded Now” consultation.

Fair warning though – being coached through my masculine confidence framework 1:1 is a reassuringly higher-priced investment.

If you’re on a tight budget, consider gaining your mojo through my group course, “The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence“.

Much Love,

Garrett Prettyman
January 31, 2024