Masculine Confidence Framework

Tag: Strengthening Marital Support

  • Why Your Wife Is Always Unhappy

    Why Your Wife Is Always Unhappy

    When your wife is always unhappy or chronically upset, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing as a husband or father. There are 5 things you can change right now to bring some joy back into your relationship. Just watch the video below or keep reading.

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    Unhappy Wife – 5 Necessities To Change

    Failed Expectations: A Source Of Unhappiness

    We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.

    “Perfect” includes a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for you at the door when you come home. 

    She’s wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls. 

    Fun and laughter fill your evening with her!

    By night, things get steamy under the sheets.

    Sounds like a great fantasy! 

    Then there’s reality. 

    She…

    The girl you married has an imagined “perfect world, too”.

    Reality has dashed that dream.

    That’s why your wife is always unhappy.

    You’re a constant reminder that life isn’t the fairytale she hoped for.

    Men I coach learn a universal fact after a few sessions: Female energy is a flood without a strong masculine frame to direct it. 

    In other words, if her emotions are affecting how YOU feel, it means you’re driving in her lane, not your own lane of well-being and happiness.

    5 Things To Change If Your Wife Is Always Unhappy

    There are five necessities for happiness:

    1. Safety
    2. Variety
    3. Connection
    4. Contribution
    5. Growth  

    If both you and your wife are always unhappy, you’re in a stalemate.

    Somebody has to lead by example so the other can follow.

    Feminine is wired to be a responder.

    Masculine is wired to be an initiator.

    A conversation, date night, or new house can’t erase what it’s like to BE around you.

    When you start to BE different, your wife starts to respond differently.

    You cannot “give” your wife safety… but you can BE safe.

    You cannot “give” your wife connection… but you can BE connecting. 

    In other words, you provide these things by BEING them. 

    Explaining, demanding, and arguing about them is not BEING them.

    Your wife gets to enjoy the ride as you solidify an amazing, inspiring, deeply connecting life for yourself – one that changes your attitude.  

    And the cool part is, you get to enjoy this life regardless of how she responds.

    Even if your wife is always unhappy, it’s not your responsibility to make her happy… BUT, you can be a man who invites her to a better place. 

    Dr. Danielle Dowling drives this principle home in the article, “You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Happiness“.

    If you need your wife to be happy so you can be happy, you are co-dependent on her.

    That’s a hard clash with what Hollywood shows us in movies.

    Happiness by example is the ONLY way to light the path forward for your wife to follow.

    Build an amazing life that makes you happy no matter what she does.

    Feeling unsure of how to be a confident, direct, emotional lighthouse if your wife is always unhappy?

    I got you.

  • Menopause: What Men Need To Know To Save Their Marriage

    Menopause: What Men Need To Know To Save Their Marriage

    Let’s talk about menopause: What men need to know can save a lot of frustration. This article is like receiving the puberty talk before your voice changes. It’s nice having a heads-up before everything in your life shifts. It’s also an uncomfortable topic that’s easy to put off. Further down is a video from a man who has successfully navigated menopause with his wife. Pay attention to his advice. Your marriage might depend on it. 

    Menopause: What Men Need To Know (But Nobody Is Saying)

    At 9 years old, I loved technology.

    I came across a Radio Shack ad for a control module.

    It could turn on any appliance with a cord!

    I wanted one. 

    I saved up that summer, went to Radio Shack, and bought the control module. 

    Feeling ecstatic was an understatement!

    After I opened the box, I quickly realized I had been misguided. 

    Every outlet in the house had to be equipped with a receiver for the system to work. 

    I was so bummed. 

    The full system was way out of budget for a 9-year-old. 

    Why hadn’t the salesmen at Radio Shack informed me? 

    Why wasn’t the ad clear that upcoming purchases were necessary to use the module?

    Men sat at your wedding who knew something shocking.

    They watched you pledge your love to a woman… and they stayed silent.

    You thought you were signing up for a lifetime of romantic intimacy with the exact woman who stood before you. 

    Maybe these men didn’t want to douse the spark in your eye. 

    Maybe they thought they were alone in their experience.

    Here’s the shocking thing these men knew: Your wife would go through an unavoidable metamorphosis and become a totally different person… Menopause!

    I’m calling in an expert to give us the facts straight.

    In the video below, men’s coach Charlie McKeever shares how he saved his marriage from menopause. 

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    Menopause – What Men Need To Know (But Nobody Is Saying)

    Menopause: What Men Need To Know When She Acts Different

    The stages leading up to menopause can be a 10-year span called perimenopause. 

    For most women, perimenopause starts in their mid-40s. 

    You might be thinking, “So what, her period gets irregular or something?” 

    Think again.

    Remember how much your body changes going through puberty?

    Imagine going through puberty again to have everything reversed.

    That’s what it’s like for her. 

    Every man is well aware of how sensitive and changing a woman’s moods are when she’s on her period…

    Underlying issues in your relationship she’s been sweeping under the rug boil over during this time. 

    Perimenopause challenges your standards, boundaries, and self-reliance to your own happiness in ways you’ve never been tested before. 

    She’ll need you to be confident and emotionally present, not for the weekend…FOR THE LONG HAUL!

    Can Hormone Therapy Help Menopause Symptoms?

    Hormone therapy can absolutely help your wife through her life transition.

    So can supplements and being supportive.

    If you feel like your marriage is in the throes of menopause, I encourage you to reach out to Charlie by clicking HERE. He can mentor you through the stages every man must learn while your wife goes through menopause.

    Telling your wife she needs hormone therapy isn’t the magic pill.

    She needs you to be the rock during this time of change.

    Being a confident man who doesn’t seek his wife’s approval and leads the relationship is the type of man you should be, regardless. 

    Masculine finds purpose in momentum. 

    We like to see progress, goals reached, and checklists completed. 

    When you stop reacting to your wife, she feels huge relief.

    As her moods change, you need to be steady.

    You need a frame.

    You need personal standards for yourself.

    Menopause: What men need to know is that it’s not a matter of IF but WHEN.

    Guys who have already become the rock in their relationships (before menopause strikes) won’t take her moods personally.

    He won’t beg, argue, complain, or sulk when she’s having a bad day.

    He’s understanding when she’s not down for sex.

    He’s the lighthouse that leads her home.

    That’s what a great man does for his wife.