I’m going to teach you 5 basic necessities for happiness. Many of us were misled into believing our wife’s happiness was our responsibility. If your thought is, “But I’m married to an unhappy wife, I just want her to be happy!” then keep reading.Â
Our Expectations Of Our Wife
We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.
“Perfect” would include a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for us at the door when we come home.
She’d be wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls.
Fun and laughter would fill our evening with her!
By night, things would get steamy under the sheets.
Sounds like a great fantasy!
Then there’s reality.
She…
- Is mad at your mom
- Spends more time off with her friends than at home
- Never initiates sex
- Says “Stop trying to fix me” whenever you try to connect
- Is never happy
- Is cold, dismissive, and says you need to show her more love
- Keeps bringing up your past mistakes
Men I coach learn a universal fact after a few sessions: Female energy is a flood without a strong masculine frame to direct it.
In other words, if her “mess” is affecting how YOU feel, it means you’re driving in her lane, not your own lane of well-being and happiness.
Unhappy Wife: 5 Necessities To Change
There are five necessities for happiness:
- Safety
- Variety
- Connection
- Contribution
- Growth
The old saying, “Do as I say, not as I do” won’t work because words can’t erase what it’s like to BE around us.
You cannot “give” your wife safety… But you can BE safe.
You cannot “give” your wife connection… But you can BE connecting.
In other words, you provide these things by BEING them.
YOU get to have strong boundaries for your own safety.
YOU get to take responsibility for your own growth.
There’s a natural order on this planet: Masculine energy leads.
Your wife gets to enjoy the ride as you solidify an amazing, inspiring, deeply connecting life for yourself.
The cool part is, you get to enjoy this life regardless of what she’s doing.
If you have an unhappy wife, you can be a man who invites her to a better place by example.
In the article, “You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Happiness” Dr. Danielle Dowling reminds us other people’s happiness is NOT our responsibility.
Happiness by example is the ONLY way to light the path forward for your wife to follow.
Build an amazing life that makes you happy no matter what she does.
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Do it for yourself.
Do it for your family.
You got this brother,
Garrett Prettyman