When your wife is always unhappy or chronically upset, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing as a husband or father. There are 5 things you can change right now to bring some joy back into your relationship. Just watch the video below or keep reading.
Failed Expectations: A Source Of Unhappiness
We like to imagine how life would be “in a perfect world”.
“Perfect” includes a loving, sweet, affectionate, beautiful woman waiting for you at the door when you come home.
She’s wearing a sexy outfit and holding freshly baked cinnamon rolls.
Fun and laughter fill your evening with her!
By night, things get steamy under the sheets.
Sounds like a great fantasy!
Then there’s reality.
She…
- Is mad at your mom
- Spends more time with her friends than at home
- Never initiates sex
- Says “Stop trying to fix me” whenever you try to connect
- Is never happy
- Is cold, dismissive, and says you need to show her more love
- Keeps bringing up your past mistakes
The girl you married has an imagined “perfect world, too”.
Reality has dashed that dream.
That’s why your wife is always unhappy.
You’re a constant reminder that life isn’t the fairytale she hoped for.
Men I coach learn a universal fact after a few sessions: Female energy is a flood without a strong masculine frame to direct it.
In other words, if her emotions are affecting how YOU feel, it means you’re driving in her lane, not your own lane of well-being and happiness.
5 Things To Change If Your Wife Is Always Unhappy
There are five necessities for happiness:
- Safety
- Variety
- Connection
- Contribution
- Growth
If both you and your wife are always unhappy, you’re in a stalemate.
Somebody has to lead by example so the other can follow.
Feminine is wired to be a responder.
Masculine is wired to be an initiator.
A conversation, date night, or new house can’t erase what it’s like to BE around you.
When you start to BE different, your wife starts to respond differently.
You cannot “give” your wife safety… but you can BE safe.
You cannot “give” your wife connection… but you can BE connecting.
In other words, you provide these things by BEING them.
Explaining, demanding, and arguing about them is not BEING them.
Your wife gets to enjoy the ride as you solidify an amazing, inspiring, deeply connecting life for yourself – one that changes your attitude.
And the cool part is, you get to enjoy this life regardless of how she responds.
Even if your wife is always unhappy, it’s not your responsibility to make her happy… BUT, you can be a man who invites her to a better place.
Dr. Danielle Dowling drives this principle home in the article, “You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Happiness“.
If you need your wife to be happy so you can be happy, you are co-dependent on her.
That’s a hard clash with what Hollywood shows us in movies.
Happiness by example is the ONLY way to light the path forward for your wife to follow.
Build an amazing life that makes you happy no matter what she does.
Feeling unsure of how to be a confident, direct, emotional lighthouse if your wife is always unhappy?
I got you.
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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