If you’ve been trying to get your walkaway wife back, I have news for you. The test results are in (and it’s stamped with a big “F”). Seventy percent of divorces are initiated by women. You know what that means? It means 70% of men were unable to stop the divorce. But you? You’re going to do the opposite of those 70%. Welcome to the 5% club, where marriages are saved. Not because you tricked your wife into staying, but because you used the laws of attraction and stopped chasing her.
Men Everywhere Are Being Blindsided By Divorce
Most men never dreamed the girl they married would turn into a walkaway wife.
Disbelief. Horror. Panic.
Those juices surge through his veins like acid when he hears, “I’m going to leave you”.
Why is she leaving?
Why didn’t she bring this up sooner?
Can’t we go to marriage counseling and fix this?
A walkaway wife is as emotionally damaging as a gunshot wound.
But running around like a headless chicken never helps… And that’s EXACTLY what most men do.
They pull out all the stops.
They flood her with everything she loved while dating.
He cries, begs, pleads, argues, withdraws, and then writes the most passionate love letter of his life.
Do all those things, and you’ll join the 70% of men who never got their walkaway wife back.
You need to understand why she’s pulling away.
Then, how you should respond makes more sense.
Why Your Bride Has Turned Into A Walkaway Wife
24 months ago.
That’s how long ago she gave up and started imagining life without you.
Giving up felt like relief.
Like a huge weight lifted off her shoulders.
She opened herself up to get her needs met outside the marriage.
Not sexually, emotionally.
Work, friends, activities, weekend getaways, counseling… those became her new sources of emotional intimacy.
You, on the other hand, were oblivious while focused on surviving the daily grind.
>>>Fast forward to now.
She has already grieved the loss of the marriage.
An emotional bond has formed with others besides you.
She’s already cried until there were no more tears, and it was probably two summers ago.
That’s why she seems so cold and indifferent now.
Leaving you? That’s old news to her.
You feel like an ex-boyfriend or old business partner.
You, however, are NOWHERE near the same point as her.
This is fresh and raw.
You have a right to feel how you feel!
Any man would feel the same.
But acting on those feelings makes your walkaway wife want to rip the band-aid off.
Why You Need To STOP Chasing Her
I’ve worked with hundreds of men whose wives had one foot out the door.
I’ve never seen a walkaway wife return because he smothered her with his unbound love.
She’s not leaving because you don’t love her, so stop trying to prove it!
She’s leaving because she no longer feels attracted to you.
That’s what she means when she says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
It doesn’t matter if you still feel attracted to her.
In this critical moment of marriage collapse, nearly all primal instincts of the male brain push her away (if acted on).
You see, all her reasons for wanting to leave you are tied to a common female experience.
An experience that has less to do with you than she’ll adimit.
Michele Weiner-Davis explains it perfectly in her article “The Walkaway Wife Syndrom”
Right now, your wife genuinely thinks she has tried everything in her power to help you “wake up” and give her the deep emotional connection and sense of belonging she craves.
She did this by following her immature female instincts of arguing, complaining, giving obligation sex, and taking on more responsibilities than she could handle.
She thought being this way was an obvious cry for help.
But those behaviours don’t create a deep emotional connection with a man.
Any wonder she burned out?
It’s why she’s “done”.
If you try to chase her, it only makes her run away faster.
The Attractiveness Of Letting Go
Have you ever tried to catch a dog by chasing it?
I have.
Good luck!
When you BACK AWAY, the dog gets very curious about what you’re up to.
Run away from a dog, and it will be hot on your heels.
I know what you’re thinking.
“My wife is complaining that I haven’t been there for her. I need to close the gap, not back away!”
Man-to-man lesson 101: Never take a woman’s words as a factual repair manual. She is saying what she feels like, not what you should do about it.
Over the years, your wife has conceived a version of you in her head.
This version has hardened like concrete.
Only one thing melts that version of you from her brain: time.
In time, experiencing a new version of you will give her new feelings about you.
You need to give time and space for the old version to fade from her memory.
But if you try to become someone she wants, you’ll lose your attractive edge.
It’s time to go balls-to-the-wall and be the man you’ve always wanted to be.
Your #1 goal right now is to stop chasing her and start making bold, scary movements towards creating an amazing life YOU love.
Women act on their own internal pressure.
Just hearing your voice and seeing your face right now is external pressure.
That’s why space helps a walkaway wife forget what she grew to dislike about you.
ONLY NON-REACTIVE, PRESENT, SAFE ENERGY COMING FROM YOU CAN INFLUENCE HER INTERNAL PRESSURE IN A POSITIVE WAY.
Stop doing anything that feels like external pressure to her.
Hanging around her, inviting her to events, trying to guilt her into spending Christmas with you and the kids – that is all external pressure.
It shows you care when you step aside from blocking what she thinks she needs.
And what she needs right now is to have you fling the door wide open for her to walk out.
Only a man who is very secure in himself can do this.
The irony is that traits like security and confidence can only be built in the total absence of feminine support.
That’s what I teach men to develop when faced with a walkaway wife.
Your value and sense of well-being must no longer be attached to your wife’s validation.
Have A Walkaway Wife? Do This Now
Nothing is more effective in creating lasting change than man-to-man mentorship.
I challenge your thinking.
I give you new mindsets.
An open, deeper, authentic, confident version of yourself emerges.
You’ll stop chasing your walkaway wife and start being a man women walk towards.
Are you ready?
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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