Many sexually frustrated men don’t realize how they are preventing the intimacy they crave! Dive into this article or watch the video below to discover why women are drawn to confident, powerful men—not those who are sexually frustrated.
Sexually Frustrated Men Experience A Snowball Affect Of Rejection
Rejection from our wife can be frustrating, and this frustration can push her further away, creating a never-ending cycle of more rejection.
When our sexual energy is pent-up, it can feel like a problem that needs an immediate solution.
Being wildly horny in itself isn’t the problem.
How we act when we feel urgent is what turns our wife off.
Although an orgasm seems like an obvious solution, anytime we act desperate, needy, demanding, or mopey we are putting negative pressure on our wife.
Negative pressure is a HUGE libido killer for women.
Sexually frustrated men tend to use their own level of desire to determine if they should initiate intimacy.
This also leads to more rejection.
Our wife can sense if we are trying to make love because WE can’t handle our own instincts or if we are initiating because SHE is ripe for engaging it.
Acting on our feelings with no awareness of her emotional state is a guaranteed path to rejection.
She Wants Intimacy With A Man Who Holds His Power
I used to believe that my feelings were my wife’s job to take care of.
If I was hungry, she should feed me.
If I was horny, she should make love to me.
This mindset made me feel like a victim of her moods and dependent on her for my happiness.
Making others responsible for how we feel is a path to codependence, victimhood, neediness, and loss of power.
A man who takes responsibility for his own feelings talks differently.
He won’t say, “You’re making me angry” he will say, “I feel my anger”.
A man who gives his power away will say things like, “That person is making me feel disrespected”.
A man who holds his power will say, “My thoughts about that person are making me feel disrespected”.
Men who hold their power are attractive to women.
Your wife wants to sense that you can hold your emotions AND her emotions without giving your power away.
How To Stop Getting Rejected
Imagine there is a green light and a red light on every woman’s forehead.
If we try to initiate physical intimacy with our wife when the light is red, it will push her away.
My advice?
ONLY INITIATE WHEN HER LIGHT IS GREEN.
Nearly every guy I coach who is frustrated in the bedroom is initiating when she’s giving clear signals to stop.
We can’t turn her red light green by getting all cuddly and affectionate with her.
A woman’s desire for intimacy comes in seasons and she can’t just flip a switch to turn it on.
There’s no use in getting upset with her season, just like there’s no use in getting upset if it’s summer or winter.
There is an irony to this.
When we are happy, inspired, successful, and fun without her giving us sex the sooner her season changes.
If you struggle to know when her light is green, read my article “6 Signs She Wants You To Be More Bold In The Bedroom“.
How To Stop Acting Like Horny, Sexually Frustrated Men
Women are not attracted to horny, sexually frustrated men but they are attracted to sexy men.
Horny men can’t handle discomfort.
Sexy men face discomfort.
Horny men act impulsively.
Sexy men act deliberately.
Many “horny” men think they need sex 3 or 5 times a day.
Here’s the truth.
When we have BETTER sex, we crave sex less.
Better sex is enthusiastic, wild, connected, and erotic.
Before we can have better sex, we first need to lead emotional intimacy with our partner.
Not taking things personally and tuning into her emotions to validate them is how she feels emotional intimacy.
In my coaching, I teach you how to THINK to feel empowered by things that used to drive you crazy.
Don’t believe this helps?
Right now, imagine biting into a freshly cut lemon… Imagine your teeth squeezing the tart juice out as it drips down your lips… Did your mouth start to water?
Your mouth is watering because of the THOUGHT you just fed in your mind.
Sexually frustrated men need to feed new thoughts!
If you want a free consultation about how to stop being a sexually frustrated man in your marriage, fill out my “Get Grounded Now“ form, and let’s talk!
Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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