Many men are rejected for sex without realizing how they are preventing the intimacy they crave. Dive into this article or watch the video below to discover why women are drawn to men who can face rejection with confidence.
Men Who Act Frustrated When Rejected For Sex Experience A Snowball Effect of Rejection
Rejection by your wife can be frustrating.
This frustration can push her further away, creating a never-ending cycle of more rejection.
When our sexual energy is pent-up, it can feel like a problem that needs an immediate solution.
Being wildly horny in itself isn’t the problem.
How we act when we feel urgent is what turns your wife off.
Although an orgasm seems like an obvious solution, anytime you act desperate, needy, demanding, or mopey, you are putting negative pressure on your wife.
Negative pressure is a HUGE libido killer for women.
Sexually frustrated men tend to use their own level of desire to determine if they should initiate intimacy.
This also leads to more rejection.
Our wife can sense if we are trying to make love because WE can’t handle our own instincts, or if we are initiating because SHE is ripe for engaging it.
Acting on our feelings with no awareness of her emotional state is a guaranteed path to rejection.
She Wants Intimacy With A Man Who Holds His Agency
I used to believe that my feelings were my wife’s job to take care of.
If I was hungry, she should feed me.
If I was horny, she should make love to me.
This mindset made me feel like a victim of her moods and dependent on her for my happiness.
Making others responsible for how we feel is a path to codependency, victimhood, and a sense of neediness.
A man who takes responsibility for his own feelings talks differently.
He won’t say, “You’re making me angry,” he will say, “I feel my anger”.
A man who plays the victim will say things like, “That person is making me feel disrespected”.
A man who owns his agency will say, “My thoughts about that person are making me feel disrespected”.
Men who hold their agency are attractive to women.
Your wife wants to feel that you can hold your emotions AND her emotions without losing your agency.
How To Stop Getting Rejected For Sex
Imagine there is a green light and a red light on every woman’s forehead.
If you try to initiate physical intimacy with your wife when the light is red, it will push her away.
My advice?
ONLY INITIATE WHEN HER LIGHT IS GREEN.
Nearly every guy I coach who is frustrated in the bedroom is initiating when she’s giving clear signals to stop.
We can’t turn her red light green by getting all cuddly and affectionate with her.
A woman’s desire for intimacy comes in seasons, and she can’t just flip a switch to turn it on.
There’s no use in getting upset with her season, just like there’s no use in getting upset if it’s summer or winter.
There is an irony to this.
When we are happy, inspired, successful, and fun without her giving us sex, the sooner her season changes.
If you struggle to know when her light is green, read my article “6 Signs She Wants You To Be More Bold In The Bedroom“.
How To Stop Acting Like A Sexually Frustrated Man
Women are not attracted to horny, sexually frustrated men.
But they are attracted to sexy men!
So what’s the difference?
Horny, sexually frustrated men can’t handle discomfort.
Sexy men face discomfort.
Horny, sexually frustrated men act impulsively.
Sexy men act deliberately.
Many horny, sexually frustrated men think they need sex 3 or 5 times a day.
Here’s the truth.
When you have BETTER sex, you’ll crave sex less.
Better sex is enthusiastic, wild, connected, and erotic.
Before we can have better sex, we first need to build emotional intimacy with our partner.
Not taking things personally and tuning into her emotions to validate them is how she feels emotional intimacy.
In my coaching, I teach you how to THINK to feel empowered by things that used to drive you crazy.
Don’t believe this helps?
Right now, imagine biting into a freshly cut lemon… Imagine your teeth squeezing the tart juice out as it drips down your lips… Did your mouth start to water?
Your mouth is watering because of the THOUGHT you just fed in your mind.
Sexually frustrated men need to feed new thoughts!
I’ll show you how.
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