I’m sure your wife used to love being affectionate and physically intimate with you. This will help you see why she no longer undresses when you’re in the room and acts uncomfortable when you try to be close to her.
Exposing The Root Issue Of Negative Pressure
Long before your wife or girlfriend will let you back into her panties, you need to get into her heart and create emotional intimacy.
Relationship research backs this up.
We can be a great provider and never physically harm our wife, but if our vibe feels like negative pressure to her, it activates her fight or flight response.
Negative pressure can stem from behaviors like…
- A lack of respect for our wife
- Expecting her to think/act like ourselves
- A general disdain for women
- Criticizing her feelings or moods
- Looking to her for validation
- Expecting her to match our level of sacrifice for the family
- Needing to know what, why, where, and who she has been interacting with
Many hurt men have pointed their finger at women, armed with statistics to “prove” she is the problem.
If we victimize ourselves by blaming women, we can kiss intimacy with women goodbye.
Valuing that our wife is a beautiful feminine person is the path forward to rebuilding her comfort to undress and be physically intimate with us again.
Believing “she’s the problem”, “she needs to get it together”, or “she’s just a b*tch” won’t get you the love and respect you deserve.
Why She No Longer Undresses When You’re In The Room If There’s Negative Pressure
Adding negative pressure to a negative situation always creates a negative experience
Think of negativity like cold water from a hose.
A cold blast would keep your sex drive offline too!
When the two of you first met, you probably demonstrated “positive” pressure without realizing it.
“Positive” pressure is sexy.
It creates positive, playful emotional tension.
But now you have a track record with her…Possibly a negative track record.
Your negative track record is why she no longer changes when you’re in the room, let alone joins you in the shower or sleeps pressed to your side.
Here’s how we built the negative track record that makes her feel uncomfortable around us…
- When we got defensive, we kept the conversation in reaction mode instead of leading emotional safety
- When we got critical, she felt like she couldn’t trust us with her feelings, making her feel abandoned
- When we initiated sex while she wasn’t in the mood, we communicated that we were not tuned into her feelings or her body
- When we fed thoughts of dissatisfaction towards her in our mind, we began behaving around her as if we didn’t value her.
Multiply these issues over many years, and it will feel like there’s a wall between her heart and ours.
The wall around her heart melts when she feels a strong emotional connection with us.
That’s the opposite of the cold blast from the hose.
How To Become The Positive Man She Wants To Undress Around Again
Only one kind of man can turn the ship around when his track record of negative pressure has driven a wedge in the relationship.
It’s the man who…
- Stops taking things personally
- Stops focusing on what’s out of his control
- Starts living life to his terms (with swagger and a grin)
- Starts trusting who he knows he is instead of other’s opinions
When my clients make dramatic changes in their relationship, it’s because they made dramatic changes in themselves by resolving their insecurities, triggers, and immature behaviors.
Now that you see why she no longer undresses when you’re in the room, it’s important to take this next step…
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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