If your wife is sleeping in the other room or wants you to move out, this article is for you. Her need for space may not be what you think! Dive in below to get a better understanding of the difference between physical space and emotional space. There is an offer at the end that could turn your relationship around for good!
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What Her Need For Space Is Really All About
Long before our partner asks for physical space, there’s something else that’s been bothering her.
What finally drove her to ask for space was Emotional PRESSURE.
Imagine a scenario where you felt emotional pressure from someone.
Maybe you’ve had…
- An employer who micromanaged your work
- A client who was impossible to please
- A friend who always wanted assurance that they weren’t being excluded
MORE time around these kinds of people only amplifies our desire to get away from them!
Yet what’s the first thing we tend to do when our wife or girlfriend wants space?
We try to be with her MORE, work on the relationship MORE, and push for physical intimacy MORE.
Less is more.
Most men love their wives a lot and are ready to break their backs to be great husbands.
However, we can be a little oblivious to the ways we’ve been putting emotional pressure on our spouse.
How To Give Our Wife Emotional Space
Every woman wants her marriage to succeed.
Asking for space is her last-ditch attempt.
By this point, she feels she’s already done everything possible to show us how we’re putting emotional pressure on her.
She really hopes that eventually we will learn to give her space while still in the same room with her.
I call this emotional space.
You can learn how to give her emotional space while sitting on the same couch and holding her hand!
This level of maturity will no longer land you in the doghouse when she feels overwhelmed with emotional pressure.
The secret is to learn detachment (sometimes called differentiation).
Detachment means…
- Not taking her reactions personally
- Seeing things from her perspective (even if you don’t agree)
- Noticing the uniqueness of her experiences and supporting her through it
- Knowing who YOU are so clearly her opinions don’t feel like threats
- Trusting who YOU are so strongly you don’t feel a need to explain yourself
- Not needing a specific outcome to be ok
Detachment is not giving up or being passive.
We’re practicing detachment when we’re present, engaged, and emotionally tuned in while being non-reactive and empathetic.
Exactly What To Do Over The Next 6 Months
I’ve guided many men through the “I need space” season of their marriage.
Book a free confidence call, and we will discuss how I can guide you each step of the way.
Imagine being a man who can effortlessly lead your relationship away from arguments and frustration back to love, affection, respect, and positive experiences.
Can you see yourself taking charge of your relationship and clearing the blocks preventing the emotional connection your wife needs to feel in love with you?
You want to be this guy…She needs you to be this guy.
I will help you improve the triggers and root issues that are putting emotional pressure on your wife.
When we trust ourselves and gain clarity of who we are, it takes pressure off our wife to have to validate us.
Many issues in a marriage clear up on their own when the man steps up as a more confident version of himself!
We can discuss this more during our call, as well as some advice on how to build POSITIVE emotional connection!
