This is the first in my series of 6 dangerously effective marriage-saving secrets. I help extraordinary men create long-lasting love, deeper connection, intimacy, respect, and authentic affection through personalized masculine confidence coaching. The secrets I’m about to share are field-tested. They’ll bring lasting positive change in your relationships.
Why These Are Dangerously Effective Marriage-Saving Secrets
I’ve been working with men in troubled marriages for years.
I’ve seen repeated patterns of trial and error.
When a man’s sense of well-being isn’t derailed by his wife’s moods or actions, he becomes the confident grounding rod in the relationship.
Consistent behaviors create an attractive momentum.
New momentum facilitates a new version of the marriage.
Many men I’ve mentored have saved their marriages.
Here’s the twist: Some men sought to re-attract their wife out of fear, not love.
He feared:
- Emotional pain
- Losing “the one”
- Being alone
- Being seen as a failure if he got divorced
Avoiding divorce doesn’t equal success if your wife isn’t someone you love and trust.
She deserves better.
So do you.
That’s why these secrets can be dangerous.
Check your motives.
If your motive is out of love, proceed.
Secret 1: STOP Being A Wishy-Washy Husband
When your wife asks if you liked the movie you both watched, do you leave your answer vague or open-ended?
Do you wait to see if she likes it first?
Stop trying to control her responses by adjusting your opinions!
It’s wishy-washy.
Is your “yes” or “no” followed up with a bunch of reasons to validate your response?
STOP explaining yourself.
Say, “yes” or, “no” because YOU want to.
Your desire is reason enough.
This is an important concept to get: wishy-washy people look outside themselves for validation.
Confident people validate themselves.
Imagine your wife is dribbling a basketball.
The basketball is her feminine energy.
When the ball hits something firm, she can dribble the ball.
When the ball hits something soft, her need for safety highjacks her brain.
A female’s sexual desire goes offline without safety.
She needs to feel your firmness to feel safe.
Our firmness is what polarizes her desires.
Complaining, whining, questioning, contesting, challenging, and prodding… All women who respect you will do this!
She’s testing if your behaviors are safe no matter what hits you.
She’s giving you a “dribble test”.
I explain more in this video:
Walking on eggshells, avoiding conflict, answering indirectly, using a passive-aggressive tone – Those are traits of the wishy-washy husband!
A man who is not in his masculine power adjusts his responses to be liked.
I lived this way most of my marriage.
It sucked.
It felt like a confusing, illogical, no-win rollercoaster I was trying to please.
Being wishy-washy around your wife won’t stop until you’re unshakably confident in yourself.
Your Next Step To End Wishy-Washy Behaviours
Ask yourself these 3 questions to resolve your tendency to beat around the bush:
- What am I secretly trying to gain by tiptoeing around my wife?
- What am I fearing will happen if I speak my truth plainly?
- How would I address people if I trusted my intentions more than others’ interpretation of them?
Wishy-washy tendencies are a symptom of deeper insecurity.
Want To Learn More Dangerously Effective Marriage-Saving Secrets?
When we’re insecure, we need men of integrity to ask us deep questions to challenge our core beliefs.
Men with experience who have our back when we need to vent or gain a new perspective.
This is why masculinity coach Mark Drezga and I created the “The Married Man’s Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course“. Click HERE for more info.
Stop being wishy-washy: A dangerously effective marriage-saving secret!
There’s only one regret I hear from men who go through our coaching, “Why didn’t I do this sooner!!”.
You will say the same.
That’s a promise.
Much love brother,
Garrett Prettyman
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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