There was a time when your wife’s touch was effortless. She’d run her fingers down your arm mindlessly, play footsie under the table, or instinctively curl up against you in bed. It wasn’t something you had to think about—it just happened. But now? That intimacy feels like a distant memory. Like Blockbuster video stores, it just… disappeared.
You catch yourself wondering how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again. Here’s the hard truth: You’ve probably skipped some critical steps.
The Paradox of Attraction
For men, physical intimacy creates feelings of connection.
For women, connection creates the desire for physical intimacy.
If she’s pulling away, it’s not random.
She’s responding to a smell in the room (and it’s not your cologne).
So, what do you do?
Well, you could watch my 6-minute video below—or keep reading, you overachiever. ?
The Path Back to Passion
Imagine right now you’re in a boat.
You want to head toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island” off on the horizon.
Seems simple—just row straight there, right?
Wrong.
There are two islands you must stop at first:
- Emotional Connection Island – Where she feels seen for who she is, understood, and safe with you.
- Spiritual Connection Island – Where your presence draws her in like a spiritual glow around you. Her emotions don’t knock you off center because you know you will be ok. Your energy feels like Yoda, but with better-looking skin and words that make sense
Learning how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again means making port at these two islands.
Men who try to find and fix what they think (or she thinks) is wrong in the marriage will make the boat go in circles.
That’s because EVERYTHING becomes a “problem” for a lady when we skip those two islands.
Once she experiences your emotional and spiritually grounded energy, those other problems fix themselves.
The Man She Wants to Touch
A spiritually strong man doesn’t need her validation to feel solid.
He doesn’t have to live like a monk or be a perfect husband either.
What he does is stare down failure, rejection—even death—believing he will be okay.
- No matter what she says.
- No matter how she reacts.
- No matter how much she blames, criticizes, or tests.
She can feel your energetic response like a spiritual force field.
If that energy makes her uneasy, it’s against her nature to want to get closer to you—let alone touch you.
Your Wife Can’t Paddle Your Boat for You
She can’t take you to Emotional Island or Spiritual Island—that’s on you.
And the only way to move your boat forward?
Use paddles made of the very thing you want to experience when you get there.
- Want respect? Give respect.
- Want appreciation? Show appreciation.
- Want passion? Live with passion.
If you’re paddling with expectations, resentments, or bitterness, you’re not moving toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island”—you’re paddling away from it.
Don’t Keep Paddling in Circles
I break all of this down in my book so you don’t have to keep guessing (or making things worse).
It’s packed with clear, actionable steps that I wish someone had taught me years ago—preferably before I learned the hard way.
Every man who wants a thriving relationship needs to understand this.
Start paddling in the right direction today.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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