You want to make your wife sweet and affectionate, but can you handle some raw truth about her? There are 3 steps to take this week to turbo-boost your relationship. But first, let’s face the raw truth head-on.
The Raw Truth About Changing Your Wife
Fact check…We can’t change other people.
That’s the raw truth.
For us men, this is hard to swallow.
I’m the oldest of 4 brothers.
As a kid, I was the biggest.
I could make my brothers do whatever I wanted.
Our father could make us do whatever he wanted.
A dominating voice or fear of punishment was all it took.
I developed a subconscious belief that others should bend to a man’s will.
I tried for 10 years to change what I didn’t like about my wife.
Then, in 2018, a mentor showed me a different way.
You see, I had it backward.
You can’t make women sweet and affectionate, but you can be the kind of man women are sweet and affectionate with.
There is what women say they want, and there is what they can’t help but want.
I’ll show you how to activate what she can’t help but want.
If You Can’t Make Your Wife Sweet & Affectionate, Then What Should You Do?
If we get back to the primal roots of what it means to be masculine, 99% of marriage issues clear up on their own.
Attraction is NATURAL and will occur without our intervention if we stay in our masculine frame.
Here are 3 steps to take this week so your wife can experience your attractive, masculine frame.
- Stop applying negativity to things you don’t like
- Celebrate your wife
- Go do things you love
Do the above for the next 7 days and notice what changes.
If you like the changes, keep it up!
Being negative about what you don’t like about your wife has about a 5% success rate.
Yet we men tend to use negativity a lot.
You know who else uses negativity to change what they don’t like?
Children.
Like I always say… Women crave men, not boys.
If someone’s behavior has the power to make us negative, they are our boss.
Women are attracted to a man who can’t be bothered, not a man who makes her the boss of how he reacts.
If we take it personally whenever she does something for herself, we are once again acting like a boy, not a man.
In his article, “No, You Can’t Change A Person” Mark Manson points out how trying to change others is manipulation and a violation of personal boundaries.
Having good intentions won’t make up for the violation our wife feels when we try to coerce or change her behaviors.
To Make Your Wife Sweet & Affectionate, She Needs To Be Celebrated
Your wife’s deepest need is to be seen to her core and praised for who she is.
When you celebrate your wife’s “wins” or fun times she has with her friends, you are showing that you are happy for her and glad she had fun.
I used to keep a mental scorecard of how much attention my wife gave me vs others and would make a fuss if she had fun without me.
Experience has shown me women feel a draw towards those who celebrate them.
She isn’t out to maliciously hurt you, but it can feel like that if you have a scarcity mindset.
An abundance mindset knows that other people having love, attention, money, intimacy, or fun won’t reduce what’s available for us to create.
The Secret To Erotic Intimacy
When you take the initiative to do things you love for your own sake, you lift a huge burden off your wife’s shoulders.
At the core of wild, fun, erotic intimacy is the exchange of energy.
The type of energy doesn’t matter, really.
Feeling very upset with each other can translate into passionate intercourse.
Annoyance can turn to a playful tease until you are both so ravenous you’re ripping each other’s clothes off.
But if you’ve been using the marriage bed as a place to GET validation…
If you’ve been looking to your wife to remove your horniness..
Then your wife will feel drained by the mere thought of having intimacy.
Get out this week and do something you love.
Let it fill you down to your toes.
Swim in it.
Come home with a spark in your eye and let your wife off the hook for making you happy.
Such behaviors tend to have a happy ending.
It’s time to be comfortable in your own skin and let attraction do all the work.
Be the kind of man who can make your wife sweet and affectionate again by celebrating her.
I would love to hear about your personal situation and get to know you.
Schedule your free Masculine Confidence Call and get tailored guidance using the Masculine Confidence Framework™.
Or, check out my free eBook on how to restore passionate intimacy.
Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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