If you want to know how to make your wife sweet and affectionate then listen up. There are 3 steps to take this week to turbo-boost your relationship. Keep reading or watch the video below to learn some raw truth about what your wife needs to change.
The Raw Truth About Changing Your Wife
Fact check…We can’t change other people.
Especially for us men, this is hard to swallow.
I’m the oldest of 4 brothers.
As a kid, I could make my brothers do whatever I wanted since I was bigger than them.
Our father could make us do whatever he wanted with a dominating voice or fear of punishment.
I developed a subconscious belief that others should bend to a man’s will.
I tried for 10 years to change what I didn’t like about my wife.
Then in 2018, a mentor showed me a different way.
You see, I had it backward.
I can’t make women sweet and affectionate, but I can be the kind of man women are sweet and affectionate with.
There is what women say they want and there is what they can’t help but want.
Activating what she can’t help but want is what I’m going to show you how to do.
If You Can’t Make Your Wife Sweet & Affectionate, Then What Should You Do?
If we get back to the primal roots of what it means to be masculine, 99% of marriage issues clear up on their own.
Attraction is NATURAL and will occur without our intervention if we stay in our masculine frame.
Here are 3 steps to take this week so your wife can experience your attractive masculine frame.
- Stop applying negativity to things you don’t like
- Celebrate your wife
- Go do things you love
Do the above for the next 7 days and notice what changes.
If you like the changes, keep it up!
Being negative towards what we don’t like about our wife has about a 5% success rate.
Yet we men tend to use negativity a lot.
Do you know who else is negative towards what they dislike?
Children.
Like I always say… Women crave men, not boys.
If someone’s behavior has the power to make us negative, they are our boss.
Women are attracted to a man who can’t be bothered, not a man who makes her the boss of how he reacts.
If we take it personally whenever she does something for herself, we are once again acting like a boy, not a man.
In his article, “No, You Can’t Change A Person” Mark Manson points out how trying to change others is manipulation and a violation of personal boundaries.
Having good intentions won’t make up for the violation our wife feels when we try to coerce or change her behaviors.
To Make Your Wife Sweet & Affectionate, She Needs To Be Celebrated
To see to her core and praise her for who she is your wife’s deepest need.
When we celebrate our wife’s “wins” or fun times she has with her friends we are showing that we are happy for her and glad she had fun.
I used to keep a mental scorecard of how much attention she gave me vs others and would make a fuss if she had fun without me.
Experience has shown me women feel a draw towards those who celebrate them.
She isn’t out to maliciously hurt us, but it can feel like that if we have a scarcity mindset.
An abundance mindset knows other people having love, attention, money, intimacy, or fun won’t reduce what’s available for us to create.
The Secret To Erotic Intimacy
When we take the initiative to do things we love for our own sake, we lift a huge burden off our wife’s shoulders.
At the core of wild, fun, erotic intimacy is the exchange of energy.
The type of energy doesn’t matter really.
Feeling very upset with each other many times translates into passionate intercourse against the wall.
Or you could be teasing towards each other until you are both so ravenous you’re ripping each other’s clothes off.
But if we’ve been using the marriage bed as a place to GET energy, validation, or affirmation, our wife will feel drained by the mere thought of it.
Get out this week and do something you love.
Let it fill you down to your toes.
Swim in it.
Come home with a spark in your eye and let your wife off the hook for making you happy.
Such behaviors tend to have a happy ending.
I walk men through the steps of my masculine confidence framework so they can be comfortable in their own skin and let attraction do all the work.
You’ll enjoy being the kind of man who can make your wife sweet and affectionate again!
I would love to hear about your personal situation and get to know you.
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Be grounded brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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