This article is about a man I met a few weeks ago. I’m sharing his story because, unlike many men in marriage, he was a husband who died happy. When grieving the loss of something we love, it can feel like there’s only one cure: get back what we lost! Especially when it comes to relationships, we can get very fixated on what seems like it would take our pain away. Let’s look at some key mindsets this man lived by to maintain happiness right to the end.
Life Is About Endings
Every relationship, house, car, pet, experience, and person in our life has an expiration date.
The catch is, we don’t know the dates of when these things will expire.
Sometimes these expirations come from death, sometimes it’s the natural progression of what we loved moving along.
A few weeks ago, I met a man who was keenly aware of his mortality.
Rather than being urgent and complaining though, he had a presence about him that stood out.
This man savored each moment!
He genuinely wanted to enjoy whatever unfolded wherever he was.
I noticed he looked forward to what was next.
His zeal for life was largely due to a scuba diving accident he survived a few years ago.
He had drowned and was resuscitated back to life!
The underwater accident left him with a renewed appreciation for living.
Being A Man Who Enjoys The Now
My evening with my new friend progressed into a steak dinner he had prepared.
Soon he brought out an old bottle of wine.
“This is the last bottle of my favorite wine!”, He said, as he pulled the cork.
He went on to say, “The vineyard discontinued this line so I can’t get any moreâ€.
I challenge his choice.
“Are you sure you want to open it up right now??â€, I replied, feeling a bit of shame for partaking in something so scarce.
“Now’s a great time†he laughed as he filled my glass.
We continued to talk about mountains, trucks, snow plows, and travel.
An hour earlier we had been total strangers.
I was surprised at how many similarities we had!
We talked about the experiences we wanted to create this summer.
His next experience was to go to Mexico and escape the snow for a few weeks.
Dinner ended and we parted ways.
I just discovered he did go to Mexico and died in his sleep while there.
In respect of this man having lived well right to the end, I wanted to share his story.
The Mindset Of A Husband Who Died Happy
In three generations nobody will know our name.
Nobody will know what others thought of us.
Nobody will care how scared we were or how safe we played life.
It all ends.
So why do we care so much now??
That’s the challenge…
To have a mindset of self-trust and live life on our terms no matter what others think of us.
I’ll never forget the shift in my thinking after reading the article, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” By New York Times best seller, Mark Manson.
The picture towards the top of his article shows a guy floating away on balloons in the face of onlookers.
The caption says, “Everyone Just Wants To Be Liked And Accepted… Except for Tim…Tim Doesn’t Give A F*ck.”
Two Distinct Traits Of A Husband Who Died Happy
1. He showed up to each daily experience like it was his last, seeing himself as fortunate since he had woken up that day!
2. He looked forward. This man spoke like he had 30 more years to go! He talked about property he would buy, trails he would explore, and places he would see.
Right now, you’re creating tomorrow’s memories.
Letting go of what’s ended is necessary to keep creating happiness right to the end.
This means no longer chasing our walkway wife or trying to force connection when it isn’t wanted.
We’re only on this blob of dirt for a few years and then we’re gone.
Nobody owes us anything (not even our wife!).
A life of regret or happiness isn’t created by what others are doing, it’s created by who we decided to be.
Take that trip.
Speak your truth.
Love those you love.
Be who you would be if this was your last day to live.
Getting To The Bottom Of Why Your Situation Feels Bleak
In my coaching, I take guys through a transformation to confidence.
Emerging from my Masculine Confidence Framework, you become ok when relationships expire and seasons in life change.
Fill out my “Get Grounded Now†consultation form if you would like to stop living as a victim and start living life on your terms.
Men who go through my masculine confidence framework get to experience an exciting, erotic, fulfilling new way of living!
The man I met was a husband who died happy in spite of hardship.
If he can do it, so can you and I.
Keep pressing on brother,
Garrett Prettyman
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Stay grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman
Founder of the Masculine Confidence Framework™
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