The friend zone trap sucks. Your wife or girlfriend is someone you feel passion for. You want to make love and be intimate with her. But once you land in her friend zone, it’s VERY difficult to get out. Friends don’t hold hands, kiss, make love, or do naughty things in the kitchen. There are a few behaviors that put you in the friend zone nearly every time. I’ll share them so you can avoid them at all costs.
Friend Zone Trap #1: “Guy Drama”
Do you get uncomfortable about her guy friends?
Do you feel insecure when she has a Hollywood crush?
When her co-worker hits on her, do you complain?
Or do you complain passively by saying, “It’s not you I don’t trust baby, it’s him.”
That shit is “guy drama”.
Women get the “ick” from men who bring that insecurity to the room.
What she knows deep down is that her actions are not making you insecure; you’re just insecure.
She’s not wrong.
Your triggers reveal what insecurities you have.
Feminine is attracted to safe, secure, strong, confident energy.
A man who thinks of himself as a prize with nothing to prove.
I know several ladies who have friend-zoned men over this.
It’s her biological response to interpret insecurity as danger.
That sense of danger keeps her legs closed.
Friend Zone Trap #2: “Criticizing Her”
During the dating season, criticism can be fun and playful.
It might even turn her on.
But it gets real old for her in a long-term relationship.
I know how good it feels to point out what you don’t like about your partner.
Heck, when my employees didn’t pull their weight or screwed something up, pointing out where they messed up seemed to stop poor practice in its tracks.
But that approach doesn’t work with someone you want to be sexually intimate with year after year.
Your wife or girlfriend’s sexual attraction is linked to how well you show acceptance, empathy, and love for who she is when set FREE.
Feminine craves to be seen for who she is and loved anyway.
It might feel good to chew her out for being lazy.
Telling her she’s overreacting and being crazy like her mom can feel good in the moment, too.
But doing so will forfeit her desire to kiss or cuddle you that night.
You’ll win the battle but lose the war.
A woman’s messiness cleans itself up when you look beyond it and praise what you love about her instead.
Friend Zone Trap #3: “Acting Like Her Friend”
This one is so obvious, it’s easily overlooked.
Friends will:
- Hang out mindlessly for hours
- Text about every little thing
- Overshare
- Are on speed dial for helping out
- Leave no topic unexplored
- Stay stuck side by side
The opposite of the friend zone is the lover zone.
Lovers will:
- Have a sense of unexplored mystery about them
- Step inside the other’s personal space and be playful in it
- Use polarity to seduce the other into surrender
- Allow tension to build between them and then release the tension through physical touch
- Get their “friendship” needs met outside the relationship
Your lover is the woman you get naked and give orgasms to, which is a very unique role.
How you behave around her should be very different than anyone else in your life.
It’s almost impossible to stop acting like her friend if you don’t have friends.
Get out and meet new people.
Let your girl off the hook for needing to meet your friendship needs.
How To Keep Your Relationship In The Lover Zone
Pulling back from being her friend is uncomfortable.
That discomfort keeps guys stuck.
He’s afraid that if he’s not by her side, some other guy will be.
He acts like her girlfriend with a beard, willing to settle for scraps of her attention.
That underlying fear and discomfort is what needs to be addressed.
She smells it all over you.
It makes her keep you in the friend zone so she doesn’t have to manage your feelings for you.
Want rock-solid inner confidence so you stop landing in her friend zone?
Reach out.
