Maybe you’ve been watching videos and trying new things but your marriage isn’t turning around. This post takes the spotlight off the marriage so you can understand who a man must become before his marriage can change for the better.
Most men I work with are brilliant, hard-working guys.
Men who are good at making money, running a business, and competent at problem-solving.
How we act when we’re needy, reactive, and jealous isn’t attractive.
But my clients who succeed in saving their marriages? They’re the ones who find their inner confidence, allowing their presence to feel unshakable.
You can SAY all the right things.
DO all the right things.
But if your presence feels needy or unsure, your wife’s heart will close.
All my clients who saved their marriage know this to be true: You can say and do all the wrong things…But if your presence is solid, clear, and unrattled, your wife will open her heart to you.
You’re attracted to the female form…the curves…the scent… that can’t be helped.
She can’t help but be attracted to the unrattled man.
So stop trying to talk your marriage back together.
Stop trying to do more to convince her of your value.
Relax into knowing you got this and have nothing to prove.
Get on with livin’ and let your presence be undivided and unshook around her.
Your Next Step If Your Marriage Isn’t Turning Around
If your wife can pull your strings and push your buttons, her attraction and respect will fade.
Confidence isn’t found by learning how to numb yourself.
That’s just being an emotional zombie.
Inner security isn’t about avoiding negative feelings (like anger or rejection).
Mature masculine strength is about breathing through strong feelings without letting them dictate your choices.
When you breathe through negative feelings, there is always clarity, strength, and calm on the other side.
Knowing how to polarize your wife can dramatically improve your sex life. Many men have destroyed attraction with their wife or girlfriend by trying to make her happy. But organic attraction? It comes from polarity. This article gives two examples of how to polarize your wife without coming off like an asshole.
How To Polarize Women (The Secret To Attraction)
What Is Polarity?
If your marriage is sexless or the passion has faded, a lack of healthy polarity is many times at fault.
Polarity creates heat, a spark, and energy.
Walking across carpet charges you with positive ions.
Touch something that grounds you, and the charge is released with a SPARK.
Masculine is polarizing to feminine.
Have you ever put batteries into a flashlight backward?
The flashlight didn’t work, did it…
Installing flashlight batteries backward joins negative/negative and positive/positive, which equals no opposing forces of polarity.
Have you ever spent a day trying to fix the taillights on a trailer?
90% of trailer light issues are because the trailer lost GROUNDING to the truck.
Lights only work when they’re grounded!
Your wife’s attraction won’t be hot if you’re not her grounding rod.
By taking responsibility for your emotions (while letting her have her own), you’re remaining in your own “pole” – like a grounding rod.
Polarity is easy to understand when you see it in the context of political or egalitarian views.
Polarity isn’t about being disagreeable or stubborn.
It’s about staying relaxed in your truth, zone, frame, or pole, regardless of how others feel about it.
It’s the opposite of being a people pleaser or avoiding conflict.
How To Polarize Your Wife Again, Again, and Again
Even if you put batteries in a flashlight correctly, they lose charge over time.
For your wife, attraction is not a one-and-done event!
Each morning, she starts her day like a closed flower.
A clean slate.
A woman who is turned “off” in the sex department.
Her environment needs to feel safe, trustable, and relaxing for her to “bloom open” to feeling sexual and affectionate.
There are two thingswomen need to feel the passionate spark of polarity:
1. She needs to feel safe. She feels safe when you are secure, consistent, and relaxed with her emotions.
If you raise your voice, defend your intentions, or dismiss how she’s feeling as irrational,you won’t feel safe to her.
Being her calm grounding rod when she spins out is how she feels polarity.
There’s another kind of polarity she feels too…
2.She needs to embody a range of emotions. A woman feels fully “opened” when she feels both positive AND negative emotions within herself.
A polarizing male is a man who evokesboth positive emotions (like happiness,joy, excitement) AND negative emotions (like fear, sadness, and anxiety) from women
Knowing how to polarize your wife, again and again, means you know how to keep pushing the edge where you’re playing it safe.
Women get bored when everything is smooth sailing.
She wants to experience feelings that are new and fresh.
Why again and again?
For the same reason you want sex again and again.
How To Polarize Your Wife With Your Vibe
What I’m about to share can blow up in your face.
The actions you’re about to read are only effective for a man who has massive amounts of self-confidence, self-security, and is emotionally steady.
This is because your TONE, VIBE, and CHARISMA do all the polarizing, not the specific actions or words below.
If you’re not in a secure, happy place right now, tuck the knowledge you’re about to read away for future use.
After you’ve done more personal development around your sense of well-being, you can put these tips into practice.
In a dating scenario, start polarizing your woman by the end of the first date (or for sure by the 2nd).
You do this by flat-out disagreeing with something she says.
You don’t have to be a dick about it.
Simply state, “I don’t agree with you on that”.
In a long-term relationship, a neg like, “That dress does not look good on you babe, please go change” would be polarizing.
You’re showing STRENGTH by not losing your cool or trying to please her.
Think of polarizing like seasoning on a steak… too much ruins it!
You only need to polarize your wife once a month or so to keep things spicy.
Don’t even put it on the calendar!
The point is to have the kind of character that genuinely isn’t afraid of her emotions.
Creating Attractive Polarity
Here’s a paradox: you can’t attract women.
Say what??
Here’s why: She’s already into you (or not).
You POLARIZE women so those who are NOT attracted leave.
If a woman is not attracted to you, there’s nothing you can do to change that.
But if you’re like I was, you know deep down the kind of man you’ve been the last few years isn’t the real you.
Use every moment alone with her to try to “turn her on”
Does that sounds like you?
Then it’s time to get back to being your free, confident, happy self and discover if she’s attracted to that guy!
The crux of being a polarizing male is this: You show no fear of upsetting your partner.
BUT.
Yes, there’s a big BUT lol…
BUT, many men are already upsetting their wives, and this is NOT polarizing her.
There’s a big difference between a secure, confident, edgy man who isn’t afraid of his wife’s emotions vs a needy, desperate, insecure man who’s pissing his wife off.
My masculine confidence framework rewires your brain so you can consistently respond to chaotic feminine energy with a slight smile on your face.
For years, I tried to make women happy, and it left me in the friend zone with girls I loved and even a marriage that turned sexless.
It wasn’t until I let women off the hook for how I feel and faced my fear, insecurity, and sexual neediness that things turned around for me.
Ready to get off the bench and start making permanent changes to your masculine confidence and frame?
The men in my coaching programs blow me away with the progress they make!
Yesterday I was chatting with a client who’s nearing the end of my program.
He’s relaxed, thinking clearly, has a big grin on his face, and loves the romance he’s brought back into his life.
Your future is not dependent on what women think of you!
A switch that flipped for this man was taking responsibility to show himself the love he had been expecting from his wife for so many years.
He started making choices for his own well-being.
Women can’t help but be attracted to a man living life on his terms!
I’ll help you clarify those terms.
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