Let’s talk about what it really takes to break porn addiction. This isn’t about making you feel bad.
It’s not about what’s right or wrong. It’s about not letting anything have control over you.
Why I Decided To Break My Porn Addiction
For years, I leaned on porn like a crutch.
I told myself I wasn’t addicted.
Quitting anytime seemed like it would be easy enough.
Then I tried to stop, and boy was I wrong.
I realized porn wasn’t a pastime for me, it had become an addiction.
When my marriage fell apart, I finally got tired of giving my energy to images and videos of women who didn’t love me.
I wanted something REAL.
A REAL girl, dripping with desire, craving my touch, and caring about me.
I realized if I wanted real intimacy in my life, I needed to break my porn addiction since those girls were just actors.
The truth is, if we say “yes” to fake lovers, by default, we’re saying “no” to real lovers.
Porn didn’t just kill my time, it drained my confidence to look my wife in the eye with nothing to hide.
It softened my leadership, fearful I would be found out.
It disconnected me from my partner by making me defensive about my integrity.
These behaviors destroyed our sex life.
Like a bottomless pit that takes and never gives back, porn left me drained of my vitality.
It rewired my brain to think I had created a real, loving connection in my life when I hadn’t created one at all.
If you want to break porn addiction, here’s what worked for me:
1: I Changed What Feeling Horny Means To Me
Feeling horny isn’t a problem.
You’re supposed to feel attracted to naked women and erotic play.
You are not broken for waking up with a raging hard-on.
These are not things to suppress or make your wife’s responsibility to manage!
That’s what I had to change.
To me, feeling horny meant my wife needed to do her job and have sex with me.
Old me thought, “I need to release this tension.”
New me? “This tension is fuel to create, build, and lead.”
That mindset shift alone made me want to hold my power and love what sexual tension feels like in my body.
I don’t need anyone to “take care” of my horniness.
I learned to be ok feeling horny, knowing that energy makes me energized to get a lot of shit done.
2: I Defined My Values In Writing
Not just in my head. On paper.
“I’m a man who only gives his amazing sexuality to real women, with real emotions, real problems, real connection.”
That became my filter.
Not shame. Not fear. Not web browser filters.
Just a HIGHER standard for what I give my amazing sexuality to.
Fake cam girls aren’t good enough.
A lady I’ll never meet or have a real connection with is a non-option.
I started seeing myself as a PRIZE not available to the lowest bidder.
I started valuing REAL intimacy over FAKE intimacy and seeing MYSELF as the creator of it.
3: I Stopped Outsourcing My Power
Accountability partners, app blockers, guilt trips, praying…
They never helped me break porn addiction.
Why?
Because they relied on things OUTSIDE me for accountability.
What finally worked?
Holding myself to my own INTERNAL standards…even when no one was watching.
Living to my INTERNAL standards produced feelings of self-respect, integrity, and confidence.
I have to wake up with myself for the rest of my life.
I love being able to look at myself in the mirror with pride.
I value this feeling MORE than then the “quick fix” porn offered.
Until you find something you value MORE than what porn offers, its chains will hold you prisoner.
That’s my challenge for you.
What will you not settle for less than?
4: I Transmuted My Energy
I didn’t try to shut off my sex drive to break porn addiction.
I redirected it into my relationships, my work, my health, my mission.
Porn was a dead-end.
Real life? Real connection? Real creation?
That takes all the balls I’ve got.
The feeling of intense, raging horniness without release became something I looked forward to.
It’s what gave me the stamina to listen to my partner when she needed to talk on and on.
I remind myself, “This is what it feels like when I’m powerful enough to create something I never otherwise would have had the stamina to create.”
I practice breathing up the front of my body, pulling that power away from my balls and into my eyes and mind.
It gives me a mental edge.
It makes my face bright and potent.
Ladies are drawn to my pheromones.
I have the energy for adventure, and to stay present when my partner needs me to be her rock.
If you want MORE money, MORE love, MORE freedom, you can’t make sexually sedated, limp-dick efforts.
You have to face whatever terrifies you the most.
The thing that’s blocking your cash flow or best life.
If you are going to bed with blue balls, then you are not facing big enough problems during the day that use your energy up.
What You Can Do Next If You Want To Break Porn Addiction
If trying to break porn addiction is stealing your energy, your focus, your fire…
You don’t need more shame or regret.
It’s 100% possible to kiss porn goodbye and become a man you’re proud of.
Not because someone told you to.
But because you finally chose to.
The masculine confidence framework I take men through gets you in touch with your inner power.
Until you stop letting things outside you control you, you’ll keep trying to shut off the very thing you need to sit with.
You’ll keep holding things outside you (like your wife) responsible for the tension in your body.
This is YOUR tension, YOUR body.
Being able to sit with tension is how great men move through life, creating “impossible” things.
Would you like to be that kind of man?
