Masculine Confidence Framework

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How To Get Out Of Her Friend Zone Trap
The friend zone trap sucks. Your wife or girlfriend is someone you feel passion for. You want to make love and be intimate with her. But once you land in her friend zone, it’s VERY difficult to get out. Friends don’t hold hands, kiss, make love, or do naughty things in the kitchen. There are a few behaviors that put you in the friend zone nearly every time. I’ll share them so you can avoid them at all costs.

Friend Zone Trap #1: “Guy Drama”

Do you get uncomfortable about her guy friends?

Do you feel insecure when she has a Hollywood crush?

When her co-worker hits on her, do you complain?

Or do you complain passively by saying, “It’s not you I don’t trust baby, it’s him.”

That shit is “guy drama”.

Women get the “ick” from men who bring that insecurity to the room.

What she knows deep down is that her actions are not making you insecure; you’re just insecure.

She’s not wrong.

Your triggers reveal what insecurities you have.

Feminine is attracted to safe, secure, strong, confident energy.

A man who thinks of himself as a prize with nothing to prove.

I know several ladies who have friend-zoned men over this.

It’s her biological response to interpret insecurity as danger.

That sense of danger keeps her legs closed.

Friend Zone Trap #2: “Criticizing Her”

During the dating season, criticism can be fun and playful.

It might even turn her on.

But it gets real old for her in a long-term relationship.

I know how good it feels to point out what you don’t like about your partner.

Heck, when my employees didn’t pull their weight or screwed something up, pointing out where they messed up seemed to stop poor practice in its tracks.

But that approach doesn’t work with someone you want to be sexually intimate with year after year.

Your wife or girlfriend’s sexual attraction is linked to how well you show acceptance, empathy, and love for who she is when set FREE.

Feminine craves to be seen for who she is and loved anyway.

It might feel good to chew her out for being lazy.

Telling her she’s overreacting and being crazy like her mom can feel good in the moment, too.

But doing so will forfeit her desire to kiss or cuddle you that night.

You’ll win the battle but lose the war.

A woman’s messiness cleans itself up when you look beyond it and praise what you love about her instead.

Friend Zone Trap #3: “Acting Like Her Friend”

This one is so obvious, it’s easily overlooked.

Friends will:
- Hang out mindlessly for hours
- Text about every little thing
- Overshare
- Are on speed dial for helping out
- Leave no topic unexplored
- Stay stuck side by side
The opposite of the friend zone is the lover zone.

Lovers will:
- Have a sense of unexplored mystery about them
- Step inside the other’s personal space and be playful in it
- Use polarity to seduce the other into surrender
- Allow tension to build between them and then release the tension through physical touch
- Get their “friendship” needs met outside the relationship
Your lover is the woman you get naked and give orgasms to, which is a very unique role.

How you behave around her should be very different than anyone else in your life.

It’s almost impossible to stop acting like her friend if you don’t have friends.

Get out and meet new people.

Let your girl off the hook for needing to meet your friendship needs.

How To Keep Your Relationship In The Lover Zone

Pulling back from being her friend is uncomfortable.

That discomfort keeps guys stuck.

He’s afraid that if he’s not by her side, some other guy will be.

He acts like her girlfriend with a beard, willing to settle for scraps of her attention.

That underlying fear and discomfort is what needs to be addressed.

She smells it all over you.

It makes her keep you in the friend zone so she doesn’t have to manage your feelings for you.

Want rock-solid inner confidence so you stop landing in her friend zone?

Reach out.
July 31, 2025
Every Woman’s “Wet Dream” (And How to Become It)

Being in every woman’s “wet dream” might sound far-fetched.

Being in her positive thoughts at all might be a long shot from where you are right now.

One could even argue women don’t have “wet dreams”…

But here’s what we do know: We crave our woman’s adoration.

Her affection can erase the worst day.

Her curves, her scent, the way she melts into us… It makes the stress of life disappear!

If we depend on her sweetness to feel whole, we fall apart when she can’t give it.

That’s where a lot of men find themselves.

He’s tasted her warmth.

Now he’s desperate for it to stay on repeat.

Scratch that…He NEEDS it to.

Every woman’s “wet dream” is about a specific kind of man.

It’s not the desperate man.

Let me show you who he is.

Loving Her Through Her Pain

A woman can put on a soft, affectionate mask—but inside, she’s feeling everything.

She feels highs, lows, in-betweens—all of it.

And not just once in a while…Every day.

This doesn’t mean she’s broken.

It means she’s feminine.

She’s designed by nature to experience life on full volume.

Most women don’t love this about themselves.

They know when they’re being moody or dramatic, but they feel powerless to stop it.

When we react or try to fix her, she feels judged for something she can’t change—Like she’s drowning, and we’re mad at her for not having gills.

We think, “If I can set my feelings aside and be rational, why can’t she?”

But expecting her to be a woman with a beard doesn’t work.

You have to see the girl behind the pain, and love that girl through it.

She feels your love when you believe in who she is and don’t take the bait when she’s being emotional.

Being the Man in Every Woman’s “Wet Dream”

Every woman dreams of a man who accepts her as she is.

Not because she’s easy to love, but because he doesn’t need her to be anything else.

When we try to control her out of our own insecurity, the relationship starts to feel like a cage.

How many times have you criticized what you didn’t like, Hoping she’d go back to being nurturing, sweet, and sexy?

It doesn’t work.

Control kills connection.

Judgment kills desire.

If you feel the need to explain yourself, If you’re trying to make her see your side—You’re not loving her through the pain. You’re reacting to it.

You don’t need to fix her.

You don’t need to match her mood.

Let her words roll off you like water off a duck’s back.

See the uniqueness in her struggle.

If her being out of sorts makes you annoyed, that’s YOUR stuff you’re feeling, not hers.

How to Make Her Wet For You

The process is simple.

Masculine energy makes women soft.

Feminine energy makes men erect.

The only way you can remain in your masculine energy around your wife is to not look to things outside you for validation.

That’s what I help men do.

I help you forge an internal script you use to go through life.

This script is your instruction manual for whatever life tosses your way, even your wife’s feelings!

May 20, 2025
This Secretly Turns Her On (But She’ll Never Admit It)

What secretly turns her on isn’t flowers, date nights, or compliance. It’s something deeper, something EMOTIONALLY dynamic.

And if you’re not giving it to her? Her heart will drift.

Most men are blindsided when their wife suddenly says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”

And understandably so.

There were no screaming matches.

No big fights.

No obvious red flags.

Everything seemed… fine.

“Fine” is a red flag.

The feminine experience is always full of emotions.

A woman who feels connected to you will share her full range of feelings with you.

But if you feel unsafe, she will close off.

Her removal of emotions can feel like calm waters, but it’s the red flag to watch out for.

What Secretly Turns Her On: Emotional Forplay

We men think of foreplay as sexual touch.

For women, foreplay happens emotionally.

She feels erotic tease from playful tension, not avoiding her emotions.

She’s turned on by strength, not soft appeasement.

She wants a man who can handle her without going emotionally limp.

She tests constantly.

Not out of cruelty, but from a deep, unconscious need to know:“Is this man grounded? Can he handle me? Can he hold me emotionally without going soft?”

It might come out as a complaint or a mood swing, but it’s a form of emotional foreplay.

When You’re Too Nice, It Turns Her Off

If she senses that you adjust everything to please her…

If your tone rises and falls based on her tone…

If you’re constantly sacrificing your needs to avoid conflict…

Or carefully choosing your words to not rock the boat…

You’re making love to her with a limb emotional noodle.

The feminine cannot fully trust or be attracted to an emotional noodle softer than hers.

Emotional Tussle Is the Foreplay She Needs

Men get turned on by visual and physical beauty.

Women? They’re turned on by having an emotional tussle.

When she can push up against you emotionally and feel that you’re solid, unshakable, present, and leading with clarity it sparks something deep.

It’s a form of seduction.

You are emotionally erect, penetrating through her feelings with calm, powerful direction.

That’s the foreplay her nervous system is dying for.

Not good-boy behaviors.

Not reactive asshole moves.

Just a man who stays in his own emotional lane.

What Secretly Turns Her On: A Man Rooted in His Mission

She lives in the now. Emotionally.

You, as the man, must live from the future you’re building.

What does that mean?

Even if right now she’s cold, distant, or closed off, you don’t let that define you.

You show up as the man who already lives in the amazing future you’re committed to.

Adventure. Passion. Freedom. Stability.

Whatever that vision is… Behave like it’s yours.

Embody it. Speak it. Prophesy it into the relationship by selling the vision.

This is how you create intimacy in an otherwise mundane marriage.

Ready to Become That Man?

This is the work I do with men every day.

Whether you want to save your marriage or attract real connection in your dating life, it starts with you being the grounded, calm, masculine leader she can feel in your tone and vibe.

May 1, 2025
If Your Marriage Is Dying, Don’t Make These 4 Mistakes

If your marriage is dying, it’s easy to panic.

You notice her pulling away.

She’s spending more time with friends.

She’s texting that one guy you’ve never felt great about.

Your efforts to reconnect are met with coldness or distance.

I’ve been there and I’ve helped hundreds of men navigate this exact stage.

And while you can’t control her choices, you can avoid the 4 mistakes that push your wife further out the door.

Mistake #1 Trying to Romance Her When the Marriage Is Dying

It’s tempting to prove your love: flowers, date nights, handwritten notes, extra help around the house.

Sure, there was a time when she would have loved those things.

But here’s the truth: if the marriage is dying, this only smothers what little spark is left.

She’s not questioning your love for her.

She’s questioning whether she still loves you.

At this point, your romantic gestures feel more like pressure than passion.

Mistake #2 Reigniting Old Memories

Taking her back to the spot where you first kissed or playing your wedding song might feel like a good idea but it just reminds her of what’s been lost.

You can’t relive the past expecting the future to be different.

If you restore what you had, you’ll end up here again.

You need a NEW relationship with your wife, one that starts with a NEW version of you.

Mistake #3 Thinking One Big Talk Can Save a Dying Marriage

Having that one “deep talk” where you pour your heart out and list all the reasons you can fix this won’t change the trajectory.

Change takes time.

Trust and attraction don’t come from words, they come from your energy and consistency.

When the marriage is dying, long emotional talks often drain her energy and make her fee trapped, not more connected.

Mistake #4 Becoming Her Idealized Version of You

You probably know every complaint she’s ever had about you.

And when things get rough, it’s easy to think that if you just become the man she says she wants, she’ll stay.

But chasing that ideal reverses polarity and destroys her natural attraction.

Real masculine energy comes from being you, grounded and confident, not an avatar built to please her.

She can’t help being attracted to your masculine energy just as you can’t help being attracted to her feminine energy.

What You Can Do Right Now

Pause the panic.

Remove all forms of pressure by giving her emotional space.

Stop trying to save the marriage through desperate effort.

Instead, focus on becoming the strongest, clearest version of yourself, even if your marriage is dying.

That shift alone creates the space where organic attraction can grow.

Not from pressure.

Not from fear.

But from your example of what an amazing, happy life looks like.

Want help becoming that man?

April 23, 2025
How To Make Her Fingers Want To Trace Your Skin Again
There was a time when your wife’s touch was effortless. She’d run her fingers down your arm mindlessly, play footsie under the table, or instinctively curl up against you in bed. It wasn’t something you had to think about—it just happened. But now? That intimacy feels like a distant memory. Like Blockbuster video stores, it just… disappeared.

You catch yourself wondering how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again. Here’s the hard truth: You’ve probably skipped some critical steps.

The Paradox of Attraction

For men, physical intimacy creates feelings of connection.

For women, connection creates the desire for physical intimacy.

If she’s pulling away, it’s not random.

She’s responding to a smell in the room (and it’s not your cologne).

So, what do you do?

Well, you could watch my 6-minute video below—or keep reading, you overachiever. ?

The Path Back to Passion

Imagine right now you’re in a boat.

You want to head toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island” off on the horizon.

Seems simple—just row straight there, right?

Wrong.

There are two islands you must stop at first:
- Emotional Connection Island – Where she feels seen for who she is, understood, and safe with you.
- Spiritual Connection Island – Where your presence draws her in like a spiritual glow around you. Her emotions don’t knock you off center because you know you will be ok. Your energy feels like Yoda, but with better-looking skin and words that make sense
Learning how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again means making port at these two islands.

Men who try to find and fix what they think (or she thinks) is wrong in the marriage will make the boat go in circles.

That’s because EVERYTHING becomes a “problem” for a lady when we skip those two islands.

Once she experiences your emotional and spiritually grounded energy, those other problems fix themselves.

The Man She Wants to Touch

A spiritually strong man doesn’t need her validation to feel solid.

He doesn’t have to live like a monk or be a perfect husband either.

What he does is stare down failure, rejection—even death—believing he will be okay.
- No matter what she says.
- No matter how she reacts.
- No matter how much she blames, criticizes, or tests.
She can feel your energetic response like a spiritual force field.

If that energy makes her uneasy, it’s against her nature to want to get closer to you—let alone touch you.

Your Wife Can’t Paddle Your Boat for You

She can’t take you to Emotional Island or Spiritual Island—that’s on you.

And the only way to move your boat forward?

Use paddles made of the very thing you want to experience when you get there.
- Want respect? Give respect.
- Want appreciation? Show appreciation.
- Want passion? Live with passion.
If you’re paddling with expectations, resentments, or bitterness, you’re not moving toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island”—you’re paddling away from it.

Don’t Keep Paddling in Circles

I break all of this down in my book so you don’t have to keep guessing (or making things worse).

It’s packed with clear, actionable steps that I wish someone had taught me years ago—preferably before I learned the hard way.

Every man who wants a thriving relationship needs to understand this.

? Grab your copy here

Start paddling in the right direction today.

Stay grounded, brother.

Garrett Prettyman
February 21, 2025
Why Are Some Men So Good With Women?

Seduction. Desire. Play.

Let’s be real—we love to be swept off our feet by a lover.

There’s nothing like a woman so stunning she stops you in your tracks.

And sure, we all know true beauty is on the inside, but let’s not pretend we don’t appreciate it when it’s on the outside too.

Here’s the thing—feminine women feel the same pull.

Only for them, it’s not about looks.

They notice:

? Strength

? Self-confidence

? Momentum/Leadership

That’s what draws her in.

That’s what keeps her interested.

And if your Relationship is struggling, it’s time to take a good hard look in the mirror.

The Hard Truth About Attraction in a Strained Relationship

It’s easy to let yourself go once you’re married.

You settle into routines.

You get comfortable.

You assume she’ll always be there.

And then one day… she isn’t.

Now, let’s be clear—getting a fresh haircut or dropping 20 pounds won’t save your marriage.

But let’s use some common sense—if you care about your house, you paint it and fix the roof when it leaks.

Your body, your presence, your energy? Same thing.

Neglect yourself, and you send a message—you’re not serious about LIVING.

And if you’re not serious about living, why should she be excited to live it with you?

This is where most men go wrong.

They wonder, Why are some men so good with women?—and assume it’s about tricks, gimmicks, or even luck.

But the truth is much simpler.

It’s about presence.

It’s about energy.

It’s about being a man who lives with purpose rather than looking to others to give him those things.

The Inside & Outside Game of Seduction

In the pickup world, they call haircuts, jawlines, and money “Outside Game.”

It’s what turns heads.

It can attract women fast, but like a beautiful storefront with nothing inside, if there’s no substance, she’ll walk right out the back door.

That’s where Inside Game comes in.

Inside Game is about who you are when it counts:

? How you hold yourself when things get tense

? Your tone when she pushes back

? The way you look at her when she’s in her own storm

That’s when she feels who you really are.

And if what she feels isn’t grounded, strong, and certain—she pulls away.

It’s why some men seem to have natural success with women while others struggle.

They embody strength and certainty—not to seduce, but as a way of being true to themselves.

Your Wife Wants to Be Seduced—Even Now

Yes, even now.

She wants to be romanced.

She wants to be wooed.

She wants to feel something real.

Because let’s be honest—the daily grind? It’s the exact opposite of seduction.

Even one of the best pickup artists of all time, stage-named “Mystery,” said married women were his easiest targets.

Why?

Because they were starving for attention, excitement, and connection.

Can you blame them?

We’re all racing toward the grave.

How many truly great memories are you going to make before you get there?

Women seem to be most aware of this.

She won’t waste her time on a sinking ship.

And if you’re wondering, Why are some men so good with women?, here’s your answer: They live their PURPOSE from the INSIDE-OUT.

How You Can Become A Purpose Filled Man

I know a man is living from the OUTSIDE-In when he:

? Complains

? Blames others

? Seeks validation

Here’s the truth—when your purpose and mission are clear, you should walk, talk, and behave like a man who loves every damn minute of it.

And that’s all any woman truly dreams of feeling from her man.

If you’re ready to do what it takes to bring that energy back—Then let’s talk.

Book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation, and I’ll get you clear on your next move.

Stay grounded, brother.

—Garrett Prettyman

February 7, 2025