Tag: men’s coaching

  • 5-Minute Quickie Your Wife Secretly Wants

    5-Minute Quickie Your Wife Secretly Wants

    Brother, let’s be honest…

    If your wife gave you a five-minute quickie after lunch today, it would probably change your day, right?

    It’s pretty crazy how only 5 minutes of physical intimacy can brighten a man’s mood!

    Well, five minutes of your potent, masculine presence can change her world just as much.

    When your presence is undistracted, unhurried, and all-in, it rocks her world.

    It’s something she craves more than gifts, words, or advice.

    It’s what makes her feel seen, safe, and desired.

    And she only needs 5 minutes.

    So tonight, when you get home, try this:

    • Sit with her.
    • Face her fully.
    • Stay relaxed.
    • Be genuinely curious.
    • Don’t fix. Don’t analyze. Don’t rush.

    After five minutes, you’re done.

    Move on with your night.

    This was just one pit stop along your awesome evening you have planned for yourself.

    I’ve never seen an unhappy man save his marriage.

    Staying connected to your own happiness should be your primary focus, not the results of the 5-minute quickie you just gave her.

    What To Do If She’s Still Unhappy After

    You can’t fix another person’s unhappiness.

    You can only show them by example how to have a happy life.

    Until you can be okay right where you are, as things are, you’re not in a position to lead the relationship anywhere better.

    Feelings can be like clouds.

    They block the sun from shining.

    So much so, we can start to believe the sun will never shine again.

    But this belief doesn’t mean the sun no longer exists.

    Your inner well-being is always alive, even when your feelings cloud it over.

    A man needs FAITH (even if it’s as small as a grain of mustard seed) that his wellbeing is still alive if he is to move mountains in his life on cloudy days.

    If you’re ready to learn how to access that calm, confident center that leads naturally and magnetically, then reach out.

  • If I Give Her Space, Won’t We Drift Apart?

    If I Give Her Space, Won’t We Drift Apart?

    If your wife asks you to give her space, it didn’t come out of nowhere. By the time she gets to that point, she’s already been emotionally detaching for months—maybe even years. And most men don’t realize it until it’s too late.

    Today, we’re going deeper into the three stages of detachment a woman goes through before she ends a relationship.

    If you don’t catch it early, you’ll find yourself blindsided when she finally says, “I need space.”

    I’m not talking about the kind of “space” where she’s just tired tonight, I’m talking about when she’s considering divorce.

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    1. Emotional Detachment

    This is the first and most subtle stage—and also the easiest to miss.

    Emotional detachment begins when she stops feeling seen, heard, or valued in the relationship.

    Her emotional needs aren’t being met, and over time, her heart starts to close off.

    This doesn’t happen overnight.

    She used to share her thoughts, feelings, and worries with you, but now? She keeps them to herself.

    Bringing up the little things no longer happens because she’s already convinced herself you won’t understand.

    At this stage, you might notice:

    • She’s less engaged in conversations.
    • She stops initiating affection or spending quality time.
    • She’s quick to get irritated over small things.
    • She begins focusing more on her friends, work, or hobbies—anything but you.

    2. Spiritual Detachment

    Once she emotionally detaches, she starts seeing a future without you.

    This is when she stops believing in “us.”

    Women stay in relationships when they feel a deep sense of trust and emotional safety—not just physically, but spiritually.

    When that’s gone, she starts to imagine what life would be like without you.

    She stops picturing you in her future and instead, envisions her life alone or with someone who actually listens when she talks about her day.

    Signs of spiritual detachment include:

    • She stops making long-term plans with you.
    • She avoids deep conversations about the future.
    • She doesn’t care to argue anymore—because she’s already mentally checking out.
    • She’s indifferent to your efforts to “fix” things.

    3. Physical Detachment

    By the time she physically detaches, she’s already gone in her mind.

    Her body follows what her heart has been feeling for months or years.

    This is when she stops wanting to be touched, avoids intimacy, and might even move into another room—or out of the house entirely.

    At this stage, if you try to force closeness, it only reinforces her belief that you don’t understand her.

    She sees it as pressure, not love—kind of like when a salesman follows you around a store even after you’ve said, “I’m just looking.”

    What physical detachment looks like:

    • She stops wanting to be intimate or withdraws from sex.
    • She recoils from physical touch.
    • She prefers to be alone rather than spend time together.
    • She starts sleeping separately—or expresses a desire to move out.

    Don’t Fear Drifting Apart— Give Her Space

    Most men react to their wife’s withdrawal by chasing her harder.

    They try to fix things, talk it out, or prove their love through desperate gestures.

    But that only makes things worse.

    Instead of chasing, you need to shift your focus inward.

    • Detach from needing her validation. If your happiness depends on her affection, she will feel pressured and suffocated.
    • Rebuild your sense of self. Who are you without the marriage? What makes you excited about life outside of her?
    • Respect the space she needs. Giving her space isn’t about losing her—it’s about creating an opportunity for her to miss you.

    The Bottom Line: Give Her Space, Gain Clarity

    If she’s asking for space, it’s because she feels overwhelmed by pressure—whether from the relationship or from her own emotions.

    Your job isn’t to fix it right now.

    Your job is to become the kind of man who is steady, secure, and capable of standing strong, even when things feel uncertain.

    I go deeper into this in my book, How High-Achieving Men In Their 40s Can Restore Passionate Intimacy With Their Wife of 18 Plus Years.

    You can grab a free copy HERE.

    Breathe.

    Trust the process.

    You got this.

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Being a Man Who Defies the Odds

    Being a Man Who Defies the Odds

    I get goosebumps and feel instant respect for a man who defies all odds and creates what he wants.

    A man who doesn’t play small.

    A man who looks at the odds stacked against him and moves forward anyway.

    I wasn’t born into wealth.

    No silver spoon.

    No handouts.

    Everything I have—I built with my own two hands.

    At 12 years old, I spent an entire summer busting my ass doing yard work for neighbors until I made my first $100.

    Then I reinvested it—bought better tools, worked faster, and made more.

    By my late 20s, I’d rolled several million through my company.

    And I did it despite the odds:

    ? A recession

    ? Living in a town where most people made $20K a year

    ? My wife’s affair and a brutal divorce

    ? Heavy state taxes and red tape

    ? People criticizing my success, calling me an “evil business owner”

    You know what? Didn’t even matter.

    Because I was too busy doing the work.

    I wasn’t sitting around worrying about whether it was supposed to be possible—I was too busy making it happen.

    2008? One of my best years.

    I didn’t even realize there was a recession until people told me.

    COVID? Another great year.

    While the world locked itself inside, my crews and I were out doing clean-ups for wildfire prevention—even when the state threatened to arrest us.

    A Man Who Defies The Odds Takes Action NOW

    Fear makes you second-guess yourself.

    It convinces you to hesitate when you should be moving.

    But here’s the truth: The right time to act is always NOW.

    I want to introduce you to a client of mine—let’s call him Chuck.

    Chuck is a go-big or-go-home kind of guy.

    Hard worker.

    No excuses.

    He thought he had masculinity figured out.

    He had the truck.

    The military background.

    The paycheck.

    But at home? Different story.

    Over the years, an emotional gap grew between him and his wife.

    Like a lot of us, he was successful everywhere—except in his marriage.

    She started pulling away.

    He figured as long as they still had sex, things were fine.

    She didn’t see it that way.

    Because to a woman, a relationship isn’t worth it unless there’s emotional safety, a heart-to-heart connection, and a man who knows his value—independent of her moods.

    Right before Christmas, she filed for divorce.

    Chuck was wrecked.

    But even through the pain, he made a decision: He was gonna do the worknot just to save his marriage, but to become the man he was always meant to be in his relationships.

    The Light Switch Flipped

    A few sessions in, something clicked.

    I asked him what changed.

    He said:

    “I realized I can accept that my wife no longer loves me… or I can keep wishing it was different and keep suffering.”

    Boom.

    That was it.

    Clarity.

    Clarity about what he’s worth. Clarity about his standards. Clarity about who he gives his value to.

    And once that switch flipped?

    Everything changed.

    Suddenly, he had the power to create an emotional connection with anyone, anytime.

    Now? Women blush when he talks to them—not because he’s running some kind of game, but because they feel seen in a way most men never learn.

    And get this—Chuck lost everything in a matter of weeks. His home, his wife, his dogs, his future plans.

    If that wasn’t enough reason to give up, wildfires hit California.

    Instead of throwing in the towel, he got to work fighting fires with his crew while still pressing forward in his personal development with me.

    What Are You Waiting For?

    Chuck is a man who defies the odds.

    He’s putting in the work while pulling long shifts, rebuilding his life, and starting over from scratch.

    I asked him what he’d tell another man who’s waiting for the right time to act.

    He said: “Life is short, and hard sometimes. So make the decision to be the man you want to be. Be the hero of your own story. Get educated, do the work, and change your life faster than trying to figure it out alone.”

    That, my friend, is the mindset of a man who refuses to be a victim.

    Chuck owns his power now.

    He told me: “The power to be sad or happy is mine, and no one else’s. Anxiety tells you you’re unprepared for what’s happening. The books, the coaching, the work—it gave me the tools to be ready.”

    Phew! That gives me tears.

    Those are the words of a champion.

    He’s walking, head high, through his right of passage to join the ranks of great men.

    A man who defies the odds and takes action is the kind of man I love working with.

    Are you that kind of man?

    If so, we should talk.

    Book a free Get Grounded Now call, and let’s get clear on your next move.

    Stay grounded, brother.

    —Garrett Prettyman