Masculine Confidence Framework

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How To Get Out Of Her Friend Zone Trap
The friend zone trap sucks. Your wife or girlfriend is someone you feel passion for. You want to make love and be intimate with her. But once you land in her friend zone, it’s VERY difficult to get out. Friends don’t hold hands, kiss, make love, or do naughty things in the kitchen. There are a few behaviors that put you in the friend zone nearly every time. I’ll share them so you can avoid them at all costs.

Friend Zone Trap #1: “Guy Drama”

Do you get uncomfortable about her guy friends?

Do you feel insecure when she has a Hollywood crush?

When her co-worker hits on her, do you complain?

Or do you complain passively by saying, “It’s not you I don’t trust baby, it’s him.”

That shit is “guy drama”.

Women get the “ick” from men who bring that insecurity to the room.

What she knows deep down is that her actions are not making you insecure; you’re just insecure.

She’s not wrong.

Your triggers reveal what insecurities you have.

Feminine is attracted to safe, secure, strong, confident energy.

A man who thinks of himself as a prize with nothing to prove.

I know several ladies who have friend-zoned men over this.

It’s her biological response to interpret insecurity as danger.

That sense of danger keeps her legs closed.

Friend Zone Trap #2: “Criticizing Her”

During the dating season, criticism can be fun and playful.

It might even turn her on.

But it gets real old for her in a long-term relationship.

I know how good it feels to point out what you don’t like about your partner.

Heck, when my employees didn’t pull their weight or screwed something up, pointing out where they messed up seemed to stop poor practice in its tracks.

But that approach doesn’t work with someone you want to be sexually intimate with year after year.

Your wife or girlfriend’s sexual attraction is linked to how well you show acceptance, empathy, and love for who she is when set FREE.

Feminine craves to be seen for who she is and loved anyway.

It might feel good to chew her out for being lazy.

Telling her she’s overreacting and being crazy like her mom can feel good in the moment, too.

But doing so will forfeit her desire to kiss or cuddle you that night.

You’ll win the battle but lose the war.

A woman’s messiness cleans itself up when you look beyond it and praise what you love about her instead.

Friend Zone Trap #3: “Acting Like Her Friend”

This one is so obvious, it’s easily overlooked.

Friends will:
- Hang out mindlessly for hours
- Text about every little thing
- Overshare
- Are on speed dial for helping out
- Leave no topic unexplored
- Stay stuck side by side
The opposite of the friend zone is the lover zone.

Lovers will:
- Have a sense of unexplored mystery about them
- Step inside the other’s personal space and be playful in it
- Use polarity to seduce the other into surrender
- Allow tension to build between them and then release the tension through physical touch
- Get their “friendship” needs met outside the relationship
Your lover is the woman you get naked and give orgasms to, which is a very unique role.

How you behave around her should be very different than anyone else in your life.

It’s almost impossible to stop acting like her friend if you don’t have friends.

Get out and meet new people.

Let your girl off the hook for needing to meet your friendship needs.

How To Keep Your Relationship In The Lover Zone

Pulling back from being her friend is uncomfortable.

That discomfort keeps guys stuck.

He’s afraid that if he’s not by her side, some other guy will be.

He acts like her girlfriend with a beard, willing to settle for scraps of her attention.

That underlying fear and discomfort is what needs to be addressed.

She smells it all over you.

It makes her keep you in the friend zone so she doesn’t have to manage your feelings for you.

Want rock-solid inner confidence so you stop landing in her friend zone?

Reach out.
July 31, 2025
How To Handle Emotional Manipulation From Your Wife Or Girlfriend

Emotional manipulation. It’s an ambush.

One minute, you feel clear and have a plan. The next? Your wife or girlfriend pokes you just right.

You thought you had a solid point. But somehow, you ended up confused, doubting yourself, maybe even apologizing for something that wasn’t actually wrong.

Reading this will help you avoid the emotional manipulation trap.

What Emotional Manipulation Looks Like

Women tend to persuade using emotions. Men, on the other hand, default to logic, facts, and outcomes. It’s how we’re both wired.

So when she prods your emotions by saying things like:

“If you REALLY loved your son, you’d take him hiking instead of golfing.”

“I need a man who prioritizes his family. YOU should change your plans if you care about us.”

She’s not necessarily trying to manipulate you, she’s pulling emotional levers because that’s the language her brain speaks best.

Emotional manipulation happens when you jump out of your lane of clarity by allowing the emotions she evoked to guide your choices.

Emotions are subtle. They’re powerful. And if you listen to them, they’ll knock you off your center every time.

Why does this even matter?

Because if your emotions flux with hers, sexual polarity is destroyed.

That spells bad news for the romance department in your relationship.

Your Job Is to Stay In Your Lane

A woman who tries to emotionally manipulate you isn’t the problem; falling for it is.

You don’t have to fight back, raise your voice, or “win” the argument.

You also don’t have to cave, comply, or go along just to keep the peace.

The real power move?

Respond with calm leadership and firm boundaries.

For example, when she presses your emotional buttons and then uses those feelings against you, put a pin in the conversation.

Buy yourself time to regain your clarity.

Say to her, “I hear what you’re saying. But let’s talk more about it after dinner, not right now.”

This isn’t dismissive, it’s decisive.

It’s not avoidant, because you said when you would revisit the topic.

You’re giving her emotions the space they need without letting them dictate your response.

Boundaries turn chaos into clarity

When you delay your response and set a clear boundary, it allows the dust to settle.

You can drop any feelings she evoked and clarify what you value before picking the topic back up with her.

Knowing what you value will guide how you respond.

Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re leadership tools.

And when you use them right, emotional manipulation loses its power over you.

She Doesn’t Want to Be Able to Manipulate You

A woman may test you with emotional pressure, but if you fold every time, she loses respect.

She may not say it, but she’s really asking:

“Can you hold steady when I swirl?”

If she finds that you can’t, over time, she’ll stop trusting you to lead and resentment will grow.

But when you remain unshakable and you don’t abandon yourself to avoid her storms, her attraction, trust, and connection deepen.

How To Have More Confidence

The confident man doesn’t explain himself endlessly.

He doesn’t allow his emotions to change his response.

He listens, he considers, and responds based on his values (not feelings).

So the next time you feel that emotional pressure rising from her remarks, remember: Don’t take the bait.

You’re here to stay grounded in truth and invite her into your calm, without folding under her emotional pressure.

Want help applying this in your relationship?

March 25, 2025
How To Make Her Fingers Want To Trace Your Skin Again
There was a time when your wife’s touch was effortless. She’d run her fingers down your arm mindlessly, play footsie under the table, or instinctively curl up against you in bed. It wasn’t something you had to think about—it just happened. But now? That intimacy feels like a distant memory. Like Blockbuster video stores, it just… disappeared.

You catch yourself wondering how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again. Here’s the hard truth: You’ve probably skipped some critical steps.

The Paradox of Attraction

For men, physical intimacy creates feelings of connection.

For women, connection creates the desire for physical intimacy.

If she’s pulling away, it’s not random.

She’s responding to a smell in the room (and it’s not your cologne).

So, what do you do?

Well, you could watch my 6-minute video below—or keep reading, you overachiever. ?

The Path Back to Passion

Imagine right now you’re in a boat.

You want to head toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island” off on the horizon.

Seems simple—just row straight there, right?

Wrong.

There are two islands you must stop at first:
- Emotional Connection Island – Where she feels seen for who she is, understood, and safe with you.
- Spiritual Connection Island – Where your presence draws her in like a spiritual glow around you. Her emotions don’t knock you off center because you know you will be ok. Your energy feels like Yoda, but with better-looking skin and words that make sense
Learning how to make her fingers want to trace your skin again means making port at these two islands.

Men who try to find and fix what they think (or she thinks) is wrong in the marriage will make the boat go in circles.

That’s because EVERYTHING becomes a “problem” for a lady when we skip those two islands.

Once she experiences your emotional and spiritually grounded energy, those other problems fix themselves.

The Man She Wants to Touch

A spiritually strong man doesn’t need her validation to feel solid.

He doesn’t have to live like a monk or be a perfect husband either.

What he does is stare down failure, rejection—even death—believing he will be okay.
- No matter what she says.
- No matter how she reacts.
- No matter how much she blames, criticizes, or tests.
She can feel your energetic response like a spiritual force field.

If that energy makes her uneasy, it’s against her nature to want to get closer to you—let alone touch you.

Your Wife Can’t Paddle Your Boat for You

She can’t take you to Emotional Island or Spiritual Island—that’s on you.

And the only way to move your boat forward?

Use paddles made of the very thing you want to experience when you get there.
- Want respect? Give respect.
- Want appreciation? Show appreciation.
- Want passion? Live with passion.
If you’re paddling with expectations, resentments, or bitterness, you’re not moving toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island”—you’re paddling away from it.

Don’t Keep Paddling in Circles

I break all of this down in my book so you don’t have to keep guessing (or making things worse).

It’s packed with clear, actionable steps that I wish someone had taught me years ago—preferably before I learned the hard way.

Every man who wants a thriving relationship needs to understand this.

? Grab your copy here

Start paddling in the right direction today.

Stay grounded, brother.

Garrett Prettyman
February 21, 2025
Mastering Seduction In Marriage
This article reveals some secrets to building erotic desire with your wife or girlfriend by mastering seduction.

Seduction is not about the art of picking up strange women.

Seduction is about the art of creating and maintaining feelings of positive emotional tension, including sexual tension.

Perhaps you have a fairytale version of love in your mind.

In this fairytale, your wife or girlfriend is magically affectionate, intimate, and sexual with you for 60 years… All because you’re such an easy-going, great guy!

This rarely happens.

Like it or not, seduction is a game.

Do you feel a negative reaction when you think of “players” who are good with women?

Don’t think of playing the game as being a slimy manipulator who tricks women into liking him.

Think of playing as something that is FUN for both of you.

If you’ve ever had sex, you are already a player in the game of seduction.

The OUTSIDE Game Of Seduction

Pickup artists use OUTSIDE game to meet and have sex with new women effectively.

These men know how to tease, be mysterious, and make her feel understood.

They get her desires burning through playfulness.

The female mind loves the tease, temptation, emotions, and illusion of freedom that OUTSIDE game provides.

However, if you do not have INSIDE game, new women you seduce with OUTSIDE game will eventually break up with you.

They will realize it was all smoke and mirrors.

The INSIDE Game Of Seduction

INSIDE game is all about the vibe your behaviors give off under pressure.

Your inner maturity, confidence, self-esteem, vulnerability, and masculine frame are part of your INSIDE game.

Without a rock-solid INSIDE game, your wife won’t feel safe opening her heart to you.

She won’t feel like she can trust you with her emotions.

She will feel like the relationship has no depth.

Many younger women become infatuated with “bad boys.”

They assume if his OUTSIDE game feels confident, then his INSIDE game must be very secure, strong, and competent.

Sadly, most women who marry “bad boys” realize down the road that his INSIDE game is that of insecurity, self-doubt, and need for validation.

Many women who have been burned by a “bad boy” will latch on to a “nice guy” next.

They assume the “nice guy” will have what the “bad boy” lacks.

Sadly, most women who marry “nice guys” lose sexual attraction for him.

His softness, wishy-washiness, aversion to conflict, and lack of boundaries feel boyish and feminine to her.

Women crave to ravish a man, not a boy.

Mastering Seduction In Long Term Relationships

Your wife needs to be seduced again and again.

She needs to bounce between your INSIDE game and your OUTSIDE game weekly for the rest of your life.

On the days she’s drawn to your INSIDE game, she loves how her mood can’t rattle you.

Her complaints are met with your empathy.

When she brings up the past, you show understanding without getting defensive.

You like who you are being.

You trust your intentions, and she can sense your secure vibe.

On days she’s drawn to your OUTSIDE game, she’s loving that you’re sexting her during the day.

You’re giving her a wink and squeeze on the shoulder, and buying her favorite coffee.

In other words, you are living your best life and she’s feeling the invitation to join.

I sucked at both INSIDE and OUTSIDE game badly.

I’ve made it my mission to learn and teach men both by mastering seduction in my own life.

In my Masculine Confidence Framework, I get raw and personal with you on how to be a masculine man in a 1:1 setting.

You already have the traits for INSIDE & OUTSIDE game hard-coded into your DNA.

All of us adopted some faulty beliefs about masculine and feminine that need to be re-written.

I will help you spot the mindsets that make you feel indecisive, unclear, wishy-washy, and unattractive towards women.

This way, you can be naturally good at the game of seduction.

Mastering Seduction Is Part Of My Masculine Confidence Framework

I pack a lot of the most potent things I’ve learned into my masculine confidence framework.

Below are 4 ways to tell if my framework will help you.

Are you a man who can…
1. Be willing to take constructive feedback
2. Be willing to laugh at your past mistakes
3. Be willing to follow through on reading and homework assignments
4. Be willing to turn down her offers for sex
That last one might sound strange, but you’ll find out why if we work together.

I’m willing to take you by the hand and lead you each step of the way.

This kind of mentorship will shave YEARS of trial and error out of your life!

If you answered “yes” to the 4 questions above, then book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation.

I’ll see you there,

Garrett Prettyman
July 25, 2024
I’m A Good Guy, Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Me?
This article is for the “good” husband who wants to turn his marriage around. I’ll introduce you to a former client and share how he saved his marriage. Many men have thought, I’m a good guy, why doesn’t my wife want me? But few have realized being “good” isn’t what attracts her.

I’m A Good Guy, Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Me??

If you value family, hard work, integrity, being a handyman, honesty, or loyalty then we’re cut from the same cloth.

If you lean towards being easy-going, non-confrontational, conflict-avoidant, or self-sacrificing, then we’re pretty much blood brothers.

“Camp Good Guy” – Where Wives Exit Relationships

I’m a seasoned veteran at “Camp Good Guy”.

We men chose this camp, thinking being a good guy is desirable.

Perhaps we had a dad who was brute towards our mom or we were repulsed by how assholes treat women.

Whatever the case, we decided to never become like THOSE men.

I’ve lived at “Camp Good Guy” long enough to tell you how life goes in this camp.

We usually marry a woman who’s the opposite of us.

We pour our soul into creating a life for her we never had.

Over time, we learn to tiptoe around her sensitivities and suppress our opinions to avoid conflict.

We secretly compare what we provide to how our wife acts towards us and feel ripped off that we aren’t getting the respect, love, or affection we deserve from her.

At “Camp Good Guy”, men’s wives are lining up to leave the relationship.

These soon-to-be ex-husbands are hearing complaints like:
- You don’t stand up for me
- I don’t feel supported
- I don’t feel an emotional connection with you
- I love you but I don’t feel in love with you
- You make me feel stupid and invalidate my feelings
How A Man Moved Out Of “Camp Good Guy” And Saved His Marriage

Meet Gavin.

Gavin is a client who joined the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course a year and a half ago.

Gavin’s marriage was on the verge of falling apart

He was terrified to breathe, fearing the axe would fall and his wife would file for divorce.

Just like you and I, Gavin was thinking, “I’m a good guy, why doesn’t my wife want me?”

Through the course, Gavin learned to drop his unspoken expectations and grievances toward his wife.

He learned how to be secure in himself, how to live his values, have a spine, and be direct while still showing presence and care for his wife’s feelings.

This new version 2.0 of Gavin left his wife with a choice.

She could choose to walk away from an amazing man or she could join him in a more mature way of interacting.

She chose to surrender to his leadership and match his level of love and respect.

Over the last year and a half, Gavin’s marriage has been the most intimate, connected, respectful, and loving it has ever been.

Just like you, Gavin read a similar email about the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

Gavin decided to get off the fence and join.

His testimony today is that he would have lost his marriage if he hadn’t joined our course.

I encourage you to check out the course or book a Get Grounded Now Call so you can gain the benefits Gavin did.

I promise you’ll have no regrets.

You’ll find our groups are filled with recovering “good guys”.

At some point, each of us has thought, “I’m a good guy, why doesn’t my wife want me?”

We’re in the trenches together learning to let go of our win-lose mindsets and give from abundance, not needy expectations.

We’re ready to welcome you into the tribe with open arms.

Be strong brother,

Garrett Prettyman
February 10, 2024
What To Do When She Says, “Stop Trying To Fix Me”
This article tells a TRUE story about how men and women interact differently with emotions. In the video below, I share how to respond when a woman says, “Stop trying to fix me”.

She Said, “Stop Trying To Fix Me!!” – How To Respond

Trying To Fix Women – A Peak Behind The Curtain

Billy entered the living room and saw his wife’s distressed face.

Grace and Billy had been married for nearly a decade, and he knew when one of her meltdowns was imminent.

No challenge was too great for Billy to tackle, except for Grace when she was this worked up.

“I feel like I have to do EVERYTHING around here,” Grace sobbed.

Billy replied, “No, you don’t! When was the last time you did anything outside? I’ve handled ALL the landscape maintenance myself!”

Grace retorted, “Why do you make everything about you? If you were a decent husband, you would at least give me some emotional support!”

“I’m not making everything about me!” Billy said emphatically.

Billy went on to say, “I’m just pointing out how you got yourself into this mess.”

A few tears slipped down Grace’s cheeks.

This was the same rut Billy and Grace always fell into.

Grace would make illogical complaints, Billy would point out why she was wrong, and then Grace would make him feel like he was a failure as a husband.

Billy continued, “Why didn’t you ask for help if you felt overloaded? Not only would I have helped, half the stuff you did could have waited!”

“Stop trying to fix me!” Grace replied.

There it was… the ONE phrase that always baffled Billy… Why on earth did she think he was trying to “fix” her??

“I’m not trying to fix you! I’m just trying to understand,” Billy said sharply.

Grace stood up straight, wiped her tears, and walked out of the room.

Billy could hear her go into their bedroom and close the door.

“Great… Now she’ll keep herself locked in our bedroom all afternoon, then give me the silent treatment when she emerges,” Billy mumbled as he threw his hands up in bewilderment.

Why Men Like To Fix Women

In the story of Billy and Grace, we can see two dynamics unfolding.
1. Grace is focused on WHAT she feels.
2. Billy is focused on WHY she feels it.
In a man’s world, 99% of our distress is around the “WHY”.
- WHY is the roof leaking?
- WHY is my shirt lost?
- WHY does my wife not want sex?
We men have logical, troubleshooting brains.

In our world, if we can find the WHY, we can change the WHY, and therefore improve the result.

This process works great in the workplace, laboratory, and engineering department!

But when we encounter a pretty creatures with boobs, this process blows up in our face.

If our wife is blaming us, misguided, off-track, illogical, irrational, or emotional, it’s best to keep our WHY questions to ourselves.

Is There A Time We Should Be “Fixing” Our Wife?

Yes, there’s one time when we should “fix” our wife…When she asks us to!

I’m going to be captain obvious and point something out.

Trying to “fix” our wife never created a deeper connection in the marriage.

Trying to “fix” our crumbling marriage will have the same result.

Men come to me every day wanting to “fix” their relationship.

I empower my clients with the necessary tools to overcome their OWN fears, insecurities, and emotional dependencies.

The flighty, emotional, ebb and flow of feminine is not a riddle to solve.

We’re in her life so her chaos can encounter our balls.

A man with balls…
- Has nothing to prove
- Doesn’t need to be right or change how others feel for him to be okay
- Isn’t a doormat in the relationship
If you want to learn how to be the masculine leader in your relationship, then consider joining our, “Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course“

How It Looks When A Man Leads A Woman Closer To Himself

Not surprisingly, Billy and Grace ended up divorced.

This was the wake-up call Billy needed to take a hard look at himself.

Billy dove into personal development and found there’s a different way to THINK about women, emotions, and feelings.

With his new mindset, he stopped taking things so personally.

He learned how to BE relaxed, accepting, and empathetic towards women without needing answers for WHY she felt how she felt.

The juicy part of Billy’s story is when his future partner met him, he was able to open layers of her he had never experienced with a woman before.

None of this improvement in his relationships was by chance.

Billy had deliberately learned to drop HIS discomfort, HIS confusion, and HIS tension around women.

Perhaps you’re at the end of your rope and want to go all in on the biggest transformation of your life.

If you can relate to Billy’s story, take the next step by joining “The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course“.

I promise this course will give you a new way of thinking and behaving that could change everything in your relationship.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
February 10, 2024