If you’re exhausted from walking on eggshells around your wife, afraid to be disagreed with, or ridiculed by her, then it’s time to stop chasing her approval.
What you need to understand is that there’s what women say they want and there’s what women actually respond to.
Those are two very different things.
When you trade your truth, your clarity, and your leadership for a woman’s approval, you destroy attraction.
You might gain her agreement, but you’ll lose her sexual desire.
You’re also robbing the world of your greatest gifts.
The world needs men who can make hard choices for the greater good, even if it makes them unpopular.
Stop Chasing Her Approval And Create What You Believe In
Your partner is an extension of Mother Nature.
Just like rain tests erosion and wind tests roof shingles, feminine energy tests your masculine frame.
Can you stay calm and listen when she’s illogical?
Can you stay rooted in your direction when she doubts or disagrees?
Can you keep your heart open when she pulls away?
She wants to see if YOU really believe in your cause by how you respond.
The hero’s journey of modern man is never to abandon your role as a CREATOR when people disagree or challenge you.
When you master that, you don’t chase validation; you become the validation.
How To Create What You Want
Every single thing man has created was not accepted by the world at first.
People feared light bulbs would burn down houses.
Pooping in toilets instead of the river sounded ludicrous.
But the creators of those things didn’t let people’s criticism sway them.
Edison was happy to make 10,000 light bulbs that didn’t work because he believed in his cause.
What’s your cause in the world?
What’s your cause in your marriage?
Your cause is what makes you magnetic to feminine and to life itself.
It governs what you remain connected to without the need to explain or defend your behaviours.
It gives purpose to your 10,000 failed attempts and lets the ridicule of others roll off your back.
Your wife becomes an honored guest in your amazing life because you stop chasing her approval to enjoy your cause.
If you’re ready to build that kind of unshakable masculine frame that stays in the mode of creator in the face of rejection, I’ll help you get started for free.
The friend zone trap sucks. Your wife or girlfriend is someone you feel passion for. You want to make love and be intimate with her. But once you land in her friend zone, it’s VERY difficult to get out. Friends don’t hold hands, kiss, make love, or do naughty things in the kitchen. There are a few behaviors that put you in the friend zone nearly every time. I’ll share them so you can avoid them at all costs.
Friend Zone Trap #1: “Guy Drama”
Do you get uncomfortable about her guy friends?
Do you feel insecure when she has a Hollywood crush?
When her co-worker hits on her, do you complain?
Or do you complain passively by saying, “It’s not you I don’t trust baby, it’s him.”
That shit is “guy drama”.
Women get the “ick” from men who bring that insecurity to the room.
What she knows deep down is that her actions are not making you insecure; you’re just insecure.
A man who thinks of himself as a prize with nothing to prove.
I know several ladies who have friend-zoned men over this.
It’s her biological response to interpret insecurity as danger.
That sense of danger keeps her legs closed.
Friend Zone Trap #2: “Criticizing Her”
During the dating season, criticism can be fun and playful.
It might even turn her on.
But it gets real old for her in a long-term relationship.
I know how good it feels to point out what you don’t like about your partner.
Heck, when my employees didn’t pull their weight or screwed something up, pointing out where they messed up seemed to stop poor practice in its tracks.
But that approach doesn’t work with someone you want to be sexually intimate with year after year.
Your wife or girlfriend’s sexual attraction is linked to how well you show acceptance, empathy, and love for who she is when set FREE.
Feminine craves to be seen for who she is and loved anyway.
It might feel good to chew her out for being lazy.
Telling her she’s overreacting and being crazy like her mom can feel good in the moment, too.
But doing so will forfeit her desire to kiss or cuddle you that night.
You’ll win the battle but lose the war.
A woman’s messiness cleans itself up when you look beyond it and praise what you love about her instead.
Friend Zone Trap #3: “Acting Like Her Friend”
This one is so obvious, it’s easily overlooked.
Friends will:
Hang out mindlessly for hours
Text about every little thing
Overshare
Are on speed dial for helping out
Leave no topic unexplored
Stay stuck side by side
The opposite of the friend zone is the lover zone.
Lovers will:
Have a sense of unexplored mystery about them
Step inside the other’s personal space and be playful in it
Use polarity to seduce the other into surrender
Allow tension to build between them and then release the tension through physical touch
Get their “friendship” needs met outside the relationship
Your lover is the woman you get naked and give orgasms to, which is a very unique role.
One minute, you feel clear and have a plan. The next? Your wife or girlfriend pokes you just right.
You thought you had a solid point. But somehow, you ended up confused, doubting yourself, maybe even apologizing for something that wasn’t actually wrong.
Reading this will help you avoid the emotional manipulation trap.
What Emotional Manipulation Looks Like
Women tend to persuade using emotions. Men, on the other hand, default to logic, facts, and outcomes. It’s how we’re both wired.
So when she prods your emotions by saying things like:
“If you REALLY loved your son, you’d take him hiking instead of golfing.”
“I need a man who prioritizes his family. YOU should change your plans if you care about us.”
She’s not necessarily trying to manipulate you, she’s pulling emotional levers because that’s the language her brain speaks best.
Emotional manipulation happens when you jump out of your lane of clarity by allowing the emotions she evoked to guide your choices.
Emotions are subtle. They’re powerful. And if you listen to them, they’ll knock you off your center every time.
Why does this even matter?
Because if your emotions flux with hers, sexual polarity is destroyed.
That spells bad news for the romance department in your relationship.
Your Job Is to Stay In Your Lane
A woman who tries to emotionally manipulate you isn’t the problem; falling for it is.
You don’t have to fight back, raise your voice, or “win” the argument.
You also don’t have to cave, comply, or go along just to keep the peace.
To make your wife want to touch you again, ignore most of the advice you find on Google.
Why?
Because most online advice does nothing to address that gut punch you feel when she turns her shoulder in bed.
There was a time she couldn’t keep her hands off you.
But now, you’re lucky to get a polite hug.
You act like it doesn’t bother you, but it does.
Every man feels that ache when the woman he loves stops reaching back.
How you handle that ache is the deeper thing to address before she’ll enjoy tracing her fingers on your skin again.
To put it plainly, being unhappy isn’t attractive to her.
The Paradox of Attraction
For men, physical intimacycreates feelings of connection.
For women, connection creates the desire for physical intimacy.
If she’s pulling away, it’s not random.
She’s responding to a smell in the room (and it’s not your cologne).
The path back to passion has special checkpoints that you cannot skip.
The Path Back to Passion
Imagine you’re in a boat.
You want to head toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island” off on the horizon.
Seems simple.
Just row straight there, right?
Wrong.
There are two islands you must stop at first:
Emotional Connection Island, where she feels seen for who she is, understood, and safe with you.
Spiritual Connection Island, where your presence draws her in like a magnet. Her emotions don’t knock you off center because you know you will be ok. Your energy feels like Yoda, but with better-looking skin and words that make sense.
Learning how to make your wife want to touch your skin again means making port at these two islands.
Men who try to find and fix what they think (or she thinks) is wrong in the marriage will make the boat go in circles.
That’s because EVERYTHING becomes a “problem” for a lady when we skip those two islands.
Once she experiences your emotional and spiritual grounded energy, those other problems fix themselves.
Make Your Wife Want To Touch You Again Through Attraction
Forced love doesn’t feel special.
Obligatory sex doesn’t make anyone happy.
You want a partner who WANTS you.
This sounds simple, but you become attractive to your lady when you act like a secure man.
You don’t need her validation to feel solid.
You don’t have to live like a monk or be a perfect husband either.
No matter what she says.
No matter how she reacts.
No matter how much she blames, criticizes, or tests.
If you respond immaturely, it makes her desire shut down.
Your Wife Can’t Row Your Boat for You
Your wife can’t take you to Emotional Island or Spiritual Island, that’s on you.
And the only way to move your boat forward?
Use paddles made of the very thing you want to experience when you get there.
Want respect? Give respect.
Want appreciation? Show appreciation.
Want passion? Live with passion.
If you’re trying to make your wife want to touch you by having expectations, resentments, or bitterness, you’re not moving toward “Hot & Wild Sex Island”—you’re paddling away from it.
How To Start Rowing Your Boat Towards Intimacy
Every day, I help men evolve into their mature masculinity.
They’re no longer chasing approval.
These men are creating love, sex, and respect on their terms.
They’re living what they used to only imagine.
You already have what it takes to heal your relationship; you just haven’t seen it clearly yet.
This article reveals how to be irresistible to your wife by building erotic desire through seduction.
Seduction is not about picking up strange women.
Seduction is about the art of creating and maintaining feelings of positive emotional tension, including sexual tension.
Perhaps you have a fairytale version of love in your mind.
In this fairytale, your wife or girlfriend is magically affectionate, intimate, and sexual with you for 60 years… All because you’re such an easy-going, great guy!
This rarely happens.
Like it or not, seduction is a game.
Playing the game is NOT about being a slimy manipulator who tricks women into liking him.
Games are about having FUN.
If you’ve ever had sex, you are already a player in the game of seduction.
The OUTSIDE Game Of Seduction
Pickup artists use OUTSIDE game to meet and have sex with new women effectively.
Fancy clothes, nice cologne, a fancy watch… those are all OUTSIDE things.
These men know how to catch a woman’s eye.
The female mind loves the tease, temptation, emotions, and illusion of freedom that OUTSIDE game provides.
However, if you do not have INSIDE game, new women you seduce with OUTSIDE game will eventually break up with you.
As they get to know you, they realize it was all smoke and mirrors because everything was just an act to get into her pants.
The INSIDE Game Of Seduction
INSIDE game is all about the vibe your behaviors give off under pressure.
Your inner maturity, confidence, self-esteem, vulnerability, and masculine frame are part of your INSIDE game.
Without a rock-solid INSIDE game, your wife won’t feel safe opening her heart to you.
I know you’re a great provider and all-around good guy….but, your wife isn’t impressed. In fact, she might even be asking for space or ready to file for divorce. I’ll introduce you to a former client and share how he saved his marriage. Many men have thought, “I’m a good guy, why doesn’t my wife want me?” But few have realized that being “good” isn’t what attracts her.
I’m A Good Guy, Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Me??
If you value family, hard work, integrity, being a handyman, honesty, or loyalty, then we’re cut from the same cloth.
If you lean towards being easy-going, non-confrontational, conflict-avoidant, or self-sacrificing, then we’re pretty much blood brothers.
“Camp Good Guy” – Where Relationships Go To Die
I’m a seasoned veteran at “Camp Good Guy”.
This is a camp where every man thinks being good separates him from the assholes.
Maybe you don’t like how your dad was forceful with your mom.
Or you’re repulsed by how most men treat women.
Whatever the case, you decided to never become like THOSE men.
Through the course, Gavin learned to drop his unspoken expectations and grievances toward his wife.
He learned how to be secure in himself, how to live his values, have a spine, and be direct while still showing presence and care for his wife’s feelings.
Gavin didn’t become mean.
The opposite of the “good guy” isn’t a tyrant.
It’s about having self-worth and not giving with strings attached.
This new, mature version of Gavin left his wife with a choice.
She could choose to walk away from an amazing man, or she could join him in a more mature way of interacting.
She chose to surrender to his leadership and match his level of love and respect.
Over the last year and a half, Gavin’s marriage has been the most intimate, connected, respectful, and loving it has ever been.
Does an honest conversation with your wife turn into her saying, “Stop trying to fix me?” This article tells a TRUE story about how men and women interact differently with emotions. In the video below, I share how to communicate with your wife so she doesn’t feel like you’re trying to fix her.
She Said, “Stop Trying To Fix Me!!” – How To Respond
Trying To Fix Women: A Peek Behind The Curtain
Billy enters the living room.
His wife’s face is distressed.
Grace and Billy have been married for nearly a decade, and he knows when one of her meltdowns is imminent.
Billy is a competent man.
He can fix anything to keep the household running… except for Grace when she’s this worked up.
“I feel like I have to do EVERYTHING around here,” Grace sobs.
Billy replies, “No, you don’t! When was the last time you did anything outside? I handle ALL the yardwork myself!”
Grace’s face tightens, “Why is everything always about you? A decent husband would give me some emotional support!”
“I’m not making everything about me!I’m just pointing out how you got yourself into this mess.” Billy said emphatically.
A few tears leak down Grace’s cheeks.
Billy and Grace always fall into this rut.
Grace makes illogical complaints, Billy points out why she is wrong, and then Grace makes him feel like he’s failed.
Billy knows he’s dug himself into a hole.
He tries to climb out by saying, “Why didn’t you ask for help if you felt overloaded? I would have helped. Plus, half the stuff you did could have waited!”
“Stop trying to fix me!” Grace replies.
There it was… the ONE phrase that always baffled Billy… Why on earth does she think he’s trying to “fix” her??
“I’m not trying to fix you! I’m just trying to understand,” Billy says sharply.
Grace stands up straight, wipes her tears, and walks out of the room.
Billy hears her go into their bedroom and close the door.
“Great… Now she’ll keep herself locked in our bedroom all afternoon, then give me the silent treatment when she emerges,” Billy mumbles as he throws his hands up in bewilderment.
Do You Feel Misunderstood When She Says, “Stop Trying To Fix Me”?
In the story of Billy and Grace, there’s two dynamics unfolding.
Grace is focused on WHAT she feels.
Billy is focused on WHY she feels it.
In a man’s world, 99% of our distress is around the “WHY”.
WHY is the roof leaking?
WHY is my shirt lost?
WHY does my wife not want sex?
As a man, you have a logical, troubleshooting brain.
You intend to make things better.
This can leave you feeling misunderstood when your partner doesn’t see it that way.
That’s because she doesn’t need a solution.
In your world, if you can find the WHY, you can change the WHY, and then give a solution.
This process works great in the workplace, laboratory, and engineering department!
But when you interact with a woman, it makes her feel like you’re not seeing the whole picture.
If your wife is staying, “stop trying to fix me”, it’s best to keep your WHY questions to yourself.
Is There A Time You Should Be “Fixing” Your Wife?
Yes, there’s one time when you should “fix” your wife…When she asks you to!
I’m going to be Captain Obvious and point something out.
Trying to “fix” your wife never creates a deeper connection in the marriage.
Trying to “fix” your crumbling marriage will have the same result.
Men come to me every day wanting to “fix” their relationship.
I empower my clients with the necessary tools to overcome their OWN fears, insecurities, and emotional dependencies.
The flighty, emotional, ebb and flow of feminine is not a riddle to solve.
Your role as her man is to be the string to her kite, a man with balls.
A man with balls…
Has nothing to prove
Doesn’t need to be right or change how others feel for him to be okay
Billy deliberately learned to drop HIS discomfort, HIS confusion, and HIS tension around women’s feelings.
Perhaps you’re at the end of your rope and want to go all in on the biggest transformation of your life.
If you can relate to Billy’s story, take the next step.
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