Masculine Confidence Framework

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  • How To Face Marriage Distress With Confidence

    How To Face Marriage Distress With Confidence

    Feminine women are drawn to confidence like a cat to catnip. This week, one of the men in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course saw a change in his marriage. His wife, (who had been disagreeable and cold) warmed up! Her change was in response to his new calm/understanding masculine frame. This article provides two key ingredients to be a husband who can face marriage distress with confidence.  

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    Be A Confident Husband: 2 Key Ingredients

    Love Being A Man

    One thing I’m passionate about is empowering men to take life by the horns and create their dreams.

    Yet, many men quickly lose any sense of confidence when it comes to tension and conflict with their wives.

    One major reason for this is due to BRAIN differences!

    A study at the Brain Science Centre in Minneapolis revealed that female brains can process data 5 times faster than a man’s brain.

    This may be why many men tell us their wives can talk circles around them in an argument and always seem to be 5 steps ahead!

    That’s cool, though.

    Good for her.

    She’s got a gift you don’t have.

    Don’t fight against it.

    Appreciate it…and realize that YOUR brain has a gift of it’s own.

    Your brain likes to process data more slowly…at an even pace in a way that makes logical sense to you.

    The data your brain processes needs to pass through various phases of contemplation in your mind before making conclusions.

    It’s a gift and a strength, brother!

    And it’s THAT gift that might make her feel like you’re not listening to her or just staring at her like a deer in the headlights.

    This is nothing for you to be ashamed of.

    Instead, be AMUSED!

    The path to confidence is about being comfortable with who we are authentically and not trying to live by other people’s standards or abilities.

    There are two key ingredients to face marriage distress with confidence:

    1. Be a confident husband by knowing you’re OK
    2. Be a confident husband by trusting your intentions

    Face Marriage Distress With Confidence Knowing You’re OK

    If our wife is talking circles around us in a discussion, she’s doing what people with her brain are supposed to be doing. 

    She’s OK. 

    We’re OK. 

    Everyone is OK.

    If our logical brain tells us she’s way off base or that she isn’t seeing things clearly, take a breath…Our brain is just doing what it’s supposed to do, everything is still ok. 

    A man who knows deep down that he’s OK can face chaos with confidence. 

    The Vikings were unstoppable in battle because they believed they couldn’t die except on the day the gods had chosen. 

    In other words, they believed they would be OK no matter what. 

    The Vikings had what we call spiritual confidence, and it made them a fearless force to reckon with! 

    Face Marriage Distress With Confidence By Trusting Your Intentions

    How other people decide to interpret us is their choice. 

    Honestly, others can never with 100% certainty know what our intentions are, only we can. 

    When we trust our intentions, we can let go of needing to be right, better, or understood by others. 

    For me personally, If I’m not breaking new ground in areas of location independence, time, or financial freedom, I feel like I’m half-assing life. 

    These are the hills I’m willing to die on. 

    I know that I’m disserving the universe of my most potent version of myself if I don’t pursue these routes because they are what energizes me.

    What do you need to create, face, or apply yourself towards to be an energized, inspired, powerful man? 

    Your intentions are honorable when they align with your standards for creating what energizes you. 

    We can relax in our intentions to be a confident man. 

    How You Can Take A BIG Step Towards Confidence This Week

    Right now, men from all over the globe are learning how to have a masculine frame and how to have standards they value in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course. 

    Trusting our intentions requires a first step: Knowing our values. 

    When you join the course, Mark & I will teach you how to narrow your values down to a few key components of your energizing masculine frame.

    Your masculine frame will enable you to face marriage distress with confidence by being clear, strong, and sure of yourself.

    If you want something more exclusive than the confidence course, consider personalized 1:1 mentorship.

    Learning my masculine confidence framework in a private setting is the most powerful way to make dramatic changes in your sense of well-being and mojo.

    Book a “Get Grounded Now” consultation to have a meaningful, raw conversation that will get you clear on your next steps.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    This article discusses how women respond to the energy we bring into the relationship. I’ll use examples from the TV show “Vikings” to illustrate how you need to be to make your wife want you again.

    Focus On Causes, Not Symptoms

    Every day, I speak to men in a desperate spot. 

    They sincerely want to save their failing marriage, but everything they do seems to backfire.  

    I know how it feels to become hiper focused on everything that’s “wrong” assuming those issues are the only thing preventing our marriage from turning around. 

    The problem with this approach is we’re trying to resolve symptoms, not causes. 

    • Lack of affection/no sex
    • Poor communication
    • Blaming attachment styles
    • Love language frustrations
    • Emotional coldness/withdrawal
    • Her inability to be respectful or do self-improvement

    The list above are symptoms, not root causes.

    I say it all the time, “Love covers a multitude of sins”.

    When our wife feels attracted to us, she overlooks the annoyances (and so do we).

    The level of personal happiness and fulfillment we feel outside of marriage determines how we’ll eventually feel inside the marriage.

    The degree to which we can create an amazing life without our wife determines the degree to which we can create one with her.

    If we’re not emotionally secure enough to let her go, we’re not emotionally secure enough to have her. 

    These are the kinds of insecurities and root causes that cripple a relationship. 

    How You Need To Be To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    Watch my video below to see how a woman changes when the man gets his spark back. 

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    How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    One of the most effective ways to attract a woman is to let her go. 

    She wants to have the freedom to CHOOSE you, and she can’t have that freedom unless she knows she has the freedom to NOT choose you as well. 

    A man without an inspiring life mission will see his wife as his source of happiness and purpose for living. 

    He can’t let her go because he can’t imagine living without her. 

    Woman are not wired to be responsible for their happiness AND ours. 

    A huge burden is lifted off her shoulders when we have a life that’s so energizing that our spark, charisma, excitement, joy, and inspiration are full regardless of what she does.

    How A Viking Reattracted His Lover

    In the video, I pointed out how the more Rollo wallowed in his self-pity, victim mindset, and lack of purpose the more Siggy lost her attraction for him. 

    He blamed his brother, his ex-lover, the gods’, and everyone else for his life. 

    For a time, Rollo tried to demand respect and love from others and that quickly made his situation worse.

    I realize this story is made up, but it mirrors what I see with men I work with. 

    Again and again, I’ve seen my client’s wife circle back after the man gets clear, excited, and motivated by his positive future to the point that he lovingly lets her go.

    These men grew to the point they:

    • No longer resisted the divorce process.
    • No longer needed to “be right”.
    • No longer needed her mood be different for him to be ok.
    • Could unshakably trust in their own ability to create the experiences they wanted.
    • Accepted that she is on her own journey of personal growth and is progressing at her own pace.
    • Stopped “fighting for the marriage”

    In the video, Siggy suddenly became re-attracted to Rollo because his spark brought energy to the relationship instead of taking energy from it.

    She wanted to feel ALIVE. 

    Women move towards what makes them feel ALIVE.

    We as men get to take the lead and demonstrate what feeling alive looks like. 

    Our partner is wired to respond to the energy we bring into our relationship.

    Our vibe, tone, and look in our eye does all the talking.

    Getting Your Spark Back

    When I take men through my Masculine Confidence Framework I’m giving them the foundation for WHO they are, then helping them get clear on HOW to be that man in their relationship.

    Men emerge from this framework with personalized, unflappable self-trust and inner security.

    You read that right. 

    YOUR masculine frame is not going to consist of the same values or operating principles as the next guy. 

    My coaching challenges YOUR pain points, YOUR perspectives, and YOUR excuses. 

    An interesting study revealed how high testosterone doesn’t necessarily equal high female attraction.

    What the researchers discovered was low levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) had more of an appealing effect on women than high testosterone did.

    We don’t need to be more “macho” for our wife to want us, we need to be more comfortable in our own skin, more OK, and more relaxed to face what needs to be faced.

    If you’re ready to have your brain rewired so you can make decisions quickly, know how to be with feminine emotions, and live as a man with an inspiring purpose, then fill out my Get Grounded Now contact form to schedule a free consultation. 

    I promise you’ll gain clarity on how to make your wife want you again without being fake or manipulative.

    In total honesty, we CAN’T make our wife do anything, we can only be a higher standard that makes the choice to join us blindingly obvious.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Why She’s Pulling Away from Intimacy (And How to Fix It)

    Why She’s Pulling Away from Intimacy (And How to Fix It)

    Why she’s pulling away from intimacy is usually not what you think. Let’s unpack the key difference between sexual neediness and attractive desire—a common cause.

    This is the third in my series of 6 dangerously effective marriage-saving secrets.

    Secret# 3: End Sexual Neediness – The Pungent Wife Repellent.

    (Use These Links To See Secrets One & Two)

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    End Sexual Neediness – The Pungent Wife Repellent

    Matthew’s Advances Fell Flat

    The sun was out, the weather was perfect, and Matthew felt good.

    If the sky stayed clear, he’d finish painting the house.

    Even better, his wife, Amy, would be home soon from her graveyard shift.

    They had plans—coffee together, a rare moment of connection after ten days of barely seeing each other.

    But Matthew wasn’t just excited for coffee.

    He was horny.

    The thought of getting tangled up with Amy before they left made him smile.

    Then Amy walked in.

    No hello.

    No eye contact.

    Just walked right past him.

    Matthew followed her into the bedroom, hopeful.

    She let out a deep sigh.

    He stepped behind her, wrapped his arms around her, and groped.

    Amy stepped away.

    She walked into the bathroom and closed the door.

    Why She’s Pulling Away Isn’t What You Think

    Thirty minutes later, Matthew and Amy sat in silence at a coffee shop.

    Matthew was irritated—he’d had his mind set on sex, and it hadn’t happened.

    Amy was even quieter than usual.

    Trying to fill the dead air, Matthew talked about his plans to finish painting.

    Then he noticed it—a tear running down Amy’s face.

    “Why are you crying, Amy?” he asked, setting his coffee down.

    Amy stared off.

    “Come on, Matthew. You should know me well enough by now. I shouldn’t have to say.”

    Matthew replayed the morning in his mind.

    What had he missed?

    Amy finally broke the silence. “I need you to care about me.”

    Her voice was as cold as her untouched coffee.

    Matthew was stumped—and annoyed!

    Didn’t he just try to have sex with her an hour ago?

    Didn’t that prove he cared?

    “Maybe you just need some sleep,” he suggested.

    Amy shook her head, eyes narrowing. “I don’t need you to tell me what to do.”

    Matthew clenched his jaw.

    His patience was thin.

    “This is BS,” he thought.

    Arms crossed, determined to defend himself, he snapped: “Well, I do care about you, so I don’t know what your problem is.”

    Amy turned her face away, as another tear ran down her cheek.

    💡 Pro Tip: If Matthew had simply said, “I hear you. What else are you feeling?” he could’ve stopped this crash before it happened.

    A woman’s words aren’t a conclusion—they’re the tip of the iceberg to something else she’s feeling.

    How Matthew Made Matters Worse

    That evening, Matthew was feeling better.

    The house painting had gone great.

    But he was also horny as hell.

    Amy had been sleeping most of the day.

    Now, she was curled up in bed.

    Matthew stepped out of the shower, wrapped in a towel, and slid under the sheets next to her.

    He started kissing her.

    She barely responded.

    “Come on, Amy. I’m gonna sleep like shit if we don’t have sex.”

    Amy sighed.

    That long, exhausted sigh Matthew had grown to hate.

    “Okay, fine. Just do your thing.”

    This was the kind of sex they had been having lately.

    Matthew hated it.

    Amy hated it.

    But what Matthew didn’t get was that his need to relieve his horniness was all Amy could feel from him.

    💡 Pro Tip: Your wife wants to feel your sexual desire—not your sexual neediness. There is a difference!

    If you don’t understand why she’s pulling away, it’s time to notice the energy you bring to the room.

    How Matthew Fixed the Intimacy Issues in His Marriage

    If your marriage is like Matthew’s, there are some things you need to STOP doing, like:

    ❌ Needing to be right.

    ❌ Using her as an outlet to get off.

    ❌ Constantly needing her to explain herself.

    ❌ Desperately needing to be chosen.

    ❌ Trying to force her to “get clear.”

    That conversation Matthew and Amy had at the coffee stand?

    That could have led to an intimate moment.

    Matthew only needed to hold space for Amy to sort out her feelings with him.

    Instead, he reacted—and she shut down.

    That’s why she had tears running down her face.

    Never mistake this cue.

    If your woman’s eyes get glossy, she wants to open up—if only you could handle it.

    Thankfully, Matthew realized this cycle would destroy his marriage and got help.

    He found a mentor who helped men navigate these waters.

    And that’s when everything changed.

    He stopped letting his horniness override his awareness of how Amy was feeling.

    He learned to create a connection in moments that used to trigger his defensiveness.

    Amy felt his presence again.

    She felt his sexual desire—not his sexual neediness.

    And that’s when intimacy started to flow naturally.

    There was only ONE THING that had prevented this for Matthew—his sense of well-being had been tied to Amy’s reactions instead of his own self-assurance.

    Your Next Step You Can’t Afford To Miss

    It’s impossible to hold space for another if you don’t have rock-solid self-assurance.

    The confidence you display when your wife pulls back is what attracts her to get close again. 

    You can gain the same attractive masculine energy Matthew achieved in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

    Join an amazing group of men and learn to lead intimacy in marriage with confidence!

    If you’re ready to break free from frustration, rebuild attraction, and restore the deep, passionate intimacy you once had with your wife, then it’s time to step up. 

    My eBook, How High-Achieving Men In Their 40s Can Restore Passionate Intimacy With Their Wife of 18+ Years, is your guide to making it happen.

    Inside, I walk you through the exact mindset shifts, strategies, and actions you need to take to lead with presence, strength, confidence, and clarity.

    Get your copy today and start leading your marriage with presence, power, and purpose

    The masculine confidence framework I teach men is no joke.

    I guarantee your gains are worth the effort.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman