Masculine Confidence Framework

Category: Intimacy

The section contains vital blog posts for men looking to increase intimacy, affection, love, and a deeper connection in their marriage.

  • 6 Signs She Wants You To Be More Bold In The Bedroom

    6 Signs She Wants You To Be More Bold In The Bedroom

    The female mind possesses fantasies and secret desires waiting to be ravished. This article and video below will help you identify when to be more bold in the bedroom. You’ll also learn what to do with sexual boldness when your relationship is struggling.

    Do Women Desire Sexual Boldness?

    Women often secretly crave what they repress.

    In 2023, over 39 million romance novels were sold, with 82% of those purchases made by women.

    Romance novels depict scenes so erotic even a sex coach would blush.

    The provocative narrative in these novels proves women DO have an intense desire to be seduced in bold, imaginative ways.

    We men get turned on by our physical senses.

    What we see, hear, smell, and touch gets our passions fired up.

    We men can easily assume that if our wife is not turned on, we just need to stimulate her.

    While women do appreciate physical stimulation, it’s most enjoyable for her AFTER she’s turned on.

    This raises the question all men have asked, “What turns her on??”

    In the video below, I talk more about female arousal.

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    Being Sexually Bold 24/7 Backfires

    Women desire romantic confidence from their partners, but not constantly.

    Yes, we need to resolve our shame around our sexuality.

    Yes, we need to be confident with our bodies and not be awkward with our lovemaking but boldly pushing our sexuality 24/7 is what backfires.

    Initiating lovemaking takes confidence.

    Stopping our sexual pursuit when she isn’t receptive while still maintaining playfulness takes MORE confidence.

    In a long-term relationship, a woman is turned on by how we handle her

    rejections to our advances, not by how we handle her enjoyment of our advances.

    The concept above made no sense to me when I first learned it.

    I’m here to tell you it has revolutionized my sex life.

    When we can call off our sexual pursuit while maintaining a non-needy vibe, her juices start to flow.

    How Desire for Physical Intimacy Develops In Women

    A woman’s desire builds through numerous intimate moments, like “drips” filling a bucket until it reaches a point of arousal.

    When I say, “bucket”, I’m referring to how women are vessels who accumulate their experiences internally.

    Have you noticed women always remember the past?

    She’s wired for her emotional experiences to accumulate, one on top of the other, shaping how she feels.

    “Intimate moments” are things like:

    • Feeling valued
    • Feeling emotionally safe and connected
    • Feeling slight anxiety about our love for her (creates want)
    • Feeling a little left out (creates desire)
    • Feeling appreciated
    • Feeling teased
    • Feeling beautiful

    In my experience, when a relationship is NOT on the rocks, a woman will accumulate “intimate moments” into her bucket for about a week (or even two) before she starts to brim with erotic desire.

    We men are so different!

    Show us a picture of a hot girl and we’re turned on NOW.

    Women show signs when they’re ready for us to express our unbridled sexuality.

    Here’s 6 Signs It’s Time To Be More Bold In The Bedroom:

    1. She’s blushing, avoiding eye contact, and fiddling with her hair
    2. She’s happily chatting for a very long time.
    3. She’s lingering around us while occasionally brushing against us or touching our arm.
    4. She walks past us with no pants or top then lingers for no apparent reason.
    5. She shows us a craft or something she made then hangs around like she’s waiting for a pat on the head.
    6. She’s facing us while she talks, and as we step closer, she doesn’t back up or turn to the side.

    Blushing is my favorite sign to be more bold in the bedroom.

    When she’s blushing, she’s literally so hot and bothered she can’t control herself.

    When we see these signs, hesitation will squander the moment.

    The moment she shows one (or more) of the signs above, cup her face and plant a long hot kiss on her lips.

    If she’s receptive to the kiss, lead her into an amazing intimate experience!

    If she isn’t receptive to your kiss, spank her butt and leave the room with a wink.

    Most of us guys already knew about “testing the waters” with a kiss but we typically used OUR level of desire to push us to “test the water”.

    Testing her because we’re horny is as annoying as a mosquito on a summer night.

    LET HER COME TO YOU with signs she’s ALREADY turned on before going for a long hot kiss.

    How To Be More Bold In The Bedroom When Your Marriage Is Struggling

    If I could boil this whole article down to one sentence it would be this: Our horniness is not the indicator of when it’s time to be sexually bold, her receptivity is.

    Some self-evaluating questions to improve intimacy are:

    • How good am I at not taking things personally so I can connect with where SHE is?
    • Can I see “no” as an indicator of HER state, not a statement about me?
    • Do I have clarity about how I love to behave regardless of how others are being?

    In our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course,” I give you the framework to be a confident, attractive man who’s sexually bold.

    In the course, we teach you how to stop walking on eggshells with your amazing gift of sexual intimacy and to view yourself as the prize.

    This course is taught LIVE so you get specific coaching for your situation.

    When a relationship is on the rocks, it’s time to face our fears, shame, insecurities, and triggers and stop trying to “fix” what’s frustrating about our partner.

    Until we face our own issues, we’re not in a position to lead the relationship to a better place.

    Be the sexually bold man she can’t rattle.

    Garrett Prettyman

  • How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    This article discusses how women respond to the energy we bring into the relationship. I’ll use examples from the TV show “Vikings” to illustrate how you need to be to make your wife want you again.

    Focus On Causes, Not Symptoms

    Every day, I speak to men in a desperate spot. 

    They sincerely want to save their failing marriage, but everything they do seems to backfire.  

    I know how it feels to become hiper focused on everything that’s “wrong” assuming those issues are the only thing preventing our marriage from turning around. 

    The problem with this approach is we’re trying to resolve symptoms, not causes. 

    • Lack of affection/no sex
    • Poor communication
    • Blaming attachment styles
    • Love language frustrations
    • Emotional coldness/withdrawal
    • Her inability to be respectful or do self-improvement

    The list above are symptoms, not root causes.

    I say it all the time, “Love covers a multitude of sins”.

    When our wife feels attracted to us, she overlooks the annoyances (and so do we).

    The level of personal happiness and fulfillment we feel outside of marriage determines how we’ll eventually feel inside the marriage.

    The degree to which we can create an amazing life without our wife determines the degree to which we can create one with her.

    If we’re not emotionally secure enough to let her go, we’re not emotionally secure enough to have her. 

    These are the kinds of insecurities and root causes that cripple a relationship. 

    How You Need To Be To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    Watch my video below to see how a woman changes when the man gets his spark back. 

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    How To Make Your Wife Want You Again

    One of the most effective ways to attract a woman is to let her go. 

    She wants to have the freedom to CHOOSE you, and she can’t have that freedom unless she knows she has the freedom to NOT choose you as well. 

    A man without an inspiring life mission will see his wife as his source of happiness and purpose for living. 

    He can’t let her go because he can’t imagine living without her. 

    Woman are not wired to be responsible for their happiness AND ours. 

    A huge burden is lifted off her shoulders when we have a life that’s so energizing that our spark, charisma, excitement, joy, and inspiration are full regardless of what she does.

    How A Viking Reattracted His Lover

    In the video, I pointed out how the more Rollo wallowed in his self-pity, victim mindset, and lack of purpose the more Siggy lost her attraction for him. 

    He blamed his brother, his ex-lover, the gods’, and everyone else for his life. 

    For a time, Rollo tried to demand respect and love from others and that quickly made his situation worse.

    I realize this story is made up, but it mirrors what I see with men I work with. 

    Again and again, I’ve seen my client’s wife circle back after the man gets clear, excited, and motivated by his positive future to the point that he lovingly lets her go.

    These men grew to the point they:

    • No longer resisted the divorce process.
    • No longer needed to “be right”.
    • No longer needed her mood be different for him to be ok.
    • Could unshakably trust in their own ability to create the experiences they wanted.
    • Accepted that she is on her own journey of personal growth and is progressing at her own pace.
    • Stopped “fighting for the marriage”

    In the video, Siggy suddenly became re-attracted to Rollo because his spark brought energy to the relationship instead of taking energy from it.

    She wanted to feel ALIVE. 

    Women move towards what makes them feel ALIVE.

    We as men get to take the lead and demonstrate what feeling alive looks like. 

    Our partner is wired to respond to the energy we bring into our relationship.

    Our vibe, tone, and look in our eye does all the talking.

    Getting Your Spark Back

    When I take men through my Masculine Confidence Framework I’m giving them the foundation for WHO they are, then helping them get clear on HOW to be that man in their relationship.

    Men emerge from this framework with personalized, unflappable self-trust and inner security.

    You read that right. 

    YOUR masculine frame is not going to consist of the same values or operating principles as the next guy. 

    My coaching challenges YOUR pain points, YOUR perspectives, and YOUR excuses. 

    An interesting study revealed how high testosterone doesn’t necessarily equal high female attraction.

    What the researchers discovered was low levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) had more of an appealing effect on women than high testosterone did.

    We don’t need to be more “macho” for our wife to want us, we need to be more comfortable in our own skin, more OK, and more relaxed to face what needs to be faced.

    If you’re ready to have your brain rewired so you can make decisions quickly, know how to be with feminine emotions, and live as a man with an inspiring purpose, then fill out my Get Grounded Now contact form to schedule a free consultation. 

    I promise you’ll gain clarity on how to make your wife want you again without being fake or manipulative.

    In total honesty, we CAN’T make our wife do anything, we can only be a higher standard that makes the choice to join us blindingly obvious.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Sexless Marriage? Don’t Blame Her…Yet

    Sexless Marriage? Don’t Blame Her…Yet

    When our wife emotionally and sexually withdraws, we can find ourselves in the depths of despair and heartache. We feel suffocated under the weight of painful emotions. Self-doubt gnaws at our core, eroding any remnants of confidence we once had. In the darkness of a sexless marriage, there’s a flicker of hope. Our hope to overcome this anguish is to realize we need to rebuild our shattered confidence before intimacy can return. Are you resentful that you ended up in a sexless marriage? Well, don’t blame her…Yet. Allow the story below to be your roadmap back to confidence and intimacy.

    Chris’s Sexless Marriage

    Meet Chris.

    Chris is known for his remarkable kindness and always going the extra mile to please others. 

    He has a gentle soul, and conflict is his sworn enemy. 

    He would do anything to avoid confrontation, believing that maintaining harmony in all aspects of life is paramount!

    Chris’s marriage to his wife, Sarah, started off blissfully. 

    They were deeply in love and seemed to have a fairytale relationship. 

    As time passed, Sarah began to feel a growing disconnect. 

    Chris’s unwavering niceness became suffocating, and his fear of conflict prevented open communication between them.

    Rather than leading an emotional connection with Sarah, Chris would walk on eggshells hoping to not upset her.

    In their intimate life, Chris’s insatiable sexual neediness further strained their relationship.

    He constantly sought validation and reassurance, often pressuring Sarah for physical intimacy. 

    His desperation for connection had unintentionally pushed Sarah away, and she no longer felt the same attraction she once had.

    Sarah longed for a partner who could stand up for himself, express his desires and needs, and engage in honest conversations. 

    She craved a sense of balance, where both partners were able to communicate their feelings openly, even if it meant occasional disagreements.

    Feeling the growing distance, Sarah contemplated the state of their marriage. 

    She realized that if things continued as they were, both of them would suffer. 

    Sarah knew deep down that Chris’s innate kindness was genuine, but it was overshadowed by his fear of conflict and his inability to assert himself.

    She wanted to feel attracted to Chris, but an unexplainable pressure kept her from feeling anything but disgust whenever she was around him.

    Though she hated to think of it, Sarah knew deep down the only way she could have the relationship she wanted was to leave Chris. 

    Lack of Confidence, The Cause Nice Guys Overlook

    Jump forward 24 months.

    Chris and Sarah’s marriage had only worsened. 

    Sarah had come to terms that she didn’t want to be with Chris and told him she wanted a divorce. 

    Chris was devastated. 

    Determined to change, he embarked on a journey of self-improvement.

    Chris sought mentorship to explore his own insecurities and learn healthier ways of expressing his needs

    Through self-reflection and guidance, he began to strike a balance between being kind and standing up for himself. 

    He discovered that true strength lies not in avoiding conflicts but in being unshakable in his self-esteem, boundaries, and personal values. 

    Over time, the dynamic between Chris and Sarah started to shift! 

    Their conversations became more honest and open, as they learned to communicate their desires and concerns without reacting from a place of neediness, insecurity, or fear. 

    Chris’s newfound self-assuredness and willingness to engage in constructive dialogue reignited the spark in their relationship.

    As they grew together, Chris learned the importance of maintaining a healthy balance between kindness and assertiveness. 

    He discovered that true intimacy blossoms when both partners can express their needs, engage in open dialogue, and face conflicts with love and respect.

    If Chris could summarize with one word the most basic skill he had to learn to re-gain attractiveness it would be this: CONFIDENCE

    Your Chance To Restore Intimacy

    Did the story of Chris & Sarah sound familiar brother?

    Learn the key building blocks to become an attractive, happy, CONFIDENT man who women can’t resist in the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

    Watch this video for a sneak peek into the benefits men are gaining in this course!

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    Sexless Marriage? Don’t Blame Her…Yet

    If you’re action-orientated, serious about making permanent changes in your mojo, relationships, sex life, and work life, (and have a sense of humor) then you should join this course.

    Visit our registration page to save your spot!

    Over the years, I’ve appreciated the research into intimacy Esther Perel has done.

    In her article, “Are Taboos Holding Your Relationship Back?” she reminds us how familiarity breeds loss of desire.

    Let this truth relax your anxious mind that when something NEW comes out of you, something NEW will come out of the relationship.

    Have A Sexless Marriage? Don’t Blame Her… Focus On Being A Man You’re Proud Of

    Your love story can take a new turn.

    Your relationship can be stronger and more passionate than ever before when you stop trying to please her and focus on rebuilding your self-confidence.

    You can learn how to give her space without losing her.

    The confidence course isn’t the only place I’m teaching men how to regain their attractive confidence while in a sexless marriage.

    In my coaching, I mentor men personally through my masculine confidence framework.

    Book a FREE Get Grounded Now consultation if you’re interested in 1:1 mentorship.

    See you on the other side brother, 

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Sexless Marriages: The Fragile And Elusive Erotic Desire Of Women

    Sexless Marriages: The Fragile And Elusive Erotic Desire Of Women

    This article takes a peek under the hood of feminine affection and reveals why her sensual desires can seem fickle and unavailable at times. Although sexless marriages can feel very bleak, being patient and letting her come to you is imperative.

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    Feminine Love Is Mostly Narcissistic 

    Click HERE to watch a short video by Esther Perel.

    Esther has been studying infidelity and sex in long-term relationships for many years.

    If you’re thinking, “Narcissistic, that’s toxic!” Don’t pull the eject lever yet brother.

    Feminine and masculine are polar opposites so A LOT of how women work will seem backward to us guys.

    In a nutshell, women are wired to experience erotic turn-on when they’ve received a cocktail of emotional experiences.

    Women are bombarded with male attraction from all sides constantly.

    Her biology is wired to only “open the doors” to specific masculine traits that will ensure the survival of the human race.

    This is a twofold experience for her.

    On the one hand, she needs to sense we’re a grounded, secure, confident, protective, and competent man who will keep her safe when she’s emotionally, physically, and mentally the most vulnerable.

    On the other hand, SHE needs to feel safe, contained, desirable, attractive, and delicious all on her own totally separate from you.

    As Esther Perel says, “A woman who cannot make love to herself cannot receive love from others”. 

    See why feminine love is largely narcissistic? 

    Everything revolves around HER feelings for HER sexuality to open. 

    Expecialy In Sexless Marriages, Her Love Is Sensitive

    Think of your partner’s affection like a bubble.

    In the early stages of a relationship, her initial responses to us can form a “love bubble”.

    We men are the ones who assume the “love bubble” is a permanent part of how she feels towards us.

    No sir! This bubble can pop from the slightest shift in the wind.

    Sometimes the bubble can be reformed, sometimes it cannot.

    This has nothing to do with our value, quality, or achievements as men but has EVERYTHING to do with how HER biology towards us feels to her.

    Women are wired to be responders.

    Just as the moon is a reflection of the sun, She’s supposed to respond/reflect back to us a version of herself based on how we’re being.

    Women Are Like Cats, Men Are Like Dogs

    Corey Wayne Came up with the cat/dog analogy to compare men to women.

    I love this point of view because it’s so relatable!

    Both species make good pets.

    Both can be affectionate.

    Cats are more elusive though.

    A cat can’t be forced to obey, purr, sit still, or “stay” unless they feel like it.

    Dogs are very loyal and are quick to forget about yesterday.

    Cats are always suspicious of our intentions and only come close when they feel the right vibes around us.

    Dogs are ready to pick up the fun right where they left off regardless of how bad the day was.

    Can you relate to any of these experiences with your partner?

    In a sexless marriage, your wife is mirroring to you how she feels around you.

    If you’re showing up 100% as the confident, MAN in the relationship who is inspired, fulfilled, outcome non-dependent, and happy, then this is just how she’s going to be with you.

    However, most men are walking on eggshells, trying to make her happy, and sacrificing themselves instead of staying in their masculine frame when the marriage is struggling.

    If the latter version sounds like you, then what she’s mirroring to you will change when YOU change.

    Sexless Marriages Call For A Clear Masculine Frame

    Masculinity coach Mark Drezga and I teach a Confidence Course that will get you thinking, responding, and talking like a grounded, attractive man.

    Learning how to be masculine in relationships will completely change your sex life, work life, and social life!

    If you’re ready to pull out the big guns and fully re-wire your brain for life-long transformation, consider my 1:1 mentorship.

    Click HERE to schedule a free consultation about my 1:1 Masculine Confidence Framework package that will be the most life-changing investment you’ve ever made for yourself.

    Sexless marriages are the perfect place in life for men to get the biggest results from doing this work.

    True masculinity can only be forged in the total absence of feminine support and affection.

    Make good use of this time brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Polarizing Her Desire: Techniques for Men to Build Sexual Energy

    Polarizing Her Desire: Techniques for Men to Build Sexual Energy

    You’ve heard the quote, “You’ll miss 100% of the shots you never take”.What if I told you, “The level of pleasure you can experience is proportional to the level of pain you can face?”This article is about polarizing her desire by holding tension (even when it feels scary as hell).

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    Polarizing Her Desire In The Right Season

    Your relationship is like a garden.

    Trying to sprout beans in the dead of winter is a fool’s run.

    If your wife has asked for “space” your relationship is not in the right season for the advice you’re about to read.

    Go watch my video titled “How To Give Your Wife Space Without Losing Her” to get clear on what you can do.

    If your relationship is in the daily grind of the mundane and needs a jump-start, keep reading!

    Tension – The Potent Ingredient To Polarizing Her Desire

    Men are attracted to beauty, women are attracted to strong safety.

    It’s not just your ability to beat up bad guys or wrestle tigers that I’m talking about when I say, “strong safety”.

    When…

    • A woman feels we can be direct instead of beating around the bush, she knows we can handle someone’s verbal assaults on her
    • We step up and sort the schedule, decide where to eat, and have a plan for the day she feels we don’t need her to “mother” us
    • She senses we can keep eye contact even when we’re blushing, she knows we can control our impulses
    • We listen to her accusations without getting defensive, she knows we wouldn’t harm anyone as a reaction

    These are all forms of facing and then holding strong under tension.

    There can be no sense of erotic play without the energy of tension!

    One thing to notice is when you “leak” tension.

    Laughing releases energy.

    I’m not saying you should never laugh, but notice when you laugh because something is funny vs trying to clear the air of tension.

    How I Failed And Succeeded At Building Tension

    Right now, I’m sitting on a plane typing this.

    An old man just walked down the aisle towards me.

    He noticed my blanket had fallen into the aisle.

    With a very somber face, he picked it up and placed it on the seat next to me.

    His frustration was thick in the air so I laughed and said, “Oops!”.

    The old man glared back unimpressed.

    Here’s why this laugh was unnecessary: I was chuckling because I was uncomfortable with his sour emotion.

    Other people’s emotions are not mine to manage!

    He can have his sour emotion, it’s not my job to deal with that for him.

    So hey, I’m a recovering nice guy just like you.

    Even though that story was an example of what NOT to do when allowing tension to build, I do have success stories too 🙂

    The other day, I was on a date with an attractive women.

    She talked…A LOT.

    One thing I’ve learned about women is they only talk a lot to people they like, so I took it as a compliment.

    So I..

    • Stayed present
    • Held eye contact
    • Teased her a little and felt the tension building between us
    • Held the tension
    • Didn’t laugh it away, bounce my leg, or change the topic
    • stayed present and let the tension build between us

    In fact, I slowed down and stayed facing her, letting her be the first to break eye contact.

    Holding energy like this is porn to women.

    A few hours later, we were at her place making hot love in the bedroom.

    Women crave to let go! To expand. To be taken.

    Her body can’t do this if she senses your energy is nervous, flighty, or needy.

    It takes inner confidence to sit with tension.

    Two Ways To Hold Tension

    1. Breathe into your balls to relax.

    2. Develop the mindset of a confident man.

    Breath work can be as simple as pulling your stomach out when you inhale.

    I like to picture that I’m inflating my balls when I inhale.

    This kind of deep breathing grounds and relaxes our bodies.

    Any time we have constriction in our body, we’re blocking our energy flow.

    Masculine energy is open, relaxed, broad, and open.

    Both masculinity coach G.S Youngblood and Doctor Greg Wells teach how daily breathwork can increase our resilience to stress and regulate our nervous system.

    Make breathing your #1 priority when feeling tension or anxiety building between you and your partner.

    Breathing is always in the PRESENT.

    Being in the NOW while remaining unperturbed is very polarizing.

    Developing the mindset of a confident man is more of a process.

    Most of what’s taught to us in movies and culture leads us to think others are making us feel how we feel.

    A confident man understands what he feels is his own creation based on his current perspective.

    The power in this is he can choose a new perspective when his feelings get buzzing.

    Like in my story above, I could have thought, “Why won’t this woman shut up?

    She’s been talking for a solid hour!!”

    Or, I could decide to think, “Women talk to guys they like. This is a compliment.”

    Same situation.

    Different mindset.

    Different mindsets affect the vibe you put off!

    The Next Step To Polarizing Her Desire

    This article is just the tip of the iceberg.

    I teach men a whole lot more when I take them through my “Masculine Confidence Framework”.

    Yes, it’s a big investment to have 1:1 coaching like this.

    It’s supposed to be.

    Re-wiring your brain requires a serious commitment to change.

    If you’re ready to make this investment in yourself, fill out my “Get Grounded Now” form for a free consultation.

    Polarizing her desire is a natural byproduct of healthy self-esteem, grounded energy, and confident behaviors.

    Stay grounded brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

    Polarizing Her Desire: Techniques for Men to Build Sexual Energy
  • Menopause: What Men Need To Know (But Nobody Is Saying)

    Menopause: What Men Need To Know (But Nobody Is Saying)

    This article is like receiving the puberty talk before our voice changed. Kind of nice to have a heads-up before everything in our life shifts. Menopause: What men need to know is fairly direct. Your wife will change into a new person and there is no escaping it. Further down is a video from a man who is a menopause veteran. Pay attention to the advice he gives. Your marriage might depend on it. 

    The Shocking Info Men Withheld From You

    At 9 years old, I loved technology and came across a Radio Shack ad for a control module that could turn on any house light from your bedroom.

    I wanted one. 

    After saving up most of the summer, I went to Radio Shack and bought the control module. 

    I was ecstatic!

    I opened the box and quickly realized I had been misguided. 

    The control module was only one piece of the puzzle. 

    Every outlet in the house had to be equipped with a receiver for the system to work. 

    I was so bummed. 

    The full system was way out of budget for a 9-year-old. 

    Why hadn’t the salesmen at Radio Shack informed me? 

    Why wasn’t the ad clear that upcoming purchases were necessary to use the module?

    There were men who sat at your wedding who knew something shocking.

    They watched you pledge your love to a woman… and they stayed silent.

    You thought you were signing up for a lifetime of romantic intimacy with the exact woman who stood before you. 

    Maybe these men didn’t want to douse the spark in your eye. 

    Maybe they thought they were alone in their experience.

    Here’s the shocking thing these men knew: Your wife would go through an unavoidable metamorphosis and become a totally different person… Menopause!

    I’m calling in an expert to give us the facts straight.

    Joining relationship coach Mark Drezga and me in the video below is men’s coach Charlie McKeever. 

    Take 30 minutes to listen to Charlie’s front-line report of how a man can survive the menopause battlefield as a happy, confident man.

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    Menopause: What Men Need To Know When She Acts Different

    The stages leading up to menopause can be a 10-year span called Perimenopause. 

    For most women, Perimenopause starts in her mid-40s. 

    You might be thinking, “So what, her period gets irregular or something?” 

    Think again.

    Remember how much change your body went through during puberty?

    Imagine if you knew you had to go through puberty again to undo everything puberty did the first time around…

    That’s what it’s like for her. 

    Every man is well aware of how sensitive and changing a woman’s moods are when she’s on her period…

    Underlying issues in your relationship she’s been sweeping under the rug boil out over that time. 

    Perimenopause is going to call forth your operating standards, boundaries, and self-reliance to your own happiness in ways you may have never been tested before. 

    She’ll need you to be a confident, emotionally present, calm man not for the weekend…FOR THE LONG HAUL!

    Menopause: What To Do About It Right Now

    If you feel like your marriage is in the throes of menopause, I encourage you to reach out to Charlie by clicking HERE. He can mentor you through the stages every man must learn to be the unmovable rock in the relationship.  

    Being a confident man who doesn’t seek his wife’s approval and leads the relationship is the type of man you should be regardless. 

    Masculine finds purpose in momentum. 

    We like to see progress, goals reached, and checklists completed. 

    When we stop using our wife as the framework for our behaviors, choices, affirmations, and progress, a NEW frame is built. 

    Your NEW frame is created with your own standards for yourself. 

    Operating to your own standards for yourself (regardless of what others are doing) is attractive to the feminine. 

    Menopause: What men need to know is it’s not a matter of IF but WHEN.

    Men who have already become the attractive leader and rock in their relationships (before menopause strikes) won’t take her moods personally.

    He won’t beg, argue, complain or sulk when she’s having a bad day.

    He’s understanding when she’s not down for sex.

    He’s the lighthouse that leads her home.

    That’s what a great man does for his wife. 

    Complete my “Get Grounded Now“ form if you want to discuss my 6-month intensive that will re-wire your brain and turn you into the confident, mission-focused, courageously vulnerable man you want to be.

    Do it for you.

    Do it for your family.

    Be strong brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Why She’s Pulling Away from Intimacy (And How to Fix It)

    Why She’s Pulling Away from Intimacy (And How to Fix It)

    Why she’s pulling away from intimacy is usually not what you think. Let’s unpack the key difference between sexual neediness and attractive desire—a common cause.

    This is the third in my series of 6 dangerously effective marriage-saving secrets.

    Secret# 3: End Sexual Neediness – The Pungent Wife Repellent.

    (Use These Links To See Secrets One & Two)

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    End Sexual Neediness – The Pungent Wife Repellent

    Matthew’s Advances Fell Flat

    The sun was out, the weather was perfect, and Matthew felt good.

    If the sky stayed clear, he’d finish painting the house.

    Even better, his wife, Amy, would be home soon from her graveyard shift.

    They had plans—coffee together, a rare moment of connection after ten days of barely seeing each other.

    But Matthew wasn’t just excited for coffee.

    He was horny.

    The thought of getting tangled up with Amy before they left made him smile.

    Then Amy walked in.

    No hello.

    No eye contact.

    Just walked right past him.

    Matthew followed her into the bedroom, hopeful.

    She let out a deep sigh.

    He stepped behind her, wrapped his arms around her, and groped.

    Amy stepped away.

    She walked into the bathroom and closed the door.

    Why She’s Pulling Away Isn’t What You Think

    Thirty minutes later, Matthew and Amy sat in silence at a coffee shop.

    Matthew was irritated—he’d had his mind set on sex, and it hadn’t happened.

    Amy was even quieter than usual.

    Trying to fill the dead air, Matthew talked about his plans to finish painting.

    Then he noticed it—a tear running down Amy’s face.

    “Why are you crying, Amy?” he asked, setting his coffee down.

    Amy stared off.

    “Come on, Matthew. You should know me well enough by now. I shouldn’t have to say.”

    Matthew replayed the morning in his mind.

    What had he missed?

    Amy finally broke the silence. “I need you to care about me.”

    Her voice was as cold as her untouched coffee.

    Matthew was stumped—and annoyed!

    Didn’t he just try to have sex with her an hour ago?

    Didn’t that prove he cared?

    “Maybe you just need some sleep,” he suggested.

    Amy shook her head, eyes narrowing. “I don’t need you to tell me what to do.”

    Matthew clenched his jaw.

    His patience was thin.

    “This is BS,” he thought.

    Arms crossed, determined to defend himself, he snapped: “Well, I do care about you, so I don’t know what your problem is.”

    Amy turned her face away, as another tear ran down her cheek.

    💡 Pro Tip: If Matthew had simply said, “I hear you. What else are you feeling?” he could’ve stopped this crash before it happened.

    A woman’s words aren’t a conclusion—they’re the tip of the iceberg to something else she’s feeling.

    How Matthew Made Matters Worse

    That evening, Matthew was feeling better.

    The house painting had gone great.

    But he was also horny as hell.

    Amy had been sleeping most of the day.

    Now, she was curled up in bed.

    Matthew stepped out of the shower, wrapped in a towel, and slid under the sheets next to her.

    He started kissing her.

    She barely responded.

    “Come on, Amy. I’m gonna sleep like shit if we don’t have sex.”

    Amy sighed.

    That long, exhausted sigh Matthew had grown to hate.

    “Okay, fine. Just do your thing.”

    This was the kind of sex they had been having lately.

    Matthew hated it.

    Amy hated it.

    But what Matthew didn’t get was that his need to relieve his horniness was all Amy could feel from him.

    💡 Pro Tip: Your wife wants to feel your sexual desire—not your sexual neediness. There is a difference!

    If you don’t understand why she’s pulling away, it’s time to notice the energy you bring to the room.

    How Matthew Fixed the Intimacy Issues in His Marriage

    If your marriage is like Matthew’s, there are some things you need to STOP doing, like:

    ❌ Needing to be right.

    ❌ Using her as an outlet to get off.

    ❌ Constantly needing her to explain herself.

    ❌ Desperately needing to be chosen.

    ❌ Trying to force her to “get clear.”

    That conversation Matthew and Amy had at the coffee stand?

    That could have led to an intimate moment.

    Matthew only needed to hold space for Amy to sort out her feelings with him.

    Instead, he reacted—and she shut down.

    That’s why she had tears running down her face.

    Never mistake this cue.

    If your woman’s eyes get glossy, she wants to open up—if only you could handle it.

    Thankfully, Matthew realized this cycle would destroy his marriage and got help.

    He found a mentor who helped men navigate these waters.

    And that’s when everything changed.

    He stopped letting his horniness override his awareness of how Amy was feeling.

    He learned to create a connection in moments that used to trigger his defensiveness.

    Amy felt his presence again.

    She felt his sexual desire—not his sexual neediness.

    And that’s when intimacy started to flow naturally.

    There was only ONE THING that had prevented this for Matthew—his sense of well-being had been tied to Amy’s reactions instead of his own self-assurance.

    Your Next Step You Can’t Afford To Miss

    It’s impossible to hold space for another if you don’t have rock-solid self-assurance.

    The confidence you display when your wife pulls back is what attracts her to get close again. 

    You can gain the same attractive masculine energy Matthew achieved in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

    Join an amazing group of men and learn to lead intimacy in marriage with confidence!

    If you’re ready to break free from frustration, rebuild attraction, and restore the deep, passionate intimacy you once had with your wife, then it’s time to step up. 

    My eBook, How High-Achieving Men In Their 40s Can Restore Passionate Intimacy With Their Wife of 18+ Years, is your guide to making it happen.

    Inside, I walk you through the exact mindset shifts, strategies, and actions you need to take to lead with presence, strength, confidence, and clarity.

    Get your copy today and start leading your marriage with presence, power, and purpose

    The masculine confidence framework I teach men is no joke.

    I guarantee your gains are worth the effort.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Emergency Post For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    Emergency Post For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    You’re about to read two stories to help you understand why your wife may not be feeling attraction for you. Husbands not having intimate sex can feel like they’ve tried everything. Many times, these men simply haven’t learned how to create safety and trust.

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    Emergency Video For Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex

    Bass, Sunshine, Mosquitoes, and Sex…

    As I’m typing this, a fly just flew in through my open front door.

    There’s a rainstorm brewing outside.

    Flies seem to be extra clingy at these times.

    This fly has landed on my arm and wiggled into my hair several times.

    I would like to murder it.

    I feel my whole body closing up as I get angry trying to stop the irritating fluttering on my head.

    “Closed”… This is what a woman’s body does when she doesn’t feel our self-trust or emotional safety.

    Our horniness can be the fly.

    No amount of, “fluttering” your stiffy on her will get her aroused when her body is closed.

    Something mature men come to realize is our horniness is ours to manage. 

    Your horniness (along with your emotions) are never your wife’s responsibility to take care of. 

    Husbands Not Having Intimate Sex Can Be Mosquitoes

    Years back, I hiked to a remote lake before sunrise to bass fish from shore.

    I imagined I would cast a line in for a few hours then swim, and soak up some sun. 

    As the sun rose, the bass started biting!

    Then something else started biting…

    Mosquitoes.

    Millions of them.

    I tried to cover up every inch of my body. 

    My bare hand on the reel was getting slaughtered.

    All desire to rip my shirt off and enjoy the sunshine was gone even though sunshine is something I enjoy.

    That’s what it’s like for your wife.

    She always has the proper juices to desire physical intimacy with you.

    But, when she’s being pelted with our need to:

    • Be “Right”
    • “Get off”
    • Know “Why??”
    • Be “Chosen”
    • Have her “get clear”

    …We’re assaulting her with mosquitos (Then we wonder why her body isn’t responding to our touch).

    Seducing Your Wife

    Seduction tactics and advice for attracting women for dates will not work on your wife!

    There is a proven process for being the kind of man who is attractive in a long-term relationship vs dating. 

    I take men through a 14-step process to go from being a nice guy to being a confident husband. This is the kind of man who is both unapologetic about his sexuality and able to manage his own needs. Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” contact form for a free consultation.

    When we take action to address the underlying issues driving us to be compulsive and needy about sex, we’ll no longer feel like an annoying mosquito to our wife.

    You and I having a conversation could be the 1st step to resolving not having intimate sex in your marriage.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Why She Shamed You For Ejaculating: 2 Causes (Explicit)

    Why She Shamed You For Ejaculating: 2 Causes (Explicit)

    Fair warning: I’m about to get graphic. This article is specifically for the husband whose wife has grown repulsed by him finishing during sex. I know firsthand how insecurities and triggers can be born when our spouse’s desire dims. When she shamed you for ejaculating, the most vulnerable part of who you are was denied acceptance. In the safe, private groups I mentor, many men have confessed to experiencing this painful type of rejection. I’ll share two ways women lose sexual desire so you can better understand what’s happening. I help men get a new perspective so they can confidently lead their relationships

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    When Your Wife Shames You For Ejaculating: 2 Causes (Explicit)

    Lovers Paradise:

    She lay comfortably naked on a fuzzy blanket by the fireplace.

    Her skin was soft and warm from soaking in the bath…

    As Sam’s hands spread lotion up her freshly shaved legs, Heather closed her eyes.

    Starting at her toes and working his way up, he could feel her leg muscles relax.

    Heather’s legs spread slightly more open.

    Gently, he rubbed the sides of her hips, then pushed his palm from her lower tummy straight up to her chest then back down.

    She arched.

    Her curves partly shadowed by the flickering fire.

    Sam placed his palms on either side of her belly button, holding steady pressure.

    He could see she was getting wet.

    Sam brushed her labia as he slid his hands back down the insides of her legs.

    Suddenly, her legs wrapped around him and she pulled him in closer.

    Heather’s hands started unbuttoning Sam’s pants.

    She looked at him and with begging eyes pleaded “put it inside me“.

    A while later, their passionate writhing had Sam cumming.

    Heather used her fingers to spread his juices all over her in ecstasy.

    She smiled and said “I love having you all over me”

    Same Lover A Few Years Later:

    Imagine the same scenario as before.

    This time though, some candles are burning and soft music is playing.

    After Sam massaged her muscles into jello, he touched her lips with his finger and leaned in for a kiss.

    As their lips touched, tears started pouring out of Heather’s eyes and running down her cheeks. “I feel nothing,” she said, then got up and walked out of the room.

    The next weekend Sam and Heather both lay in bed kissing and cuddling.

    As desire grew, Sam slipped his hard manhood inside her.

    They arched together.

    Soon both Heather and Sam started to orgasm at the same time.

    After Sam came, Heather’s face held a look of disgust.

    “Now I’m going to be leaking your juices for an entire day… This is GROSS!” Heather snapped.

    She rolled out of bed to shower.

    When she came back, she crawled into bed facing the wall with her back to Sam and went to sleep.

    This was happening more and more lately.

    The month prior, Sam had pulled out and finished on her chest. She recoiled with the same tone of repulsion at that time too.

    She used to love it when he orgasmed…Now she hated it.

    WTF Changed?

    Sam was baffled by how his wife had grown repulsed by him finishing.

    Was he doing something wrong?

    Why did Heather go from loving everything about his sexual nature years ago to recoiling in disgust now?

    The answer is both simple and complex.

    The short explanation is women’s sexuality “opens” and “closes”. (Hint: This is not because of a wrong sex position or lube)

    Men’s desire for sex goes up and down depending on how long it’s been since he’s engaged in it.

    There’s one constant to be relied on with men: The longer it’s been since he’s had sex, the more strongly he can feel desire.

    Women are not wired this way. A “closed” Woman can go decades without desire.

    When a woman is “closed” your morning wood makes you a pervert in her opinion.

    If she’s “opened” she can’t keep her hands out of your pants.

    When she shamed you for ejaculating, it spoke more about who SHE is than about who you are.

    In her book “Open Her” Karen Brody describes 7 masculine archetypes that “open” women.

    She talks about two ways women lose respect and sexual desire for a man.

    Those two ways are:

    1. When we have sex with her even when she’s been treating us poorly.
    2. When we follow through on having sex when her body is not responding positively to our touch (obligation sex).

    Let’s look at the first point: Engaging in sex when she’s treated us poorly. (And yes, shaming us for cumming is treating us poorly.)

    Having sex with her when she’s been treating us badly is like rewarding a dog for shitting on the floor.

    Subconsciously, our wife will think to herself, “He has no standards… why should I be anything better?”

    She won’t even realize she’s thinking this, but the seed grows over time.

    A man who respects himself doesn’t see sex as something he gets when he’s “lucky”.

    He doesn’t see sex as a “reward” for doing what she wants around the house.

    For the confident, attractive man sex is never transactional.

    A man with high self-esteem sees himself as the prize.

    Sex is his gift.

    He is the one who takes sex off the table, not her.

    There is a reversal of leadership when the woman becomes the gatekeeper of intimacy in the marriage.

    This doesn’t mean we, “try to get even” by withholding sex when she’s been nasty.

    It means we lovingly lead her to something besides sex when we crawl in bed that night and clearly communicate why.

    Many times, this just means having an honest conversation where we do more listening than talking.

    Now let’s look at the second point: Following through with sex when she’s allowing, “obligation sex”.

    Let’s say you’re horny, but She’s not really in the mood.

    She pulls down her panties and says, “ok do your thing“.

    This is not an invitation to prove you have magical powers to turn her on.

    This is a time to demonstrate your self-worth and pull those panties back up, kiss her forehead, and say, “Good night sweetie” (wink, wink).

    You’re cool.

    You’re non-needy.

    You don’t settle for less than the best.

    Until a man can show this self-value for himself, SHE won’t be able to feel respect for him.

    The Bigger Issues At Play When She Shamed You For Ejaculating

    Your wife is always going to push you to your edge of personal growth through challenge.

    Few of us would be looking to address our own insecurities or low self-worth if women were perfect angels who blindly coddled and gave us blow-jobs constantly.

    Everyone feels like a king when between the legs of a horny women.

    But the king is made on the battlefield, not in the bedroom.

    When she shames us for ejaculating, it’s calling us to know our boundaries and trust our inherent worth as a man. Rejection means nothing about you, it’s an expression of how SHE feels.

    This raises a question we must personally answer: WHY are we giving our gifts to someone who doesn’t want them?

    The key to knowing what to do next will be found in exploring that “why”.

    How To Grow Your Balls Back After She Shamed You For Ejaculating

    Has your partner brought you to the end of your wits? Good. You’re in the battlefield where kings are made. I help men in the battlefield become kings every day. If you’re ready to address the deeper issues that were going on when she shamed you for ejaculating, then let’s talk. Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” form to schedule a FREE 60-minute consultation. You’ll be glad you did. That’s a promise

    Stay strong brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • 4 Reasons Marriage Fails Without Masculine/Feminine Polarity

    4 Reasons Marriage Fails Without Masculine/Feminine Polarity

    In a world where the pendulum has swung far from supporting “patriarchy”, a new problem has emerged. Entire generations of men are afraid they’ll be undesirable to women if they come off as “chauvinistic”. Let’s cut the labels for a moment and look at masculine/feminine polarity from a purely energetic standpoint. I have an offer at the end that will increase your masculine polarity.

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    4 Reasons Your Marriage Will Fail Without Masculine/Feminine Polarity

    Rubber meets the road after we marry.

    Advice given on our wedding day is forgotten.

    The honeymoon phase ends.

    Our confidence on how to manage a relationship dips as we see things spin out with our partner that makes no dam sense.

    Here are 4 ways your marriage will fail without masculine/feminine polarity:

    1. Without masculine/feminine polarity, our partner feels like a roommate

     Regardless of our sexual identity, we feel attraction to what polarizes us.

    The idea of masculine/feminine polarity is not a new concept.

    In Tony Robin’s article, “How to increase relationship polarity” he states a very blatant truth: “When your relationship polarity becomes too similar, passion dies“.

    Harmony and polarity are not the same.

    When we share the same likes, dislikes, and perspectives, we have harmony.

    Harmony creates a great sense of friendship.

    Polarity is a spark.

    Where there’s Polarity, there’s energy.

    Polarity pulls us out of our comfort zone and lights a glow in us.

    A healthy relationship needs “spark” to fire on all cylinders. 

     

    2. Our wife cannot relax into her soft, creative, motherly, sensual, flowing, feminine energy unless she senses a strong, protective, masculine “containment” around her

    She needs something to kick against to know where she stands.

    Feminine energy moves away from things that don’t feel like safety.

    We all know what a woman is like when she’s been wearing the pants around the house.

    She feels empowered at first.

    Soon, she becomes harsh, angry, and resentful.

    Our wife is fully capable of being her own “masculine containment”.

    However, she isn’t able to relax into a soft or receptive state while she’s being her own man.

    • Masculine “containment” is simply masculine energy that responds rather than reacts to her outpours
    • Masculine energy is grounded in unchanging values and takes extreme ownership of her, and ALL aspects of his kingly realm
    • Masculine makes clear decisions for the betterment of the realm, regardless of emotion.
    • “Masculine containment” serves to protect but not necessarily to please

    Without this grounding, our relationships will rise and fall with the waves of her moods… Nobody enjoys that voyage. 

    3. Sexual intimacy flatlines unless someone leads and someone receives

    Both men and women can embody masculine or feminine energy.

    We may switch roles several times per hour.

    The problem is when one of us gets STUCK in an energy that isn’t our natural resting place.

    A man stuck in feminine energy will:

    • Grow passive, indecisive, and depressed
    • Feel like he’s at the mercy of those in his life
    • Blame others for how he feels
    • Let people walk over him
    • Avoid conflict like the plague
    • Hope and fantasize about sexual intimacy instead of leading it
    • Assume others are responsible for dealing with inconveniences in his life

    Why?

    Because in his heart of hearts, he is a king.

    A king leads, Does hard things, and takes responsibility for his actions.

    A king also knows what he has to do and does it even if it makes him unpopular…To not do so violates his own sense of purpose. 

    Your relationship won’t survive unless someone takes charge in the realm of intimacy.

    4. There is a depth of love that cannot be known unless it’s “tested” by a polarizing opposite

    For our wife to feel a deep trust and freedom to love us she must challenge who we are.

    Like going to the gym, Masculine grows through challenge.

    When she changes her mind, doubts our choices or distracts us from our mission she is “testing” how deep our roots are. 

    We should appreciate that she wants to feel our strength, integrity, and deepest truth by challenging it. 

    How You Can Gain Masculine/Feminine Polarity

    There is an effective process to becoming a man with polarizing masculine energy.

    I teach this process to men all over the world and effectively use it in my own life.

    The process teaches us a new way to think about our feelings.

    We learn to make choices from our non-negotiable values.

    Everything becomes black-and-white, “yes” or “no”, based on our personal life mission.

    We learn to give our gifts freely and not attach to outcomes.

    Masculine/feminine polarity is a natural occurrence. 

    My offer: Set aside 60 minutes and I’ll set aside 60 minutes.

    We’ll discuss your current situation and decide if working with me 1:1 is the right move for you.

    Fill out my Get Grounded Now form to schedule a call.

    You won’t regret it.

    That’s a promise. 

    Be grounded brother,

    Garrett Prettyman