Masculine Confidence Framework

Tag: Healthy Husband-Wife Relationships

? How To Set Strong Boundaries With Your Wife
Boundaries.

It’s a buzzword.

A go-to fix-it line from well-meaning friends.

“Boundaries, girl! Don’t let David’s mom control you like that!” Alesha’s friend declares over coffee.

Meanwhile, David’s mother is setting her own boundaries for Alesha… and David? He’s contemplating boundaries just to keep them both from strangling each other.

This isn’t boundaries—it’s a mess.

I’m going to teach you a simple, no-BS approach to boundaries.

One that actually works.

I give you more insight in the 15-minute video below and also invite you to join The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

What Bad Boundaries Look Like

Most people are doing boundaries wrong.

They think boundaries are about forcing other people to stop annoying them.

That’s because 95% of people aren’t fully conscious.

They think their feelings are caused by other people—so they believe setting a boundary will magically make them feel better.

That’s like trying to drive the road down the car instead of driving the car down the road.

Your feelings don’t come from other people.

They come from YOU.

YOUR triggers.

YOUR perceptions.

Your brain interprets the world through YOUR five senses (which, by the way, are highly unreliable).

Think of boundaries like a fence.

If you use boundaries to fence your bad feelings, you’re just letting those negative feelings run your life.

And that’s a losing game.

What Good Boundaries Look Like

A good boundary protects something you value.

That’s the key—it’s positive.

Your phone dies if you never charge it, right?

You’re no different.

When you get crystal clear on what keeps you strong, draw a line in the sand so you don’t exhaust it.

No more over-giving. No more over-accommodating. No more over-serving.

That’s a good boundary.

So what fuels you?
- Time in nature?
- Meaningful conversation?
- A night with the boys?
- Intimacy with your wife?
Protect those things with a boundary, brother.

Protect both how you receive it and how much you give.

We all have behaviors that make us proud of who we are—that light us up so we feel self-respect.

Don’t bend on them.

A boundary around respect means nobody can push you into acting disrespectfully.

A boundary around love means nobody can push you into acting unloving.

If you want strong boundaries with your wife, dig your heels in and hold the line on these things.

If you don’t like how she’s acting?

Don’t join her—step back.

That’s your boundary because you know what you value.

That’s you drawing a line in the sand for anything less than that.

Boundaries Are for BIG Things

Moods? Petty frustrations? Minor annoyances?

They don’t need to have boundaries enforced on them.

Boundaries are for the BIG things.

DEALBREAKERS.

The experiences that would make you step out of someone’s life.

Your wife is always going to have feelings, pushback, and moods—it’s part of her nature.

You must be the rock.
- When she’s stormy, you stay grounded.
- When she’s emotional, you stand firm.
- When she tests you, you don’t react.
That’s having a masculine frame for her feminine behaviors.

But the moment she crosses the line of what you deeply value…

BOOM.

That’s when your boundary comes out for the kinds of people you keep in your life.

The first time your boundary gets crossed warrants a verbal affirmation of what you value and won’t tolerate.

The 2nd time requires a more severe consequence.

By the third offense, you remove yourself from that person’s life.

That’s how serious boundaries are.

Gaining Clarity on Who You Are

This is the work I do with men.

We dig deep into your core values and get rock-solid on how to stand firm in them.

You become a man who is strong, not reactive.

A man who fills the space that’s his to fill—and lets her do the same.

1:1 coaching with me isn’t for guys who dabble.

It’s for men who want the maximum return on their investment.

Men who don’t pussyfoot around—they go big or go home.

But if you’re not ready for coaching yet, my book is a great place to start.

It’s for High-Achieving Men who want to restore intimacy in their marriage.

? You’ll learn why doing everything she’s been asking for isn’t working.

? Why being her “dream husband” is backfiring.

? Why she no longer craves your touch—and how to turn that around.

? Download your FREE copy HERE.

Much love, brother.

– Garrett Prettyman
March 14, 2025
Why Are Some Men So Good With Women?

Seduction. Desire. Play.

Let’s be real—we love to be swept off our feet by a lover.

There’s nothing like a woman so stunning she stops you in your tracks.

And sure, we all know true beauty is on the inside, but let’s not pretend we don’t appreciate it when it’s on the outside too.

Here’s the thing—feminine women feel the same pull.

Only for them, it’s not about looks.

They notice:

? Strength

? Self-confidence

? Momentum/Leadership

That’s what draws her in.

That’s what keeps her interested.

And if your Relationship is struggling, it’s time to take a good hard look in the mirror.

The Hard Truth About Attraction in a Strained Relationship

It’s easy to let yourself go once you’re married.

You settle into routines.

You get comfortable.

You assume she’ll always be there.

And then one day… she isn’t.

Now, let’s be clear—getting a fresh haircut or dropping 20 pounds won’t save your marriage.

But let’s use some common sense—if you care about your house, you paint it and fix the roof when it leaks.

Your body, your presence, your energy? Same thing.

Neglect yourself, and you send a message—you’re not serious about LIVING.

And if you’re not serious about living, why should she be excited to live it with you?

This is where most men go wrong.

They wonder, Why are some men so good with women?—and assume it’s about tricks, gimmicks, or even luck.

But the truth is much simpler.

It’s about presence.

It’s about energy.

It’s about being a man who lives with purpose rather than looking to others to give him those things.

The Inside & Outside Game of Seduction

In the pickup world, they call haircuts, jawlines, and money “Outside Game.”

It’s what turns heads.

It can attract women fast, but like a beautiful storefront with nothing inside, if there’s no substance, she’ll walk right out the back door.

That’s where Inside Game comes in.

Inside Game is about who you are when it counts:

? How you hold yourself when things get tense

? Your tone when she pushes back

? The way you look at her when she’s in her own storm

That’s when she feels who you really are.

And if what she feels isn’t grounded, strong, and certain—she pulls away.

It’s why some men seem to have natural success with women while others struggle.

They embody strength and certainty—not to seduce, but as a way of being true to themselves.

Your Wife Wants to Be Seduced—Even Now

Yes, even now.

She wants to be romanced.

She wants to be wooed.

She wants to feel something real.

Because let’s be honest—the daily grind? It’s the exact opposite of seduction.

Even one of the best pickup artists of all time, stage-named “Mystery,” said married women were his easiest targets.

Why?

Because they were starving for attention, excitement, and connection.

Can you blame them?

We’re all racing toward the grave.

How many truly great memories are you going to make before you get there?

Women seem to be most aware of this.

She won’t waste her time on a sinking ship.

And if you’re wondering, Why are some men so good with women?, here’s your answer: They live their PURPOSE from the INSIDE-OUT.

How You Can Become A Purpose Filled Man

I know a man is living from the OUTSIDE-In when he:

? Complains

? Blames others

? Seeks validation

Here’s the truth—when your purpose and mission are clear, you should walk, talk, and behave like a man who loves every damn minute of it.

And that’s all any woman truly dreams of feeling from her man.

If you’re ready to do what it takes to bring that energy back—Then let’s talk.

Book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation, and I’ll get you clear on your next move.

Stay grounded, brother.

—Garrett Prettyman

February 7, 2025
Failing Marriage? 2 Mistakes Successful Men in Their 40s Make

Are you a man who is highly successful everywhere in life yet finds yourself in a failing marriage? I will show you a clear path to achieving the same success in your marriage that you’ve mastered in other areas of your life.

Why Are Most Men Blindsided By Their Failing Marriage?

By our 40s, the sheer amount of effort we’ve poured into our business or career starts to show.

The early days of marriage when pennies were pinched have faded and basic life expenses are no longer a stress.

We hoped that years of hard work and sacrifice would pay off, allowing us to enjoy a fulfilling life with our wife for the long term

But now that we stand at the best point in life to begin this epic chapter, why doesn’t she doesn’t seem interested or engaged?

All too common, our years of labor have taken a toll on the marriage and a distance has grown with her.

It can feel like she has a separate life, one filled with routines and friends we know nothing about.

The story below tells how a man named David found himself in this exact situation and what he did to turn it around.

David’s Success At Work Didn’t Equal Success At Home

David stood in his office, staring out the window.

His mind was usually absorbed in work.

Today, however, it was consumed with thoughts of Chelsie, his wife of 18 years.

At work, everything was clear.

He set high standards, monitored performance, and got results.

But at home, his system was failing.

Chelsie’s cold shoulder had started months ago.

At first, David ignored it, thinking it would pass.

But she stayed distant.

She avoided his touch, brushed off his attempts to connect, and barely talked about her day.

Frustrated, David had told her many times, “This is unacceptable! I need love and affection in this marriage! What is your problem?”

Each time, it only made things worse.

“I shouldn’t have to tell you what’s wrong or what I need,” Chelsie snapped one evening.

Her words stuck with him.

Why couldn’t she just tell him what was wrong so they could fix their failing marriage?

He managed dozens of people at work, each with their own needs, and got them to perform.

Why couldn’t Chelsie do the same?

David sighed and turned away from the window.

Deep down, he knew the answer.

Chelsie wasn’t one of his employees.

She was his wife, his source of love—the one person he knew could shake his confidence.

Women Struggle To Feel Affection For A Man Who Fears Her

At work, David felt in control.

He could fire underperformers or change strategies without hesitation.

But at home, Chelsie’s rejection cut deep.

Her coldness made him feel small, like he wasn’t enough.

That fear paralyzed him.

David had spent months focusing on what he didn’t like in their marriage.

He pointed out her flaws and told her she was wrong for shutting him out.

But he never thought about what she needed.

His critical thinking—his strength at work—was failing him at home.

The truth was, Chelsie didn’t want a manager.

She wanted a lover.

She wanted the playful, relaxed man she had married.

The David who made her laugh, wasn’t afraid of her moods, and didn’t treat their relationship like a quarterly project.

That version of David had been buried under his drive for success.

He was so focused on work that he lost touch with the fun, loving side of himself.

Deep down, there were many things Chelsie wanted to share with David but she knew her true feelings would be met by his frustration or need to fix them.

David feared her feelings and he feared losing intimacy – a power Chelise didn’t want to have over him.

Like darkness slowly enveloping her, Chelsie’s affectionate feelings for David diminished as he continued to hold her responsible for his frustration.

2 Hidden Mistakes Successful Men Make At Home

Whenever I’ve coached highly successful men, I’ve noticed two common mistakes.

The first mistake is we think our wife’s cold reactions are unfair to what we’ve provided.

We look at our list of amazing things we’ve done, analyze her current reaction, and then think, “This doesn’t add up!!”

If we can leave our calculator brain at the office for a moment, we can start to see how our wife’s reactions are EXACTLY what they are supposed to be.

Imagine how different you would respond if you really believed that her feelings were exactly what she was supposed to feel and she was reacting to them the best she could.

The 2nd mistake I see highly successful men make is we think our money, house, wife, and frequency of sex are confirmation of our success in life.

I fell into this category hard in my marriage.

The moment my cash flow, household, or love life changed, I was a frazzled wreck.

I expected my wife to “mommy” my frustration so I could feel strong enough to take on the world.

If we want an intimate, sexual relationship with a woman, we cannot make her our mommy.

When a man INTERNERALIZES his sense of confidence and well-being, he won’t react to his wife as David did, which drove love and affection right out of his relationship.

How Did David Save His Failing Marriage?

That evening, David sat in the living room.

For the first time in months, he ignored his work emails.

He thought about Chelsie’s words: “I shouldn’t have to tell you what’s wrong or what I need.”

They hurt, but they also challenged him.

Could he see past his frustration and fear?

Could he show her, not tell her, that he cared?

David knew it wouldn’t be easy.

He’d have to face his fear of rejection and let go of control.

But if he approached her with empathy instead of criticism, maybe he could break through.

Maybe he could melt the icy wall between them.

He closed his eyes and pictured Chelsie’s smile.

He remembered the way her eyes lit up when he walked into the room.

That’s what he wanted to see again.

For the first time in months, he decided to stop pointing out what she did wrong.

Instead, he would SHOW her what he wanted their love to be.

His first step was to not react, but listen when she made small bids for conversation.

Within a few weeks, they were back to laughing and enjoying each other’s company!

How did David turn around his failing marriage?

Ask him and he’ll say –“I internalized my self-confidence & stopped fearing the woman I love”.

How To Become The Confidant Man Your Wife Needs

Over the last Three weeks, four of my 1:1 clients have told me, “Holy cow, my marriage has done a full 180!”

These are highly successful men who have learned how to not settle for the status quo while also not being a controlling jerk.

In my masculine confidence framework, I teach you how to be a man with a solid spine and a soft heart.

Book a free Get Grounded Now call and we’ll have an amazing 60 minute chat so I can better understand your situation and give you clear steps to take.

Stay grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman

January 2, 2025
Mastering Seduction In Marriage
This article reveals some secrets to building erotic desire with your wife or girlfriend by mastering seduction.

Seduction is not about the art of picking up strange women.

Seduction is about the art of creating and maintaining feelings of positive emotional tension, including sexual tension.

Perhaps you have a fairytale version of love in your mind.

In this fairytale, your wife or girlfriend is magically affectionate, intimate, and sexual with you for 60 years… All because you’re such an easy-going, great guy!

This rarely happens.

Like it or not, seduction is a game.

Do you feel a negative reaction when you think of “players” who are good with women?

Don’t think of playing the game as being a slimy manipulator who tricks women into liking him.

Think of playing as something that is FUN for both of you.

If you’ve ever had sex, you are already a player in the game of seduction.

The OUTSIDE Game Of Seduction

Pickup artists use OUTSIDE game to meet and have sex with new women effectively.

These men know how to tease, be mysterious, and make her feel understood.

They get her desires burning through playfulness.

The female mind loves the tease, temptation, emotions, and illusion of freedom that OUTSIDE game provides.

However, if you do not have INSIDE game, new women you seduce with OUTSIDE game will eventually break up with you.

They will realize it was all smoke and mirrors.

The INSIDE Game Of Seduction

INSIDE game is all about the vibe your behaviors give off under pressure.

Your inner maturity, confidence, self-esteem, vulnerability, and masculine frame are part of your INSIDE game.

Without a rock-solid INSIDE game, your wife won’t feel safe opening her heart to you.

She won’t feel like she can trust you with her emotions.

She will feel like the relationship has no depth.

Many younger women become infatuated with “bad boys.”

They assume if his OUTSIDE game feels confident, then his INSIDE game must be very secure, strong, and competent.

Sadly, most women who marry “bad boys” realize down the road that his INSIDE game is that of insecurity, self-doubt, and need for validation.

Many women who have been burned by a “bad boy” will latch on to a “nice guy” next.

They assume the “nice guy” will have what the “bad boy” lacks.

Sadly, most women who marry “nice guys” lose sexual attraction for him.

His softness, wishy-washiness, aversion to conflict, and lack of boundaries feel boyish and feminine to her.

Women crave to ravish a man, not a boy.

Mastering Seduction In Long Term Relationships

Your wife needs to be seduced again and again.

She needs to bounce between your INSIDE game and your OUTSIDE game weekly for the rest of your life.

On the days she’s drawn to your INSIDE game, she loves how her mood can’t rattle you.

Her complaints are met with your empathy.

When she brings up the past, you show understanding without getting defensive.

You like who you are being.

You trust your intentions, and she can sense your secure vibe.

On days she’s drawn to your OUTSIDE game, she’s loving that you’re sexting her during the day.

You’re giving her a wink and squeeze on the shoulder, and buying her favorite coffee.

In other words, you are living your best life and she’s feeling the invitation to join.

I sucked at both INSIDE and OUTSIDE game badly.

I’ve made it my mission to learn and teach men both by mastering seduction in my own life.

In my Masculine Confidence Framework, I get raw and personal with you on how to be a masculine man in a 1:1 setting.

You already have the traits for INSIDE & OUTSIDE game hard-coded into your DNA.

All of us adopted some faulty beliefs about masculine and feminine that need to be re-written.

I will help you spot the mindsets that make you feel indecisive, unclear, wishy-washy, and unattractive towards women.

This way, you can be naturally good at the game of seduction.

Mastering Seduction Is Part Of My Masculine Confidence Framework

I pack a lot of the most potent things I’ve learned into my masculine confidence framework.

Below are 4 ways to tell if my framework will help you.

Are you a man who can…
1. Be willing to take constructive feedback
2. Be willing to laugh at your past mistakes
3. Be willing to follow through on reading and homework assignments
4. Be willing to turn down her offers for sex
That last one might sound strange, but you’ll find out why if we work together.

I’m willing to take you by the hand and lead you each step of the way.

This kind of mentorship will shave YEARS of trial and error out of your life!

If you answered “yes” to the 4 questions above, then book a “Get Grounded Now“ consultation.

I’ll see you there,

Garrett Prettyman
July 25, 2024
Why Small Dick Syndrome is Ruining Your Marriage
Small dick syndrome is the immature version of masculinity. This article provides 53 traits of a mature masculine man. The video below uses some movie scenes to provide examples. Being more masculine isn’t something we have to force. Masculinity is naturally forged in men when we choose the high road when faced with pain and when we resolve the false core beliefs we have about ourselves.

53 Traits Of A Masculine Man

A while back, a man reached out to me after watching one of my videos. He thought it was pathetic that I teach men how to be masculine but don’t include things in my videos like cars, golf or sports. There’s something this man hasn’t learned yet. Although many masculine men do things like sports, fishing, or golf, doing those things won’t make you masculine. Women have a unique gift called a 6th sense. This means she can smell “small dick” syndrome a mile away even if we’re wearing a Packers jersey in a lifted 4×4 blasting through a mud hole.

What Small Dick Syndrome Looks Like

Our cock can be the size of a baseball bat and we still can have “small dick” energy.

We’re exuding “small dick” energy where we’re…
- Easily triggered, then act on that trigger
- Always need to “be right”
- Hold other people accountable for our happiness
- Raise our voice and try to defend ourselves when questioned
- Always have an excuse for why we’re innocent
- Blame other people for our misery/lack of success
- Have to put others in their place to feel a sense of status or power
- Take other people’s actions as a personal threat
- Get jealous or take it personal when our wife finds other guys attractive (or men find her attractive)
- Resort to physical force to “make” people respect us
- Seek revenge and go tit for tat when others “do us wrong”
Small dick syndrome is hard to spot in ourselves because it FEELS like the opposite.
- We FEEL like we’re being assertive when we’re really being reactive
- We FEEL like we’re being confident when we’re really being stubborn
- We FEEL like we’re standing up for our wife when we’re really acting on jealousy or insecurity about our desirability
Needless to say, acting on feelings won’t create a strong masculine vibe.

What A Mature Masculine Man Looks Like

A mature masculine man dances to the beat of his own drum and isn’t bothered by what others say or do. He has a big grin on his face, and has bigger fish to fry than to be caught up with trivial moods or comments his wife might make. The list below is not something you need to learn. You were born with these masculine traits already hardwired to emerge as an adult. What happens is we can develop insecurities, mental narratives, and deeply held core beliefs during times of suffering that PREVENT us from choosing the high road and being the masculine man we’re naturally good at.

The 53 Traits Of A Masculine Man:
1. Clear
2. Calm
3. Direct
4. Non-reactive
5. Capable of danger, but controls it
6. Steady
7. Responds, but on his own time
8. Plays the long game
9. Is self-reliant
10. Can’t be emotionally swayed by others
11. Powerful
12. Stable
13. Discerning
14. Confident
15. Visionary
16. Wise
17. Purposeful
18. Driven
19. Physical
20. Courageous
21. Honorable
22. Decisive
23. Protective
24. Assertive
25. Focused
26. Consistent
27. Embraces Death
28. Knowledgeable
29. World-Wise
30. Mysterious
31. Intellectual
32. Truth Seeking
33. Mystic
34. Insightful
35. Detached from others’ reactions
36. Engineering
37. Sees probable outcomes
38. Vivid life force
39. Sensitive to the outside environment
40. Embodies pleasure without shame
41. Sensual
42. Compassionate
43. Empathetic
44. Creates connection
45. Reads people
46. Feel’s other’s pain
47. Sees potential
48. Lives from the heart
49. Is present
50. Trusts intention over outcome
51. Creates, invents, and innovates what he wants
52. Is on a mission
53. Isn’t urgent
Why Small Dick Syndrome Ruins Marriages

Every romantic relationship (regardless of gender) requires one person who is in the masculine spectrum and one who is in the feminine spectrum. Our wife is incapable of feeling soft, affectionate, nurturing, receptive, submissive, or sexually turned on when we step out of our masculine energy.

How You Can Resolve “Small Dick” Energy

My YouTube critic was correct. Fast cars and golf won’t be on our agenda as we develop your masculinity. When I teach you my masculine confidence framework, I help you cut the blue wire to your triggers and insecurities. I ask you questions so you can see the core beliefs that make you a slave to your emotions. I help you create a frame you would be willing to take a bullet for. Book a call using my “Get Grounded Now” form if you want to talk to me directly. I promise the call will improve your entire week.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
April 13, 2024
5 Crucial Stages To Lasting Love In Marriage
I usually show men a few slides when they reach out for a consultation. I want them to understand the 5 crucial stages to lasting love so they don’t waste time trying to fix the wrong things. I decided to put these slides in this article so they can help more men. The following video is a presentation of the slides where I go into more depth.

5 Crucial Stages To Lasting Love In Marriage

Many men feel alone and uncertain about what to do to help their marriage.

The more we get to know other men, we quickly realize we’re all in the same boat, experiencing similar relationship dynamics.

I want to give full credit to Dr. Jed Diamond for introducing me to the 5 crucial stages to lasting love.

Based on my marriage and the many men I’ve helped, I’ve adjusted these stages to what I’ve seen most guys (and myself) experience.

I’ve also added more information about what women specifically experience when they’re questioning if they married the wrong man.

The 5 Crucial Stages To Lasting Love

Here’s what I see as the 5 stages every marriage goes through:
1. New Relationship Stage
2. Monogamous Stage
3. Bonded partner Stage
4. Disillusionment Stage
5. Long-Term Love Stage
It’s important to recognize which stage we’re currently in so we can make the right choices.

Each of these seasons needs something different to add spark and love back into the relationship.

For example, limiting contact with our partner in the new relationship season will make her miss us whereas doing the same in the disillusionment season will make her glad to get a break from us.

This is why we can’t apply relationship advice from random YouTube videos and expect our marriage to improve.

Another example is having a date night, even if it’s just to check a box, usually fosters a closer relationship with our wife during the monogamous season.

But, if we’re planning dates just to check a box during the bonded partner season, the date in itself won’t do much.

This is because by the bonded partner stage, she needs a deeper emotional connection to happen during the date for it to be impactful for her.

How Each Stage Progresses

A new relationship season swamps our brains in dopamine.

A simple touch or eye gaze feels electric and sensual.

However, women feel a lot more fear daily than men do.

When we start getting affectionate with a girl we like, she soon wants to know, “What are we?”.

Most of us guys settle her fear by assuring her we no longer are pursuing other girls, and SHE is our girlfriend.

Making her our girlfriend can calm her relationship anxiety for a few years at most.

Eventually, she brings up her next fear: “Are we going to tie the knot?”

We men tend to keep resolving her fears as they come up.

After the proposal, we’re addressing where we’ll live, if we’ll have kids, if we’ll have chickens, etc.

Once we put a ring on her finger and settle all these fears, most men start coasting through life.

We behave as if we can’t lose her.

Because we’ve been having lots of sex, the release of oxytocin has suppressed the dopamine in our brains, so we feel more like a bonded family than honeymoon lovers.

We have become highly domesticated, abandoning the majority of our hobbies, friendships, and freedoms for her and the family.

We are at our lowest point of attractiveness during this stage.

Many women have a midlife crisis at this point since life feels like it isn’t going anywhere.

Welcome to the disillusionment stage, where both the husband and wife question if they married the wrong person.

Her 5 Stages Of Disillusionment

Here are the 5 stages I see women go through once they enter the disillusionment stage:
1. Self Improvement Stage
2. Checking Out Stage
3. I’m Not In Love With You Stage
4. I Need Space Stage
5. I’m Done Stage
Most of us totally missed the warning signs of the self-improvement stage.

She started doing more work around the house… She tried initiating sex more…Maybe she started going to therapy or the gym.

It’s easy to perceive her self-improvement stage like she’s finally getting her stuff figured out!

What’s really happening is she’s giving the marriage one last shot.

Taking the lead in a relationship like this isn’t natural for her, and as a result, she often experiences burnout.

Once she burns out, she checks out.

This stage is easy to miss since we think the marriage is improving when she stops putting up a stink about us.

What we do normally notice over this time is we’re only getting obligation sex from her.

Women only complain about things they care about.

A healthy, normal marriage will have a woman who gives a lot of hoots about what she doesn’t like in the relationship.

The ship starts to sink fast once she checks out because not long after she’ll say the words, “I love you but I’m not in love with you“.

If the man continues to be the same guy he’s always been in the relationship, divorce is on the horizon.

The path to divorce starts off with her needing space.

During this season, she’ll no longer let us be in the room when she changes her clothes, she’s making plans or traveling without us more, and spending most weekends away from the house.

She’ll want to sleep separately and eventually will want to get her own place.

Once you’ve heard the words, “I’m done” there is only a 4% chance the marriage can be turned around without divorce being involved.

The time frame from the “self-improvement stage” to the “I’m done” stage is usually about 2 years.

I have met men where it took 10 years, but that isn’t the norm.

I also know several guys who were very confused by how passionate the sex was after she said, “I love you but I’m not in love with you”.

What’s happening is she’s trying to find release for the intense emotions boiling in her.

This is why we can’t use sex as a gauge for marriage repair.

What most of us experience over this time is “the ice queen”.

Her closed-off, icey moods are like a zombie version of who we knew our wife to be in years past.

How You Can Take Charge Of The 5 Stages To Lasting Love

We can’t talk our way out of something we behaved ourselves into.

If I told you exactly how to act when your wife is being an ice queen, you would win the battle but lose the war.

If I coached you on how to lead your wife out of her head and into her heart, we would only be addressing a symptom, not a root cause.

There is a deeper work to do.

Many coaches are only helping men go from point A to point B.

I do transformational coaching so that you can self-coach, self-source confidence, and be self-assured that you are making the right choice 100% of the time.

I compare it to teaching someone how to shop for food vs how to grow their own food…Which guy do you think will confidently survive an apocalypse?

If you’re ready to step up and lead the 5 crucial stages to lasting love, fill out my “Get Grounded Now” form.

I promise you’ll have a better sense of what to do after we talk.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
March 25, 2024
How To Get Your Wife Back With Honesty (3 Myths Busted)

I get it because I’ve been there. You’re willing to do anything to get your wife back. Like any self-reliant man, you’ve searched Google for how to fix your marriage! This article will debunk 3 online myths about “getting your ex back” with brutal honesty. Keep reading or watch the following video to gain clarity about what works and what’s all smoke and hot air.

How To Get Your Wife Back With Honesty (3 Myths Busted)

What! The Internet Lied To Us??

Do you remember when searching for something on Google used to pull up forums of real people having real conversations about topics?

That old way of indexing online content is history.

Now, our online searches only reveal what the algorithms think we should see and what marketers have paid for us to see.

Those claiming to have a 90% success rate at saving marriages are just trying to get ad priority, clicks, and money.

I’m willing to be honest with what I’ve seen work and not work for men.

Honesty is one of my values, so I’m going to tell you the truth even if it costs me a sale.

Debunking Myths On How To Get Your Wife Back

Let’s pull out the shotgun and eliminate a few misconceptions running around feral on the internet.

Myth 1: You can save your marriage even if your wife doesn’t want to.

I’ve been engaging with thousands of men in troubled relationships worldwide for several years and this is unheard of.

Yes, we can do self-improvement even if she doesn’t want to.

Sure, we can invite her to join a new standard of interacting in the relationship.

What’s self-evident is until SHE decides she wants the marriage to work, fighting for the marriage fails nearly every time.

I explain this more in my article, Walkaway Wife, Why You Need To STOP Chasing Her.

What we see work is LETTING GO of the marriage and accepting that if she doesn’t want to be married to us, she is free to go.

I’m not advocating that you should file for divorce, but I am saying you shouldn’t be trying to resist it.

Myth 2: Opening up more to your wife will bring you closer together.

This is the kind of advice you’ll hear from women and wiki pages on how to improve relationships.

Digging everything out from under the rug so we can identify our attachment styles and childhood traumas can be equally as unproductive.

In the therapy world, this is called “low-mood therapy” when we try to focus on everything “wrong” with the relationship.

Despite many women claiming this would have closed the gulf between her and her husband in years past, only about 5% of women have done enough personal development to handle a man’s raw vulnerability.

For the rest of us in relationships with the remaining 95% of women, we need to trust that having a support system outside the marriage is what works best.

If you don’t believe me, click HERE to read an excerpt by researcher/author Brene Brown.

Let your wife do more talking so SHE feels connected.

Men open up through affection and intimacy, not by talking about the past.

Our wife, being the opposite, needs to get everything off her chest or she won’t feel affectionate enough to give us the intimacy we need to feel close and bonded with her.

Reacting triggered, defensive, distracted, or trying to fix her when she opens up puts divorce in our cards, brother.

Myth 3: “No contact” makes her want you.

I bring this one up all the time.

Yes, when dating, “absence makes the heart grow fonder“.

In a long-term relationship, absence just makes her glad she doesn’t have to put up with us.

If you want more info on this, read my article, “How To Give Your Wife Space Without Losing Her“, where I discuss what to do instead of “no contact”.

In a nutshell, there are things like neediness, begging, and constantly pestering her for assurance that we can stop dumping on her.

For guys who can’t shut off their insecurities, jealousy, heartbreak, and desperation around her, I do recommend the no-contact rule for HIS sake (not hers).

How To Get Your Wife Back With Tried & True Practices

The masculine confidence framework I teach men isn’t about becoming some badass with a sports car and tattoos.

I help you build a clear framework so you’ll never second guess if you’re responding correctly.

You’ll gain a purpose for your life that goes beyond your wife and kids.

We can’t awaken the version of our wife who wants to feel passionate for us until we have this kind of clarity and life mission.

I don’t guarantee that the new version of your life that’s inspiring, meaningful, self-assured, and purpose-driven will re-attract your ex.

What I guarantee is the right woman will be drawn to it, and sometimes that person is your ex.

Are you ready to stop relying on YouTube duct tape to patch your relationship together?

Then fill out my “Get Grounded Now“ form for a free consultation.

We’ll have a deep and meaningful conversation.

I promise you’ll gain a new perspective about being the kind of man who creates the relationships and experiences you want!

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman

March 17, 2024
STOP Tiptoeing Around Your Wife
This article is about a man who couldn’t handle his wife’s moods or emotions. Tiptoeing around your wife creates a long-term “drama loop”. A grounded, confident husband nips the “drama loop” in the bud.

Why You Need To STOP Tiptoeing Around Your Wife

The Negative Effects Of Being Indirect

Gerald felt torn.

He and his wife Susan were sitting in the hot tub.

She was looking intently at him for an answer.

He didn’t know what to say.

Part of him knew if he spoke plainly, all hell would break loose from Susan.

The other part of him knew his tactics of tiptoeing around questions had been getting under her skin lately.

There was a part of Susan Gerald dreaded.

He had named this part of her “the dragon”.

Although he had never admitted this term to Susan, she instinctively knew he saw part of her this way.

Susan’s “dragon” was a cold, dismissive, angry, moody personality that usually surfaced around her period.

For years, Gerald had managed to keep Susan’s “dragon” asleep by not disturbing the peace when she was on edge.

He had become a black-belt master of adjusting his responses based on how he felt she would take them.

Susan wasn’t the only one who Gerald used this tactic with.

Customers, family members, in-laws… Gerald could smooth over anything with anyone.

The “Drama Loop”

Over the last few months, indirect behavior from Gerald made Susan feel very unsupported in the marriage.

Her complaints were:
- I don’t feel supported
- You don’t stand up for people
- I can’t trust you
- I don’t feel heard
- You don’t understand me
As Gerald and Susan sat in the hot tub, Gerald opened his mouth to speak.

Susan immediately sensed he was going to “walk on eggshells”.

She stopped him mid-sentence.

Susan: “See! You always do this!!”

Gerald tried to backpedal with a logical excuse.

Susan: “Just tell me, did you or did you not tell your mom exactly why we won’t be going to their place for Thanksgiving?”

Gerald knew he hadn’t been direct with his mom… He didn’t want to piss her off. Gerald had given his mom a list of excuses why they wouldn’t be there for the holiday…

He tried to explain himself then Susan cut him off again:

“I’m done. I’m done with you never having any backbone… I don’t even feel like I can stay in this relationship”

A man who is not in his masculine power rides the drama loop of women in his life. There’s a highly effective process to stopping the drama loop. I teach this process to men every day. I teach you how to stay in your own “lane” when drama strikes. You’re cool, safe, loving, but FIRM.

Without this masculine “containment” women feel they don’t have a champion in their corner and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

How To Stop Tiptoeing Around Your Wife

I gained confidence to be direct by having another man I respect ask me some hard questions. My clarity of those questions gave me clarity to address conflict. You need confidence to stop tiptoeing around your wife. You need men of integrity to ask you some hard questions to challenge your thinking.

Fill out an application for my “Get Grounded Now” FREE consultation. I will ask you some challenging questions. Masculinity grows through challenge.

Much Love Brother,

Garrett Prettyman
January 30, 2024
Roommate Wife: How To Change (For Men’s Eyes Only)
This article gives a short outline of key differences between men’s sexual desire and women’s sexual desire for men’s eyes only. Do you have a roommate wife? Then keep reading.

Roommate Wife: How To Change (For Men’s Eyes Only)

How Men Sexually Desire Women

I’ll point out immediately that roommates don’t have sex.

They can be besties.

They can get along awesomely.

Sexual intimacy is the differentiator

Men and women are opposites in how they mentally process data.

The same is true when it comes to sexual attraction.

Men love when women are:
- Fun
- Exuberant
- Full of life
- Sparkly
- Sweet
- Soft
- Receptive
- Motherly towards cute things
All those attributes add warmth to our connection and relationship with her. These traits are her “inner beauty” that amplifies her outward beauty.

But what makes him feel sexual attraction for her?

The answer is quite simple: She’s pretty.

1 is not pretty…10 is drop-dead pretty.

The end.

Note: There’s highly “classified” information a king knows that doesn’t help the realm if he shares it with them.

Sharing would inflict panic and unnecessary stress.

That’s why it’s classified.

The mechanics of how most of our sexual desire towards our wife comes from her looks is best kept to yourself.

How Women Sexually Desire Men

Occasionally, I’ll ask women which movie character they find HOT or ATTRACTIVE.

The results always intrigue me.

90% of the time, it’s not the big muscular handsome-looking guy she finds as a sexual turn-on.

It’s the guy who holds a FRAME of mystery, courage, and self-control.

The rare 10% who find the big muscular guy attractive choose the muscular guy who has mystery, courage, and self-control.

A woman will call a guy “creepy” or “inappropriate” if he touches her and then daydream about a different man ripping her clothes off.

Why the contradiction to what she wants or calls creepy?

The answer is mind-numbingly simple: For the one man, she feels a sexual attraction.

Thank goodness women have a 1-100 point system for attraction.

1 is a total creep.

100 is her knight-in-shining armor.

Muscles might gain you 5 points.

A handsome face maybe 10.

Most of your attractive points come from your ENERGY Towards life.

Why Lack Of Emotional Safty Creates A “Roommate Wife”

Here’s what WON’T make your wife or girlfriend feel safe:
- Big muscles
- Combing your hair just right
- Beating up bad guys
- Working 80-hour weeks so she can have a good life
A woman feels safe when she can open herself up to you without fearing rejection, defensiveness, resentment, or pissiness. She feels safe when you dare to go to emotional depths she fears to go herself.

To sexually desire you, she needs to feel your resilience to her chaos.

She needs to feel your deep grounding in who you are and what you’re creating in life.

Getting angry at how this “game” works won’t serve you.

A hot woman will have scads of guys drooling after her.

She could have any one of them she chooses.

A man, on the other hand, has to BE something before she will notice him as a sexual partner.

Who are you BEING?

At this point, I need to warn you of a common mistake men make.

Trying to be something she likes will backfire.

Even if her mouth is telling you all the things she wants, her body wants you to be a mysterious, courageous, self-controlled man who does whatever the hell he wants to ensure his own happiness…I know, women can be hard to make sense of sometimes. But trust me, her sexuality is in her body, not her head.

Being her roommate or lover is your choice, not hers.

She is simply responding to what you’re choosing in life.

Choose confidently.

How To End The “Roommate Wife” Situation

If you think getting this stuff sorted on your own is a good idea I have news for you brother- that’s a LONG windy road.

Close male bonds with men you look up to is irreplaceable to re-calibrate your thinking.

You don’t have to waste any more time trying to figure this stuff out.

You sure as hell don’t need to spend any more time trying to figure your wife out!

Master coach Mark Drezga and I have a well-proven plan to end your “roommate wife” problem.

We teach you how to stop playing it small, stop waiting for others to change, and start making bold decisions that will bring the spark back.

We are seeking 8 action-orientated men who are ready to get off the bench of late-night self-help binging and take charge of their personal development.

View our course info if you’re a man who wants more confidence, happiness, masculine charisma, and higher self-esteem.

Be grounded brother,

Garrett Prettyman
January 30, 2024
2 Ways You’re Unknowingly Turning Her Off
When we’re getting under our wife’s skin and unknowingly turning her off, we can be totally oblivious. In this article, I explain the two most common ways you could be turning your wife off without realizing it. I’ll also define the kind of man you need to be to turn her on.

Has your wife said these words to you?

“You don’t have my back”… “Stop trying to fix me”… “You don’t “get it”

I know a husband who had been working long days at his job for years.

He found a sense of honor in all the sacrifices he made for his family to have a good life.

Not being able to pay the bills was a stress he never wanted his wife to face.
- He worked tirelessly to save for a larger home, a dependable car, and even their own hot tub
- He dedicated himself to resolving every issue that arose along the way, ensuring she could relax and reap the rewards
- Despite the strain, he reassured himself that his hard work wouldn’t always be necessary
One afternoon, he came home from work and his wife was crying. “I’m just so lonely”, she sobbed.

He was pissed. This didn’t make sense.

He was giving her a dream life!

She could do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted.

Deep down, the husband felt jealous she had so much freedom.

The husband felt incredibly disrespected and undervalued by her response to all he had sacrificed for her.

He decided to challenge her with a mental “map” so she could clearly see why he wasn’t to blame for how she was feeling. (FYI, the man in this story was me)

The 1st Way You Could Be Turning Your Wife Off Without Realizing it: Presenting Her With The “Map”

I talk more about this “Map” in the video:

2 Ways Youâ€™re Turning Your Wife Off Without Realizing It

To summarize the video, when you try to set her feelings straight or justify your actions, you’re presenting her with a “map” and unknowingly turning her off. You’ve shifted the conversation away from “what” to “why“. This will make your wife feel “unheard”. Trying to get her to follow your logical “map” makes her feel like you don’t “get” her.

It’s like handing a boiling lobster the owner’s manual to the stove it’s being cooked on.

You have a man’s brain. You SEE how everything fits together in the bigger picture. For you, spotting problems coming down the road is natural. Your excitement comes from putting those pieces together while keeping your eye on the desired result. You love “maps”.

Your wife has a woman’s brain. She FEELS what you’re like to be around. She FEELS how you think about her. Her excitement comes from whatever she’s feeling. Showing her the “map” to justify your actions feels like you’re trying to invalidate how she’s feeling RIGHT NOW.

A man doesn’t feel the need to whip out the “map” when he:
- Trusts his intentions
- Has clarity
- Acts Deliberate
- Stays Calm
- Feels confident in his inherent value as a man
She can feel your insecure need to get yourself off the hot seat by presenting the “map”.

THAT is the turn-off for her. She wants you to “pass her test” by not getting defensive. She wants to FEEL you noticing her emotions, not the reasons for her emotions.

The 2nd Way You Could Be Turning Your Wife Off Without Realizing it: Not Valuing What’s Yours To Value

Sometimes your wife will do things you never would do.

Sometimes she doesn’t value things you value.

Your own worth, value, and attractiveness as a man are things YOU need to be grounded in, not her.

She can FEEL if the removal of her affirmations will crumble you.

She can FEEL if all she has to do is roll her eyes and you’ll go weak in the knees.

Women are hardwired to move towards safety and away from danger.

She cannot feel safe or have deep trust with you when you’re dependent on her for your sense of well-being.

When a husband is bothered or annoyed by his wife she’s usually doing something he wouldn’t.

Maybe she:
- Won’t stop talking at dinner with friends
- Doesn’t help with housework
- Is always on her phone
If you’re bothered by it, SHE’S MIRRORING TO YOU WHAT YOU SUPPRESS IN YOURSELF

Example: Let’s say every day she sleeps in and you have to get up early. When you see her sleeping in, you’re projecting how you would feel about yourself if you did that.

Resentment grows when you see her “get away with it”.

Jealousy grows when you see her “living how she wants”.

Part of you would also feel “lazy” if you slept in every day so you label her as “lazy”.

All these labels are just your own perspectives and triggers! The swirling, changing, flowing feminine energy of our wives pushes us to our edge so we can work on our own shit. She stretches us to consider new perspectives and not get so stuck in a rut.

Maybe we need to give ourselves permission to enjoy some things in life a bit more

Maybe we should allow ourselves to have some freedoms instead of getting resentful of hers?

How A Happy Attractive Husband Brings The Spark Back

Your charging cable needs to be unplugged from your wife. One shadow many men have is they think they need to “man up”, “have balls” or “be more alpha”. Although it’s true women find self-reliant men attractive, your batteries will go dead if you don’t plug your charger into a new receptacle. You need a community of men who have your back. You need male comrades. We love maps! We can hash data all day and find it very connecting. Unplug your charger from her and plug it into us or you’ll keep turning her off by draining her.

Many husbands are clueless about how to create an emotional connection. For some, it stems from deeper shame or fear of loneliness that motivates him instead of his heart (also a common way men turn off their wife). You can turn that around right now by connecting with me.

I teach nice, good, quality men how to:
- Be unshakably grounded in your manhood
- Have crystal clear boundaries
- Live from your values
- Create the relationship you want by having effective operating principles and standards
These are foundational to becoming the strong man you want to be! (without becoming a jerk). Why is it so effective? Because this is man-to-man mentorship. We look forward, not backward. I’ve been where you’re at and I can show you how to move forward. If you’re serious about stepping into your manhood, fill out my “Get Grounded Now” consultation form. It’s free. No fine print. No stress. I’m a certified life coach living in the mountains of Idaho who likes his eggs over easy and his coffee extra hot. We’re both real men. Let’s have a deep conversation about your current situation. Many men are blown away after this call. We talk about things our dad never told us. I give you tools to start using right away. I guarantee you’ll instantly feel better after we talk.
January 26, 2024