Masculine Confidence Framework

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  • Why She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    Why She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    When your wife says, “I can’t keep doing this,” she’s not joking.

    Her commitment to the marriage revolves around how she feels.

    But she’s leaving something out. Something you need to understand.

    Let’s break that down.

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    What She REALLY Means When She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    Here’s what you need to understand: When your wife complains, pulls away, or shuts down, what she says is the problem is rarely the real issue.

    You might hear things like:

    • “I’m exhausted.”
    • “I feel like I’m the only one making efforts in this relationship.”
    • “You just don’t get me anymore.”
    • “I can’t trust you with my emotions.”
    • ” I can’t keep doing this”
    • “You forgot my birthday… again.”

    It’s tempting to take these “problems” literally and jump into fix-it mode.

    To defend yourself

    To apologize.

    To explain why she’s wrong or how your intentions going forward will be different (which is defensiveness).

    But here’s what I keep learning from coaching hundreds of men (and living this myself):

    The things she says are just surface symptoms.

    The real issue?

    It only emerges after she voices all her complaints and is met with your grounded presence and compassion.

    When a woman feels emotionally unsafe with you, her nervous system shifts into survival mode.

    She’s not trying to be difficult; she’s trying to protect herself.

    Protect herself from what?

    Your explanations.

    Your avoidance.

    Your logic.

    All the things that make your presence feel limp or reactive.

    And when she starts to feel like she’s parenting you emotionally, like she’s the only one holding the relationship together…

    Desire dies.

    Respect erodes.

    Trust disappears.

    Attraction fades.

    Most men make it worse by trying to convince her to feel different instead of learning how to be with what she feels.

    The Deeper Issue Under What She’s Feeling

    When attraction is strong, women let a lot slide.

    It’s not about the dishes.

    It’s not the missed text.

    It’s not even the canceled date night.

    She doesn’t complain about those things when she feels connected to you.

    Because those aren’t the real problem.

    It’s about the emotional weight she’s been carrying—alone.

    When she says, “I can’t keep dragging you like dead weight…”

    Brother, she’s serious.

    She says, “I can’t keep doing this,” because she actually can’t.

    She needs a break.

    Space.

    A reset.

    So What Should You Do?

    You start by dropping your need for her to be different.

    This is not the time to push her to stay in the relationship.

    Don’t try to change her feelings.

    Accept them.

    Empathize with them.

    Make plans that support the break she needs.

    Let her feel what she feels without trying to correct the facts.

    Trying to explain, defend, or “set the record straight” confirms what she already fears: That you care more about being right than being connected.

    Lead with presence.

    Lead with curiosity.

    Hear her pain without trying to rescue her from it.

    Because if you can’t stay grounded when she brings the messy stuff, she never trusts you with the deeper stuff.

    The playful stuff.

    The intimate stuff.

    Trying to convince her to stay is often the same invalidating behavior that drives her away in the first place.

    If she really wants out, let her go.

    And don’t be surprised when she circles back.

    How To Rewrite Your Love Story Into One She Loves

    Your old love story with your wife?

    It’s finished.

    Done.

    Over.

    It can’t be brought back to life.

    But a new story? That’s possible.

    A story where you meet.

    Where you date.

    Where you fall in love again.

    Moment by moment, you’re writing that new story.

    But here’s the thing: If you’re not crystal clear on how you show up in that new story, you just rewrite the same one all over again.

    Clarity is what prevents you from re-creating the same dynamic with someone new.

    For many men, their “new wife” isn’t someone else, it’s the same woman, finally free to become a new version of herself

    Funny how she starts showing up differently when YOU do.

    I can help you become this kind of man.

  • Fear of Divorce: The Fastest Way to Lose Her

    Fear of Divorce: The Fastest Way to Lose Her

    The fear of divorce is one of the fastest ways to destroy your marriage.

    I see it all the time.

    Men caught in limbo, walking on eggshells, doing everything they can to “fix” the relationship.

    They don’t realize it’s their panic that’s pushing her further away.

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    The Fear of Divorce Makes You Reactive

    When a marriage feels like it’s slipping, most men obsess over the worst-case scenarios:

    • What if I lose my kids?
    • What if she leaves me for someone else?
    • What if she already has someone else?
    • What if everything I built disappears overnight?

    When I ran my landscaping company, I trained guys to mow stripes into a lawn, straight as an arrow.

    The patterns you see on a baseball diamond!

    I’d say, “Don’t look down at the mower wheel. Look straight ahead at a fence post or tree, and focus on that as you drive towards it. Perfect lines happen when you fix your eyes on the goal—not by constantly trying to steer straight in the moment.”

    Your marriage is no different.

    When you live from fear, you zigzag emotionally.

    You try to control.

    You overcorrect.

    Every bump takes your energy and focus.

    When you stay connected to a powerful, positive vision of your future, you’ll eventually look back and realize you created that life by refusing to live in fear right now.

    Fear of Divorce Never Creates Intimacy

    You can’t panic your way into a better relationship.

    No one begs their way back into a woman’s heart.

    Now is a time to remain deeply connected to who you really are.

    Ask yourself: “What future do I want to create? How would a grounded, deliberate man behave today if he believed that future was possible?

    Most relationships begin with butterflies, but warm tingles alone are not what long-term relationships are made of.

    Marriages only last when two mature people align on:

    • A shared vision
    • Shared values
    • A common path forward

    She can’t share any of that with you if you don’t know where you’re going or who you are without her.

    If you’re waiting for her to choose you before you can be amazing, you’re not leading—you’re looking down at the mower wheel.

    The fear of divorce makes you look at her for your sense of direction.

    She can’t give you that.

    Masculine Leadership comes from remaining connected to who you are even when life throws a curveball.

    The Work Starts With You

    This is why I coach men to build emotional clarity and masculine leadership from the inside out.

    You don’t need her permission to become the man you respect.

    You need a clear vision of where you’re going—and the guts to act like it’s already yours.

    That’s the kind of man who BEHAVES in a way women can’t manipulate or derail.

    And those behaviors are what make you irresistible to her.

  • ? How To Set Strong Boundaries With Your Wife

    ? How To Set Strong Boundaries With Your Wife

    Boundaries.

    It’s a buzzword.

    A go-to fix-it line from well-meaning friends.

    “Boundaries, girl! Don’t let David’s mom control you like that!” Alesha’s friend declares over coffee.

    Meanwhile, David’s mother is setting her own boundaries for Alesha… and David? He’s contemplating boundaries just to keep them both from strangling each other.

    This isn’t boundaries—it’s a mess.

    I’m going to teach you a simple, no-BS approach to boundaries.

    One that actually works.

    I give you more insight in the 15-minute video below and also invite you to join The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.

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    What Bad Boundaries Look Like

    Most people are doing boundaries wrong.

    They think boundaries are about forcing other people to stop annoying them.

    That’s because 95% of people aren’t fully conscious.

    They think their feelings are caused by other people—so they believe setting a boundary will magically make them feel better.

    That’s like trying to drive the road down the car instead of driving the car down the road.

    Your feelings don’t come from other people.

    They come from YOU.

    YOUR triggers.

    YOUR perceptions.

    Your brain interprets the world through YOUR five senses (which, by the way, are highly unreliable).

    Think of boundaries like a fence.

    If you use boundaries to fence your bad feelings, you’re just letting those negative feelings run your life.

    And that’s a losing game.

    What Good Boundaries Look Like

    A good boundary protects something you value.

    That’s the key—it’s positive.

    Your phone dies if you never charge it, right?

    You’re no different.

    When you get crystal clear on what keeps you strong, draw a line in the sand so you don’t exhaust it.

    No more over-giving. No more over-accommodating. No more over-serving.

    That’s a good boundary.

    So what fuels you?

    • Time in nature?
    • Meaningful conversation?
    • A night with the boys?
    • Intimacy with your wife?

    Protect those things with a boundary, brother.

    Protect both how you receive it and how much you give.

    We all have behaviors that make us proud of who we are—that light us up so we feel self-respect.

    Don’t bend on them.

    A boundary around respect means nobody can push you into acting disrespectfully.

    A boundary around love means nobody can push you into acting unloving.

    If you want strong boundaries with your wife, dig your heels in and hold the line on these things.

    If you don’t like how she’s acting?

    Don’t join her—step back.

    That’s your boundary because you know what you value.

    That’s you drawing a line in the sand for anything less than that.

    Boundaries Are for BIG Things

    Moods? Petty frustrations? Minor annoyances?

    They don’t need to have boundaries enforced on them.

    Boundaries are for the BIG things.

    DEALBREAKERS.

    The experiences that would make you step out of someone’s life.

    Your wife is always going to have feelings, pushback, and moods—it’s part of her nature.

    You must be the rock.

    • When she’s stormy, you stay grounded.
    • When she’s emotional, you stand firm.
    • When she tests you, you don’t react.

    That’s having a masculine frame for her feminine behaviors. 

    But the moment she crosses the line of what you deeply value…

    BOOM.

    That’s when your boundary comes out for the kinds of people you keep in your life.

    The first time your boundary gets crossed warrants a verbal affirmation of what you value and won’t tolerate.

    The 2nd time requires a more severe consequence.

    By the third offense, you remove yourself from that person’s life.

    That’s how serious boundaries are.

    Gaining Clarity on Who You Are

    This is the work I do with men.

    We dig deep into your core values and get rock-solid on how to stand firm in them.

    You become a man who is strong, not reactive.

    A man who fills the space that’s his to fill—and lets her do the same.

    1:1 coaching with me isn’t for guys who dabble.

    It’s for men who want the maximum return on their investment.

    Men who don’t pussyfoot around—they go big or go home.

    But if you’re not ready for coaching yet, my book is a great place to start.

    It’s for High-Achieving Men who want to restore intimacy in their marriage.

    ? You’ll learn why doing everything she’s been asking for isn’t working.

    ? Why being her “dream husband” is backfiring.

    ? Why she no longer craves your touch—and how to turn that around.

    ? Download your FREE copy HERE.

    Much love, brother.

    – Garrett Prettyman

  • If I Give Her Space, Won’t We Drift Apart?

    If I Give Her Space, Won’t We Drift Apart?

    If your wife asks you to give her space, it didn’t come out of nowhere. By the time she gets to that point, she’s already been emotionally detaching for months—maybe even years. And most men don’t realize it until it’s too late.

    Today, we’re going deeper into the three stages of detachment a woman goes through before she ends a relationship.

    If you don’t catch it early, you’ll find yourself blindsided when she finally says, “I need space.”

    I’m not talking about the kind of “space” where she’s just tired tonight, I’m talking about when she’s considering divorce.

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    1. Emotional Detachment

    This is the first and most subtle stage—and also the easiest to miss.

    Emotional detachment begins when she stops feeling seen, heard, or valued in the relationship.

    Her emotional needs aren’t being met, and over time, her heart starts to close off.

    This doesn’t happen overnight.

    She used to share her thoughts, feelings, and worries with you, but now? She keeps them to herself.

    Bringing up the little things no longer happens because she’s already convinced herself you won’t understand.

    At this stage, you might notice:

    • She’s less engaged in conversations.
    • She stops initiating affection or spending quality time.
    • She’s quick to get irritated over small things.
    • She begins focusing more on her friends, work, or hobbies—anything but you.

    2. Spiritual Detachment

    Once she emotionally detaches, she starts seeing a future without you.

    This is when she stops believing in “us.”

    Women stay in relationships when they feel a deep sense of trust and emotional safety—not just physically, but spiritually.

    When that’s gone, she starts to imagine what life would be like without you.

    She stops picturing you in her future and instead, envisions her life alone or with someone who actually listens when she talks about her day.

    Signs of spiritual detachment include:

    • She stops making long-term plans with you.
    • She avoids deep conversations about the future.
    • She doesn’t care to argue anymore—because she’s already mentally checking out.
    • She’s indifferent to your efforts to “fix” things.

    3. Physical Detachment

    By the time she physically detaches, she’s already gone in her mind.

    Her body follows what her heart has been feeling for months or years.

    This is when she stops wanting to be touched, avoids intimacy, and might even move into another room—or out of the house entirely.

    At this stage, if you try to force closeness, it only reinforces her belief that you don’t understand her.

    She sees it as pressure, not love—kind of like when a salesman follows you around a store even after you’ve said, “I’m just looking.”

    What physical detachment looks like:

    • She stops wanting to be intimate or withdraws from sex.
    • She recoils from physical touch.
    • She prefers to be alone rather than spend time together.
    • She starts sleeping separately—or expresses a desire to move out.

    Don’t Fear Drifting Apart— Give Her Space

    Most men react to their wife’s withdrawal by chasing her harder.

    They try to fix things, talk it out, or prove their love through desperate gestures.

    But that only makes things worse.

    Instead of chasing, you need to shift your focus inward.

    • Detach from needing her validation. If your happiness depends on her affection, she will feel pressured and suffocated.
    • Rebuild your sense of self. Who are you without the marriage? What makes you excited about life outside of her?
    • Respect the space she needs. Giving her space isn’t about losing her—it’s about creating an opportunity for her to miss you.

    The Bottom Line: Give Her Space, Gain Clarity

    If she’s asking for space, it’s because she feels overwhelmed by pressure—whether from the relationship or from her own emotions.

    Your job isn’t to fix it right now.

    Your job is to become the kind of man who is steady, secure, and capable of standing strong, even when things feel uncertain.

    I go deeper into this in my book, How High-Achieving Men In Their 40s Can Restore Passionate Intimacy With Their Wife of 18 Plus Years.

    You can grab a free copy HERE.

    Breathe.

    Trust the process.

    You got this.

    Garrett Prettyman

  • How I Gained REAL Confidence When My Wife Stopped Being Intimate

    How I Gained REAL Confidence When My Wife Stopped Being Intimate

    Long before a woman will get naked with us in bed she needs to feel safe to get naked with us emotionally. This article shares my own experience of losing “oblivious” confidence and then gaining REAL confidence when my wife stopped being intimate. When we’re confident from being oblivious, our wife feels emotionally unsafe which triggers her to be closed off. We can easily slip into jealousy and neediness when we feel her heart withdrawing which only pushes her further away. In the video below, masculinity coach Mark Drezga and I discuss how I was faced with a choice to mature into genuine confidence when I realized marriage is not a guarantee of intimacy. 

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    How To Gain REAL Confidence When She Stops Being Intimate

    “Oblivious” Confidence Has An Expiration Date

    When I’m coaching guys around session 2 of my masculine confidence framework, there’s a hard dose of reality to swallow: The security we thought marriage gave us never existed. 

    If we compare marriage to a pond, and lack of intimacy to an alligator, the alligator was there the whole time. 

    We think pretty highly of ourselves when obliviously basking in the sun by an alligator-filled pond. 

    We’ll issue commands, dismiss her feelings, and insist that her hesitation to be intimate near the alligator pond is completely unreasonable

    When we’re “obviously” confident, we’re not aware of the “alligators” were inviting to bite each time we lash out, “fix” or abandon our wife’s emotional world. 

    But hey, we didn’t know what we didn’t know…

    Eventually, the clock runs out, alligators crawl out of the water, and we’re faced with reality that intimacy is gone. 

    When I teach guys how I gained REAL confidence when my wife stopped being intimate, I’m teaching CONSCIOUS, confidence. 

    Conscious, REAL Confidence Is Only Born Through Suffering

    I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite (Form of Amish) church with a 0% divorce rate.  

    We were a private community completely separate from society.

    We didn’t have TVs or radios and we were only permitted to marry within the Mennonite community.

    Courtship was practiced instead of dating (think of courting akin to only dating someone you’ve already decided you will marry).

    My happy, self-assured, cocky-self crumbled when I first asked a girl for courtship and she refused my offer. 

    This was a point where I could have developed conscious confidence, but I didn’t. 

    With my mojo in the toilet, I repressed into victimhood. 

    Needless to say, I attracted zero lovers for several years. 

    Eventually, I got enough spark back that it caught my future wife’s eye.  

    Since divorce was unheard of in ultra-conservative Mennonite churches nationwide, the thought never crossed my mind that I could be divorced.

    Fast forward 10 years later. 

    My wife and I were no longer part of the Mennonite community. 

    I found myself holding divorce papers that I didn’t want to sign.

    My suffering this time was rock bottom for me.  

    It’s only from this place of deflated ego and clarity of reality that “conscious” confidence Is born.

    How I Gained REAL Confidence

    The way I developed conscious, REAL confidence was by spending time around men who already had what I wanted while continuing to FACE my pain.

    Every time I had a victim mindset or a resentful rant these men would challenge me, call me out on my BS, and show me the love and acceptance I had been chasing women for. 

    In time, I learned to face “alligators” knowing they’ve always been there. 

    I was ok when I obliviously faced them, and I’ll be more than okay when I consciously face them.

    Having this type of relaxed, trustable confidence as a leader is the secret to making a marriage work.

    At face value, the Mennonites appear to have cracked the code, but their approach brings on a whole other list of issues we’ll discuss another time. 

    My time as a Mennonite let me see firsthand how when a man leads with confidence, the right woman will follow, and the relationship thrives like it’s supposed to.

    How You Can Stop Being Oblivious

    My masculine confidence coaching program is your ticket to a better, stronger, more intimate marriage.

    The value you’ll gain is a culmination of experienced men who have been in your shoes. 

    We men tend to hang onto the last shred of our ego before finally reaching out for help. 

    Don’t wait until all hope is lost to turn your marriage around by taking action for your self-development NOW. 

    I’m the perfect example of stubbornly holding out to save a dollar only to save nothing.  

    fill out my “Get Grounded Now” consultation form and I’ll help you get clear on your next step to being the great man you want to be.

    Be grounded brother, 

    Garrett Prettyman  

  • Masculine Leadership Is Sexy (Even to Strong Independent Women)

    Masculine Leadership Is Sexy (Even to Strong Independent Women)

    Secret# 5: Masculine Leadership Is Sexy (Even to Strong Independent Women) This is the fifth in my series of 6 dangerously effective marriage-saving secrets. I help extraordinary men create long-lasting love, deeper connection, intimacy, respect, and authentic affection through personalized masculine confidence coaching. These secrets are field-tested. They’ll bring lasting positive change in your relationships.

    (Use these links to see secrets ONE, TWO, THREE, & FOUR)

    This article is not for the controlling jackass who bosses his wife around or treats women with disrespect. Quite opposite. The pointers you’re about to learn ARE for the man who mistakenly thought letting his wife wear the pants in the relationship would make her happy. Even if your wife has a stubborn streak, deep down, she feels leadership is sexy.

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    Married Life Without Masculine Leadership

    Kate looked up from her phone and asked, “What do you want for dinner?”

    Travis almost didn’t hear her.

    He was lost in his laptop, pouring through new real estate listings.

    “I don’t care. Whatever is easy”, Travis replied with a smile.

    Kate said, “We have some leftover meatloaf. Or I could do a casserole”.

    Travis’s eyes stayed on his computer.

    He was more interested in the new listing he just found than what he wanted for dinner.

    “Whatever you want honey. If one of those is near the front of the fridge, just warm that up”, He suggested.

    “Think we could watch a nature show tonight? It’s been a while since we’ve done that. Or we could go for a drive and look at Christmas lights!”, Amy said with enthusiasm.

    “Maybe”, Travis mumbled as he tried to cut and paste an address from his web browser.

    Kate’s voice got serious, “I just think we need to prioritize making efforts for our relationship.”

    “Huh?”, Travis said, confused.

    Kate’s face got emotional.

    Her throat tightened as she said, “Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one fighting for us. I always have to fight alone”.

    Travis tried to make sense of where the conversation had gone.

    He felt himself getting angry.

    “Kate, you’re a strong independent woman. You love plowing your own way through life. The battles you fight, you bring on yourself”, he scolded disapprovingly.

    Hearing this did not sit well with Kate.

    Kate began walking out of the room.

    In a frustrated tone, she turned around and said, “Never mind.”

    Travis heard her walk into their bedroom and close the door.

    About an hour later, his mind was still foggy as he tried to process his conversation with Kate.

    He felt a little resentful that she didn’t make him anything to eat.

    While he warmed up some meatloaf in the microwave, he could hear a nature show coming from the TV in their bedroom.

    Yay!

    Dinner in bed would be fun.

    Travis brought his plate to bed and nestled next to Kate.

    She fell asleep moments later.

    He finished the episode by himself.

    This wasn’t the fun, connected, sexy evening he had hoped for.

    Leadership Is Sexy, Management Is Not

    Each time Kate brought up a question, Travis tried to manage it by not having an opinion.

    Management is a form of damage control.

    An ambulance dispatch system to retrieve hikers who fall off a cliff is management.

    Standing on the cliff’s edge offering direction away from the edge is leadership.

    In the business world, a manager is supposed to keep completing the same tasks over and over.

    When a problem arises, there is one goal: push through the problem so normal tasks can resume.

    The leader of a company looks broad-range.

    A leader ensures effort is spent on the right problems based on where he wants the company to go.

    Without leadership, managers can end up straightening chairs on a sinking Titanic assuming effort=success.

    You’ll win the battle but lose the war.

    The same applies to your marriage.

    Here are the replies Travis gave his wife in the story above:

    • “I don’t care”
    • Whatever is easy”
    • “Whatever you want honey”
    • “Maybe”
    • “Huh?”

    Do those sound like words of leadership to you?

    Those replies were attempts to manage “small fires” by abandoning his post as leader.

    Even the strongest, most independent, business-minded woman wants to relax.

    Her sexuality goes offline if she isn’t relaxed.

    Leadership allows her to relax and step out of the guessing game.

    Every time Kate bounced options off Travis, she was searching to know what he wanted.

    Since Travis offered no solid leadership, her emotions led the conversation (which became frustrating for both of them)

    Your wife wants the GOOD feeling of knowing she just gave you something you really wanted.

    Saying, “Just warm up whatever happens to be the fridge” robs her of that good feeling.

    It’s very selfish to not know what you want.

    Masculine Leadership: How Travis Could Have Given it

    Especially for guys married to strong independent women, letting her make the choices in the house feels easy.

    Deep down, these men are afraid she won’t like him if he faces her strong will (or he’s just lazy).

    Sexy, FUN leadership Travis could have given Kate:

    • “Meatloaf sounds great! Let’s have that”
    • “No, we can’t look at Christmas lights tonight. We will next weekend though. It will be fun!”
    • “You feel like you’re fighting all your battles alone? I’m sorry, that sounds exhausting. Let’s talk about it after I get out of the shower tonight when I’m not distracted.”

    A unique difference between masculine leadership vs feminine leadership is that masculine leadership is CONSISTENTLY based on values, boundaries, and standards, NOT emotions.

    Your leadership is still a gift even If she protests with comments like, “I don’t want meatloaf. I’d rather have a casserole.”

    Here’s why: She didn’t know what she wanted until you did.

    Feminine energy finds her truth when contained by a strong masculine frame.

    Just as a river can’t reach the ocean without river banks feminine can’t know what it wants or where it’s going until it encounters our clear choices. 

    In her article, “What Every Man Should Know About Women” Author and mentor Teal Swan reveals how women live in constant fear.

    A woman’s fear is biologically woven into who she is as a feminine person.

    Strong independent women get tired of fending for themselves but will struggle to let their armor down if they don’t feel safe.

    When a man consistently “contains” his wife’s chaos by taking ownership of the situation, it provides the woman with a sense of safety.

    Getting On The Path To Masculine Leadership Right Now

    I take genuine, successful men through a field-tested process of masculine confidence development.

    Plant your feet on the solid ground of your values, boundaries, and personal standards by committing to this work.

    You’ll feel good stepping up as a natural leader in your relationship.

    Masculine leadership is sexy and your wife wants to experience it.

    Click HERE to schedule a personal consultation with me.

    Travis and Kate A Few Months Later

    Travis had a mind-jolting insight into the obvious: What he was doing wasn’t working.

    He confided his frustrations with another man whom he respected.

    Once a week, they would meet at a local diner to talk about what was happening in Travis’s marriage.

    This wasn’t a time for complaining about their wives.

    These were times to connect and get clear about how to lead trust and safety in their marriages.

    Travis began to realize most of his frustrations with Kate were coming from his own ways of thinking about her.

    When Travis’s mentor spoke to him man-to-man, everything made sense.

    Leadership and confidence weren’t something he had to go find, they were things he needed to stop holding back.

    Travis went on to create an intimate, fun-filled relationship with Kate.

    His only regret was that he let himself suffer for so many years before seeking the mentorship of an experienced man.

    Are you ready for a man-to-man talk that could change your relationship for the better?

    Fill out my “Get Grounded Now” consultation form and let’s have a chat.

    Much love brother,

    Garrett Prettyman

  • Roommate Wife: How To Change (For Men’s Eyes Only)

    Roommate Wife: How To Change (For Men’s Eyes Only)

    This article gives a short outline of key differences between men’s sexual desire and women’s sexual desire for men’s eyes only. Do you have a roommate wife? Then keep reading. 

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    Roommate Wife: How To Change (For Men’s Eyes Only)

    How Men Sexually Desire Women

    I’ll point out immediately that roommates don’t have sex. 

    They can be besties. 

    They can get along awesomely.

    Sexual intimacy is the differentiator

    Men and women are opposites in how they mentally process data. 

    The same is true when it comes to sexual attraction. 

    Men love when women are:

    • Fun
    • Exuberant
    • Full of life 
    • Sparkly
    • Sweet
    • Soft
    • Receptive
    • Motherly towards cute things 

    All those attributes add warmth to our connection and relationship with her. These traits are her “inner beauty” that amplifies her outward beauty. 

    But what makes him feel sexual attraction for her? 

    The answer is quite simple: She’s pretty. 

    1 is not pretty…10 is drop-dead pretty. 

    The end. 

    Note: There’s highly “classified” information a king knows that doesn’t help the realm if he shares it with them.

    Sharing would inflict panic and unnecessary stress.

    That’s why it’s classified.

    The mechanics of how most of our sexual desire towards our wife comes from her looks is best kept to yourself.

    How Women Sexually Desire Men

    Occasionally, I’ll ask women which movie character they find HOT or ATTRACTIVE.

    The results always intrigue me. 

    90% of the time, it’s not the big muscular handsome-looking guy she finds as a sexual turn-on.

    It’s the guy who holds a FRAME of mystery, courage, and self-control. 

    The rare 10% who find the big muscular guy attractive choose the muscular guy who has mystery, courage, and self-control. 

    A woman will call a guy “creepy” or “inappropriate” if he touches her and then daydream about a different man ripping her clothes off. 

    Why the contradiction to what she wants or calls creepy? 

    The answer is mind-numbingly simple: For the one man, she feels a sexual attraction. 

    Thank goodness women have a 1-100 point system for attraction.

    1 is a total creep. 

    100 is her knight-in-shining armor. 

    Muscles might gain you 5 points. 

    A handsome face maybe 10.

    Most of your attractive points come from your ENERGY Towards life. 

    Why Lack Of Emotional Safty Creates A “Roommate Wife”

    Here’s what WON’T make your wife or girlfriend feel safe:

    • Big muscles
    • Combing your hair just right
    • Beating up bad guys
    • Working 80-hour weeks so she can have a good life 

    A woman feels safe when she can open herself up to you without fearing rejection, defensiveness, resentment, or pissiness. She feels safe when you dare to go to emotional depths she fears to go herself.

    To sexually desire you, she needs to feel your resilience to her chaos.

    She needs to feel your deep grounding in who you are and what you’re creating in life. 

    Getting angry at how this “game” works won’t serve you.

    A hot woman will have scads of guys drooling after her.

    She could have any one of them she chooses. 

    A man, on the other hand, has to BE something before she will notice him as a sexual partner.  

    Who are you BEING? 

    At this point, I need to warn you of a common mistake men make. 

    Trying to be something she likes will backfire. 

    Even if her mouth is telling you all the things she wants, her body wants you to be a mysterious, courageous, self-controlled man who does whatever the hell he wants to ensure his own happiness…I know, women can be hard to make sense of sometimes. But trust me, her sexuality is in her body, not her head. 

    Being her roommate or lover is your choice, not hers. 

    She is simply responding to what you’re choosing in life. 

    Choose confidently. 

    How To End The “Roommate Wife” Situation

    If you think getting this stuff sorted on your own is a good idea I have news for you brother- that’s a LONG windy road. 

    Close male bonds with men you look up to is irreplaceable to re-calibrate your thinking. 

    You don’t have to waste any more time trying to figure this stuff out.

    You sure as hell don’t need to spend any more time trying to figure your wife out! 

    Master coach Mark Drezga and I have a well-proven plan to end your “roommate wife” problem.

    We teach you how to stop playing it small, stop waiting for others to change, and start making bold decisions that will bring the spark back.

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    View our course info if you’re a man who wants more confidence, happiness, masculine charisma, and higher self-esteem. 

    Be grounded brother,

    Garrett Prettyman