Tag: Marriage Advice for Men

  • Stop Oversharing With Your Wife (If You Want Attraction Back)

    Stop Oversharing With Your Wife (If You Want Attraction Back)

    If you want more fun, sexy desire, and passion in your relationship, you need to stop oversharing with your wife. Here’s why talking too much is drying up your wife’s panties.

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    Why You Need to Stop Oversharing With Your Wife

    If you come home from work and vent every detail about your day, you’ll feel good getting it all off your chest.

    But your wife can’t handle this without her mothering instincts kicking in.

    When you feel like another kid to take care of, her desire to get naked and be ravished by you dies.

    I never knew this.

    For years, I would share my unfiltered thoughts with my wife.

    I vented about my client who was a pain in the ass, the truck that wouldn’t start, and the shity weather.

    I thought that’s what a deep connection looked like – getting it all out there.

    But all oversharing does is keep you in her friend zone instead of her lover zone.

    Stop Oversharing With Your Wife By Giving Her The Baked Down Version

    If you’re like me and have a habit of saying everything on your mind to your partner, there’s an easy fix.

    You’ll stop oversharing with your wife when you have good friends to connect with.

    After you spend time with those friends, you’ll naturally give your wife the baked-down version of your day instead of the full ingredient list.

    She is a special person, the lady you want to be fun, teasing, playful, and flirty with.

    Using her as your therapist destroys that vibe.

    Trying to be her best friend makes you her girlfriend with a beard.

    None of those roles will get her juices going.

    The problem a lot of men have is that they don’t have a good friend group to talk things out with.

    They abandoned everyone for their wife years ago.

    And then they wonder why the flame of passion has died in their marriage.

    Don’t Women Want To Know What’s Going On Inside Us?

    Many men have experienced when their lady complains about them not opening up.

    • She’ll ask you what you’re thinking when you’re quiet.
    • She’ll ask you if you like a movie before it’s over
    • Or she’ll say, “I need you to let me in” when you keep things brief

    But if you think her complaints are your instructions, you’re seeing this all wrong.

    Her complaints are things a woman says when she feels the space of “other” between you and her.

    That “other” is a little uncomfortable, and makes her WANT to get closer.

    If you take away that WANT, you take away DESIRE.

    There is a sweet spot to ride the edge on, otherwise you’re just being a duchebag.

    You want to keep just enough mystery and playfulness that your wife is always wanting just a little more of you.

    The fire of intimacy needs that WANT to stay hot.  

    Join A Group Of Men Today To Stop Oversharing With Your Wife

    When you work with me, I become your new place to unload.

    And long after you work with me, you stay connected to our community of men.

    You stop oversharing with your wife becuase they are your support system.

    Not only do you get to stay connected to them over text and Zoom, we also meet up in person throughout the year.

    My Masculine Confidence Framework gives you the structure you need to detach from your wife and start holding that attractive space with her again.

    The first step is to reach out, and I’ll get you clear on your next steps.

  • Do Your Wife’s Guy Friends Make You Uneasy?

    Do Your Wife’s Guy Friends Make You Uneasy?

    When your relationship feels rocky, things like your wife’s guy friends will feel threatening to your marriage. Here’s a story to help you understand why trying to control your wife’s behaviours doesn’t fix the deeper issues that are eroding her respect for you.

    It’s August.

    Friday, 3:29 PM to be exact.

    David gets home from work early for the first time in months.

    His wife’s co-worker’s car is parked in his driveway.

    Why was he over?

    Something didn’t feel right.

    David walks into his house.

    He hears the TV on in the other room.

    After setting his lunchbox down in the kitchen, he enters his bedroom.

    David’s wife is shocked that he’s there.

    “Why are you home so early? Get out! We’re watching a movie!” She shouts.

    Seeing his wife and her coworker sitting on his bed watching a movie freezes him.

    His blood runs cold, and his hands shake.

    Part of David wants to strangle the other guy, kick him out, and demand answers.

    But his wife’s guy friends have been a touchy topic in the past.

    David goes back to his truck and leaves the property before he does something he regrets.

    His gut feels like it’s been stabbed by a knife, and he wants to puke.

    What did he just see, and what would be the right way to handle it?

    In that moment, he felt something he didn’t expect.

    He felt sorry for his wife.

    Their relationship had become strained that summer.

    He cried.

    They hadn’t had sex in weeks.

    He felt abandoned, betrayed, and missed the connection they used to have.

    David became determined to get to the bottom of whatever was wrong in his marriage.

    How David Tried To Fix His Marriage

    David’s wife was waiting for him when he returned home.

    She didn’t say anything about having her co-worker over.

    When David brings it up, she flips it back on him.

    “He’s just a friend, and we were just watching a movie, what’s your problem??” She defends.

    But David wasn’t buying it.

    “I don’t want you to ever have him over again, do you understand?” He replied.

    “In fact, I don’t want you ever talking to him again, either.”

    Setting the boundary felt good.

    But David’s wife just rolled her eyes.

    “Ok, fine, but I hate that you are so controlling,” she said.

    What Happened To David’s Marriage

    Fast forward a few months.

    David’s wife told him that she didn’t love him anymore and that she needed space.

    This is when many guys reach out to me.

    They have been trying to save their marriage by stopping their wife from doing anything that makes them feel uncomfortable.

    But fear, jealousy, anxiety, and loneliness are a weak foundation to build your marriage on.

    Your wife can smell those feelings all over you, and it drives a wedge between you both.

    I want more for you.

    You can set boundaries from self-worth, instead of insecurity, and gain respect.

    Trust can be attracted through shared values and consistency rather than demanded.

    Intimacy can be yours through polarity, instead of begging & hoping.

    If you’re ready to stop trying to fix symptoms in your marriage and resolve the deeper issue causing them, reach out.

    I guarantee you’ll feel better.

  • Should I Stay or Leave My Marriage?

    Should I Stay or Leave My Marriage?

    A man recently asked me, “Should I stay or leave my marriage, when sex is gone, the connection is shallow, or I feel neglected/cheated on”? That’s a hard question a lot of men face. The answer is never simple or black and white.  Your identity, your family, your future, and everything you’ve built is on the line. Before you make a decision, you need clarity on what you’re actually deciding.

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    Should I Stay or Leave My Marriage When It Feels This Hard?

    There are seasons where marriage will be the hardest thing you’ve ever done.

    The relationship calls for:

    • More patience
    • More leadership
    • More emotional control

    …And you’re tapped out.

    You’ll crave instant relief from pain.

    But pain alone isn’t a signal to leave.

    EVERY path comes with pain and suffering at some point.

    Life demands a price for everything you want, but you get to choose how high a price you will pay.

    You also need to know if what you’re investing in is leading somewhere you even want to go.

    You want to know if the effort you’re putting in is aligned with the kind of marriage and life you want to create.

    Without that clarity, you stay stuck in your head, circling the same thought: “Should I stay or leave my marriage?”

    Hardship is easier to handle when you know it’s making way for the destination you want to arrive at.

    Should I Stay or Leave My Marriage Based on How I Feel?

    Your feelings will go up and down like the weather; they are highly unreliable.

    You’ll feel inspired one day and burned out the next.

    You’ll feel committed one moment and disconnected the next.

    That’s NORMAL.

    Feelings respond to your beliefs about stress, conflict, and uncertainty; they’re not designed to lead your life.

    You need something more stable than feelings to make big choices.

    A man with direction doesn’t let temporary emotions decide permanent outcomes.

    He looks at the bigger picture.

    He looks at the long-term vision he has for his life based on values and unshakable principles he trusts.

    Feelings come and go, but your mission for your life is the map you hold yourself to.

    Look At Your Past Patterns Before Deciding What To Do

    Every man has a tendency to either hang on too long or jump too soon.

    Which are you?

    If you’re the man who trades his truck in the moment it makes a funny noise, your growth will be to lean into the uncomfortable edge of holding out a bit longer to fix things.

    If you’re the man who keeps patching his truck back together years after you should have let it go to scrap, then your growth will be to lean into the uncomfortable edge of throwing in the towel sooner rather than later.

    The edge of your discomfort is where your growth always happens.

    Your life is the accumulation of your patterns built around your comfort levels.

    It’s why your life feels like it’s on repeat sometimes.

    Want a new life?

    You’ll have to go past where you turned out before because of discomfort.

    If you’ve been asking yourself, “Should I stay or leave my marriage?” your answer is often tied to this pattern more than the situation itself.

    I’ll Help You Answer The Deeper Questions You Need to Face

    This decision isn’t just about your marriage.

    It’s about the kind of man you are and where you’re going in life.

    • What are you building?
    • What kind of man do you want to BE as you move towards that?
    • What price are you willing to pay to get there?

    Every path asks something from you.

    When you get clear on that, the question,  “Should I stay or leave my marriage?” stops feeling overwhelming.

    You start seeing what aligns and what doesn’t.

    There isn’t a right or wrong answer, but there is YOUR answer.

    Let’s talk.

  • 5-Minute Quickie Your Wife Secretly Wants

    5-Minute Quickie Your Wife Secretly Wants

    Brother, let’s be honest…

    If your wife gave you a five-minute quickie after lunch today, it would probably change your day, right?

    It’s pretty crazy how only 5 minutes of physical intimacy can brighten a man’s mood!

    Well, five minutes of your potent, masculine presence can change her world just as much.

    When your presence is undistracted, unhurried, and all-in, it rocks her world.

    It’s something she craves more than gifts, words, or advice.

    It’s what makes her feel seen, safe, and desired.

    And she only needs 5 minutes.

    So tonight, when you get home, try this:

    • Sit with her.
    • Face her fully.
    • Stay relaxed.
    • Be genuinely curious.
    • Don’t fix. Don’t analyze. Don’t rush.

    After five minutes, you’re done.

    Move on with your night.

    This was just one pit stop along your awesome evening you have planned for yourself.

    I’ve never seen an unhappy man save his marriage.

    Staying connected to your own happiness should be your primary focus, not the results of the 5-minute quickie you just gave her.

    What To Do If She’s Still Unhappy After

    You can’t fix another person’s unhappiness.

    You can only show them by example how to have a happy life.

    Until you can be okay right where you are, as things are, you’re not in a position to lead the relationship anywhere better.

    Feelings can be like clouds.

    They block the sun from shining.

    So much so, we can start to believe the sun will never shine again.

    But this belief doesn’t mean the sun no longer exists.

    Your inner well-being is always alive, even when your feelings cloud it over.

    A man needs FAITH (even if it’s as small as a grain of mustard seed) that his wellbeing is still alive if he is to move mountains in his life on cloudy days.

    If you’re ready to learn how to access that calm, confident center that leads naturally and magnetically, then reach out.

  • What To Do If Your Marriage Isn’t Turning Around

    What To Do If Your Marriage Isn’t Turning Around

    Maybe you’ve been watching videos and trying new things but your marriage isn’t turning around. This post takes the spotlight off the marriage so you can understand who a man must become before his marriage can change for the better.

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    Most men I work with are brilliant, hard-working guys.

    Men who are good at making money, running a business, and competent at problem-solving.

    But when they first reach out to me, they’re often frantic, panicking, uncertain, and desperate to fix their marriage.

    Ironically, those very feelings are what sabotage relationships.

    It makes sense if you think about it.

    How we act when we’re needy, reactive, and jealous isn’t attractive.

    But my clients who succeed in saving their marriages? They’re the ones who find their inner confidence, allowing their presence to feel unshakable.

    You can SAY all the right things.

    DO all the right things.

    But if your presence feels needy or unsure, your wife’s heart will close.

    All my clients who saved their marriage know this to be true: You can say and do all the wrong things…But if your presence is solid, clear, and unrattled, your wife will open her heart to you.  

    You’re attracted to the female form…the curves…the scent… that can’t be helped.

    She can’t help but be attracted to the unrattled man.

    So stop trying to talk your marriage back together.

    Stop trying to do more to convince her of your value.

    Relax into knowing you got this and have nothing to prove.

    Get on with livin’ and let your presence be undivided and unshook around her.  

    Your Next Step If Your Marriage Isn’t Turning Around

    If your wife can pull your strings and push your buttons, her attraction and respect will fade.

    Confidence isn’t found by learning how to numb yourself.

    That’s just being an emotional zombie.

    Inner security isn’t about avoiding negative feelings (like anger or rejection).

    Mature masculine strength is about breathing through strong feelings without letting them dictate your choices.

    When you breathe through negative feelings, there is always clarity, strength, and calm on the other side.

    Want to learn how to be unrattled?

  • Why She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    Why She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    When your wife says, “I can’t keep doing this,” she’s not joking.

    Her commitment to the marriage revolves around how she feels.

    But she’s leaving something out. Something you need to understand.

    Let’s break that down.

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    What She REALLY Means When She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    Here’s what you need to understand: When your wife complains, pulls away, or shuts down, what she says is the problem is rarely the real issue.

    You might hear things like:

    • “I’m exhausted.”
    • “I feel like I’m the only one making efforts in this relationship.”
    • “You just don’t get me anymore.”
    • “I can’t trust you with my emotions.”
    • ” I can’t keep doing this”
    • “You forgot my birthday… again.”

    It’s tempting to take these “problems” literally and jump into fix-it mode.

    To defend yourself

    To apologize.

    To explain why she’s wrong or how your intentions going forward will be different (which is defensiveness).

    But here’s what I keep learning from coaching hundreds of men (and living this myself):

    The things she says are just surface symptoms.

    The real issue?

    It only emerges after she voices all her complaints and is met with your grounded presence and compassion.

    When a woman feels emotionally unsafe with you, her nervous system shifts into survival mode.

    She’s not trying to be difficult; she’s trying to protect herself.

    Protect herself from what?

    Your explanations.

    Your avoidance.

    Your logic.

    All the things that make your presence feel limp or reactive.

    And when she starts to feel like she’s parenting you emotionally, like she’s the only one holding the relationship together…

    Desire dies.

    Respect erodes.

    Trust disappears.

    Attraction fades.

    Most men make it worse by trying to convince her to feel different instead of learning how to be with what she feels.

    The Deeper Issue Behind Her Feeling

    When attraction is strong, women let a lot slide.

    It’s not about the dishes.

    It’s not the missed text.

    It’s not even the canceled date night.

    She doesn’t complain about those things when she feels connected to you.

    Because those aren’t the real problem.

    It’s about the emotional weight she’s been carrying…alone.

    When she says, “I can’t keep dragging you like dead weight…”

    Brother, she’s serious.

    She says, “I can’t keep doing this,” because she actually can’t.

    She needs a break.

    Space.

    A reset.

    What You Should Do When She Says, “I Can’t Keep Doing This”

    You start by dropping your need for her to be different.

    This is not the time to push her to stay in the relationship.

    Don’t try to change her feelings.

    Accept them.

    Empathize with them.

    Make plans that support the break she needs.

    Let her feel what she feels without trying to correct the facts.

    Trying to explain, defend, or “set the record straight” confirms what she already fears: That you care more about being right than being connected.

    Lead with presence.

    Lead with curiosity.

    Hear her pain without trying to rescue her from it.

    Because if you can’t stay grounded when she brings the messy stuff, she never trusts you with the deeper stuff.

    The playful stuff.

    The intimate stuff.

    Trying to convince her to stay is often the same invalidating behavior that drives her away in the first place.

    If she really wants out, let her go.

    And don’t be surprised when she circles back.

    How To Rewrite Your Love Story Into One She Loves

    Your old love story with your wife?

    It’s finished.

    Done.

    Over.

    It can’t be brought back to life.

    But a new story? That’s possible.

    A story where you meet.

    Where you date.

    Where you fall in love again.

    Moment by moment, you’re writing that new story.

    But here’s the thing: If you’re not crystal clear on how you show up in that new story, you just rewrite the same one all over again.

    Clarity is what prevents you from re-creating the same dynamic with someone new.

    For many men, their “new wife” isn’t someone else, it’s the same woman, finally free to become a new version of herself

    Funny how she starts showing up differently when YOU do.

    I can help you become this kind of man.

  • Fear of Divorce: The Fastest Way to Lose Her

    Fear of Divorce: The Fastest Way to Lose Her

    The fear of divorce is one of the fastest ways to destroy your marriage.

    I see it all the time.

    Men caught in limbo, walking on eggshells, doing everything they can to “fix” the relationship.

    They don’t realize it’s their panic that’s pushing her further away.

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    The Fear of Divorce Makes You Reactive

    When a marriage feels like it’s slipping, most men obsess over the worst-case scenarios:

    • What if I lose my kids?
    • What if she leaves me for someone else?
    • What if she already has someone else?
    • What if everything I built disappears overnight?

    When I ran my landscaping company, I trained guys to mow stripes into a lawn, straight as an arrow.

    The patterns you see on a baseball diamond!

    I’d say, “Don’t look down at the mower wheel. Look straight ahead at a fence post or tree, and focus on that as you drive towards it. Perfect lines happen when you fix your eyes on the goal—not by constantly trying to steer straight in the moment.”

    Your marriage is no different.

    When you live from fear, you zigzag emotionally.

    You try to control.

    You overcorrect.

    Every bump takes your energy and focus.

    When you stay connected to a powerful, positive vision of your future, you’ll eventually look back and realize you created that life by refusing to live in fear right now.

    Fear of Divorce Never Creates Intimacy

    You can’t panic your way into a better relationship.

    No one begs their way back into a woman’s heart.

    Now is a time to remain deeply connected to who you really are.

    Ask yourself: “What future do I want to create? How would a grounded, deliberate man behave today if he believed that future was possible?

    Most relationships begin with butterflies, but warm tingles alone are not what long-term relationships are made of.

    Marriages only last when two mature people align on:

    • A shared vision
    • Shared values
    • A common path forward

    She can’t share any of that with you if you don’t know where you’re going or who you are without her.

    If you’re waiting for her to choose you before you can be amazing, you’re not leading—you’re looking down at the mower wheel.

    The fear of divorce makes you look at her for your sense of direction.

    She can’t give you that.

    Masculine Leadership comes from remaining connected to who you are even when life throws a curveball.

    The Work Starts With You

    This is why I coach men to build emotional clarity and masculine leadership from the inside out.

    You don’t need her permission to become the man you respect.

    You need a clear vision of where you’re going—and the guts to act like it’s already yours.

    That’s the kind of man who BEHAVES in a way women can’t manipulate or derail.

    And those behaviors are what make you irresistible to her.

  • This Secretly Turns Her On (But She’ll Never Admit It)

    This Secretly Turns Her On (But She’ll Never Admit It)

    What secretly turns her on isn’t flowers, date nights, or compliance. It’s something deeper, something EMOTIONALLY dynamic.

    And if you’re not giving it to her? Her heart will drift.

    Most men are blindsided when their wife suddenly says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”

    And understandably so.

    There were no screaming matches.

    No big fights.

    No obvious red flags.

    Everything seemed… fine.

    “Fine” is a red flag.

    The feminine experience is always full of emotions.

    A woman who feels connected to you will share her full range of feelings with you.

    But if you feel unsafe, she will close off.

    Her removal of emotions can feel like calm waters, but it’s the red flag to watch out for.

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    What Secretly Turns Her On: Emotional Forplay

    We men think of foreplay as sexual touch.

    For women, foreplay happens emotionally.

    She feels erotic tease from playful tension, not avoiding her emotions.

    She’s turned on by strength, not soft appeasement.

    She wants a man who can handle her without going emotionally limp.

    She tests constantly.

    Not out of cruelty, but from a deep, unconscious need to know:“Is this man grounded? Can he handle me? Can he hold me emotionally without going soft?”

    It might come out as a complaint or a mood swing, but it’s a form of emotional foreplay.

    When You’re Too Nice, It Turns Her Off

    If she senses that you adjust everything to please her…

    If your tone rises and falls based on her tone…

    If you’re constantly sacrificing your needs to avoid conflict…

    Or carefully choosing your words to not rock the boat…

    You’re making love to her with a limb emotional noodle.

    The feminine cannot fully trust or be attracted to an emotional noodle softer than hers.

    Emotional Tussle Is the Foreplay She Needs

    Men get turned on by visual and physical beauty.

    Women? They’re turned on by having an emotional tussle.

    When she can push up against you emotionally and feel that you’re solid, unshakable, present, and leading with clarity it sparks something deep.

    It’s a form of seduction.

    You are emotionally erect, penetrating through her feelings with calm, powerful direction.

    That’s the foreplay her nervous system is dying for.

    Not good-boy behaviors.

    Not reactive asshole moves.

    Just a man who stays in his own emotional lane.

    What Secretly Turns Her On: A Man Rooted in His Mission

    She lives in the now. Emotionally.

    You, as the man, must live from the future you’re building.

    What does that mean?

    Even if right now she’s cold, distant, or closed off, you don’t let that define you.

    You show up as the man who already lives in the amazing future you’re committed to.

    Adventure. Passion. Freedom. Stability.

    Whatever that vision is… Behave like it’s yours.

    Embody it. Speak it. Prophesy it into the relationship by selling the vision.

    This is how you create intimacy in an otherwise mundane marriage.

    Ready to Become That Man?

    This is the work I do with men every day.

    Whether you want to save your marriage or attract real connection in your dating life, it starts with you being the grounded, calm, masculine leader she can feel in your tone and vibe.

  • Why Nice Guys End Up in Sexless Marriages

    Why Nice Guys End Up in Sexless Marriages

    Nice guys end up in sexless marriages, not because they’re bad men, but because they’ve been fed some lies about what it means to be a man.

    They think being “nice,” agreeable, and emotionally accommodating will keep the peace and keep the connection alive.

    But here’s the gut punch: nice guys often kill attraction without even realizing it.

    The 22-minute video below explains more.

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    Nice Guys End Up in Sexless Marriages By Not Being Solid In Themselves

    Most men don’t realize that the very behaviors they believe will save their relationship are actually killing the spark.

    Attraction needs:

    • Polarity
    • Boundaries
    • Your spine

    …Not a man who’s constantly tiptoeing around her emotions, hoping not to rock the boat.

    I know this story because I lived it.

    I was the “good husband.”

    The peacekeeper.

    The emotional chameleon who thought avoiding conflict would make me desirable.

    It didn’t.

    And the truth is, your wife can’t choose to feel attraction.

    So stop demanding it from her.

    Stop bending over backward for it.

    Feminine desire doesn’t respond to logic or “not being like your dad”, It responds to energy.

    When your energy is soft, accommodating, and afraid to lead, the spark dies.

    That’s how nice guys end up in sexless marriages without ever seeing it coming.

    Are You Showing Up As A Man You Are Proud Of?

    When you live with purpose, hold standards, and speak from your emotional truth, your confidence grows.

    You stop chasing approval.

    You stop begging for scraps.

    And sometimes, yes…that kind of personal growth often reignites her desire.

    And if it doesn’t? You’ll have the clarity to walk away.

    Knowing you showed up as your best self gives you peace of mind and freedom.

    How To Gain Confidence In Your Relationship

    A man must thrive without feminine support before he can thrive with it.

    How about having:

    • More confidence
    • More passion
    • More success
    • More connection

    All of this is gained when I coach you privately.

  • (Part 3) Failing Marriage: 3 Things To Avoid

    (Part 3) Failing Marriage: 3 Things To Avoid

    This is part 3 of a 3-part series called “Failing Marriage: 3 Things To Avoid” (Click HERE to read part 2). I’m about to share my personal experience. I hope you can learn from my mistakes and be all the wiser!

    Failing Marriage: 3 Things To Avoid If You Want To Turn It Around

    1. Don’t use triggers to determine your behaviors, choices, or actions.
    2. Don’t assume sacrifices and loyalty will win a woman’s heart (know how to value your differences instead).
    3. Avoid holding out for her if she’s said, “I’m done”.

    I know what it’s like to love a woman who doesn’t want to be with you.

    I also know what it’s like to love a woman who used to love you, but no longer does.

    In my early days, I used logic to try to attract a girl who clearly didn’t love me.

    I believed that if I saved myself for her by not dating anyone else, she would end things with her boyfriend.

    In my imagined fairytale, she would become my dream wife by falling in love with my devotion and abstinence from other women.

    I demonstrated these traits to her by not dating any other girls for YEARS while she dated other guys and was seemingly not interested in me.

    Despite her full knowledge of my interest and my years of remaining available for her, it never made her want me.

    Even after my divorce, I waited a few years to date.

    My reason was to work on my loneliness without feminine support and to grieve the loss of my marriage.

    But if I’m honest, I also hoped my wife would come running back and I would still be available for her.

    Over the last few years of doing men’s work, I’ve come to terms with a startling reality.

    Women rarely are reattracted to men who hold out for her after she’s said, “I’m done”. 

    I’ve seen more of my clients save their marriage by moving on than by waiting around like a loyal puppy.

    I’ve even seen this in my dating life.

    Once you have a girlfriend, two more women almost always start chasing you.

    When you’re solo with no girlfriend, you tend to go unnoticed by the ladies.

    Being The Kind Of Man Women Chase 

    When we see women pursue a man who appears to be solo, it’s usually because he’s confidently leading a life of FREEDOM.

    He’s doing what he wants, when he wants, however he wants.

    He doesn’t hold back because of fear.

    He pushes his limits.

    He creates what other people would be to fearful to even try.

    These are the guys we see solo sail the Pacific, get in a position of leadership, or stand for a cause while everyone else plays it safe.

    The lesson is clear.

    Sitting at home waiting for your runaway wife to come back NEVER works.

    Waiting is like getting your boat stuck on a sandbar.

    She wants to be on a boat that’s going somewhere. 

    Being a martyr by enduring years without sex, weeks without meaningful conversation, or a job you hate sinks your boat in the sand

    Being The Man Your Wife Would Cheat With

    It goes without saying.

    When a woman does have an affair, it’s never the man paying her bills or sharing her bed who she cheats with.

    Yet what do we men tend to do when she pulls back and we want intimacy?

    We try to spend MORE time with her, share MORE experiences with her, and talk about the relationship MORE with her.

    Less is more.

    Being the kind of man she would cheat with means we are living our own life.

    To be this kind of man, we must STOP seeing her moods or affection as having any meaning about our value, integrity, or purpose.

    Thinking we need her permission to live our best life puts our balls in her purse and makes it hard for her to respect us. 

    We need to formulate our own script we operate by that makes us want to get out of bed every day and enjoy living.

    Avoiding her emotions or stonewalling doesn’t count as getting out and living your own life.

    I will help you clarify a new meaning for your purpose as a man in my masculine confidence framework.

    Being a MAN is your inherent role on this earth.

    Yet what that means has become hazy in our modern times.

    I will help you get back to the primal roots of what it means to be masculine and what it means to be feminine.

    The magic of attraction between masculine and feminine has existed for all of eternity.

    You can tap into this magic by learning how to stay in your own pole (and let her be in hers).